Good morning,
This is Deshant.
I was reading a book about neuroscience,
Genetics and habits and I started thinking about being a child and growing up.
And I just started typing what came to me at the moment about why we stay stuck and how we could grow up.
I hope you enjoy listening to this talk as much as I enjoyed writing about it.
What is the point of growing up?
When we were babies,
We didn't care about sex,
Marriage,
Career,
Money.
All we wanted was food,
Love and protection.
We were curious about everything.
We'd eat chalk,
Plants,
Bugs,
Blocks,
Clay,
Glue and everything between that.
I mean,
That's at least me as a kid,
If not you.
So why do most of us love kids or enjoy being around them?
I probably think that's because we see the potential,
The freedom,
A past of ourselves which was innocent.
Which in the process of adulting,
We give up or forget.
I mean how simple can it get?
When we were kids,
We didn't have arch enemies or girlfriend,
Boyfriend problems.
No Instagram likes or Facebook shares to worry about.
No tweets or TikToks and we were all still happy.
So why did we stop?
And shouldn't that be the goal or the path in the first place?
Why can't our path be the one of love as adults?
And I know what you're going to say.
You'll say it all sounds good in theory this,
But I got bills and 1000 problems.
Okay.
So why can't we earn loads of money doing something we have fun doing?
We're just not committed and disciplined enough to follow through.
We don't ask for help because it makes us look weak.
In this hustle culture we live now,
We want the suffering.
We romanticize the suffering and the hustle.
But why do we romanticize suffering if that's the last thing we want?
We're just lost in the loop of chasing the next best thing.
There's a comfort in chasing because it keeps us away from the ground reality.
That being said,
I'm not saying money is the enemy.
Growing up in a spiritual household around spiritual people,
I was always under the impression that money is the root of all evil.
Now,
Evil is the root of all evil.
It took me months of self inquiry and reflection to overcome my money mindset and imposter syndrome issues.
I couldn't even ask for money for the value I provided until one day I just did and that became my new norm.
Money is just a tool.
The value of money is in the social universal agreement of people,
Just like the value of a painting my niece makes versus the value of Mona Lisa.
I wouldn't care much about the Mona Lisa because I value my niece's wonky drawing of her heart more than some guy who drew a lady.
It's perception.
I couldn't sell my niece's drawing for 900 million dollars,
Which is the estimated value of the Mona Lisa.
But I could get some if I marketed the hell out of it and asked some billionaire to sell it.
Again,
It's perception.
As we grow up every day,
Our past experiences and future expectations help develop our theme thinking and habit patterns.
The ones that we start learning as children,
Which sort of makes us who we are right now today.
So what is the point of growing up?
More money,
More love,
Chasing bliss,
Seeking enlightenment,
Ending suffering?
Honestly,
I don't know.
What I do understand is that when you stop seeing from your point of view,
Your perception,
You see something new and then you never unsee it.
That's what an insight is.
Seeing something you didn't see before.
Just like the first time I asked a client to pay for coaching,
He had to actually force me to give him a number.
And once that first time got out of the way,
Now I feel so comfortable charging a value that I thought I could never earn doing what I do in the first place.
And that's life,
Isn't it?
Please don't confuse the phrase that's life as that's the meaning of life.
I have no idea what the meaning of life is.
And if someone is selling you the meaning,
Then I'd run away as fast as I can.
Because they may not be wrong about the answer,
But it may be how they see life from their point of view.
And I'm all about helping you find the truth,
Your truth.
Just like a scientific case study experiment where there's only one subject,
You are the subject in your life's mind.
Anyway,
That's life,
Isn't it?
Always changing.
The sunlight you saw yesterday is in the same sunlight you see today.
Did you know it takes 8.
3 minutes for the sunlight to reach Earth?
Even the sunlight you see right now is of the past.
Does the sun really rise and set?
Or does the Earth rotate which makes us think that the sun is setting and rising?
Even the sun that's stationary is aging every day.
The sun is almost 4.
6 billion years old and it will die 5 billion years from now.
And just like the sun,
You're not that innocent little kid full of potential anymore.
You have grown old.
But the question to ask yourself is,
Am I trying to live from that place of potential or have I just accepted life to be boring,
Hard and full of suffering?
Am I still the sun or have I accepted the clouds and rains as my reality?
Are there any other realities available for you?
Are you blindsided by what only you see?
And if that's so,
What must you do to change that bias?
Ask yourself,
What is the point of growing up every day if all I'm going to do is remain the same and confirm my bias?
Isn't that staying stuck than growing up?
Ask yourself,
What's the underlying reality,
The root cause of my suffering,
My thinking,
My habits that I don't want to see?
Am I seeking help to grow up better and challenge my truths?
Or am I chasing novel experiences to keep myself from ever realizing the true nature and reality of my being?
The clouds may block the sun's light,
But the sun never stops shining.
Give these questions a few minutes.
Take a pen and a paper and write down what comes to your mind.
And if you see something different,
Please let me know in the comments or email me at dishant.
Com.
As always,
Thank you for listening to me and I hope you will keep providing me with feedback and review the talk.
Have a great day.
