Welcome back to the Prescription to Feel Steadiness Series by eMotion.
This is Myra again,
Havi's mom.
Today we're going to be moving with one of the most central concepts that we practice at eMotion,
Shifting from scared to sacred.
Before we reflect on that,
We need to ground ourselves here in this moment.
Let's start with our grounding rituals,
And as always,
Find a place where you can be still.
When you're ready,
Take a deep inhale with me in through your nose,
And a long exhale through the mouth,
Watching,
Feeling,
Imagining your breaths landing all the way down at your toes.
Wiggle those toes once your breath makes contact with them.
Feel yourself safely held by the ground beneath you,
And we'll do that deep breathing two more times together.
When you're ready,
Bring a hand to your heart,
And with two gentle taps,
Honor all of our feelings,
Even the scary ones,
Today as we move.
And lastly,
Relax your gaze.
Stretch your arms out wide with a gentle bend in each elbow,
Reaching as if you are touching someone just to your left and to your right,
And embrace that space in front of you.
We will let connection,
Not comparison,
Be our guide as we move today.
Thanks for moving with me,
And let's take the first step forward together.
Find a pace that feels right for you in this moment,
And I'm going to pause briefly as we find our stride.
Today we are moving with an intention to shift from a space of feeling scared to a space of feeling sacred and seen.
When I say sacred,
I mean something that deserves our attention,
Time,
And energy.
Something that is too important,
Too foundational to our identity to ignore.
It is so natural to operate from a place of being scared,
But sometimes this fear prevents us from noticing something that could have healing benefits.
Even paying attention to the spelling of these two words,
Scared and sacred,
We notice that shift is quite small.
When you switch the C and the A in these two words,
Scared becomes the word sacred.
It's a small shift with a massive impact.
So how do we do that?
The first thing to do is to notice our fear,
And then we need to name it.
We appreciate its power,
And then we turn towards it as scary as that might feel.
Because often fear is an invitation to be seen or explored,
Felt.
And once we notice it and turn towards it,
It can no longer consume us,
Debilitate us,
Because we have just acknowledged that there's space between us and that fear,
That it is just a feeling of being scared,
And we can work with it there in that space.
My example of this experience is after a run that I took,
I ended my run by making a slow walk up my driveway.
Typically I make that walk with my head down,
But on that day,
I had some additional strength to lift my head up,
Only slightly,
And when I did,
I looked in the bedroom window that had been Javi's and is now Ezra's,
My son who is almost two.
It's a window I have a very hard time looking at,
And so I usually avoid it,
But when I looked up,
I saw Ezra in the window with his big smile,
Blue sparkling eyes,
And bright blonde hair,
And he waved so proudly and so vigorously that he brought me to tears.
I waved back and quickly ran in the front door to give him the biggest hug I could possibly muster.
And when I did,
I experienced what it felt like to shift from scared and fragile to sacred and strong.
And that shift was created by the smallest change in looking up instead of looking down.
We are about to move into three minutes of quiet.
As we move in quiet today,
Consider how fear is creeping into your grief experience.
How does being scared present itself,
And in what ways might it be limiting your life experience?
Try moving your attention towards something that you've identified as scary and gently approach it.
Notice where in your body it's showing up once you've become conscious of it.
When you start to turn toward an aspect of your grief that is scary,
Where do you feel that fear in your body?
For me,
It always shows up in my quads.
They feel like bricks.
I acknowledge,
Sometimes even out loud,
That what I'm feeling is fear,
And that my quads are holding that fear.
And then I stay with it,
Stay with the heaviness in my legs,
And watch as the heaviness moves so long as I can move with it.
And sometimes,
Even over the course of a few moments,
It does.
So keep moving as you do this exercise.
And of course,
If it feels like too much,
Too big,
Too fast,
Just back off.
There is no rush here,
Only an invitation to find ways to create space in you for more living.
We'll come back together in three minutes and reflect on this time.
It starts and ends with the chime of the bell.
Okay,
Here we go.
♪♪ Welcome back.
It's a really brave thing to turn toward what scares us and to try to move with it.
During the quiet time,
Did you notice where or how fear shows up in you?
Is that fear getting in the way of spending time on something that you might consider sacred?
Is there a time when you experienced a scared-to-sacred moment?
How did that feel?
Let's start to wind down our movement to a steady but slow pace that allows us to focus on our breath as we move toward closing.
I'd like to close this reflection on shifting from scared to sacred with one of my favorite poems by Rumi.
Rumi invites us to move from scared to sacred with his gorgeous imagery,
The Silkworm by Rumi.
I stood before a silkworm one day,
And that night my heart said to me,
I can do things like that.
I can spin skies.
I can be woven into love that can bring warmth to people.
I can be soft against a crying face.
I can be wings that lift.
And I can travel on my thousand feet through the earth,
My sacks fill with the sacred.
And I replied to my heart,
Dear,
Can you really do all of those things?
And it just nodded,
Yes,
In silence.
Thank you for moving with me today.
I'm Myra,
Javi's mom,
And this is the Prescription to Feel steadiness series by Emotion.
See you next time.
Prescription to Feel is a series created by Emotion,
An organization on a mission to change the way the world relates to grief and loss.
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Thanks for moving with us.
