Hi,
I'm Dr.
Kim.
I want to speak today for anyone who has ever felt unworthy,
Unseen,
Or not enough,
Simply for being who you are.
Last night,
I had a dream that brought something full circle for me.
In the dream,
I found myself back in a place from my childhood that used to cause me a lot of pain.
A dance school where I was bullied,
Where I felt like I never belonged.
But in this dream,
I was at peace.
I was getting along with the mean girls.
I wasn't feeling insecure.
I wasn't triggered.
I had somehow let it go.
When I woke up,
I was reminded of how far I've come.
That studio used to be hell for me.
I had anxiety every time I stepped in the doors.
I was the only Asian person in the entire place,
And the teachers and students were,
Simply put,
Mean and racist.
I have had many recurring dreams of being back there,
Trying my best to fit in and gossip,
Having to prove my belonging again and again.
This dream was so different.
I felt a sense of peace and forgiveness instead.
Then I was struck with the idea to create this talk,
Because I healed when I finally stopped trying to belong in places that didn't value me.
There's a deeper spiritual truth here.
Sometimes the universe places us in situations that feel painful,
Not because we deserve it,
But because contrast is how we learn clarity.
When we are not valued,
It hurts,
But that pain becomes a signal,
A compass.
It teaches us what we do want.
It teaches us where our soul longs to go.
And it shows us what we are no longer available for.
Growing up as a Chinese woman in Perth in the 90s and 2000s,
I experienced racism that left deep scars I carried for years.
Growing up,
I made myself as small and as quiet and as white as possible.
I denied my Asian roots and even made my Australian accent so thick and broken just to fit in.
I remember literally pretending to like barbecues and beer,
Which is crazy to me now.
But no matter what I did,
I still wasn't truly accepted,
Because on face value,
I look Asian.
I lived every day in fear that someone was going to yell a racist comment at me in public.
And it wasn't until much later,
When I moved to Thailand,
That I understood what safety actually feels like.
It's a place where I don't have to worry about discrimination based on my looks alone.
It's what it feels like to be in a place where I don't have to defend my existence.
That experience taught me a simple truth that I live by now.
Go where you are valued.
Now I want to be clear,
I'm not saying that racism doesn't exist in Thailand.
Of course it does,
As it does everywhere in the world.
But for me personally,
It's where I feel safe.
It's where I can relax,
Feel seen and simply exist without constant vigilance.
That's what matters.
It's everywhere.
But it's simply where I feel safe.
It will look different for everyone.
Spirit never wastes pain.
Every time you are in a place that does not reflect your worth,
It is a gift in disguise.
A signpost that says,
This is not your home,
There is more for you,
You deserve better.
Keep moving.
Sometimes our soul contracts include difficult chapters,
Not to break us but to wake us up,
To grow our discernment,
To teach us how to say,
This is not for me,
I choose something else.
I have walked away from relationships,
Jobs and countries because I wasn't valued.
I now have what I call a divine intolerance for spaces where I do not feel safe to be myself.
I simply exit and choose something else because there is always something better available.
I now live in Chiang Mai,
Northern Thailand because I wasn't safe in Australia.
I work for myself after realising that I have never been truly valued in any workplace.
I am in a beautiful relationship after leaving many that didn't serve me.
I am far away from my family because they have never supported or understood my path in life.
And the peace and relief I feel has been life-changing.
I am fully seen,
Supported by those around me and safe to be myself.
It was only being in this state that allowed me to start my own online healing business and change lives all over the world.
I want you to reflect on your own life right now.
Is there a space where you're still trying to belong in?
Where you feel insecure?
Where your voice is silenced?
Where you're not safe to be yourself?
Where you feel invisible?
What would it mean to stop trying to earn your place and instead go where your gifts are welcomed?
What would it feel like to be loved and supported without needing to prove?
You are allowed to leave the rooms where you are only tolerated.
You are allowed to break contracts that silence your song.
You are allowed to walk away from jobs,
Relationships,
Institutions that diminish you.
The universe is always ready to meet you in your next choice.
But first,
You must choose yourself.
May this be your reminder.
You are worthy of spaces that reflect your light.
You are worthy of communities that embrace your truth.
You are worthy of a life that honors your soul.
And if you haven't found it yet,
That's okay.
Your job is not to shrink to fit.
It's to keep moving until you find what fits you.
And once you find it,
You'll wonder why you ever settled for less.
Go where you are valued.
And if it doesn't exist yet,
Create it.
I would love to hear your thoughts on this topic.
Please let me know by leaving a review or comment.
Thank you so so much for listening and I will see you tomorrow.
