Sending the energy of pure love to someone whom we deeply care for,
But are separated from in the physical world,
Either due to loss or unresolved separation,
Or perhaps even death,
Can be a healing and transformational path toward wholeness and emotional freedom.
Those whom we feel far from,
Either physically or emotionally,
Are not actually somewhere far apart from us.
This is only our limited perception in the physical realm.
Those whom we love are always with us.
Their energy and presence we experience every day.
As all beings are interconnected,
We are especially deeply connected to those souls with whom we have loved and shared our lives.
If we are highly intuitive,
We can sense their energy through non-physical means.
We can also sense the heaviness of their fears,
Their illness,
Their depression,
Anxiety,
Trauma,
Relationship difficulties,
And addictions.
Our connection to those whom we most deeply love can drain our energy and block us from being completely free and awake.
This does not serve our highest good or theirs.
In this practice,
We use the approach of giving form and visualizing our loved one and their energy,
And feeding them rather than struggling against them.
This practice is an adaptation of an approach originally articulated by an 11th century female Tibetan Buddhist teacher.
Her name was Machig Labdrön.
The spiritual practice she developed was called Chod,
And it generated such amazing results that it became very popular,
Spreading widely throughout Tibet and beyond.
In today's world,
We suffer from record levels of inner and outer struggle.
We find ourselves ever more polarized inwardly and outwardly.
We need a new paradigm,
A fresh approach to conflict.
The strategy of this practice of nurturing rather than battling our inner and outer enemies offers a path to resolve conflict and leads to psychological integration and inner peace.
This practice is called feeding our lost loved ones.
It is based on the principles of Chod adapted for the Western world and can be used to feed those we have lost in relationship due to loss,
Death,
Or separation.
To begin this practice,
I'd like to invite you to gently come into a relaxed seated or lying down position.
Just take a moment to let yourself settle.
Perhaps allow your eyes to gently come to rest and begin to connect inwardly to your breath.
I want to invite you to bring this loved one to mind.
As you think about and visualize this person whom you love,
See if you can take a moment to sense where you feel them or hold them in your body.
After generating a heartfelt motivation of loving kindness for the benefit of yourself and all living beings,
Bring your focus completely to this loved one whom you wish to work with at this time.
Choose a loved one who you feel is draining your energy right now.
Focus more specifically on the feeling arising in you as a result of this person and this relationship other than the person at the moment.
Now notice this feeling inside you as a result of this person and this relationship,
Perhaps remembering an incident in which it came up strongly.
Take a moment to scan your body and inquire,
Where is this feeling being held in my body most strongly?
What is its shape?
What is its color,
Texture,
Temperature?
Simply allow the sensation to intensify.
Now allow this sensation with its color,
Texture,
And temperature to move outside of your body and once again become the person,
Your loved one,
Who created this feeling.
See this person very clearly in front of you.
Look into their eyes,
Their face,
Their skin.
Notice their hair.
Notice their emotional state.
What is the look in the eyes of this person whom you so deeply love?
Now take a moment to ask this person the following questions.
What is it that you want?
What do you really need?
How will you feel when you get what you need?
Now I want to invite you to switch places,
Keeping your eyes closed as much as possible,
And take a moment now to enter into the body of this other person whom you love.
Feel what it's like to be this person inside their skin and their body with their feelings.
Now notice how your normal self looks from their point of view.
Answer these questions speaking as this person whom you love.
What I want is what I really need is.
When I get what I need,
I will feel.
And take a particular note of this answer.
When I get what I need,
I will feel.
Now take a moment to settle back into your own body.
See this person whom you deeply love opposite you,
And then dissolve your own body into pure love,
Simply the energy of pure love.
Love is the quality of the feeling that this other person would have when they get what they really want and need.
Visualize the color of this love,
Perhaps a sky healing blue.
Now imagine this love,
This color,
Moving toward this person whom you love and washing completely over them.
Notice as they absorb and take all of this in,
You have an infinite supply of love to wash over them.
Feed and nourish this person whom you deeply love,
Washing love over them until they are completely nourished and satisfied.
And notice how they transform in this process.
Take as long as needed.
Now I invite you to look into this person's eyes after they have been completely bathed and nourished in love and ask them,
Will you be my ally and work together with me?
If so,
How will you help me?
How will you protect me?
What pledge do you make to me?
And how can I connect with you anytime,
Anywhere?
Now take a moment to change places and once again become the ally,
This other person whom you love.
Take a moment to settle into their body and notice now how it feels to be in their body now that they have been completely bathed and nourished in pure love.
How does your normal self look from the other person's point of view?
When you are ready,
Answer the following questions now speaking as the other person whom you deeply love.
I will help you by,
I will protect you by,
I pledge I will do the following for you.
You can always connect with me anytime,
Anyplace by,
Now take a moment to settle back into your own body.
Now simply seeing this person whom you so deeply love sitting now in front of you,
Look into their eyes and feel their energy pouring into your body.
Now imagine this person you so deeply love dissolving into pure love.
Notice their color of light,
Feel their energy of love and their color of light dissolving into you and integrate this love and luminosity into every cell of your body and your being.
Notice the feeling of the integrated energy of this loved one inside of you,
This person whom you so deeply love into your body.
Now you with the integrated energy of this person whom you love also dissolve into pure love.
Feel the light and the color dissolving and merging into pure love.
Simply breathe and be in that state of pure love,
Merged completely together with the pure energy of love in the one whom you so deeply love.
Now simply rest in this pure state of awareness that is present after this disillusion.
Simply be in this space until you gradually come back into your body,
Gradually returning again as you gradually open your eyes and maintain the feeling of the energy of pure love.
Now,
You can now feel the pure love of this other person whom you so deeply love within your own body.
