Two Keys To Eliminating Stress Now

There are stresses in life, that is a given. But suffering in stress is a choice many of us make by default. Find your way back with these two key pivots in your mental & emotional awareness. With this episode, you will learn empowering ways to show up in your full power.

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Welcome to the Happiness Habit podcast.

I'm Kara Payton and this is your podcast for becoming the happiest person you know.

The Happiness Habit podcast is a place for those seeking insight and guidance on creating a life fulfilled.

This channel covers all bases from relationships,

Self inventory,

Healing,

Trauma,

Emotional homes and mentality,

Goal setting and manifestation.

It creates an open ended dialogue about the things that influence you and how to create a habit of happiness in your life.

I want to talk today about what it means to start your morning a certain way.

And for most of you,

You know what I'm talking about.

It's so easy,

Especially in our neck of the woods,

Winter's coming and it's so easy to just,

Ugh,

The weather,

It's cold,

I'm tired,

It's dark and all that stuff.

And it's so critical and there's so many easy shifts to make and that's what I want to talk about today.

We wake up by default,

We wake up by our alarms and then as we turn off our alarms,

Sure enough there's a list of notifications,

Emails,

Voicemails,

Text messages,

Alerts,

Reminders,

Everything under the sun.

And what our brain does when it sees that is immediately goes into this panic and you're behind the eight ball already and you have to put your feet on the ground.

And most of the time these are demands or other people's objectives for your day.

And so you're getting out of bed and you're already out of touch with your body,

Out of touch with yourself,

You are not present and you're racing about your day.

And usually that doesn't stop there.

It's usually the day maker.

That's how you go about through your day and you look through everyone and you're in a hurry and honking horns.

And then at the end of the night,

You're laying back in bed and didn't have a moment to yourself or so it feels like it because your focus was there and we're setting an alarm again to do it all again the next day.

And this lack of presence and especially in the world of social media and technology becoming what it is,

It's that much more easy to default to that.

So the importance of our focus really matters because where our focus goes,

Our energy continues to move in that momentum.

And momentum in the behind the eight ball late notified distractions.

We have these little devices that were supposed to be amazing for us,

But all they are is this thing in our pockets that's constantly pulling us out of the present moment,

Being distracted and half effective.

And this,

For those of you who really are go,

Go,

Go,

Go getters,

Your CEOs,

Your busy,

Your nurses,

You've got kids,

You're a stay at home mom,

You're so many packed together things that are going to demand of you.

You need that.

You need to be available.

You need to be on alert.

Here's the kicker.

Here's something that might motivate you.

Those that are doers,

You are so much more effective when you are distracted on your terms.

And so I highly recommend to take some of these tips and put into practice and see what changes and those of you who are,

Do not have the high demands and are living life on your own terms in a lot of ways.

Here's another way.

There's all these are going to apply to you too,

Because the present moment is always available for you to go deeper into it.

So the first thing that I would recommend for everyone is your phone.

I don't know about Android users.

I apologize.

Maybe this happens.

Maybe you have this ability,

Maybe not.

But for Apple users,

If you set a bedtime and I know bedtime is not necessarily going to be the same time every day.

If you set this bedtime,

What it does is it turns do not disturb on your phone automatically.

And so your bedtime may not be the time necessarily you go to sleep,

But it's the time you've become out of pocket for distraction.

And what I do is I take it a step further.

I turn on my do not disturb for this time.

I think it is 10 PM to 7 AM.

And then I go further.

I turn my do not disturb on at about eight o'clock,

Eight thirty nine o'clock.

And I have my VIPs,

People that can break through that,

My best friend and significant other and sister and all of that.

But the do not disturb function acts as a barrier for all of the work emails and the notifications and all of that.

I'm one of those that did finally just pull the plug and I removed Facebook because it's it no longer serves me.

I still have my Instagram and things like that.

The things that I do feel good about when I go on there,

It actually doesn't ever feel bad.

But for some reason,

Facebook was just not that platform for me.

So I turn it all off.

The settings on my notifications are all turned off,

Except for a few things that I actually do enjoy still.

And then to go further,

It does not show up on my phone in the morning.

And so when I turn off my alarm,

It just says good morning.

The whole screen is blacked out.

I've turned off my alarm and it just says good morning.

I have to open my phone and then purposely go into and engage with where I choose first.

And this is after I take my morning for me.

And that is basically the biggest thing I want to try and impart for people to just try it out for one week.

And if you notice that your day just starts a little bit more on your terms,

You'll notice that it may not happen the first day.

You may still be easily distracted and still fall through your day and it may just not be a very good day.

But day three,

Day four,

Day five,

You'll notice that your mental ram,

This bandwidth that runs on loop in the back of your mind just has a little bit more breathing room.

And then that leads me to my next and final thing for today is that if you do not have time to meditate,

I will always push everyone to meditate.

Meditation is the answer to everything.

However,

If that's just not something you can do right now,

That's fine.

Start with this.

Instead of taking your five,

10 minutes,

Even just giving a minute thing still creates barriers and blocks.

But I don't have five minutes.

When I wake up,

I've got to go.

That's fine.

Wake up then.

Move out of your space.

Drink some water.

Wash your face.

Do things that suggest a physical stimulation.

Brushing your teeth is great.

Do something that creates a physical stimulation and it creates in this body a sense of wakefulness.

And then go sit in another space.

Don't get back in bed.

Sit at the foot of your bed.

Sit on a couch,

A favorite spot,

A meditation pillow,

A corner of your room.

Sit somewhere else and just take 10 cleansing breaths.

10,

20,

Doesn't have to be anything that has a certain timeframe attached to it.

Time is something we already have a very big story against and we're already operating in less lack and never and we don't have time.

Okay,

I understand that you don't have time.

So just do 10 breaths.

Breathe all the way in.

Fill your lungs completely.

We don't breathe that way all throughout our day.

We breathe with about,

I would say less than half.

We don't breathe in all the way at all,

All day long.

And when we have those deep cleansing breaths,

Our parasympathetic system is awakened and we are calm and we are present.

And in those moments we are present.

That's all you need to get started your day with a presence.

And that is my A to the Q.

That is all I've got for now is just try to experiment with creating some space between you and other people's objectives with your phone and turning on Do Not Disturb.

And then if you do not have time to meditate in the morning,

Try 10 cleansing breaths.

Try it for a week.

See what you find.

Thank you for joining me for another episode of the Happiness Habit podcast.

Until next time,

Keep moving forward toward becoming the happiest person you know,

Because the world really does need that higher self within you.