This meditation begins with a reflection on our own self worth.
It's an invitation to sit back,
Listen to the words you hear and listen to your own inner voice to see what she says in response.
At the end of the reading there will be some time for quiet reflection and some guided breath work.
How do we evidence our own worth to ourselves?
How do we stop ourselves from qualifying the way others see us,
From making assumptions about how worthy they think we are of their energy,
Their attention,
Their investment?
What are the internal blockers we need to remove with tender hands in order to see ourselves the way others see us?
And of course,
If when they see our full self barriers down,
They decide that perhaps we are not for them,
How do we stop ourselves from instantly erecting the borders once again to stop us ever being rejected by another?
Of course,
We cannot stop that.
We can never stop another person from acting,
Thinking,
Feeling,
Whatever they wish.
We can try of course,
But ultimately they are their own person just as we are ours.
So if we cannot control them,
What can we control?
We can make efforts to control what they see of us or we can control how much of ourself we reveal or we can present one part of us to one audience and another to another.
We can divide ourselves into two,
Three,
Four pieces,
Adapting,
Distilling,
Distorting ourselves into the image we believe others want to see.
All we can be,
Just that,
We can be.
We can believe that what we are is who we are meant to be.
And while we may grow and shift and change as we come to inhabit our full adult self in our full glory,
It does not mean that we morph into something we are not in order to squeeze our rounded self into a square shaped hole of another's imagined making.
There is a truth here that if we are not the right fit for another in this moment,
Whether that's for a job,
A relationship or whatever the connection may be driven by,
Then that is a two way choice.
We are not selected or rejected.
It's either the moment or not the moment.
We are neither better nor worse than another and the same is true for them.
The only way to know if what we present,
Who we are,
Feels right in the moment is when it feels right for us.
Listening to the clear voice within that tells us others have the right to make their choices.
And it's always best if we have a full,
Clear picture of what we are choosing so there are no moments down the line when we wish we'd made a different choice.
If we present ourselves to be something we are not,
We are saying that others don't have the right to see us as we are.
If we present ourselves as something we are not,
We're saying we don't have the right to be who we really are.
Do you choose to deny another of their rights?
Do you choose to be denied of your own?
Taking down the barriers is an act of faith and an act of belief that others are able to see the world with compassionate eyes.
And if the place they're in right now means that they cannot,
Then you have a different choice to make.
Do you wish to contort yourself to fit that blinkered gaze?
Or do you wish to stand in your own light unfettered by another's constraints?
In the end,
We all desire to be seen.
But how can we be seen when we hide ourselves away?
Being seen is trusting that we are worthy,
And the journey begins with us.
Valuing our own self,
Acknowledging our own worth,
Stepping away from the false safety of comparisons,
Assumptions,
And contortions is how we become visible without walls.
Settle now.
Be with your breath.
Be with your inhale just as it is.
Be with your exhale just as it is.
Come down now into your belly.
Feel how alive your whole body is as it sits here in calmer pose.
Bring a sense of your own compassion to yourself as you sit here now.
Feel the lines,
All of who you are.
Perfect.
Human.
Whole.
Bring this feeling of calm with you into whatever the rest of your day holds.
We all know that to love ourselves is to know how it is to love and how it is to be loved.
And with that,
We are able to love others fully too.
