Finding Balance - Day 13

Busy lives and competing demands can distract us from what matters most, causing imbalance and tension in the relationships we have with ourselves, family, friends, and the world. In this month-long series, Jay guides you towards creating and reintegrating harmony in your life.

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Releasing Judgment We learn to be judges of others,

Usually at a very early age,

While listening and watching parents or teachers pass comments and pronounce judgment about other people's behaviors.

We also learn to like and dislike,

And it's not long before the two are mixed.

When we dislike anything,

It often becomes a projection of disapproval that we then expand into a negative judgment.

The moment we judge another's behavior,

The moment we create a negative assessment of the other,

We are erecting a barrier between ourselves and them.

This creates the disconnection,

And even when there is a connection,

It feels as if there isn't really.

When we judge another,

There is the tendency to label them,

And when we label them,

We cease to attempt to understand them.

We have created a belief about them,

Labeled them with that belief,

And decided we are right.

This is why we sometimes walk away from an interaction with another thinking and feeling we are not connecting properly.

It's as if we are missing each other,

And that's because we are not having a relationship with the person,

But our belief about that person.

Although the belief was created in the past,

It comes up to the forefront of our consciousness when we are present in their presence,

In the present.

Yesterday's judgment is well recorded and parked within our consciousness.

Today's judgments are well recorded and parked within our consciousness,

And they become the baggage that we bring to today's relationships.

Now think of somebody who you are having a difficult relationship with.

As they come in the screen of your mind,

Drop all images that you hold of this person,

And see them as pure awareness.

Nothing physical,

Just subtle awareness.

Just as you are a being of peace,

Love,

And joy,

They too are of the same fabric.

And notice when you have the next interaction with them,

You don't feel the barrier that you did in the past.

This is notAAAAE4.

You You You You You You You You You You You You You You You You You You You You You You Thank you

Reviews

Happy Diwali! 🎇
Namaste 🙏

A beautiful start to my day 🙏🏻

Often we aren’t having relationships with the actual person but rather relationships with our stories of them. Wow. What happens when we listen and our down the stories? So powerful as always Jay!

Releasing judgement day 13 was one of the most meaningful, eye opening sessions have done. I enjoy all your meditations but this was something else. Thank you so much Jay.

I shall be putting aside my judgements whenever I notice I’m judging… an observation - i noticed a few interval bells which I don’t remember from previous meditations in this series 🤔 Thank you for sharing! 😊

Profound and absolutely fantastic!!! Loving these finding balance meditations Day 13 beautiful

Wow!! How timely! Was just visiting family and it was amazing how quickly 'judging' comes into play. After this meditation, I have a whole different view of the person I have been judging. Thank you!

Thank you Jay I’m always working on the non judgement, this is a good reminder. See you tomorrow 🙏