While temporary acceptance and worthiness can be obtained through external validation,
It is essential to cultivate a strong internal sense of one's own value.
By learning to embrace oneself and acknowledge one's worth,
Individuals can improve their resilience and mental well-being.
Regrettably,
Numerous individuals encounter experiences of hurt and invalidation early in life and continue to face them in different ways as they grow older.
As a result,
They can come to believe that their fundamental self-esteem and self-worth rely on others rather than themselves,
Causing them to constantly strive for approval and attention from others.
Take a moment to find a comfortable position,
Either sitting or lying down.
You could consider using an eye pillow to create darkness in the room or simply keep your eyes open with a soft gaze.
Inhale deeply and then exhale fully.
I will now lead you on a symbolic exploration of your personal inner garden.
As a defenseless child,
You required the support and care of others.
Just like a budding plant that needs water,
Nutrients,
And admiration for its beauty,
If you experienced rejection,
It may have felt as though someone was physically present but disregarded you,
Similar to neglecting a potted plant.
This is why many of us develop feelings of distress and disregard,
Morphing into damaged individuals who resemble undesired weeds.
Consequently,
Our self-esteem and perception of ourselves suffer greatly.
Just as we remove weeds by plucking or using harsh chemicals to make them die,
We also carry within us a toxic element that longs to be loved for our potential to thrive in different surroundings,
Similar to how weeds affect us negatively and harm our garden.
This poisonous aspect hinders our growth.
Weeds not only provide protection for bare soil,
But they also enhance the soil in various ways as time goes by.
Instead of feeling bad about yourself,
View these challenges as opportunities that have shaped you into a stronger and more resilient person today.
When you observe your inner garden,
What do you notice?
Within it,
You cultivate your existence.
You reap the results of what you sow,
Both positive and negative.
The concept of your inner garden holds significant metaphorical power that will transform your perception of the world.
Just like any garden,
It requires continuous nurturing.
My darling,
Take charge of your own garden.
Do not allow anyone to diminish the importance of your efforts or criticize your choices and what you have planted.
You can appreciate the beauty in your own garden without seeking validation from others.
Relying on external opinions can lead to being defined by others.
For instance,
If others hold a positive opinion of your garden,
It may be assumed to be great,
While a negative perception may lead to self-doubt.
In addition,
If they believe your garden lacks something,
Whether accurately or inaccurately,
You may feel like an inadequate gardener to earn the acceptance of others.
Individuals sometimes devote their entire existence to modifying the elements in our garden without considering their own wants or needs.
As a means of dealing with this,
We acquire a habit of striving to satisfy others out of the fear of being genuine.
Numerous people face challenges related to their identity,
Emotions,
Thoughts,
And individual preferences as their limits have become muddled from being taught to prioritize their happiness over others above their own.
Mindfulness Inspo writes,
When we stop seeking external validation,
We become free and true to ourselves.
We can finally find out what is important to us and build the life we are content with.
Pause for a moment and allow that information you just received to sink in.
Take a deep breath and then exhale letting go of any burden or weight.
Take a moment to observe your garden while you experience an increasing sense of ease with every breath.
Through this,
You will discover the inner beauty that exists within you.
Ponder on the areas that demand more care and attention.
Consider the new elements you wish to add and recognize anything that should be removed.
My darling,
Take a moment to observe the beauty within your inner garden and appreciate it as your own creation.
You don't require anyone else's validation to acknowledge its contents,
Even if only one flower remains.
Flourishing and vibrant,
It is significant evidence that you are self-sustaining and independent from external nurturing.
Being yourself,
Filled with vibrant and animated traits,
Makes you deserving and complete.
Now imagine yourself standing in your garden.
Softly speak to it,
Perhaps imagining yourself holding a watering can and pouring its contents onto the garden.
Verbally communicate or silently speak to yourself.
You possess an abundance of beauty.
I am here to provide the necessary care and nurture.
I offer both water and sunlight.
I don't require an audience to display your beauty.
It is solely for me to appreciate.
Observe how your garden thrives solely through your efforts.
My darling,
No one else has assisted in its growth.
Now,
Take a moment to find a spot in your garden and sit quietly,
Fully embracing the delightful scent,
Cooling breeze and warm sunshine.
I will give you some time alone to process everything.
Isn't it amazing how different things look now compared to where we began this journey?
Consider the incredible beauty that lies within your garden.
Inhale deeply,
Absorbing every element around you and exhale out any expectations you may hold.
Begin to gradually bring yourself back to the present moment.
But before doing so,
Take a moment to reach around and notice the blossoms flourishing in your garden.
Can you envision selecting just one to carry with you for the rest of the day as a reminder of your inner beauty that exists?
Grasp it firmly and perhaps bring it close to your heart or inhale its aroma prior to opening your eyes.
