Befriending Loneliness: Missing Someone

Are you missing someone right now? Do you feel restless and unsure of what to do with these feelings? Experience this practice that will take you back into your breath, into gratitude, and into a space where you can feel calm, stable, and grateful moving forward.

Transcript

This meditation is for when you're missing someone and there's a restlessness within that you're not sure what to do with.

As with any mindfulness practice,

We'll start with the breath.

Take a deep breath in through your nose,

Keeping your shoulders relaxed.

And exhale through the mouth,

Relax your jaw.

Do so one more time.

This time as you breathe in,

Scrunch your shoulders up towards your ears.

And as you exhale,

Let them drop down,

Releasing all the tension that can release in this moment.

Taking a next nice long exhale,

Allowing your breath to release tension all the way down through your toes.

Now find a comfortable upright position,

Sitting in a way where your spine feels upright,

Straight but relaxed.

If you need to prop yourself up against pillows,

Sit against a wall,

Or even lie down face up on a yoga mat or the bed.

Find yourself in a way where you feel awake and where you can tune in to your breath and to yourself for this moment.

Give your body permission to have this experience.

When we feel in our body,

In our mind,

Or in our emotions,

Aspects that may immediately make us feel uncomfortable,

Like restlessness or tension,

Maybe pain or angst,

We have a tendency to judge.

We have a tendency to want this experience to go away as quickly as possible so that we can come back to feeling happy or good or productive or clear.

Take a deep breath in through the nose and exhale through the mouth.

Really let out a sigh,

Feel your throat open,

Feel your jaw relax.

You can also choose to breathe out through the nose.

With the exhale,

Specifically focus on releasing tension in the jaw,

Imagining every tooth can relax as well.

Breathe in and out,

And then smile from the heart.

It may be an easy sensation to smile from the heart,

Noticing possibly that your face smiles with it,

Or if you're feeling particularly intellectual,

Consider it just something you can imagine.

Imagine smiling from the heart.

Imagine what that would feel like if you were to smile from your heart right now.

Your heart,

Both in the physical sense and in the figurative abstract sense,

Is one of the main organs that keeps your body alive and your emotions alive.

In this moment,

Just have a sense of deep gratitude for your heart functioning,

Keeping your body healthy in this moment,

For your heart functioning,

Keeping you in relationship with others in a way where you can tune into love for yourself and for them.

Allow that to be part of the next few breaths as you breathe in through the nose,

And exhale through the mouth or the nose.

Breathe in and out.

As you focus on your breath,

Have a sense that you can breathe deeply without any strain or tension,

That the more you focus on mindful breathing,

The easier it becomes over time to breathe deeper and deeper.

When you can breathe deeply without strain,

It increases the oxygen capacity in your brain and in your lungs.

When you can take in more oxygen into your lungs,

You're able to take in more oxygen to the bloodstream.

And oxygen relaxes muscles.

Oxygen can calm down your nervous system.

Sometimes,

When we feel restless or angst in missing someone,

It can affect our nervous system.

We may feel imbalanced,

Distracted,

Perhaps there's lack of focus.

So give yourself permission to learn how to be a part and have new experiences that can strengthen your nervous system and make you more resilient and allow you to enjoy life and enjoy the fact that this person or persons have made an impact on you.

Breathe in and out.

And for the next few moments,

Notice how refreshing it is to breathe.

Every time you breathe in,

You're allowing in life and energy into your body.

Every time you exhale,

You're experiencing letting go of your breath.

Breathing over time with mindfulness can transform you as a person,

As it is doing in this very moment.

Take a deep breath in and a nice,

Refreshing exhale out.

Allow your emotions,

Allow your mind,

And allow your body to welcome the experience of any discomfort,

To see the restlessness or the angst as a friend,

As someone you can be curious about and get to know.

Every emotion we have,

Every thought and every physical sensation gives us information.

We can learn and start to choose which sensations,

Which emotions,

And which thoughts we want to nurture over time.

We begin to tune in to which ones nurture our stability and our integrity,

And which ones,

When nurtured,

Create instability in our lives.

When you're missing someone,

There sometimes can be a tendency to move off balance,

Perhaps to feel a little bit unstable in your footing emotionally or physically.

And just notice in those moments that you can smile from the heart.

You can take a moment to feel deep gratitude for that person and send them deep gratitude.

You can then send deep gratitude for yourself,

For the impact that you've each had on each other's lives.

And then come back to your breath.

Breathe in through the nose.

Feel relax your jaw.

Breathe in calmly.

And exhale as you smile from the heart.

You are worthy of love.

You are worthy of calm and stability.

You are worthy of stepping into your own integrity,

Of moving towards your ideal,

Your deeper connection with yourself.

You are worthy of peace.

This moment is perfect because it's the moment that's happening.

In this moment,

There is nowhere to go.

In this moment,

There is nothing to do.

And in this moment,

There is absolutely no one you need to be.

Feel the breath moving in and out of your body.

Feel how the breath relaxes your shoulders,

Your belly,

Your back.

Feel the breath and smile from the heart.

Breathe in and out.

Know that in this moment and in the moments moving forward,

You have the capacity to be stable.

You have the capacity to move forward with courage and strength.

You have access to clarity through mindfulness and practice.

Take a moment to bow in deep gratitude to your heart,

To yourself,

And to the person.

This practice is one of non-attachment,

Of learning how to love,

How to feel,

Where you can enjoy the moment without any attachment to how it needs to look now or moving forward.

Now is the moment you're given.

Thank you so much for practicing with me today.

Have a wonderful rest of your day,

Evening or night.

Thank you.

Reviews

Thanks for the great meditation!

Thank you.. very comforting

The unbridled emotion and self gratitude that just brought to my heart was so unexpected, Thank you. 🙏

Loved it

I don’t know what else to say other than thank you. This was truly life changing for me.

🌿✨💜✨🌿 Thank you. Xxx

This bought me a lot of peace. Really liked that you touched on attachment. Thank you 🙏

Thank you for helping me find some peace.

Thank you so much, I’ve listened to this several times and is helping me heal from someone I miss so much. I have a deep gratitude for the time we spent together. I will never forget those moments.
My twin.🔥🔥.
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Great session. The guide doesn't color your thoughts with heavy feelings, but acknowledges what you're going through, and puts you in a state where you can be in the present. Thank you for this.

Thank you. So calming.

Very relaxing, I enjoyed it ❤️🙏❤️ Thank you.

Beautiful and so needed to hear this tonight 💕🌕💫