My Stuff/Your Stuff: Meditation For Finding Your Own Centre

A meditative and also practical practice for when you feel others are projecting their own issues, feelings, insecurities, and judgments onto you and you feel unprotected. Deflecting-Mirror work is an instant way to protect yourself at the moment, and you can learn how to do it here. This is also a great meditation to go to when you need to recover and reclaim your energy. Your body, your journey, your truth.

Transcript

So this is a really powerful practice called mirror work and it really helps us to understand how we can separate other people's projections onto us from our own reality,

Our own truth,

Our own feelings about things and even the choices we make.

Sometimes people are critical of us.

They judge our choices,

They judge our behavior.

And it's important to understand that often people judge others as a way of validating their own choices.

They feel insecure about the choices they've made and they see other people doing things differently it can sometimes make them feel better to judge those people as doing something wrong.

People need to feel validated in their choices and the lives they have.

So an example of this would be when someone sees you thriving and happy and doing what you want to do and they themselves might not in that context or at that time be feeling as happy and thriving as you are and at the same time they may see you doing things with an amount of freedom that they don't have access to it can hurt them and they can project that hurt onto you.

And sometimes they do that really unconsciously not meaning to hurt you but just wanting to get rid of the pain they themselves feel and not have to hold it for a while.

This could sometimes even be true of our own parents who lived at times when they didn't have perhaps the level of support the infrastructure the freedom that we do now to follow our own choices and when they see their children enjoying things that they have a craving for and always did but knew they'd never be able to have you can imagine the hurt and the conflict that can cause it can open up wounds.

And that is where some of those little undermining and critical put downs can come from.

When people undermine your choices for example it's maybe that they cannot encourage you because they cannot encourage themselves or they've never received encouragement.

It may be hard for them to be happy for you knowing that you're having what they really want but are unable to have.

And with this much pain in the energy that's coming your way it makes it even more important that you separate who you are and what you should be doing with your own life from what's coming at you from other people.

One way we can separate ourselves is simply to have that understanding that other people can project their wounds upon us and to be careful of that and not take it on.

In all of our lives we may have people who are critical of us or judgmental who are or who aren't happy for us when we wish they were.

And sensitive people can have a way of taking that on and feeling it very deeply and in the end allowing it to dull our light,

Our sparkle,

Our glow.

And what's really happening is that these people are having to hide a little or make themselves smaller.

What you're feeling is someone else's feelings of being small or dimmed and taking them on because we sensitive people if we're unguarded do soak up and embody other people's feelings.

That first thing to do is be aware and to recognize and say this is not mine.

I reject this.

This does not belong to me.

I send it back to whom it does belong.

And another way of doing this is to do this mirror work literally to reflect it back.

We can practice that right now.

You might even have something in mind that someone has said to you recently that's hurt and it's hard to shake off and it's affecting you on the inside and the way you're behaving and you need to clear it because it's not yours and you need to reclaim yourself and your power and your gifts.

Right now you might take that thing or person into your mind so that you have something immediate and ready to clear.

Let's begin.

As always find your ground.

Feel the spot where you are on and claim it.

Feel where you are and breathe downwards through your body into the earth.

Feel your inner roots and breathe into them into the earth like the roots of a tree and feel them spread out.

Feeling your ground and your space.

And now feel your flexibility in the space all around you.

You may stretch,

Roll your shoulders,

Your neck,

Your head.

You may spread your arms out around you and claim your space.

You're not rigid.

You don't have to stay stuck.

Feel that in your movements.

Flex your toes and fingers and feel that you are in your own body.

Say to yourself,

Right now I choose to be in my own body.

And breathe.

Just take some lovely long deep breaths for yourself and say your name to yourself.

Welcoming yourself.

And prepare to begin to clear what is not yours to hold.

Feel your body again and imagine it is surrounded by mirrors,

Completely surrounded.

So there are mirrors from every part of your body reflecting outwards.

So anything that's looking towards you is actually looking at themselves,

Not you.

Because you are covered in mirrors reflecting away from you.

Breathe and visualize this for a moment.

You can reflect the trees and the sky back to the trees and the sky.

You can reflect the people approaching you back to themselves.

So you might bring this person,

This feeling to the mirrors,

Your mirrored self and think about what has been said to you that hurts you.

And see and imagine that they are looking in the mirror at themselves as they say these words they are saying to you.

They are saying words back to themselves.

They are seeing them saying the words back to themselves.

Practice that for a few moments.

Let the mirrors reflect.

You can even say I let the mirrors reflect.

Reflect back what is not mine.

Let them receive their own feelings and wish them the blessing of healing.

And then allow them to walk away from you and you yourself be with the feelings in your body and your space right now.

Be with the self that has relieved themselves of what is not theirs.

And just feel the lightness and the space within and around you.

Taking some more lovely deep long breaths.

Reclaiming yourself.

You can say to yourself I reclaim my full self I am me.

Breathe.

And again I reclaim my full self I am me.

Feel the freedom in your body.

You are reclaiming and claiming all your gifts of aliveness.

And as you do this you might want to stretch your body into all that space again and be nourished.

Nourished by that clear fresh space that is all yours.

You can let the mirrors fall away now.

You don't need them anymore.

When you look outwards you can see the tree and the tree sees you.

You can see the sky and the sky sees you.

The grass sees you.

When you see the grass other people see you.

And you see them.

And you let each other have their own space.

Reviews

Thank you so much! It was really powerful and beautiful 🙏🏼✨

Excellent exercise, it really helped me, thank you!!

Excellent!! I will be returning to this often. 👏🏼❤️‍🔥

This was amazing for self awareness and love for self . And of course, letting go of others energy we carry. It as well helped me have a different perspective on others who are unkind to me. Thank you ❤️

Amazing meditation to clear bad energy and step back into your own power 💥 Some negativity and nastiness from others I had been carrying for years I felt shift and clear during this meditation. I feel lighter! Thank you 🙏🏼❤️

Powerful meditation that helped me ground back into my own self and feel free from other’s negativity. Will definitely revisit this! Thank you.

It was perfect timing to come across this when I did. I found it to be very eye-opening as you put words to an uncomfortable albeit familiar experience. I soak up so much that isn't mine and seldom realize that I let it fester. Until you said it, I never thought of how "dimming" it can be. Being a visual person, that hurt. That's horrible! I'm letting someone else take too much away from me. I'm grateful for this and I'm really glad I listened. This one will be repeated as a reminder to be more aware of this happening. Thank you for this gift!

Excellent exercise. As a sensitive person, I needed this.

very healing and helpful 🧡

Wow ❤️ I needed this to release. Thank you so much ❤️🙏

Thank you! This did adjust my mood a bit

This helped me a lot. Thank you.

Another wonderful meditation Alison. Very grounding and encouraging. Many thanks.