Meet Your Manager Protectors

Manager protectors are parts of you that manage your life to prevent your deepest wounds from being triggered. In this video, learn about common protective roles: controlling relationships, pursuing perfection, achieving at high levels, or caretaking. Understand why your system created them and how they function. The crucial message: these protective strategies aren't who your parts are; they're roles forced on them by what you experienced. Perfect for anyone curious about Internal Family Systems therapy.

Transcript

Other parts are forced out of their naturally valuable states. To become protectors. In one class of those parts. We call manager protectors. Try to manage your life. Such that your exiles don't ever get triggered. So they're very interested in preempting anything that might trigger them. Controlling your relationships so no one gets close enough to hurt you like that again. Or controlling your appearance. So you look perfect and nobody rejects you or controlling. And pushing you to achieve at high level so that you get accolades to counter the worthlessness. Taking care of everybody and not letting you take care of yourself so everyone depends on you. So on and so on. So there are lots of different common manager protector roles. I just named a handful of them. As I'm talking about this map I want to emphasize that these are not. The essence of these parts. And too often when people write about IFS, They write about, You know, There are these kinds of parts and these kinds of parts. No, These are the roles they were forced into by what happened to you.

Reviews

Amazing

Fascinating…and coherent—in an area (“IFS”) that often mystifies me. Actually, I’m not familiar with IFS enough to try to even describe it to someone. Where should I start, to get a layperson-centric understanding?

Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge with the world! Your work has helped change my life! 🙏💚

A helpful definition and explanation. Thank you

Can we get the longer version of this please? 🤍