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Cultivating Self-Love - Sthiramanas

by London Buddhist Centre

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A guided practice to cultivate well-wishing towards ourselves. In developing contentment and emotional positivity towards ourselves, we can then more easily expand our concern to others and strengthen our wish to act for their benefit. Sthiramanas guides us in a meditation to fortify these foundations of metta, with the goal of expanding our love to others, near and far.

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Transcript

Hi,

This is Dhirumanas,

Recording at the London Buddhist Centre,

And today's meditation practice is focusing on cultivating self-love.

So it's very possible to think of self-love in either quite sentimental or quite sort of overly grandiose terms.

But put simply,

It's just about cultivating a relationship to your experience,

Particularly your experience of yourself,

As broadly positive and contented enough that you're able to cultivate love towards others and to act more confidently and beneficially in the world.

So we'll do that by,

I'll guide you through an awareness of the Veda-Nara around your heart and we'll drop in some phrases and we'll see what effect they have.

So taking a moment to get yourself set up as normal for meditation.

So starting by developing some awareness of the body.

Letting your weight on the seat and on the floor.

Letting your weight just settle down with gravity.

All the sensations of contact,

Of pressure,

Warmth,

Where you meet the seat and the floor are moviey.

Merci beaucoup.

Noticing if you're holding any tension in your face.

Not needing to wear any expression right now.

Bringing your awareness into your throat.

Sensations in your throat,

Your neck and your shoulders.

Seeing if you can feel your way into any of the way that you're holding your shoulders up.

Feeling any tightness in your shoulders and your back.

And allowing that awareness to soften the shoulders.

And bringing your awareness into your belly.

What does that feel like in your belly?

Seeing if as you breathe out you can just let go in your belly a little bit more.

Settling onto your seat.

Settling onto your seat.

Allowing the muscles of your thighs and buttocks just to soften.

And now expanding your awareness to fill the whole of your body.

All the sensation in your body.

From your feet.

All the way through to your hands and the top of your head.

Sitting in a broad awareness of your body.

What's that like?

Now tuning in to the sensations around your heart right in the centre of your chest.

Not expecting anything in particular.

Just curious,

Drawing your attention into the area of the heart and seeing what you find there.

Not trying to change anything.

Just noticing the quality of the Veda Nā.

Is the feeling tone pleasant?

Pleasurable?

Or is it unpleasant,

Maybe tight or sore?

Or maybe more neutral,

Maybe you don't feel very much at all.

That's very normal,

That's just a neutral Veda Nā.

And you may notice a range of Veda Nā,

You may notice change or movement.

Just becoming interested.

That's just a neutral Veda Nā.

And if your mind goes off,

Just notice that that's happened.

And what that feels like in this area around the heart.

And as you hold your awareness at the heart,

Just noticing as feelings arise,

Maybe images come into your mind,

Maybe words.

Not looking for them,

But just being aware of what arises as you hold your awareness at your heart.

That's just a neutral Veda Nā.

And continuing this attitude of open,

Interested awareness of this area.

We'll just drop in a few sentences and see what effect they have.

Firstly,

May I be well.

Saying to yourself,

May I be well.

And saying if you can mean it.

Just dropping the sentence in and then waiting.

Watching for a response.

May I be happy.

Taking an interest and getting close up to whatever the response is.

Even if it doesn't feel like anything at all.

Or even if it's fearful or painful.

Just becoming interested in that response.

When you say to yourself,

May I be happy.

And saying to yourself,

May I be well.

And saying if you can mean it.

Sometimes you may not feel like you do mean the words.

But even if that's the case,

Treat it as an experiment.

Pretend that you do.

See what that feels like.

And saying,

May I be happy.

Dropping in the phrase like a pebble down a deep well.

Just watching for the response as it lands.

And saying,

May I be free from suffering.

And lastly,

May I make progress.

And saying,

May I be happy.

Continuing to sit here and watch the response in your heart.

As you drop in the phrases,

May I be well.

May I be happy.

May I be free from suffering.

May I make progress.

May I be well.

May I be happy.

May I be well.

May I be happy.

May I be well.

May I be happy.

May I be well.

And relaxing any effort that you're making.

Dropping the phrases.

And just sitting in a broad awareness.

For a bit longer.

Feeling the effects of the meditation.

And relaxing any effort that you're making.

And relaxing any effort that you're making.

And relaxing any effort that you're making.

And relaxing any effort that you're making.

And relaxing any effort that you're making.

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Recent Reviews

Laura

September 16, 2024

Clear guidance, calming voice.

Tara

July 3, 2024

Very good , precise and calm ans your Gentleman voice . Thank you!

Jody

March 24, 2024

Unexpectedly profound. Grateful. πŸ™πŸ’š

Deborah

February 28, 2024

Thank you for providing the conditions for self metta to arise πŸ™

Rob

October 15, 2022

Thank-you. Loved the pace - the quiet in between times. πŸ™πŸ½

Stephen

September 15, 2022

Ahh it's my tribe!

Hiram

May 20, 2022

Thank you for helping me practice self love

Alexandra

March 30, 2022

Very lovely, the voice is perfekt, Not too much words. Great pleasure, thanks!

Ruth

March 28, 2022

This is a beautiful simple, but not easy, meditation.

Joanna

January 31, 2022

Lovely deeply calming metta meditation.

Diane

November 28, 2021

Lovely. I appreciate the gentle voice and pace. Thank you !

Lana

August 26, 2021

Thank you!

Susie-Susan

November 27, 2020

I absolutely loved this! Thank you! Enjoy your holidays and your gift.

China

November 27, 2020

Perfectly paced invitation to blessings. Lots of quiet and body awareness. Blessings requested in a sense of experimentation, allowing for curiosity regarding response: it worked for me - I feel blessed!

Elizabeth

November 27, 2020

Thank you, I found this a gentle focus on the heart so will use this guidance again.

Rosemary

November 27, 2020

Beautiful pacing. πŸ™πŸ’œπŸ™

Louise

November 27, 2020

That made me feel.

Janet

November 27, 2020

Excellent guidance. Thank you πŸ™

Irene

November 21, 2020

Thank you very much. Just a very beautiful guiding and meditationπŸ’šπŸ’šπŸ’šπŸ™πŸ™πŸ™

Don

November 20, 2020

Very calming...thank you πŸ™

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