Welcome to this reparenting meditation where I will guide you towards healing your inner child so you can soothe generational trauma and break the cycle of emotional dysregulation in yourself and your children.
Healing yourself means to honor yourself with all of the love,
Safety,
And validation that you didn't receive as a child.
It's to meet all of your unmet needs so that you're better able to meet your children as they are.
Only will you be able to hold sacred space for the childhood that you deserve,
But you can also awaken a rich childhood of play,
Expression,
And regulation for your own children,
Leading you to co-regulate and collaborate with the children in your life.
The goal here isn't to shame,
Abandon,
Or release the inner child.
They are a needed part of you,
Your purpose,
And your parenting journey.
Our inner child is here to leave us clues to our own healing needs and what teachings we may need to unlearn.
It is this part of us that also connects us to playfulness,
Curiosity,
And enchantment.
Can you recall a time of intense,
Unexplainable emotion,
Leading you lost as to where this came from?
This is a trigger.
Our children need us to fully experience them for who they are by opening our senses to their individual needs,
Desires,
Feelings,
And place in the world.
Here I'll be your guide through a deeply healing inner child journey,
Leading you to softly embody the parts of yourself that are triggered by your child's big emotions or wild behavior.
Let's reconnect to your rooted self by listening to the call of your tiny footsteps.
Begin by finding a quiet,
Comfortable space without distractions.
Lie down or sit in a space where your body is relaxed.
Gently close your eyes and take a slow,
Mindful breath through the nose.
Hold at the top for a few moments and release the breath for as long as you can through the mouth.
Release the tension from your shoulders,
Neck,
Hands,
And legs by progressively working down your body and relaxing each limb,
Stretching your neck,
Your arms,
And clenching your hands and releasing them.
Continue to breathe deeply,
Feeling each breath calming and centering your mind.
Check in with how your body feels today,
Without judgment.
Have you felt triggered by your children today?
Do you feel dysregulated,
Ashamed,
Or guilty for feeling or behaving in line with these triggers?
Allow yourself to truly feel into the sensations of your body,
The tenseness,
The agitation,
The darkness.
Let it be felt as a body experience and out of the stories of your mind.
There is no story that needs to be attached to this feeling,
So just keep bringing it back to how the body feels.
Give yourself grace and a deep knowing that this doesn't start with you.
You are safe and protected walking the very path of your ancestors.
You have the blessing of being able to break the cycle that wasn't witnessed in past generations as they were more focused on their survival.
You have access to a life where you can thrive in conscious collaboration with your child.
Allow yourself to feel the power of this vision that you have access to.
By reparenting yourself,
You are mothering the earth.
Looking to the forefront of your mind's eye,
Bring a memory,
Feeling,
Or behavior from your child that activates you to feel triggered.
It could even be an aspect of your child that you place high up on a pedestal.
The traits that we overtly place above all are usually more about the parts in us that weren't safe to be expressed as a child.
This is a clue to your yearnings that are yet to be actualized.
Connect to the sensations in your body as you recall what behavior occurred and what you felt or did within the moment.
Consider what you can see now that you couldn't before.
As you feel into this memory,
What's occurring within you?
How does your gut feel?
How does your chest feel?
Is your breath shallow or deep?
Does anxiety restrict your breath?
Whatever it may be,
Allow yourself to experience it fully without judging.
Bring light and presence to this feeling.
Name the feelings that arise,
And allow them to be what they are as your child reacts from their space.
To feel guilt and shame for feeling this way towards our children is so normal and is a sign of your unconditional love and ability that you have already as a parent.
In order to heal our wounding,
We need to embody each emotion as it's felt,
As this is the only way it can be released.
This has no weight on the lack of love for your own child,
But only a lack of love you were given to be able to regulate and cope when you were young.
When you feel ready,
Bring yourself back in time to relive an experience from your own childhood,
One where you experienced a similar emotional response to the one where your child has triggered you.
Recall to yourself to not become lost in the stories,
And know that the first memory is your instinctual response and will be what you need to honor.
Really feel into what being in this space,
In this experience,
With these people was like for you.
What do you sense,
See,
Hear,
Smell,
Feel?
If your memories come in ripples from a tough childhood,
Hold an age or place in your mind that led you to feel this way.
As you feel into this experience,
Allow your curiosity and inspiration to take you,
Your adult self,
To be with your younger self.
Really see them and bear witness to their feelings.
Focus on your body and your breath.
As you watch how their life unfurled,
Be a compassionate witness to what changes occurred within their body and what they needed at that time.
Focus in on your breath and see if your younger self feels safe to see you be with them.
We are not here to change them,
Advise them,
Or judge their experience.
We are here to show them that we see and hear them,
That we are and will always be their compassionate witness.
Put a name to what you see in them.
Connect to the raw depth in their eyes and speak only to what you observe in them.
Become their mirror and validate the full spectrum of their experience by speaking it to them and seeing them as they are.
What do you see in them?
I see that you needed support.
I see that you're scared.
I see so much beauty that you struggle to actualize.
I see a pain inside that has nowhere to go.
Validate and clearly state the feeling that you see in them.
Tuning your attention back to your inner child,
Imagine what would have been soothing or helpful for you in these moments of feeling unsafe,
Unloved,
Or unseen.
Perhaps what you yearned for was to be held,
To have a safe space to express your big emotions,
To be seen in all your wildness and all your innate beauty.
Perhaps you needed encouraging words of positivity or to be nurtured to feel the full spectrum of emotions available to you.
Open yourself up to meeting each unmet need or desire and delving deeper into what that means to them.
What does safety,
Love,
Trust,
Etc.
Mean to them?
How do they want to experience this?
Truly embrace them by meeting all of their needs.
Feel into the healing and impact of receiving what you needed at that moment,
Only when they are comfortable for you to go back to the present,
But carrying them always within you.
Begin to bring your attention to the breath and your body.
Ensure they trust that you are not leaving,
They are a part of you always,
Integrated into who you are and who your children are.
When they feel safe to integrate,
Focus your attention on the present environment and the sensations within your body.
How do you feel?
Honour the humanness in each emotional experience and gently give yourself all you need as you go about your days with your children.
When you're ready,
Come back home and feel into the earth that holds you.
