Hi and welcome to this talk slash meditation.
Please make sure you're in a quiet and peaceful space where you'll not be disturbed.
You are free to sit upright or lay down with your head resting on a soft pillow whilst you let yourself fall into the words and your own body.
I'm going to be talking about communicating in your intimate relationships.
Communication and intimacy need each other.
If we do not communicate in our most intimate relationships,
We will end up feeling most likely unsatisfied,
Resentful or even worse,
Not feeling true to our own authentic voice and needs.
Having intimate relationships that bring out the best in us really requires communicating our own needs,
Wants and preferences and in turn being open to listening to theirs.
Communication opens up a gateway to not only our own voice but helping the relationship grow.
When we can open up to a potential lover or current partner about what we desire,
What we are after and even open up about the expectations that we might have.
This thing gives them an opportunity to also share and open up to you about theirs.
This then builds a bond that can start to feel secure.
Now communication can feel challenging and this is why I created this mini meditation slash talk to affirm that yes it can feel uncomfortable opening up to another and being vulnerable about your needs,
Desires and expectations especially if you are not taught how to do this or this doesn't come naturally to you.
In order to have flourishing relationships with another,
The art of communication needs to be practiced even if for a few minutes it does bring up some uncomfortable feelings for you.
The fear of having honest conversations or being vulnerable can come from a range of sources but can usually stem from an experience that we have had in the past where maybe we were vulnerable and we were either shut down,
Shamed or not heard or acknowledged.
I want to really validate that feeling of hurts and pain that can come from being unheard or unacknowledged.
For a few seconds bring your mind to that memory of one time that happens where you were not heard or you were vulnerable and someone didn't know how to react and I want you to focus on the person that may have not heard you or acknowledged you fully.
I want you to have a bird's-eye view of their life.
Are they capable of vulnerability?
Are they someone that was capable of having that conversation with you?
Were they a true match for you?
Were they emotionally open?
Sometimes when we get shut down by a potential or current lover it is to do with what they can take in emotionally and what they can't.
It's rarely to do with who you are and I want you to remember this.
Some people that we meet are not ready yet to be vulnerable or hear our wants and needs.
Not because we are too much but because they might not be emotionally equipped to really understand where we are coming from or they don't believe as deeply in communication as we do.
Communication is vital within a relationship.
We want to feel that we can ask for what we want and be able to express our needs and desires and even be able to speak our truth when we are hurt.
That's why really asking yourself when dating or when in a relationship can this person handle me at my most vulnerable?
Do they have the capacity to open up and have a deep conversation?
Are they willing to hear me?
Or are they capable of learning?
The way you communicate with someone is the foundation of your relationship with them.
I want you to ask yourself a few questions for you to internally ponder.
Do I understand that communication can bring two people closer together?
Do I have beliefs around communication within intimacy that might be linked to fear for me?
When I am dating do I assess if the person has the emotional maturity to have the conversations I want to be having?
Do I assess that I feel comfortable enough around them to speak my needs?
These questions are for you to gain a deeper insight into what communication means to you.
Now feel free to journal if this has brought up anything for you internally.
I hope this talk slash meditation welcomes a new perspective for you.
Before we part I just want you to know that you deserve connection through communication and someone to be able to listen and witness you in your vulnerable state without shutting down.
I wish you a beautiful evening or morning wherever you are in the world.
Thank you for stopping by.
Until next time stay well and stay safe.
