Forgiveness.
This is a guided lesson on forgiveness,
A lesson to be absorbed and felt.
Forgiveness is found in this guided lesson through experiencing a meditative state and the tools to create expanding habits.
Let's begin.
Sit quietly and close your eyes gently.
Raise your eyebrows and lower them down again to relax your scalp.
Raise and then lower your shoulders and take a few lovely relaxing breaths.
One and two and three.
And let's begin your guided lesson on forgiveness.
Forgiveness isn't about saying what happened does not matter.
Of course what happened matters,
Whether it is something said and done by you or by another.
There is so much blame in lack of forgiveness.
You blame yourself for the experiences you've had and how you've handled them.
And you blame others for how they have treated you and what they have done.
You beat yourself up and build up bitterness and resentment against both yourself and others.
And forgiveness can set you free whether you need to forgive yourself or someone else.
True forgiveness is about accepting what happened,
Allowing that it did happen and understanding that these events play a part in your soul growth.
This is the big picture view,
The soul view and seeing things this way diffuses their impact on you and helps release the hurt.
Accepting,
Allowing,
Understanding the big picture and then releasing the hurt.
Forgiving yourself sometimes means leaving places that feel bad,
Ending relationships that no longer work,
Avoiding situations that repeatedly cause pain and no longer punishing yourself or others for what has been said and done.
But not forgiving focuses on the pain of these past lessons,
Rehashing the difficult reality of past events,
Focusing on what was taken from you,
What you did wrong,
Judging yourself and the situation and staying stuck.
Symptoms of not forgiving are pain in your body,
Living with anxiety and experiencing an overload of stress.
But it's time with gentleness and kindness and love to let the past go.
If the experience has been accomplished,
The lesson learned,
Then it is time to move forward on your soul journey.
Yesterday's lessons,
Yesterday's people,
Yesterday's beliefs keep you in a state of negative,
Collapsed energy,
Keep you tired,
Stressed and fearful.
Bring yourself to today,
Focus on your breath and come back to this moment.
Breathe in and breathe out.
And breathe in and breathe out.
Be thankful for what you have learned and with love and kindness,
Let things go.
Let past events go.
If needed,
Let people go.
Let old beliefs go.
Say goodbye,
A final goodbye and move gently into today.
There are happy chemicals in your body and they are called endorphins.
Endorphins alleviate anxiety,
Acts as a relaxing sedative and they also diminish pain.
Endorphins trigger positive feelings in your mind and body.
And when you forgive yourself and others,
You release happy endorphins.
You are programming forgiveness in this meditative state.
Forgiveness is also found through habit,
Through using specific tools.
The first tool for forgiveness is to practice mindful living,
To actively pursue living in the now,
To consciously choose to be present in the moment.
All of the events and behaviors that you are struggling to forgive are in the past.
Bring yourself to the moment where they do not exist.
The second tool for forgiveness is to use energy tools to move from negative collapsed energy into positive expanding energy.
Tools such as laughter,
Exercise,
Eating dark chocolate,
Enjoying spicy foods and using lavender essential oil.
Lavender relaxes,
Encourages compassion and promotes inner clarity.
Let's take a moment to bring your attention back to your breath.
Take a few deep breaths.
One and two and three.
And rub your hands together and rub the back of your neck to bring you back to reality.
It's always a good idea to journal your insights after a guided lesson and take a few moments to do this now.
I wish you so much joy,
Dr.
Deborah.
