Releasing The Need To Please

When we are constantly trying to please the world around us, we can find ourselves losing touch with our values and what gives us energy and meaning. In this practice, you will find both healing and relief around the habitual patterning of people pleasing. Returning back home to the seat of your power and authority, while bringing self-love and healing to the parts of you that get disconnected, stuck and overwhelmed but the desire to please others.

Transcript

Hello and welcome. Today we're going to focus this meditation on releasing the need to please. I'd like to give a little disclaimer that this is a much deeper and broader thing that many of us face that could require additional support. But this practice will give you a really great intro and healing around the part of you that feels like it needs to be accepted and loved by the world around you in order to be okay. It'll also be a great practice to bring you back home into that place and that seat of power within you. I'd also like to make the disclaimer that this part of us that feels this way isn't broken or wrong. I think we learn these behaviors when we're young and I also think a lot of us really care and so I don't want to shame or blame or use any of that in this meditation and this meditation is really going to help to relieve any of that that may be happening for you. So find a comfortable seat and when you feel ready if you are comfortable let your eyes come closed. Begin just by relaxing your physical body feeling the muscles around your jaw the muscles of your upper back softening. Feel the skin around your eyes releasing space in between your eyebrows smoothing out softening. In this practice you don't have to sit super still you want to relax your body but you know rocking forward and back or even side to side whatever feels intuitive for you is really welcomed because it brings regulation back to our system. So we'll begin just by taking some nice smooth inhalations and exhalations in and out of the nose. Giving yourself an opportunity to tune in to how you're feeling how you're doing right now in this moment and bringing some regulation into your mind and your heart and your body with your breath. It doesn't mean that you have to get calm or pretend to experience something that you're not especially if you're in a moment of high anxiety or activation. This is an invitation to let your breath meet and also love whatever is arising. See if you can find an evenness between the inhalation and the exhalation even if it's just a little bit deeper for now than your natural breath. One of the things within us that gets activated when we're people pleasing when we're saying yes when we really mean no is our connection to our self-worth to our worthiness. When we find ourselves saying yes a lot or even apologizing a lot merging with the ideas and opinions of those around us we really betray the part of us that knows his or her or they their worth and this happens to many of us if not all it's a natural human thing but when we hold on to that sense of unworthiness it can be really dangerous for our lives and for our hearts. So start to breathe now right down into the center of your chest and just welcome the part of you that gets ignored or stepped over when you are in a place where it's difficult or even impossible given where you come from or your wounding or your history maybe it is impossible in certain situations to stand up for this part of you at least up until now and that you're working with it so just breathe and welcome the part of you that gets betrayed the part of you that you cut off from in those moments. Just breathing with them invoking them with your loving breath and I want you to even imagine a time where it was challenging or impossible to say no when you really needed to or when you really wanted to and it's just the words weren't there the freeze response came in and just super gentle and I just want you to breathe with this part of you you know trying to change them you're just breathing with them letting them know that you're there. You can silently say I see you I feel you and welcome them into your experience with your breath and then keeping them close to your heart I want you to breathe a little bit more deeply now into your belly and we're gonna switch the breath from being in and out of the nose to in and out of the mouth so it might sound something or be at a rate around something like and just stay with that breath moving your body forward and back as you breathe and really breathing down into your belly down into your guts as you do this you might need to swallow if your throat gets dry or just come into this breath work and we're just gonna stay here for a minute and just really clear out and clean out and really love up any old experiences of just the the fear that arose or the paralysis that arose in a moment or you were unable to say no and just use your breath to just release any residual beliefs that that experience has you um you know hooked into any beliefs around your worth how worthy you are of love how good you are what you deserve just a little bit more nice deep breath and with your exhalation just let your body soften and release really feel your belly as you're breathing here and just bring a little bit of sound into a few of the exhalations feel the vibration in your voice good and then come back just to that inhale and exhale in and out of your mouth just for a few more breaths and then just swallow let your breath return to a natural resting breath and you're just gonna say the word no a few times just to feel the resin resonance in your body so you're gonna say it out loud if you can't say it out loud then just do it in silence but really try to feel it and do it you know a handful of times no no no no no and just notice how that feels and just let this sacred no be like the ultimate expression of yes to your soul and to your wholeness and to a deep connection to your worth you deserve to feel all the love that you carry in your own being so as you let your breath return to a natural breath just keep the front of your body softening and just feel the steady energy at the back of your body your spine and just start to tune into the love that's in the room where you are and let that love make contact with your being with your skin with your mind with your heart with your guts with everything that lives inside of you all of its sacred all of it holy all of it bringing you back to this place of whole of home you can gently let your body start to move and when you feel ready let your eyes come open thank you so much for joining me today and this is a really deep practice so be super gentle with yourself reach out for support if anything really deep came up and drink a lot of water and just be so loving and really kind to everything that you are thank you and take really good care

Reviews

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A great meditation to concentrate your breathing and listen to your inner voice

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Thank you for all you Share ❤️ Now I feel calmer.Namaste!

Thank you for sharing your soul space.This was hard for me to do being a rape and abuse survivor but it opened a door gently.