How To Explain What You Need To Heal From Trauma

Ana teaches that true healing begins when others stop denying your reality and simply stay — seeing, listening, and acknowledging without defense or blame.

Core Teaching
Healing requires acknowledgment, not fixing.
Ana distills trauma-informed relational wisdom into one simple truth: healing happens when someone sees, hears, and acknowledges your pain without judgment, denial, or defense.

The antidote to denial is witnessing.
Trauma isolates. Its wound is not only what happened, but that no one witnessed or believed it. The act of being seen — truly seen — restores relational safety and begins regulation.

Language as reclamation.
By providing listeners with specific words to share — “Don’t judge me. Don’t defend yourself. See me.” — Ana gives trauma survivors a script for self-advocacy. It’s not therapy jargon; it’s everyday language that builds boundaries and connection at once.

Transcript

Welcome to Exhaled and Rising.

I am Anamail.

I'm a somatic experiencing therapist for PTSD and trauma recovery.

Many people ask me how can I explain to others what do I need for healing?

So these are a couple words.

You can write them down and you can practice and you can share this to someone you are living with,

To someone who is important to you,

With someone you're trying to make relationship,

Connection,

Where you can heal together.

What I need for healing?

Don't judge me.

Don't defend yourself.

Don't blame me.

Don't blame yourself.

Don't leave.

Do not try to use humor to minimize it.

Look at my eyes.

See me when I share my experience.

Acknowledge what my experience was.

It is not yours to accept or dismiss.

It's mine.

It is yours to acknowledge as my experience.

This is my story,

My pain,

My hurt.

See me for who I am and for what happened to me.

This is how I heal,

When others stop denying my reality and instead acknowledge and respect it.

So these are the words you can use,

Practice and repeat.

This is the one of the ways we heal,

When we start expressing what we need and what's our reality.

I am Ana Mild.

This is Excelent Rising.

And until next time,

Much care.

Much care.