Inner Critical Parent - Release Limiting Beliefs

Hello unique learners

This is part 2 of the limiting beliefs visualization. This track focuses on the inner critical parent and therefore it is encouraged to first listen to the inner child track.

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Transcript

Hello unique learners and welcome back to day 2 of releasing our limiting beliefs.

How did the other practice go?

It is an ongoing practice to visualize and work with our inner child to release limiting beliefs.

But there is also an other option,

And that is to focus on where it stems from in different aspects and how you react to your limiting beliefs.

In psychology studies they often state that you can react to a limiting or a core belief by surrendering,

Avoiding or overcompensating.

So what is that?

Limiting is really accepting your limiting belief and giving into it.

It usually results in behavior that actually reinforces or continues your limiting belief.

For example if you think I am unlovable and you give into it,

You will seek reassurance in all the patterns that people are not loving you and you think that's the truth.

You start to see it as reality and eventually it does become a reality.

Avoidance is where you attempt to live without triggering this limiting belief.

You might avoid activities or situations that could possibly trigger it or make you feel vulnerable.

Avoiding your limiting belief may leave you more prone to substance use,

Risky or compulsive behavior and other behaviors that provide a distraction.

For example when you believe you are not good enough,

But that limiting belief is so painful that you rather not feel it by using other substances.

And then you have overcompensation.

This involves attempting to fight this limiting belief by acting in a complete opposition.

This may seem like a healthy response,

But actually overcompensation generally goes too far.

It often leads to actions or behaviors that seem aggressive,

Demanding,

Insensitive or excessive in some way.

And this can take a toll on you and your relationship with others.

The examples I often give are things like perfectionism.

So now we know that you can surrender,

Avoid or overcompensate,

I'm going to invite you to pay attention to that from now on.

But going back to the previous practice we worked with our inner child.

As I said before that is one strategy to go with,

But we also have other voices within us.

You might be familiar with your inner critic.

Unfortunately I don't have a lot of time to go into that,

But our inner critic can actually also be a parent voice.

This is something we learned from a young age with a critical voice and perhaps your limiting belief stemmed from that.

If we believe psychology studies actually 90% stem from our parents,

Mostly our mother.

I mean look at Carl Jung and the mother complex.

But I'm not going into that.

I really want to focus on that critical parental voice.

And perhaps you have done visualizations before with your inner critic.

If not I have a couple of those here on the website as well.

But it's really great to become aware of this voice,

Of course don't listen to it,

But then learn how to deal with this critical parent voice.

It's important that we receive empathic confrontation or limited re-parenting.

In addition you can do this in therapy.

But there are also meditation practices which can contribute to this support.

Again I always advise you if you seek support that you go for a professional.

And use meditation as an addition and not as a substitute.

So are you ready to get started?

Let's slow everything down.

And sit with a straight spine,

Feet on the floor,

Hands opening your lap.

And close your eyes.

And I'm going to invite you to breathe in through the nose.

Hold it for a couple of seconds.

And breathe out through pursed lips,

Slower than your in breath.

So breathe in.

Hold it.

And let your expectations go.

Breathe in.

Hold it.

And let your thoughts go.

Breathe in.

Hold it.

And just let go.

Return to your natural breath.

And I'm going to ask you to set an intention to work with a limiting belief.

Perhaps you already have something in mind or listen to the four following limiting beliefs and feel in your body what resonates most with you.

The world is dangerous.

I don't belong.

I am not good enough.

I have to be perfect.

Now set your intention and ask yourself who told you this message?

Where did that belief come from?

Did something happen?

And how long do you have this belief?

If you find this difficult you can always return to your breath or pause the meditation.

Or try to see the person who said this to you or where this limiting belief came from.

And feel that limiting belief in your body.

Feel that negative.

If it gets too difficult return to your breath.

Where do you feel it?

This is shifting and breathe through it.

You are in control.

You are safe.

You are just noticing the negative feeling with that core belief.

Excellent.

Now I'm going to ask you to flip it.

We're going to focus on a positive memory of your childhood or something positive which happened recently.

And try to also feel this in your body.

Where do you feel that positive feeling and what is it?

Is it happiness?

Joy?

And just soak in that feeling and remind yourself that you can and will feel that way again.

So think of a time when you felt good and soaked in that feeling.

Feel it.

And I'm going to ask you to flip it again and go back to that limiting belief.

Where do you feel that in your body?

Has it shifted?

Has the intensity increased or decreased?

Can you feel that?

Feel that limiting belief and breathe that negativity out.

I'm going to ask you to flip it once more.

Can you go back to that same positive experience and where do you feel that in your body?

Has it shifted?

Has the intensity increased?

Breathe.

And really feel that positive experience which you deserve so much.

Excellent,

Well done.

And we're going to the final phase of this meditation.

And I'm going to ask you to place your hands on your heart and state it out loud with me or just really listen to what I have to say.

That limiting belief that was said to you,

That was given to you,

It is not true.

You didn't deserve that.

You were very young.

You did your best.

You don't have to suck it up.

Your feelings matter.

Someone should have been there for you.

You are important.

You are worthy.

You deserve to be safe.

Excellent,

Well done.

And can you give yourself a hug right now?

Your pain needs to be recognized and acknowledged.

It needs to be acknowledged and then released.

Avoiding pain is the same as denying it.

Quote,

Yong Kang Chan,

Parent yourself again.

And that's what we've been doing.

Thank yourself for taking this time apart.

And I thank you for trusting in me and practicing this meditation.

And you can open your eyes and move around a little bit.

So a brief summary of what we've done.

We became aware of our inner critical voice,

Which usually stems from an inner critical parent or caretaker.

And they often helped us getting that limiting belief.

I'm not going into a blame mode,

But this is where most of our limiting beliefs stem from from our childhood.

And what we've done is become aware of where it indeed came from,

But also whose voice it is and what we were lacking.

So it's really important to also reparent yourself by being kind and compassionate to the things you were lacking.

Another thing which we've done was feeling our emotions.

Limiting belief has to do often with big trauma or little trauma and stuck emotions which we haven't processed yet.

And one way of doing that is by starting slow and really feel that negative limiting belief,

But flip it.

Focus if it gets too difficult to a positive experience and then return to the negative feeling so that it's easier to process.

Unfortunately this is not a quick fix and maybe you found it difficult and that is why I invite you to try this practice more often.

Again thank you for your participation and I wish you a lovely day or night ahead.

Namaste.

Reviews

So gentle and beautiful! Highly effective to feel those emotions. Thank you 🙏💙

Thank you, very well done & helpful.

I love her meditations. The science plus practice. It has really helped me work on my reparenting.

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