Live Event: Release Limiting Beliefs 27-10-2022

Recorded live event on Insight Timer Thu Oct 27 - 03:00 pm
Release limiting beliefs
Join us in setting an intention to release one limiting belief in this grounding visualization practice
including Q&A
Please note: This track was recorded live and may contain background noises.

Transcript

But let's talk about limiting beliefs or sometimes called coarse belief, False core beliefs. But they are these beliefs we hold about ourselves. And you know they are often untrue and limiting, But they live in our subconscious mind. And the problem is 90% of our actions then stem from those limiting beliefs. So they actually play a huge part in our lives. And we are often even not aware of it and how they affect our daily lives. I always like to give the example of if you think you are unlovable, You know you might sabotage relationships or hold on when you even shouldn't hold on to a toxic relationship or even avoid getting into relationships at all. But with this logic you know, It might feel like well I am unlovable anyway so you know this is a false belief and your actions will stem from it again. And that's why I wanted to do a visualization to work on those limiting beliefs. Because if we change our beliefs, We change our lives. Well we change our behavior and then we change our lives, It isn't that quick. Okay Mark, Second time, Great. Also limiting beliefs are something else. Some of you might also know me from different live events. I also focus on the inner critic and dealing with procrastination. Yep, Perfectionism. I have so much on my Inside Timer live profile you cannot imagine. But I just love doing this. I also have a 10 day course, How to Beat Procrastinating Behavior Through Mindfulness. It's in Dutch and in English. And this is just, You know, It is a hobby but it's an out of hand hobby I call it. Because I do my research. I am a research raft role and not only do I base it on my own experience, I do the research. And this visualization is actually based on schema therapy. And it works, That's why I do it. Because I want to improve what I share with you, The content. I really want to help people and I just don't want people to suffer like I have. Yeah, So hopefully by doing this I will help other people or you might enjoy it. That's also nice. And I saw the heart, The gratitude, I really appreciate it. And with your donations I can do even more. I can make more live events, I can do more research, Make different content as well. If there's something else you would like to talk about. Or would like to have a live session about, Share it in the chat. You know? Okay, Inner criticals, Last one, Yeah. Good topics for me. Well for me as well, Mark. Oh, You're Dutch heritage, Interesting. And I always appreciate it if you follow me or give me feedback or, You know, Even sharing in the chat. I love the content I have with you. Because sometimes it's really weird because I'm speaking into a microphone but you are not talking back. But when you talk in the chat it feels like we're communicating. Okay, So more people are entering. And I want to do a visualization with limiting beliefs. But before we go into the actual visualization I want to do a grounding exercise. Where you listen to four limiting beliefs and you pick one. Or you might already have an idea on which one you want to work. Here I already see, Read that Amy has a clear idea. I want to work on improving concentration, Focus and motivation. So what is the limiting belief behind it? You can't do it? So yeah, For those who already have an idea on what they want to work with, You can share it in the chat. I always like to get it out there before we get started. That also works really well for setting intentions. If you have no idea, I'm going to list four common core limiting beliefs in the beginning of our meditation. Then you can pick one which speaks most to you today. So not in your complete life but today, Which is really resonating with you. Yeah, Okay. I like courage and strength to deal with a conflict. Those aren't formulated as limiting beliefs. So yeah, Think of what is then the limiting belief you hold about yourself. It is a good subject to work on, Definitely. But there is something underlying there. And that's what I'm trying to say with we don't always know our limiting beliefs. We do know it, But we don't know, Know, Know it. If you know what I mean. Oh, Mark, That's a close one. It has to be perfect. I think I know which one you're going to pick. Okay, You believe you're a victim and you can't fight back. Okay. So it's more like I am weak or I am not strong enough, Maybe. But you know best, Not me, But you know best. But wording is important in this case. Because the first step is of course becoming aware. Yeah, Thanks all for sharing and your transparency. Oh Tanya, That's one of the core limiting beliefs. That's a good one. Yeah, I like to respect it and we all want to belong, Right? Makes me a little bit sad reading this, To be honest. But that's why we're here today, To do something about it. Okay, Yes, Let's get started. Because this is just a 30 minute practice and we're almost, We always finish one quarter of it. So I need to start with the meditation. Are you guys ready for some grounding? And let's just slow everything down and I invite you to listen for a moment. And I invite you to close your eyes if you haven't done so already. And sit with a straight spine. You can open your hands in your lap. And the feet touching the floor. And really feel how you are seated in your chair. And you might want to make contact with your feet on the floor by rubbing it so that you can connect with nature beneath you, The earth beneath you. And you can join me in taking a deep breath in through the nose and then hold it for a couple of seconds and breathe out more slowly than your in breath through pursed lips. So breathe in. Hold it. And just let go. Breathe in. Hold it. And let that negativity go. Breathe in. And you might want to bend over a little bit to completely empty your lungs. Final deep breath in. Hold it. And let go of your expectations. Return to your natural breath. And I am going to explain four limiting beliefs and really feel in your body what resonates most with you today. Or you can pick your own one. But choose whatever your body is giving you a signal for. The first one is I don't belong. And this is being rejected by peers or family or friends at an early age. Maybe you identify as a black sheep or an outsider. Or you might even avoid engaging with people because you just fear being rejected. Or you might swing to the other extreme and become overly concerned with being the perfect group member as long as you think you will belong. So the first one is I don't belong. The second one is the world is dangerous. And this negative limiting belief makes you worry a lot, You risk avoidance, You might believe there is evil or misfortune lurking around every corner. You restrict your activities and seek reassurance. For example from doctor's appointment you will google all your symptoms constantly. And perhaps you tend to overestimate the probability of negative limiting beliefs. And you are not thinking you can cope. So the second one is the world is dangerous. And the third one is I am not good enough. This feeling of not measuring up. Perhaps you had over critical parents, You had a sibling who was a genius. And you compare yourself to others. And you might even push yourself too hard because you are overcompensating. Or it might drive imposter syndrome. This constant feeling that you are fraught and people will unmask you someday. People who suffer from the I am not good enough, They also are prone to avoidance. For example procrastinating behaviour. Which allows them to say I didn't fail because I never really tried. So the third one is I am not good enough. The fourth one is a cousin of I am not good enough. And that's the I have to be perfect. And this limiting belief really leads people to drive themselves with these high standards. But they are unhealthy high standards and even their relationships might suffer. Perfectionists have unrealistic high expectations. And they tend to focus on flaws and missteps of themselves or even other people. And always this sense of there is too little time and they are overworking. So the fourth one is I have to be perfect. And I am going to ask you to take another deep breath in. Choose your limiting belief. Choose your limiting belief. I don't belong, The world is dangerous, I am not good enough, I have to be perfect. Or your personal one. And breathe that out. And now keep this feeling and go a little bit deeper in your body. Where does this belief come from? Did something happen? And how long do you have this belief? And we are going to figure that one out right now. I am going to ask you to visualize yourself in a field. And it's a peaceful place. It's a safe place and you can always leave this place if you feel uncomfortable. And in this field you can visualize your younger self walking towards you. If there are multiple versions of you right now, Choose the youngest version that is walking towards you. Or maybe they are even crawling. And see your younger self. And remember you are observing as an adult the one you are right now. And see your limiting belief and you as a child happening again. Is there a situation coming up? And perhaps you feel very negative, Negative emotions. But can you really feel that and breathe through it? And that younger version of you is now almost standing in front of you. And you have that limiting belief in the back of your mind. And can you really look at your younger self? Look them in the eyes. Maybe they are looking scared or sad, Unknown. And what's happening? And what are you feeling right now when you are looking at your younger self? And can you ask your younger self if there is something you would like to say about this limiting belief? And really listen. And you might want to stand a little bit closer to them if they allow it. Repeat what they have said like oh okay. And acknowledge their feelings. Maybe they told you it was a difficult situation. So is there something you would like to say back like I see you and I am here now to take care of you or yes I hear you and I will pay more attention to you from now on? Or yes that was a nasty situation happening with that limiting belief. But is it true? You really get a sense of what your inner child is expecting from you. You might even want to ask what are you expecting from me the adult? And maybe you would like to give them some comfort or advice or a message like I am all grown up now and I am doing my best. We are taking care of ourselves. We are doing our best. And if you want to comfort them maybe you can give your favorite toy or say some more comforting words. Perhaps they even want to play. I don't know it's your younger version and you now have some time to do that. And it's almost time to say goodbye but I am going to ask you to check with your younger self if it's okay to give them a hug. If it is I am going to ask you to give yourself an actual hug. And you can say goodbye to them. Say I will see you again very soon. Thank you for your help. See them walk away. Perhaps they are even jumping, Running away. But see them go in the distance. And you can place your hands on your heart and state out loud to them whilst they are walking away. I do belong. I am safe within me. I am good enough. I am perfectly whole. I am doing my best. I am good enough. I am lovable. I am safe. And I love you indeed. And thank yourself for taking this time apart, For investing in yourself. Thank the other 60 people here meditating with you. And you can slowly move around, Open your eyes. Open your eyes and come back. How was that experience? So we did a little bit of re-scripting based on schema therapy or visualization practice. And I wonder how was your experience? I have a question as well. We did at some point before we were talking to our inner child. We were feeling the feeling for the limiting belief. Was this a very big feeling? Or did you have trouble getting into that feeling? Because if it's a very big feeling, I urge you to, Well, I invite you to do another meditation of really feeling that feeling. Because that might actually help you release your limiting belief even more. Because sometimes we have stuck emotions in our body for our childhood trauma. But sometimes it's best to do that with a professional. So that's why I didn't want to go too much into it, Because I cannot see you. And that's why I was repeating, You are the adult here. You are not the inner child and you are in a safe place. Thank you, Victor, For the donation. And thank you, I really appreciate it. Because like I shared before, Now I can make more live events. I can do more. I can make better content. And I can do more research with your donations. And hopefully help more people. I really suffered from the, I am not good enough, I need to be perfect. And these were some of the things that really helped me. Visualization. And I incorporated different things, For example affirmations. And some grounding and some breathing exercise. And it was just a 20 minute practice. I am someone who does a rather quick one, Compared to some other meditation teachers. But I have the belief it doesn't have to take that long. Rather try to do it, You know, Regularly, Than meditate once a week for an hour. Oh, Thank you, AJ and Mark for the donations as well. Yes, I really appreciate it. Now I can do more. And I do have more visualizations on my Inside Timer. I will record a new one with your donations. This is perfect, Thank you. And yeah, I am just curious now to read about your experiences. We have a couple of minutes left. And Gina as well, Thank you so much. Please share, How was it like for you? Abram, Yes, I did read your comments, Thank you for sharing. Okay, Your 14 year old self, Amy. That was a very specific visualization you had that must have been very powerful or not. Sometimes the psychology studies say, You know, The most trauma happens between the ages of 7 and 11, But of course those ages are also crucial for our development. So I think, Yeah, I hope you had a great experience with this visualization. Yeah, Thank you so much for being here as well. Is there someone else who would like to share? Gina. Oh yeah, Oh yeah, Yeah, Indeed. Moving and divorce at the same time, Yep, Those are big events. I acknowledge that, Definitely. Oh, Okay Tanya, Interesting. Hmm, Is it absorbing from people or from your limiting belief, I wonder. Oh Mark, You went to a place you were visiting. Ah, Interesting how the mind works, Right? We do want to heal ourselves. It's sometimes weird that we do have the limiting beliefs, Which are not helpful, But at some point we also really want to heal ourselves. Interesting, Okay, Tanya, That's clear, Yeah. Thank you all for being so open and transparent with me. Really appreciate it. Okay, If that's it, Then I'm going to close off. It is time. I hope to see you in another life. In Dievmark, Yeah, Your times were splitting up. That would have definitely been a big event, Thank you. Wonderful, How do you say it? Aknoll, No, Awareness, Yeah, Awareness. Yeah, I do have to go, But I say indeed, Namaste, I say. And I hope to see you next time or hear from you again. Follow me on Inside Time, I really appreciate it. After this life event ends, You can see more life events popping up and now with your donations, I will make more content, Yay. So that makes me happy. Thank you all, Have a nice day or night ahead and I will see you soon. And thank you for the hearts, I really appreciate it. Bye.