Conscious Relationship Affirmations

Join psychotherapists (and spouses) Andrea Wachter and Steve Legallet as they guide you through some conscious relationship affirmations that can lead to more compassionate and productive conversations.
This practice comes from their own desire to have a conscious and harmonious relationship, and they give much credit to the work of Marshall Rosenberg and the teachings of Non-Violent Communication.

Transcript

Hi,

I'm Andrea Wachter.

And I'm Steve Legollet.

Today,

We will be guiding you through some conscious relationship affirmations that can help you to better prepare to have more compassionate and productive conversations.

If you have had or currently have difficulty communicating with someone in your life,

Practicing today's affirmations can help you to better prepare to stay conscious and skilled in your conversations.

When emotions run high,

It can be difficult to remain self-aware and to communicate effectively and compassionately.

This is often when unconscious defense mechanisms can rear up and conversations can break down.

In today's practice,

We'll be asking you to picture someone you care about and imagine saying a series of affirmations to them.

First,

Think of the person that you'd like to direct these affirmations to.

This could be a partner,

A dear friend,

A relative,

Or anyone close to you.

Anyone who you would like to communicate more consciously with.

Make sure you're as comfortable as possible.

Allow your body to settle into the surface beneath you and take a few grounding breaths.

Feel the support of the cushion or the surface beneath you.

Notice all the places your body is being held and supported right now.

See if you can let your body sink into that support even more.

Give yourself permission to be in this moment right here,

Right now.

As we share the following affirmations,

You can repeat after us silently or out loud and imagine the person you chose in your mind's eye.

Let's begin.

I am committed to speaking to you respectfully.

I will give you my full attention when you are speaking.

I will do my best not to interrupt you.

I will do my best to listen without judgment.

I care about your feelings.

I will do my best to share my feelings and needs.

I want to know what your needs are.

Even if we disagree,

I want to understand your point of view.

I will make respectful requests rather than demands.

I will remain open to your requests.

I want to know how you feel even when it might be hard to hear.

I will have empathy for you and myself.

I will speak and listen compassionately.

I will give you space when you need it.

If my feelings are hurt,

I will not pull away or shut down.

If a topic is charged,

I may need a little break,

But I will always come back.

If I'm having big feelings,

I will take a few breaths and get clear on what I need.

When speaking about your behaviors,

I will steer clear of words like always and never.

Your needs are important to me.

I want both of us to get our needs met.

Good.

Now imagine sending this person off with well wishes or love as you return your attention to here and now.

Take a few deep breaths.

Bring your attention to what is actually factually here.

The surface beneath you.

Any sounds you hear.

Beginning to prepare to transition to the next part of your day.

We thank you for joining us today.

We wish you much success with your compassionate and conscious communications,

Both with yourself and others.

Reviews

That was one of the most powerful exercises I have done. I pulled up a photo album of myself in my partner. As the photos rotated, I found myself looking into my partner’s face and repeating the affirmations. This is an exercise. I might wanna try together with my partner, but certainly will do it again on my own

So helpful
Is this written out as well? It could be helpful to have to practice with.
Thanks for the guidance

Awesome. Thanks

Perfect statements for good communication- very helpful and I will listen again and again.

Simple powerful practice. Thank you

Wonderful reminders as my partner and I go into making a big decision together 🙏

Thanks

Good reminders and affirmations but I don't know if I will be able to implement all of them in my current hurt state.

Thank you both 🙏 This was a deep journey for me ❤️

Always helpful to listen to. Well thought out and gently delivered. Thank you Andrea and Steve. 🙏♥️

I played this one with my husband in the room not sure if he was listening but he was soaking it in

A very handy checklist of relationship mantras 🙏

Love this!

Helpful. Thank you!!

After many years of marriage, we’re still working on our communication. This will be very helpful!

Thank you I wish I could find more marriage/relationship based affirmations. This was great

🙏💗

Extremely helpful! Thank you!

Its important to really listen when someone talks to you

Spot on. Excellent.