Hello to you my dear soul and welcome to the Healing Talks by Giudo Gorini.
Today we're going to talk about Authenticity and why authenticity is so important in our healing journey.
Authenticity means living in alignment with our true selves,
With our values and beliefs rather than conforming to all the external expectations but also all the societal norms.
Being authentic is important for many reasons,
But if I need to put the top three up there I would say that in an haze the personal happiness that we are all looking for,
It builds a deeper connection with others but also it leads us to a more fulfilling life.
You are probably asking yourself now how can I achieve that?
So let me go through three important points on achieving authenticity.
The first one is self-reflection and what I mean by that is that regularly you need to assess your values,
Your beliefs and passions and really understand what truly matters to you and not what you were told should matter.
Yeah here's a big point.
Then honesty.
Practice being honest with yourself and others are so important.
Why?
Because this is the only way that you can acknowledge your feelings,
Thoughts and desire without masking them.
And we do live in a society that we need to use a mask or we have a major role.
But even in those cases you can be totally honest with everyone around you without having fear of being judged.
And then one big point in here,
Vulnerability.
Embracing vulnerability as a strength means that you are completely open to yourself,
To anything that will happen in your life.
Sharing your true self includes insecurity and fears.
And this forces our authenticity.
That's why I always say that it's important to cry,
It's important to share how you feel And every time that someone tries to put you down,
You just go to them and you just say how you feel,
How the situation made you feel.
If you include all these three points,
Then you can start with the biggest point of all in authenticity.
That is saying no.
And it's not just saying no to the rest of the world,
It's also starting to say no to yourself.
Understanding and setting healthy boundaries,
It maintains your integrity and also avoids over commitment.
So once in a while it's good that you sit down with yourself and you just create the boundaries if you don't want to do something,
Why you are pushing yourself to do it.
If you don't want to go somewhere with someone,
Why you are pushing yourself on doing it.
You have choices in this life and that includes also the word no.
But then we need also to battle up with people pleasing.
We are all people pleasing in here and we need to overcome it.
You need to recognize the trap of people pleasing,
Why?
Because authenticity involves making choices that are right for you even if they will disappoint others.
Yeah,
My dear.
And there is no problem in that,
Because when you choose and you say no,
What you're doing is just respecting yourself for who you are.
And here we go to the point of respecting yourself.
Self-respect cultivates a strong sense of self-worth and it helps you to recognize your values,
But also to treat yourself with kindness and respect.
And then there is also the self-care.
So you need to prioritize the self-care,
Taking care of your physical,
Emotional and mental well-being is the foundation to be authentic.
So if your way to self-care is sitting in front of television or having a good healthy meal or having a walk,
That's totally fine.
You just need to choose what is the best for you and taking out all the self-sabotage that says to you,
Oh,
I'm not supposed to do that,
Who says that,
It's just you.
If you have your journal with you,
You can start doing this.
So to allow yourself to let it go of inauthentic attachments,
You'll need to write down and acknowledge all the areas of your life where you're not being true to yourself.
These include behaviors,
Relationships or pursuits that don't align with your core values.
And when you have all that down,
It begins the process of detaching from this inauthentic aspect.
And this may involve difficult choices such as ending certain relationship or changing behaviors and that is totally fine.
In being authentic,
You need to embrace change.
So when you accept that letting go of inauthentic attachments is a transformative process.
I know it may be uncomfortable,
But it's crucial for the authentic living.
Each day is important that you incorporate small acts of authenticity in your daily life.
This can be also simple like expressing your true opinions or pursuing hobbies that genuinely interest you and dressing in a way that reflects your personal style.
But also you can practice mindfulness to stay present and connect with your authentic self.
This helps in making decisions that align with your true values and desire.
When you embrace authenticity,
You embrace also a continuous growth.
And what I mean by that is that authenticity is a journey,
Not a destination.
And it requires continuous self-discovery,
Learning and adaptation.
And about adaptation,
I have something to tell you.
You don't need to adapt to the world,
It's the world that needs to adapt to you.
In your authenticity,
What you do is being true to yourself,
Is respecting who you are,
No matter what,
But also accepting the fact that you have really good points in your life,
But also some flaws,
That they are not flaws,
But they are new tools to make sure you can live life in the perfect way possible for you.
