Welcome to day six of developing resilience.
Take in some deep,
Comfortable breaths.
Breathe into your belly,
Not your chest.
Letting the abdomen to rise and fall.
As you begin to slow down,
I want you to observe the flickering scenes on the screen of your mind.
Recall the last time when you did not get what you wanted,
Or it was being blocked.
How did you feel?
Most likely you automatically started to think your happiness and satisfaction is being denied by the other.
In truth,
Your happiness and contentment is being sabotaged entirely by yourself because of your attachment to the outcome you want.
But if you think it is being denied by them,
You blame them,
Project your pain on them,
Play the role of victim and then try to defeat them in order to become victorious and thereby get what you want.
Such is the way of all conflict,
All war.
Becoming the master of your mind with the ability to discern the different levels of reality requires the practice of detached observation.
This has been an ancient practice of spiritual seekers for millennia.
It is the practice of becoming aware of oneself as the observer of everything.
It is like sitting in the cinema but not losing the awareness of oneself as the viewer of the changing colors and forms on the screen.
It's contrary to the belief that the whole point of going to the movies is to lose our self in the movie,
To escape into the story being projected onto the screen.
This is the moment when what is known as attachment happens.
I the being become aware that I am simply observing whatever is happening on the screen of the mind.
I am not the actor,
Event or scene.
I am just the observer,
Sitting back and watching.
This practice gradually restores my ability not to lose the awareness of being the watcher,
The witness,
The observer of what is occurring on the screen of my mind.
You may become aware of two things arising.
The first is a profound inner peacefulness that brings with it a feeling of stability and serenity.
The second is a growing awareness of yourself as the master of your life,
Where before you had more a sense of being at the mercy of others and events.
When you are attached to the image of a specific outcome,
When you're attached to the idea that the other has to change,
That's what keeps you close to other options and other possibilities and new ways forward.
It shuts down your creativity and your ability to work with others to find solutions.
It shuts down your creativity and your ability to work with the other to find solutions.
Before you can resolve conflict,
It's necessary to dissolve your part of the conflict.
That means learning the art of detachment.
It does not mean you don't care about the other or that you avoid the other.
In fact,
It's only possible to extend care and connect authentically when you're not attached to anything.
Otherwise,
You're too busy with your attachment,
Defending it,
Protecting it,
Fearing the loss of it.
And that mental busyness is what makes you less able to connect with the other openly,
Transparently and authentically.
It opens you up for a deep and authentic connection.
Notice the feeling of stability,
Serenity and being the master of your life arise.
Now extend that serenity into your environment with each exhale.
Let the calm fill your home.
Touch your loved ones.
And reach out into your neighborhood.
See yourself going through the entire day with this feeling.
Thank you.
Join me tomorrow for a session on feeling connected.
Until then,
Be well.
