Whether you are in a relationship and want to feel more connected to your partner,
Whether you are single or going through a breakup,
Divorce,
Or a loss of some type of relationship in your life.
Today this message is for you.
It is important to know that you are not alone.
You are connected to source energy,
To God,
To your higher self.
It is important to recognize that you are a sovereign being,
That no one completes you.
There is a place where another person ends and you begin and where you begin and another person ends.
I want to read to you a post and maybe it will help if you are going through loss right now in discovering yourself and finding yourself again.
I have four tips for today.
The first one is to trust yourself.
Those of us with the biggest of hearts,
Most forgiving souls,
Yearning to connect,
Dreaming of true love,
We push the reality and facts aside to see the good in others.
What we are really doing is abandoning ourselves and our truth.
We are telling ourselves subconsciously that we can't trust our own judgment.
We get thicker in the confusion of their lives versus our gut feeling.
Before you know it,
We are drowning in an ocean of self doubt,
Confusion and lost hope.
Because somewhere maybe we want love and to feel connected with someone.
And we have this limiting belief that maybe it won't ever really happen.
So we settle,
And we create a pretty red scarf that we end up hating ourselves from with all the red flags.
Trust your gut and trust the facts.
Tip number two,
Your needs matter.
I'm a master at becoming a color changing chameleon with intuition and a high emotional awareness.
You learn what others want,
What would make them happy.
We are masters of putting other people's needs ahead of our own,
Not because we are playing games or trying to manipulate someone into loving us.
We crave connection and love and we over give because deep down,
We want someone to do this for us.
We want someone to care enough to love us the way we love them.
I would ask myself,
Am I asking too much?
I've had a few people tell me my expectations are too high.
These are also people that are not getting their needs met in their relationships,
Nor are they really happy.
Feel into what you want and need in a relationship.
Your needs are like your blood type,
You can't change it,
It is what it is.
There are people who would have the same need,
Or would love to meet your needs.
It is okay to have your needs.
Discover yourself and ask yourself what your needs are.
When we are clear and communicative about our needs,
We can call in the best partner.
Tip number three,
No one completes you.
There is a point where they end and you begin,
Where you begin and they end.
We can find the love of our life,
Someone we are soul connected with,
Someone we vibe with.
We can marry this person and spend the rest of our lives with them.
But everything ends either in separation,
Divorce,
Or death.
So who are we at the end of it all?
At the end of everything,
There's still you.
Because we can't escape ourselves and no one but source energy and God flows within us.
At the end of it all,
You have you.
So this is about loving others and also pouring love into yourself.
If we over give and give someone our all we feel empty and resentful.
Keep yourself soul full.
Don't forget what your focus is,
What your goals are,
What your dreams are,
What brings a smile to your face,
What brings you joy,
And what keeps you aligned and in joy.
Tip number four,
You are what you have been looking for.
Someone said this to me last summer and I felt it,
But spent months after in a relationship that was full of highs and lows and things that didn't make sense.
I wanted to feel that deep connection.
I wanted to experience living with someone who was there at the end of the day for me.
I wanted a soft place to lean into.
I wanted security.
I wanted to feel seen and heard.
I didn't get that from him.
I gave the relationship many chances yet still he could not be that person for me.
I learned that I was a person for me.
At the end of the day,
I came home to me.
I can find my flow.
I can listen to my needs and honor them.
I can feel seen and heard within myself by honoring,
Validating,
And acknowledging me.
And no one can take that away from me or from you.
Take time to be with you away from people,
Noise and distractions and feel.
Drop from your thinking mind to your feeling your body.
Study your thoughts,
Your feelings and the way your body feels.
Take yourself on date nights and buy yourself flowers.
Happiness and joy are an inside job.
When we take radical responsibility of our own healing,
We empower ourselves.
I just wanted to share these four tips with you.
And the last one,
A bonus is to I want to invite you to play to embody the mystery of this life.
Because whatever your heart desires is also somewhere in the universe.
There is someone or something desiring you.
Call that in.
Let go of control and trust.
Trust in yourself.
Trust in the universe.
Play.
Be curious.
Be like your younger self.
Let your inner child come out.
Be curious and play and explore.
Try new things.
Try new adventures.
Be alone with yourself.
Take yourself on date nights.
But find play and curiosity today and moving forward and focus on one day at a time.
Because you are worthy.
And whatever is on your heart is meant for you.
And you are worthy of that and you are deserving of that.
I hope these tips help.
I wish you all the best.
And I am here with you.
I believe in you.
Keep shining.
