Healing From A Breakup

Breaking up a relationship is inherently painful, whether you are initiating it or are on the receiving end. In this meditation, you will find comfort and healing, which enables you to release and move forward.

Transcript

Today I want to talk a little bit about heartbreak and relationships ending.

Breaking up can be very difficult,

A very challenging experience,

Especially when it was a relationship that was very important and went over many years,

Regardless of whether it was harmonious or not.

Even those relationships that we experience as challenging,

We do get attached and when that attachment is disrupted,

It causes a lot of stress on the system.

That stress is first and foremost emotionally,

But it can also affect our physical health.

Studies have shown that heartbreak and the end of relationships can affect the cardiovascular system,

The digestive system,

And of course it can lead to sleeplessness and anxiety and depression.

Many people whose relationship has ended feel a strong need to withdraw and that's okay.

The withdrawal is a direct expression of needing space to grieve and needing space to process your own emotions and it's okay to want that space.

We don't have the energy to deal with other things around us,

So that's why physical withdrawal is often exactly what is needed.

And of course there are often loving family members and friends who want to get us out of this cave or out of this place of retreat and that is a very loving gesture,

But it may be premature sometimes.

It simply takes time to be ready to enter the world,

To be social,

To connect with people again.

So it's okay if you feel like you need to withdraw after a relationship is ending regardless of whether you were the one who initiated the breakup or whether you were at the receiving end of it.

The most important piece is that we take the time to grieve,

That we allow ourselves the space to feel the sadness that comes with every end of any relationship because we are prone to numbing our pain or distracting ourselves from pain and that really only leads to stuffing our feelings down and when we suppress our feelings we don't process them and that is what actually does lead to depression.

So it's really important to allow yourself to grieve,

To cry,

To express your sorrow any way that suits you.

The more you can allow yourself to grieve the faster it will move through and the earlier you will feel normal again.

So with this said I invite you to get into a relaxed position for our meditation.

Again,

Close your eyes and begin to breathe deeply.

Allow any thoughts to simply come and go.

Allow your body to feel whichever way it feels right now without judgment.

And check in with your heart space.

And imagine a soothing light enveloping your heart.

Embracing it.

Holding it tenderly.

And breathing deeply.

With warmth and love.

Choose one thing you miss most about that relationship which ended with grief.

And allow grief to well up.

Whatever sadness wants to come to the surface,

Welcome it.

And release it.

Release your sadness with tears,

With words.

By imagining the energy of sadness moving through your body.

And being exhaled with every breath you take.

And when some of the sadness has moved through,

Imagine sending loving kindness to yourself.

And imagine sending loving kindness to the person in your previous relationship.

And send gratitude for the time you had together and for what you learned from it.

And see both of you surrounded by loving energy.

Honoring the bond you've had.

That even though your relationship has changed,

You still shared your life for a while.

And these memories will forever be a part of you.

And begin to imagine a time when all the grief is gone.

And releasing it will have opened new space for new life,

New love and new inspiration.

And know that it will come.

And now begin to focus on your breath.

And express gratitude and love for your heart.

Your beautiful,

Loving heart.

And when you're ready,

Open your eyes.

Reviews

Well done! I needed this. Thank you so much.

I'm feeling insufferable pain from losing my partner whom I loved and continue to love and yearn for after a breakup I was also intrumental in causing. I pushed her away by not being able to communicate my needs that were not being met by her due to her own difficult background and reserved communication. We both had a part to play and suffered for it for years, but I feel I may have lost my one chance for a working relationship. She moved on immediately after breaking up with me as she decided enough was enough. I can't blame her, but I'm feeling utterly destroyed. This meditation certainly brought me even closer to feeling my heart-wrenching, catastrophic loss. There seems to be nothing else I can do now but to suffer through this — perhaps feeling this devastating loss to the core via guided assistance will shorten the duration of this experience. I can't seem to accept this situation and am feeling hopeless, in constant fight or flight mode. I feel desolate and even betrayed — despite also absolutely being to blame myself for this crisis of largely my own making. I should've talked to my loved ones about my situation, but I kept it to myself and wasn't able to ask the questions and have the hard conversations that should've been had, and now it's too late.

I just wanted to share this experience — maybe someone going through this will see this and understand that going forward you MUST communicate your needs (both you and your partner) clearly, honestly and openly. Talk to your loved ones when you need insight. If you keep your distress to yourself, you will lose the relationship and your potential life partner. Forever.

Danke liebe Gerti. Ich habe dabei daran gedacht die Art einer Beziehung zu einem Menschen loszulassen, als ich die einzige war und die neue Art von Beziehung anzunehmen, wo ich die Beziehung zu diesem Menschen mit einer weiteren Person teile. Ich bin die Erstgeborene und vermute selbst heute mit 56 immer noch darunter zu leiden, dass ich mit 14 Monaten eine Schwetser bekam. Ich denke dieser Schnerz beeinflusst immer noch meine heutige Beziehung zu meinem Mann. Und zu meiner Schwester, die ein sehr dominantes und Raum einnehmendes Wesen hat, während ich sehr angepasst und harmoniebedürftig bin. Ich möchte diese alte Verletzung loslassen.

Thanks you so much for this beautiful meditation. Definitely helping me to be kinder to myself after a breakup.

Thank you for this understanding and comforting space for healing.

So moving...

So gentle and helpful as I ride the waves of grief, honoring the Wholeness of myself and the person who is no longer my partner. Thank you.

Excellent. Kind. Many tears but a loving, simple way of accessing and moving through the grief we need to feel. Thank you ❤️

This is one of the most tender meditations of its kind, that I have had the honour of receiving. Thank you for your gentleness, holding my heart in this way so I can begin to heal. 🙏🏻❤️

Amazing. So kind and helpful. Thank you.

I used this meditation to grieve the loss of my forehead structure and hair. Thank you ❤️