Finding Balance - Day 14

Busy lives and competing demands can distract us from what matters most, causing imbalance and tension in the relationships we have with ourselves, family, friends, and the world. In this month-long series, Jay guides you towards creating and reintegrating harmony in your life.

Transcript

Healing Hurt One of the great illusions of life is that others can cause our hurt feelings.

They can,

But only when we believe we are only physical beings and therefore only have physical feelings.

But the majority of the time hurt feelings are emotions and emotions are not physical.

They are disturbances in our consciousness that begin as anger,

Sadness or fear.

And no one else is ever responsible for our emotions.

Hence the saying,

It is not what you say or do that makes me feel this way.

It's what I do with what you say or do that makes me feel this way.

This simply means every hurt feeling from the past is entirely self created and all forgiveness needs to be directed towards oneself.

Or if we are not connecting well with someone because of hurt feelings from the past encounter,

It means we have not yet realized it wasn't them,

It was me.

Not easy to see in a world set up to teach and sustain the opposite.

Now see yourself as a being of pure awareness.

A being of light.

And visualize that you are receiving the healing light of love from the supreme being.

And let that light come down upon you like a shower,

Completely drenching you,

The soul with this healing light.

And let that light enter every crevice,

Nook and cranny within the soul.

Let it flush out any dark space where you've hidden away some hurt,

Resentment,

Anger,

Sadness.

Until all there is left is light.

Notice how you feel right now.

Thank you.

Reviews

Thank you for reminding me of something I always forget.

Lovely 🌟thank you🌟

Freedom 💖

Thank you 🙏 for sharing this meditation with us. Just what I needed to hear and receive. ✨💛💫

Thank you so much for this important truth 🙏 this meditation is definitely in my favorites!

I’ve been listening to the Finding Balance series for a few years. Today’s message resonated with me like never before. I’m so thankful for these golden nuggets that show up exactly when we need to hear them. Your meditations are so very important for health and well being! Namaste. 💜

Thank you for these truths. 🙏

One of my favourites of this series so far - beautiful! Thanks Jay 😊

It’s very difficult to deal with emotions rationally when one is buried in turmoil because it is often lonely at the same time. We may not be physically these emotions but yet these disruptions that can prevail are disturbing and complicated even if what you say resonates.

I agree that my emotions are my responsibility - in adulthood. The hurt deliberately inflicted in childhood made healing the wounded child not so easy, but knowing that the people involved had their own hurt has helped… Thank you for sharing! 😊

I can’t understand this teaching let alone achieve it! But I really want to? Do you have any more teachings about this subject or can you recommend any books/teachings so I can grasp it please?
Jay I am going through all your meds!! I can’t grasp not being offended/hurt by others? How do I take full responsibility for my emotions?

Practiced self compassion to deal with the hurts
Recognized I have trouble receiving criticism because I take it as someone abandoning or disowning me as that's how I was raised..
And it's not, it can be quite constructive and we'll meaning by some, which is who I need to be able to hear it from without taking personal. Then from the others, to still not take it personal but also not take it on.
Is any part of their statement true? Do I want to change it? Or are they just trying to make a hateful dig at me?
Then dismiss it as them projecting in to me their issue. Don't take it on. Compassion for my weaknesses and their weaknesses.

Thank you Jay🙏🏽

Yes, a very important and difficult one for me. Thank you

This was an important exercise for me. Thank you - I appreciate you for sharing it. Santé 🙏

Again, timely. Thank you ❤️

This message is a total game changer. When I make it part of myself, I will not be 'afraid of getting hurt,' though, it takes time and practice. Thank you.

Thank you 🙏 I learned something from this one, I’m taking it with me.blessings Jay see you tomorrow.🙏🙏

This - combined with yesterday’s on judgment - was very profound and moving. Your series is excellent. Thank you for such a gift 🙏

Beautiful! I really enjoyed this meditation.