If Heaven Had Visiting Hours

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What if heaven had visiting hours? It would be amazing to visit our lost loved ones, but then we may never want to leave. And we have important work to do on earth still. It is not our time. However, thinking about visiting heaven and bringing gifts to our loved ones can allow us to recall our favorite memories and find peace in knowing they have all that they want and more.

Transcript

Hi there,

This is Rita with Sacred Sorrows and I'm very grateful that you're here.

I have things to tell you.

Recently I was looking at Pinterest,

Which is something that I do sometimes at night before I go to sleep,

And I saw a pin there that said I wish heaven had visiting hours.

It struck me,

But then I fell asleep and I forgot all about it,

Until I was at the cemetery today.

I laid out a blanket and I thought I'd do a little reading while keeping company at my son's gravesite,

And then I remembered the saying about visiting hours in heaven.

I let my mind wander,

Wondering what it would be like to go visit my son Chad in heaven.

What would I bring him?

Maybe some of those beaded bracelets he liked to wear.

Oh,

And some Del Taco for sure.

And he liked those junky gorditas from Taco Bell,

And a roast beef sandwich with french fries from his favorite neighborhood Italian place.

And also some new drumsticks for him to use to play the drums in heaven.

Chad was an accomplished drummer.

And then I thought,

What?

Why would I be doing this?

He's going to have amazing food in heaven and plenty of drumsticks.

As a matter of fact,

I'm certain he told me once in my imagination,

After I was reeling from an EMDR session about his death,

That I should see the drums in heaven.

That the drums in heaven are so cool.

If heaven had visiting hours,

Chad would be showing me around,

Giving me the tour,

And I would love it.

And then I figured out why heaven doesn't have visiting hours.

Because I wouldn't want to leave.

It would be way too hard to leave.

Which of course makes sense,

Because everything that I've read about near-death experiences explains that very thing.

The people that come back don't want to come back.

And something is definitely different for most of them when they do come back.

They have a purpose.

They come back with one big fat mission on their lives.

I know this even though I haven't visited anyone in heaven.

I don't know why I know it.

Call it faith maybe.

But I know I'm not in heaven because it's not my time.

And while I'm here,

There's something I'm supposed to be doing.

Even if there are days when my small moments of trying don't feel like that something is very big.

But I'm supposed to be helping other people get to heaven,

Or at least help them get some hope,

Get some grace,

Maybe even get some God.

Yep,

Yep,

That's why heaven doesn't have visiting hours.

But wouldn't it be so cool?

Or is it just my mother's heart?

I won't know this side of heaven.

Until then,

I've got work to do.

But if heaven did have visiting hours,

What would you bring your child?

Reviews

Comforting. I’ve had same thoughts. Sometimes I say I wish my husband Could see me or hear me. It’s been sad and difficult. But it’s very heartening to know I am not alone. Thank you.

I felt like you were talking to me. This was amazing. My name is Rita as well and I have lost a son.