Father's Day Feels

Whether it's Father's Day or any deserving day, step into a moment of calm and connection with this special meditation. Amid life’s chaos, take a breath to honor your fatherhood journey. This meditation invites you to reconnect with your ancestral lineage, learning from the joys and challenges that shape us. Together, we’ll explore the insights and lessons from our fathers and grandfathers, embracing the vital role you play in evolving your lineage.

Transcript

Hello fathers,

My name is Damien Chapparro.

I'm also a father and this meditation is for us.

Take a moment to get comfortable and once you're there allow your eyes to close down and begin to just connect with these sensations that you may feel from breathing,

From being alive.

You may notice that there may be some energies there,

Some thoughts or emotions,

Just the usual doings from our days as we sit down.

Let's take a moment to acknowledge anything that you're feeling in this moment.

And as you welcome yourself into this moment,

Allowing any sort of weight that is on your shoulders or any sort of doingness or activity that is present just to be released for now and gifting yourself this time.

And begin just by noticing the part of you that receives sensation,

The part of you that receives sound.

And as you connect with that receiving consciousness that we are,

Just allow these parts of us that can be a little bit active to continue to melt away,

To soften,

To take rest.

So that you feel a sort of increase in spaciousness,

In openness,

And a sort of curiousness.

And from this essence of witnessing consciousness,

I want you to invite a vision of your father as a little boy.

And into that vision,

Invite your grandfather.

You may not know much about these two men,

But you're also welcome to invite anything that you do know into a moment with your boy-like father and your grandfather.

Maybe in a place that they would have been together.

And imagining what they might have done together as father and son.

And I want you to begin to connect with a particular moment where they may have bonded together.

If you know a story,

Of course,

You can visualize a moment you know of,

But most likely you're just imagining a moment.

A moment of connection,

A moment of adventure,

A moment of joy.

And in this moment,

I want you just to connect with what was required of your grandfather in order to allow this moment to happen.

What qualities?

What sort of intentions?

What did your grandfather do to allow this moment to arise?

And then connecting with your father as a young boy,

Just noticing what he might have been most grateful for about this moment.

Being there with his father,

Spending this precious time together.

What might he have felt?

What might he have learned?

And now shifting the scene a little bit,

Now invite these two to connect with a moment where there was a rupture,

A difficult moment,

An argument,

A struggle.

Again,

You might invite anything that you know about your father's childhood or about your grandfather,

Or just allow your creativity to show you something.

In this moment of struggle,

What might your grandfather have been intending to do,

To resolve,

To fix?

And in this very same moment,

What do you believe was most needed by your father in that very same moment as a young boy?

What might he have been craving?

What would have served him best?

And just taking a moment to acknowledge and appreciate whatever has been shown to you by these two.

Offer them a little bit of your gratitude for any insights that might have come.

Notice if they respond.

And next shifting,

Again inviting now you as a little boy,

And connecting now with your father as an adult.

See yourself as a little one and your father there,

Maybe in a place where you grew up.

And now visualize a moment where this young you and your father bonded over something.

And as you reconnect with that moment,

What it was like for you?

What do you suspect your father received from that moment?

What was his perspective?

And now connecting with this little one and what you were most grateful for in that moment.

And now just in case it didn't happen at the time,

Take a moment to just share that gratitude with your father.

Allow him to feel your gratitude.

And now shifting to a moment between the two of you where there was a rupture,

An argument,

A hardship.

And seeing through your eyes now,

Looking at that moment then,

How do you suspect your father might have been trying to solve things or resolve things?

What was his intention?

And then just connecting with your little one there,

Feeling what he felt,

Knowing what you know of his experience.

What do you suspect you needed at that time?

What would have served you best?

And if there's anything you would like to say on behalf of your little one to your father,

And if there's any support or insight,

Maybe an energy,

A protection,

A voice that might have been needed by your little one at the time,

Maybe you can offer that to it now.

Allow it to feel your support now.

And if there's anything that that little one would like to say to your father,

Anything that is now particularly understood,

Or anything that was unsaid,

Allow that to be said now.

And now shifting again,

I'd like you to come into the present and connect with your fathering parts.

When you think of your role as father,

What is it that you notice of that role?

Sometimes we have parts that struggle,

Parts that enjoy,

Parts that delight,

Parts that show up,

Parts that wish they could hide.

So just noticing.

And notice the feeling or belief or maybe a memory that might have shown up most.

And just give it your focus.

Welcome it.

Feel it in your body.

And just let it know that you're interested in just listening,

Understanding,

And being open to its perspective.

What does this part of you that works so hard at being a father most want you to know?

Ask it and then see if you can just let it respond.

And as it shares with you,

If there's something that you would like to offer it,

Some support,

Some understanding,

Some insight.

And then having connected with this lineage that you represent,

With this wider view and perspective of what it means to be a father.

Acknowledging the perfect imperfection of,

By nature,

Being required to be an absolute beginner,

Starting where you start.

The recipient of your lineage of fathering being brought into the role of being a father.

And just checking in to see if there's something within you that is ready to be released.

Maybe it's a belief about yourself or another.

Maybe it's a resentment or regret.

Take a moment now,

If there's anything there that you'd,

If there's anything there that you feel that you've learned from,

That you've listened to,

That you've fully understood,

And that you're ready to let go of.

Go ahead and create an internal ceremony or release of your choosing.

You can release these energies and thoughts and beliefs to nature or through any sort of vision that comes.

And if there's something there,

Just allow that shift to be felt,

To be embodied.

And next,

I invite you to call in the qualities that you most want to embody even more of.

What would serve you best?

What would serve your family best?

Take a moment to invite in those qualities one at a time,

Feeling them fill your body.

Maybe visualizing what you will be like with your family when these qualities are exhibited.

And then invite your family and see them just as they are.

And allow them to feel what you're feeling.

Allow them to receive your highest self,

Fathering as you most would like.

And notice how they respond.

And just allowing this vision to be released and coming back into your body,

Healing the next breath,

Expand the space around your heart,

And relax the space within the mind.

Expanding the heart and relaxing the mind.

My friends,

I hope you enjoyed that little journey.

I know for me that being a father is very full.

It takes a lot of work and there are often moments that feel more challenging.

And I feel like I'm my highest self when I see each of those as an opportunity for me to stretch,

To expand,

To grow.

So grateful that I've had a chance to have children in this life.

And I'm sure you are too.

Have the most amazing day and pay particular attention to that next moment you spend with your family.

Lots of love.

Reviews

My father just passed away a little over a week ago and this meditation helped me connect with parts of him that were tender, sad and needing love. I was able to bring that love to him and then to me as a father. My fatherhood journey started twenty years ago, my daughter is turning 20 today!