Tapping (EFT): For Mind-body And Safe Emotional Integration

Amanda Baker explores the concept of integration from a therapeutic perspective, emphasizing the importance of embracing all aspects of oneself, including anger and other emotions. She discusses the process of integration as a means of personal growth and healing, using metaphors and practical exercises like tapping to facilitate this journey. She highlights the significance of expansion and the acceptance of one's fully as essential components of true integration with use of EFT tapping as one tool. The recording is pulled audio from a video

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What is integration really?

Integration,

The process of bringing different elements in together to create a single unified whole.

So let's think of that,

The elements,

Right?

Fire and water.

Well,

Typically we'd think fire or water,

Water burns out fire.

But what would be the integration?

Because if water kind of overtook the fire or fire overtook the water where the fire was so strong,

The water didn't do anything to it.

That's not integration.

When we talk about integration from a therapeutic lens or even in the self-help world or therapy treatment,

We hear these words,

Integrate into yourself,

Integrate what?

What is it we're integrating?

And I say these questions hypothetically as things to contemplate,

Because do we really understand integration?

Do we really need to understand integration?

Or does integration happen on the more internal level?

So maybe you attend,

I do a lot of work when it comes to utilizing yoga as a therapeutic practice.

And so I'll say,

We're doing the body-based work so that you can integrate.

So we hear these words,

But do we really understand it in the feeling sense of what integration is or means or the how?

And it's hard to put into words.

It's hard to have the language or I'm finding,

No,

I'm here speaking on this because I'm finding it difficult to inform or teach or educate even to another,

Or even for myself on the power of integration and what really it is.

We can say it,

Maybe it's happening.

How do you know?

To me,

It's something I thought I understood years ago.

Like,

Okay,

I'm integrating the light and the dark to come together.

Here are my dark traits and I'm integrating them into the light.

Like it sounds beautiful when you say it,

It sounds profound.

The dark,

Right?

If the dark,

Let's say is your anger and you're integrating it into yourself,

It's not to make it go away.

It's not to get it to disappear.

So that's where I use the fire and water analogy or metaphor or symbolism that it's not,

Let me put this water on the fire so that the fire extinguishes and is gone and is eliminated.

That's not integration.

That's dissolving per se.

Integration is the smoke.

Maybe the water comes on the fire and then what's there is the smoke.

And the smoke has value.

The smoke can be put into something.

It is an energy that comes from the fire and the water in the alchemical process of them creating something brand new.

So if you're integrating in anger,

Aggression,

Rage,

We think,

Okay,

Well,

Those things are going out of me.

I'm angry,

So I'm aggressive and I'm getting it out.

We talk about letting go,

Releasing.

And I want to offer inviting in,

Bringing in to yourself.

If you hold that anger,

Not suppress the anger or repress the anger or keep the anger in your bones or blood,

Literally,

Not literally,

But I'm saying this because now I'm emphasizing how passionate I am about it,

That the anger needs to come together with something else to unify as one.

Anger is important.

Anger is important.

We're not letting it go.

We're not releasing it.

We're not discharging it.

You are taking it in and many are afraid of that.

They don't trust how they can create a space and alchemical process inside that once the anger is held in you and is chosen by you,

Is nurtured by you,

Is embraced by you.

I keep doing this because I'm like,

Hug it.

Hug the angry you that was maybe rebellious as a teen.

The rebelliousness was maybe a product of that anger.

Not saying that you shouldn't have been rebellious.

Maybe that phase of your life was necessary or important.

Though,

If you had had the skillset at that time to really be with your own anger,

To be curious about it,

To understand it,

To listen to it,

What's its message?

It wants to be seen.

It wants to be validated.

It wants to be acknowledged.

Then it can transform.

Once it is integrated in you,

You embrace it.

How does the anger feel in your body?

Where is it in your body?

Will you shine your own light on it?

Meaning like the spotlight of you matter.

I see you.

You're important.

You have something to offer.

When I hold you and hug you and let you in with presence,

Pause,

A felt sense,

That energy transforms and it gets to be put into something else.

I don't know what that is.

It might not be anger.

That's just my example.

So I invite this practice,

Tapping as an integration strategy.

The more that you soften through the tapping into yourself,

With yourself,

You will integrate.

Those elements will come together and they will be unified as one.

Your uniqueness gets to unify within you and out of you,

With others,

To come together with others,

Connectively,

Unity.

It's beautiful.

So let's pick a card because then we're going to tap and then we'll be done.

So thank you for being here.

Let's see what we get.

What are we going to tap on?

This is the card that fell.

Expansion.

Expansion.

Expansion is the key to progress and evolution.

Unlock the doors to progress and evolution with the power of expansion,

Paving your way to boundless horizons.

Embrace the boundless possibilities of your growth.

As you integrate,

You need the space to integrate.

You need to expand so that whatever it is you're bringing into you,

You have the capacity for,

You have the space for.

Look at this never-ending hallway.

Who knows where it leads?

Are you willing to go through the dark hallway into the open space towards the light?

Are you willing to walk through that in the unknown?

Because that's really what's inside of us that we try to fill with answers and stories and predictions and as if we know it all.

And that's what I mean.

It's like,

I don't really know what integration is.

Do I?

I'm allowing some of the unknown about it to occur and the unseen by allowing something that I tend to be fearful about or unsettled with.

I embrace my selfishness.

Will I bring that into me when the world says,

Don't be selfish,

Don't be arrogant?

Perhaps my arrogance is my confidence,

But I'm going to take that arrogance that wants to be known and seen because it wants me to expand and be bigger in some way.

I feel the part of me that is arrogant.

I feel the part of me that tends to be shamed.

You're scared to let seen and known,

But first you have to acknowledge it with you.

You'll touch it within yourself.

Again,

It's something felt.

It's hard to put into words.

Whatever it is that you're working through to integrate,

Maybe it's a past experience that was difficult or traumatic or stressful.

Maybe it led you to feel disgusted,

Embarrassed,

Humiliated.

Maybe you're controlling.

Maybe you're easily defensive or reactive.

Are you willing to face yourself with that?

We're all flawed,

But those are also your gifts,

And they need to be felt.

Not released,

Not let go,

Let in.

You have the space for it,

And these practices support that,

And you are here when you're ready.

So if this doesn't land for you,

If you're having something come up in my words,

That's okay.

That's okay.

That's where you are.

This is where I am.

Accept the differences because we coexist and we integrate to unify.

Maybe you're integrating blame.

Maybe you tend to blame others,

Blame yourself.

You take that blame and bring it in and feel it.

The simple embodiment practice can be a hug,

Can be grounding in your feet,

Leaning on your heels,

Bringing your tip of your tongue to the top of your mouth,

The roof of your mouth.

Maybe closing your eyes.

Breathe.

Then we'll tap.

You tap on the side of the hand.

So what I speak of can sometimes be considered in the shadows,

The traits that we dislike about others that are also exist within yourself,

Things you might be jealous or envious of,

And others that are underdeveloped in yourself.

Your assertiveness,

Your intuition,

Your artistry,

Your ability to shine,

To grow,

To expand.

All right.

Tap on the side of the hand.

Even though I might be playing small,

Even though I might be staying small right now or feel small right now,

I'm okay.

Even though I might hide parts of me,

Traits,

Qualities,

I accept myself.

Even though I have protective aspects in me that cover up other aspects of me,

I deeply and completely love,

Honor,

And accept myself.

To the eyebrow.

Tap along the eyebrow.

All the parts of me that feel fragmented,

Disconnected.

All the parts of me that feel fragmented and disconnected to the side of the eye,

The bone by the temple.

Tap there.

I feel disjointed,

Not whole.

I feel disjointed and not whole underneath the eye on the cheekbone.

I feel small.

I feel small underneath the nose,

Above the lip.

Tap there.

Confused.

Confused.

To the chin.

Tight in my body.

Tight in my body.

To the chest around the collarbone.

As if my mind and body are not working together.

As if my mind and body are not working together.

Underneath the arm by the bra line for women.

Right beneath your armpit on the side of your body.

Tap here.

It's confusing,

Unsettling,

Scary.

It's confusing,

Unsettling,

Scary.

To the wrist.

Tap the wrist together.

I feel out of control sometimes.

I feel out of control sometimes.

To the top of the head.

Tap there.

So then I try hard to control.

I try so hard to control.

To the eyebrow.

I keep myself so busy and occupied.

I keep myself so busy and occupied.

The side of the eye.

We're unmotivated.

Paralyzed.

Unmotivated.

Paralyzed.

Underneath the eye.

I'm noticing these things now.

I'm noticing these things now.

Underneath the nose.

More aware.

More aware.

To the chin.

I can name them.

I can name them.

To the chest.

That's progress.

That's progress.

Underneath the arm.

By showing up here for me.

By showing up here for me.

To the wrist.

To create more space inside.

Create more space inside.

To the top of the head.

So I may inhabit my body safely.

So I may inhabit my body safely.

To the eyebrow.

It's safe to be me.

It's safe to be me.

To the side of the eye.

All of me.

All of me.

Underneath the eye.

I'm creating a sacred space inside.

I'm creating a sacred space inside.

Underneath the nose.

To exist freely as myself inside my body.

To exist freely as myself inside my body.

The chin.

And I can feel.

I feel.

To the chest.

I feel this right now.

I feel this right now.

Underneath the arm.

I soften.

I soften to the wrist.

I breathe.

I breathe to the top of the head.

Into the unknown spaciousness.

Into the unknown spaciousness.

To the eyebrow.

To feel more secure in the unknown.

To feel more secure in the unknown.

To the side of the eye.

To pull in.

To pull in.

Underneath the eye.

To take in.

To take in.

Underneath the nose.

What I used to avoid.

What I used to avoid.

To the chin.

What I used to fear.

What I used to fear.

To the chest.

What's been uncomfortable.

What's been uncomfortable.

Underneath the arm.

Is changing now on the cellular level.

Is changing now on the cellular level.

To the wrist.

Coming together.

Coming together.

The top of the head.

As one.

As one.

The eyebrow.

I'm powerful.

I'm powerful.

The side of the eye.

I trust myself.

I trust myself underneath the eye.

I like myself.

I like myself underneath the nose.

I know myself.

I know myself.

The chin.

I embrace all of me.

I embrace all of me.

The chest.

I allow.

I allow.

Underneath the arm.

This expansion and growth.

This expansion and growth to the wrist.

This real,

True,

Embodied integration.

This real,

True,

Embodied integration.

The top of the head.

All my talents and skills and gifts and abilities.

All my talents and skills and gifts and abilities.

To the eyebrow.

Start to shine.

Start to shine to the side of the eye.

I radiate.

I radiate underneath the eye.

A tingle sensation.

A tingle sensation underneath the nose.

A glowing light.

A glowing light to the chin.

Exists in me.

Exists in me.

To the chest.

Pours out of me.

Pours out of me.

Underneath the arm.

Like tears of beauty.

Tears of beauty.

The wrist.

That's integration.

That's integration to the top of the head.

These beautiful tears.

These beautiful tears.

The eyebrow.

Hold so much.

Hold so much to the side of the eye.

They're hugged and loved.

They're hugged and loved.

Underneath the eye.

I am a warm hug.

I am a warm hug.

Underneath the nose.

I am loved.

I am loved.

The chin.

And I love.

And I love.

The chest.

Peace.

Peace.

Underneath the arm.

So much inner and outer peace.

So much inner and outer peace.

So the wrist is embodied in me.

Is embodied in me.

To the top of the head.

Fully integrated in mind,

Body,

And heart,

And soul.

Fully integrated in mind,

Body,

Heart,

And soul.

Release the tapping.

Let that go.

Come back to your breath.

I'm thanking yourself for showing up for you and this practice of tapping emotional freedom technique.

Please let me know how this felt.

If you have any questions or comments,

Please share.

And you're welcome to go back to start and do this again.

Keep showing up for yourself consistently and know that the impact occurs on this cumulative level,

On the internal level.

You are exactly where you need to be.

You amaze me.

I love you.

Thank you.