Sacrificing Your Gifts - A Ten-Minute Breathwork Meditation

Are you using your gifts to hide? Save this for the next time you can feel yourself using masks to feel safe

Here’s a breathwork for your perfectionist part to show up radically and authentically, and let go of the need to be liked.

Transcript

Babe, Eventually even the things that you like about yourself and consider gifts, You're going to have to burn off. This is a breathwork for anyone who is relying on your talents and the things that you trust and that you know that you do really well. How to make space, To put down the security of those qualities and venture into the unknown. So this is for all the recovering perfectionists that are trying something new. I'm going to invite you to spend 10 minutes with me in a breathwork meditation, Just making some more space. Make yourself comfortable, Stretch, Wriggle, Find some movement. I know you've been sitting too still for too long. When you're feeling warmed up, I'm going to invite you to close your eyes and we'll just find the breath together you choose and then the pattern is inhale, Pause, Exhale, Pause. We'll do one round together. Inhale and pause and exhale and pause. And inhale. All right, Good job. You found your breath. And that is your only focus for the rest of our time together. I'm going to invite you to tune into the part of you that is hiding. Bring it to the front. I'm going to invite you to just observe any masks. Maybe you can see it in your mind's eye. Maybe you can feel it physically on your body. Anywhere that feels armored. A good way to visualize this if you're not certain of the techniques that you use is to imagine that you're in a room full of people. Maybe it's a party or a businessy networking event, Something where you feel like you need to put on a bit of a show. How are you armoring yourself in a flattering way? What techniques are you using? Maybe it's your charisma, Maybe it's your wit or your intelligence. What techniques are you using? Maybe it's your charisma, Maybe it's your wit or your beauty. Maybe you're incredibly funny or just the right amount of flirtatious. What are the tools that you use to enamor people with the idea that you want to plant in their mind of who you are? Moment of silence whilst you put that list into the front of your mind. I'm just going to invite you to sit with that list because it can feel a little bit uncomfortable to consider that actually maybe these things that we like about ourselves are actually techniques that we have honed over a lifetime to keep ourselves socially accepted, To keep ourselves that we like about ourselves are actually techniques that we have honed over a lifetime to keep ourselves socially accepted and safe. There is a currency to these techniques, To these charms and whilst they all have wisdom, They all have an authentic brilliant side that is worth holding on to. We're not throwing anything away, We're not trying to cut anything out. Sometimes it can be a bit of a cheap trade to use them to almost manipulate situations or people to liking us or doing what we would like them to do instead of just being the light-hearted way you show up in the world. Can you hear the difference? Yeah. Would you still be funny if you're really comfortable in your own skin? Would you still be flirtatious if you didn't want anything from them? Take a breath and just answer that question for yourself. Your humour is wonderful and endearing. Your flirtatiousness is a great reflection of your high vibe, That radiant frequency that is just so bold and there's no need to cast them aside when you're on your spiritual journey, That's not what I'm suggesting. But just for a moment, I want you to imagine what it would be like if you could walk into that room and connect so vulnerably, Just being entirely who you are. Could you show them you when you feel blue or when you maybe are moved by anger or grief? Can you only show them your wit? Can you only show them your flirtatiousness? Can you only show them how stunningly beautiful you are? If the answer is yes, That's when you know that you're using your gifts to keep yourself safe. And there is another way. When you can accept radically that you are whole and you are enough in any of your emotional states, Then you can begin to show up as multifaceted and dimensional as you really are. You won't have to cut out other emotional planes to fit into your idea of who you're supposed to be when you're relating to others. With the next breath, I'm going to invite you to send gratitude to whatever tools you have been using to guide you in these unpredictable spaces and know that you can use them authentically and vulnerably when it suits you. And exhaling to let go of any compulsion. You do not need them. You can enjoy them. And with the next round of breath, I'm going to invite you to stand tall in every emotional state, Anger, Sadness, Joy, All of it. Stand tall in all of it. Pausing to integrate. And exhaling to let go of any belief that you are only accepted when you are okay. You are accepted just as you are. You are accepted just as you are. Pause and shake it off. And when you're ready, Just coming back to the room, Blinking your eyes open, And just nodding in agreement with any of the sentiments you've heard today that resonate and land in your heart. Thank you so much for spending this time with me. This was 10 minutes, Day 13, I believe, Of my 12-week breathwork challenge. And today's a really special day because actually we've just also integrated shadow work, Combining my two favorite practices. So I want to hear in the comments how you're feeling now. And I'm going to ask you to So I want to hear in the comments how you're feeling now. And if you're feeling spicy, Let me know what your tools are that you are using. And let me know if you have any suggestions for tomorrow's theme. Sending you so much love.