Release Trauma Signals - Abandonment

In this soothing guided session, you are invited to soften into a space of deep safety and restoration. Together, we explore the subtle imprints of abandonment that the body and nervous system carry—often long after the mind believes it has “moved on.” Through calming breath, compassionate awareness, and gentle inner guidance, this session helps you unwind the old survival signals that keep you guarded, alone, or disconnected.
You’ll be held in a field of reassurance as you reconnect with your innate worthiness, rebuild inner trust, and welcome back the parts of yourself that have felt unseen or unsupported. This healing experience is designed to release the emotional residue of abandonment and to realign you with a steady sense of belonging, both within yourself and in the greater field of Life.
Allow yourself to be supported, restored, and remembered. This is your time to come home to yourself.

Transcript

This is quite a hard one for us to unwrap.

It's that big,

Big one that sits in that frequency of the heart and the small intestine.

All those frequencies that come in as distortions,

As traumas,

All of these,

My treasures,

Are like a double punch in the heart,

In the stomach.

Boom,

Boom.

And they hit us really quickly.

When we have a signal,

Especially if it's an ancestral,

An ancient signal,

Or any kind of trauma from this life that is holding it active,

Saying,

Ooh,

Be careful,

Ooh,

Be careful,

Let me give you a warning.

The moment you're stepping into this,

Some signal's gonna go off in you and you're gonna start reacting.

Reacting,

As we know,

Is just not the answer.

Because what it does,

It throws all those default stuff things into our system,

Those cortisol,

Epinephrine,

Norepinephrine,

All those stress hormones,

And the adrenals get activated and the whole being goes into reactivity so that we can survive,

So that we can save ourselves.

This is quite a tall order for us to shift from that mindset of having to guard and protect,

Defend,

Deflect,

Deny,

Distract,

Detach,

Destroy,

Very hard energy.

Human species is locked in that.

The only way to unlock it from our awareness,

From our pattern,

Is to be aware,

Conscious,

And start to do this bit by bit to undo these signals that are just poking into our lives and making us miserable.

Take care of you,

Be kind to you,

And make sure that you stay hydrated and hold your heart in a precious way.

At the same time,

Let's hold each other with so much love.

What we can do to bring a deep and profound healing to this place,

This space that feels raw and sad and difficult,

The energy trauma signal of abandonment.

So let's do that together.

We take a deep breath in and come into this moment,

Settle down,

And we're gonna ask our guides and angels,

Divine presence,

Step on in,

Be with us,

Help us.

We really want to be held and we want to have insight and awareness in whatever it is that will help each and every one of us to bring about a different pattern in our human system.

Gosh,

Wouldn't that be wonderful?

Wouldn't that be amazing?

So here we go,

My lovely.

Settle down where you are.

Let's take a deep breath in.

Then a long,

Slow out-breath.

If it's safe for you,

Close your eyes.

Just be where you are right now in this moment in time.

Notice yourself here.

And whatever part of you is connecting to the earth,

Feel that connection.

Settle down into that connection.

Know that you're being held,

Supported,

Loved.

Know that all is well,

That there is some unfolding that's happening for this human species that is so incredible.

And in this space and time and in this moment,

We have an opportunity to rethink who we are.

We're not just some species just moving along through a life from A to the end.

And whatever happens in between just happens and it doesn't matter.

It matters a great deal.

What happens in the beginning and all the way along our pathway right to the very end matters enormously.

You might say,

I don't care about it.

It's done and it's passed.

But the part that is difficult is that everything that is a difficult situation or a traumatic signal,

Something that makes our mind or body go,

Ooh,

Ooh,

Ooh,

I don't like that.

Ooh,

Ooh,

Ooh,

Pay attention.

This is not good.

Something might happen.

It's a warning signal.

And we are so adept at picking up warning signals that we have opened up so much more capacity in this mind body being because of that.

We are asking our heightened perceptions,

Our insight,

Our intuition to pay attention,

To be watching out when we're not physically watching out.

There is a part of us that is picking up so much information.

It's transmitting it to us saying,

Oh,

Oh,

Be careful,

Don't be doing this.

There is always guidance.

What we've got to become really good at is picking that up,

Acknowledging the signal,

Listening to it and feeling into the connection,

Whatever we can do to make an adjustment as that warning or as that foreboding or dread comes in,

As that sense comes in,

Find a way to connect with it,

Not just push it away and think,

Oh,

I can't deal with that now.

No,

I'm not having that feeling.

I know that does protect us,

But it doesn't stay away from us.

That feeling,

That foreboding,

That hardship,

That pain,

Just because we say,

Oh,

I can't deal with it now,

It doesn't mean it just goes away.

It stays and hovers in your field until you are ready to connect with it.

If we won't unpack it,

If we say,

I'm not going there,

And we just leave it in that space,

It could just sit there,

It could just well sit there.

But if there is something that awakens that feeling again,

Another interaction,

Another episode,

Another point of drama,

And it awakens that feeling,

Now it's twice as bad.

There is a memory and there is the moment.

The two together amplify together and become very,

Very loud.

That's when we become breathless and terrified.

What am I gonna do?

Oh,

I don't know what to do.

We're blinded during the headlights,

Overwhelmed.

So whatever's coming to us from now on,

Please let's make an agreement with our being that whatever comes in from this moment forward for the rest of our life,

If we notice something that doesn't quite match or doesn't quite fit with our being,

Doesn't feel comfortable,

Loving,

Gracious,

Or kind,

If we can just do one thing,

And that is agree with our own being that this feeling,

This signal,

This pattern is not what we will love,

Not what we will embrace,

Not what we want to play in.

Simply agreeing with you that you are picking it up and you don't want it,

Right there,

You've created a safety net around you because you are agreeing with you.

You are not dismissing and discharging you.

You're not saying,

Don't be so dramatic,

Don't be ridiculous,

It's not so bad.

That is what has been told to so many of us over the span of our journeys,

Because the things that react in us really react,

And we come out fighting,

Crazy,

Tired,

And screaming,

And whatever else comes out,

Because it is a reaction,

And a reaction is filled with all kinds of passion and energy.

Hoo,

Whatever comes in from this moment forward,

No matter what it looks like and no matter what it feels like,

Start to agree with you that you've picked up the signal,

That you've noticed it.

The minute you notice it,

It can't hide and look around in the background.

It can't go underground and just seep and separate in that space.

We don't leave it as an open wound.

We agreeing with our being that this,

That is coming towards us,

This feeling,

The sadness,

The story,

Is not the one that we wish to have.

There is an amazing gift in doing this.

First of all,

You are agreeing with you that there is something else and another way to be in the world.

When you agree with you,

And you hold the idea that there is another way to do this,

Because your heart wants it to look another way,

Your heart is calling it,

You have now given permission to that heightened creative aspect of you to go and find the other thing,

To seek it out.

And then we use our magic words.

I wonder what it's going to look like.

I wonder.

I wonder what it will be like when,

If you wonder about it.

And the thought and the feeling goes wondering about trying to find resolution and completion.

That is how we do this.

That is how we clear the pathways and open these patterns.

And all we have to ever do is just agree with ourself that the space that we are encountering and what the feelings we are getting are valid because we are valid.

And we honor those feelings because we honor our own selves.

And we value the input because we value our own self.

Can you hear what you are doing the moment you say it's,

This is what's coming in,

I agree,

I'm getting it.

You've opened up a massive conscious awareness in your entire field.

And you're starting to work with your journey,

All those who are showing up in a way that is highly sophisticated.

You're tapping into your heightened awareness,

Your intuition,

Guidance,

You're tapping into all of this,

Which makes you incredible.

Then beyond that,

You're tapping in and asking your guides and angels,

Divine presence,

What could I do?

I wonder what I could do.

I wonder what it is that's gonna come in now into my awareness that will help me and support me in the most incredible way.

You are fine tuning this instrument out of its drama and panic and terror,

Horror.

And you're starting to bring yourself into a more considered place.

That consideration for you and the voicing of what it is that you would love to hold and consider for your life moving forward creates a pattern or a pathway.

So here we are,

Holding the frequency of abandonment.

We've all understood what this is like.

We've all known in one way or another,

Some have really known it in a treacherous and very difficult way.

And some have just gently touched upon it.

The degree that you've connected into it does not matter.

If you know the energy of abandonment,

If you can feel it and make that connection,

Then you can create a synaptic energy chord to feel it and then to heal it.

You connect your heightened awareness,

This beautiful conscious being into that pathway,

Into that pattern.

And you interrupt that signal from being dramatic and alert and terrifying,

Horrifying.

And you interrupt the signal and change it into something that amplifies your growth as a being of love and light.

Everything that's coming in is so that we can know.

Every single thing that you are aware of is so that you will become aware.

Please hear that.

There are no mistakes and nor you,

You are not a mistake.

Everything that has come in as difficult as it has been,

It's because you,

My love,

Have the full capacity to heal at the depth of which you have felt that pain.

So if you have known this energy of abandonment in the most treacherous and devastating way,

If it's almost knocked your feet right out of you,

Taken your breath away,

Broken your heart,

If it has put you in that place where you cannot trust anyone ever again,

Then you have material at your fingertips to be the healer of that content.

We wouldn't bother to work in those points of pain if we had not felt that point of pain.

We would just say,

Well,

I can't relate to it.

And that would be true.

So we couldn't really work there.

For those of you who've truly known the big calamitous points of pain through all these trauma signals that we've known and understood that we've been working on for an entire year,

You,

My love,

As a healer,

You are the healer of that particular story,

That vibration,

Because you know it so well.

And because you know it,

You also know at the exact same point what it is that you don't ever want to bring in.

You never want to feel it again.

And we definitely don't want the ones we love to have that pain point.

We want to save them from that point of pain,

Suffering,

And awfulness.

That is the gift that we get to give each other.

Every soul who brings a healing into a point of pain,

So it unwraps and opens.

It's a beautiful space for us to know this and to seek it.

So let's take a breath into that and let that settle.

A long,

Slow out-breath,

And drop your energy into your body.

Make an agreement right now with all my heart and all my soul.

I agree from this moment forward for the rest of my life to make the connections to what it is that is unfolding in front of me.

To honor my being so that I can say to it,

I understand what is coming in.

I agree that we are in pain.

I see your pain.

I feel your heartache.

I know your rage.

I agree it's okay because that is you just saying,

I don't want this.

I really don't want this.

That's a wonderful energy to have.

It is so certain.

The certainty drives the passion.

I don't want this.

That's what we are doing.

That's how we're connecting in.

Your passion,

Your determination,

And your courage,

Your fabulous stubbornness is the pathway through it all.

You harness that,

And you feel it,

And you honor it,

And I agree with me.

Let that settle down into your tummy.

Soften your tummy.

Feel that you can come into that next space of your expression with your being at this time.

And then from this moment forward,

We'll carry that expression in and through this being for as long as we're here to be.

And then teach this,

My lovelies.

Teach this to your children.

Instead of shaming and blaming them,

And judging,

Criticizing them,

And tell them to get over it and pull themselves together.

You teach them that it's okay to feel.

Because if you can feel something,

You can heal the something.

And we honor every point of our human experience.

Every single point,

We honor it.

Because it is an honorable pursuit to heal that point of pain.

So you're holding this energy here now.

And then we consider just another point in the idea of abandonment.

That deep pain,

That treachery,

And the sadness.

My lovelies,

How do you know abandonment?

How do you know what that is?

If we were all just here wobbling around,

Just doing our journey,

And carrying on with our own world and our own thoughts and perceptions and ideas.

And we absolutely didn't care about anybody else and their stories.

We would never feel abandonment.

It is because we have this capacity,

This depth of our heart and soul to feel.

To feel the sadness,

The treachery,

The deep,

Deep longing in abandonment.

That helps us to be the supreme healers of it.

When we can feel abandonment,

We are also remembering something that is so ancient.

I do believe with all my heart and soul,

And you must just taste this for you.

I believe that most of us,

Especially as we know ourselves to be light workers,

That we know ourselves to feel very homesick most of the time.

We feel so very far away from our divine.

For those of you who understand what I'm saying,

You'll know how deep this pain can be.

This longing,

This constant,

Constant longing.

We try and fill it up with people and stuff.

We try and fill it up with experiences and money and all the things that we try and pack into the suitcase to make it feel full.

But there's always this emptiness,

This hollowness.

My whole life,

I really understood this.

Until one day I realized,

Oh my gosh,

It feels like homesickness.

Whenever one of you,

If you've ever known,

Especially as a child,

What were you gonna do is sleep over,

And you're gonna be so brave,

And your mom and your daddy just know you're gonna be,

They're gonna be called at midnight by that dear soul who said you can come and sleep over at their home.

Their call would come,

Can you pick up your baby?

They're so homesick.

Your special baby child,

Pick it up because this little one wants to come home,

Homesick.

We know that feeling because my lovelies,

We are the very breath of the divine.

And I know we feel very far away from being in that divine space where things are beautiful and gracious.

I know we have this longing for that to be exactly the same here.

When we experience all the pitfalls and the pain,

We feel very lost and alone here.

That very first impulse that we understand that we are so far from home,

That is our abandonment pain.

That's why I venture to say that every one of us knows this because every one of us are the breath of the divine.

We are the divine children.

We are here on a mission.

We are here to bring light in and to be healers.

Every single one of us is meant to be doing that.

No one is more special than anybody else.

In fact,

If you've had immense pain and hardship,

Trauma and struggles in your life,

You,

My love,

Are the most profound healer.

So don't you go ever again thinking that you're just broken and ridiculous.

You're not,

You're incredible.

So when we know the sense of abandonment,

We have this longing in us.

Please,

From now on,

If you can,

If this resonates as something that you could work with,

Please just know that it's homesick.

When we're homesick,

It's because we know what home is.

That little child having the sleepover.

You're so happy,

The evening's going fine,

Eating different food,

Playing games,

Getting into a different little sleeping bag and telling nighttime stories,

But then the loneliness comes in and the loss comes in and the little one starts shaking and crying and calling for mom or dad.

Yep,

That happens because we know something else because we are something else.

We can't just contain it and say,

They're there,

You'll see them in the morning.

It is so deep,

It's etched inside of us because we are to remember our home.

We are to remember who we are and that we belong.

We're part of all that is.

And we're here on assignment just for a little while.

Do what you need to do.

We're all gonna go home after this,

It's okay.

Can't wait to see you all.

Then I'm gonna stand there and go,

I told you so,

Didn't I?

Didn't I tell you so?

We are on a mission,

My lovelies.

It's an incredible time to be here.

Our aching hearts,

Our breaking hearts are guiding us towards what it is that we are to do and create and open.

As much as we can love,

Honor each other and love each other while we are here,

That helps us all to feel a lot more comfortable seeing,

Heard,

Honored,

Valued.

But comfort yourself with the fact that you will be going home and you will have that lovely,

Loving connection.

It is just perfect essence.

And thank goodness we haven't forgotten it.

Thank goodness our hearts yearn.

And thank goodness we know the energy of abandonment for every child,

For every little boy child and every little girl child,

For every woman and for every man,

Through all time,

All fields,

All dimensions,

All awarenesses and points of history,

May there be a healing balm of light and love to soothe the pain,

To calm and comfort so that we remember who we are,

That we are divine beings of light and love.

We're here on a mission.

Our hearts are breaking with the love that we seek and yearn for because that energy is the amplifying healing balm.

It radiates from our heart as our heart cracks open and feels the immensity of the pain.

So we radiate the light,

So we bring healing towards it.

This beautiful heart knows a whole story.

Beautiful you.

You have your heart and you have your soul and we have each other.

Through so much love here,

Take a deep breath in,

My lovelies.

Long,

Slow out-breath.

We're so grateful and we thank our guides and angels and divine presence for being so close to us.

For whatever it is that we can move and create,

For whatever gift we can bring in,

For the healing that we're here to do and create,

Just step into it now and hold every chord,

Every signal,

Every code of pain,

Hardship,

And sadness.

Hold it with all your heart and soul and bring healing to it because that's what you're here to do.

So much love to you,

My treasures.

So much love.

Reviews

So so beautiful and important to hear. Will need to listen to this one again ❤️

Even more profound the second time I listened ‼️❤️thank you Joy for sharing your insight ❤️