Providing Self Compassion Break

Providing Self Compassion Break: This is a version of the Self Compassion Break that is designed to help you feel fulfilled and to meet your own needs. This practice can be used when you feel unfulfilled.

Transcript

This is a version of the self-compassion break that's designed to help you feel fulfilled to meet your needs.

So I'd like you to think about a situation in your life where you aren't feeling fulfilled,

Right,

Where there's an important need that isn't being met.

Maybe it's the need for artistic expression,

Or the need for joy,

Or maybe it's just the need for sleep.

Just take a moment to think about some area of your life where you feel your needs are not being met.

Call up the situation in your mind's eye,

What's happening or maybe what's not happening.

Just get in touch with any emotions you may be feeling about this,

For instance,

Disappointment,

Sadness,

Boredom,

Resentment.

Just make contact with this discomfort of the emotion as a physical sensation.

Now once again focus on the need that isn't being met itself,

For instance,

The need for expression or for learning or excitement or whatever it is you've identified.

Just focus on the need itself.

Getting up so that your body is alert,

Kind of ready to take action.

You're going to be saying a series of phrases aloud or silently,

Designed to bring in the three components of self-compassion.

It's trying to find language that works for you personally.

So the first phrase evokes mindfulness so you can really become aware of your authentic deep need.

Same to yourself,

Something like,

This is what I need to be whole or to be true to myself.

Or maybe something like,

My needs really matter.

This is important to me.

And then we want to remember common humanity so that again our needs are in balanced connection with those of others.

We don't want to just be selfish,

But we don't want to be doormats either.

So see if you can recognize the needs of everyone in this situation by saying something like,

I will try my best to honor my needs as well as those of others.

Or everyone's needs count,

Including mine.

Or maybe life involves receiving as well as giving.

Your language helps you recognize and honor the sense of balance.

And now please put both hands over your solar plexus,

Which is just below your rib cage,

Maybe about three inches above your belly button.

You might really feel in your energetic center.

And now we want to bring in kindness,

Right?

Kindness and care and concern for ourselves and that we be fulfilled.

So saying to yourself something like,

I will really commit to meeting my needs as best I can.

Maybe you know,

I deserve to be happy.

I will do what's necessary to be well.

And you know,

Perhaps if you don't know exactly what to say,

You might imagine that you had a close friend who is maybe unfulfilled in the same way that you are.

What you might say to your friend to encourage them,

You know,

To do what they can to meet their needs,

To remind them that they're worthy of having their needs met.

Then you can try saying something similar to yourself.

And then finally,

I'd invite you to leave one hand on your solar plexus,

But putting the other hand over your heart.

So you're feeling your energetic center,

But also your heart.

And so the invitation is to combine the fierce energy of providing for your needs with the tender energy of knowing that we are already complete as we are.

So in other words,

We want to take action to be more fulfilled,

But not from a sense of lack or insufficiency,

But simply because we care about ourselves.

We want to be as whole and complete as possible.

Getting those two energies of acceptance and also pursuing what we want to need,

Allowing those two energies to mingle together.

And when you're ready,

You can open your eyes and hope you bring this energy into your daily life and really give yourself what you need to be happy.

Reviews

Thank you. This really spoke to me. Short and meaningful.

This short practice was helpful and supportive. I found it was quite difficult to identify my needs. Thank you.

A lovely, gentle meditation! Thank you.

Why does a dysfunctional childhood make the objective of this practice feel unobtainable?

Just what I needed, kind and practical guidance to nurture my spirit in the context of my relationships, thank you 🙏

Sometimes we are the ones that need to provide ourselves the love and attention we deserve. Thank you so much, this helped me ease my stress.

Beautiful support of both my longing energy and compassion.

Many thanks Kristin for your teachings on fierce self-compassion ❤️💪🙏

I have listened to her books, lectures and interviews for a while. She is a very beautiful soul.

This was perfect for midday meditation break, thank you 🙏🏾

Learned a lot. Thanks

Thank you, I like how you gives ideas each step. Sometimes it can be difficult to know what to filter what to say to yourself to make it all better. Helpful indeed

So soothing for me. I really liked this short meditation, trough it I can put myself first and intention my needs. Thank you 🙏🏼 K. Neef

For a moment, I felt "something" when trying to bring the two sensations together - one of acceptance and one of determination. That my needs are important too, and that I'm committed to fulfilling them. Now I have to translate those feelings into positive actions, that's the difficult part...

Yes, I needed to hear this! This might just change my life 🙏

Thank you for this wonderful message and meditation! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

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Wonderful way to refocus my energy on self compassion

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