The Nature Of Compassion

Join us for this talk about the nature of Compassion. What is it? What is the transpersonal aspect of it? What happens when we forget, and how to remember? This is a unique opportunity to grow beyond self-inflicted limitations, towards an Awakened consciousness. Do not miss it...!

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So hello people,

Welcome to this unique opportunity we give ourselves to stop the rush and to breathe together,

Walk the path together,

Support each other on the path,

Share our questions,

Our wonders,

Our conflicts,

Our doubts,

Our difficulties or whatever it is that you feel that still stands between you and an awakened consciousness.

So this is your stage,

Your opportunity to help us grow in it,

Not hiding,

By exposing yourself,

Be vulnerable,

Anywhere you are protected by this platform.

So do support the evolution of this united consciousness that is currently asking questions and seeking for answers.

Okay.

Heche is asking,

Please talk about compassion in marriage.

Compassion in marriage,

Why limit that to marriage,

When not just to speak about compassion?

You know,

Compassion is unlimited.

What is compassion?

Yesterday,

I told a story about my own grandmother.

You know,

My grandmother,

She died quite young,

She had Alzheimer's.

I think she was maybe 71,

72 when she died.

And I followed her in her last years,

And it was a painful process to see how a person loses all the shells until it's really an empty shell.

There's nothing in there,

No context to anything,

Doesn't even know how to function,

How to use a fork,

Not to mention any interpersonal relationship.

There is no persona there to have a relationship,

It's completely empty.

But even in her last days,

Where she was completely absent,

What was still there is compassion.

It was quite amazing to see.

There is no context or personal reference,

But compassion as a pure emotion was there.

And you know,

If somebody,

You know,

Hurt himself in her room,

She was immediately,

Are you okay?

Are you okay?

It was an amazing lesson for me to realize that compassion is not a quality that we acquire as we develop in person,

But it comes before that.

And even if you peel away everything,

Compassion is still there.

So what am I saying?

When you are connected to the true essence of who you are,

What you are,

You realize compassion describes that.

Compassion describes what you are.

It's that connectedness.

It's an emotional expression of oneness,

To be one with your pain is my pain.

And there is no difference between you and me.

It's the same.

It's one entity experiencing life.

And that now extrapolated to any relationship you may have.

It doesn't matter if it's your spouse or your dog or,

You know,

That person on the street that you pass by.

Why do you think we find it harder sometimes when we're in a relationship or a marriage?

Of course,

The more intimate the relationship is,

The more exposed we are,

Right?

The more the danger of being hurt is present,

Right?

If it's somebody I don't know,

I don't care about,

I can just ignore him and it doesn't affect me,

Easy.

But if it's my spouse and I meet them daily and they know me better than anybody else,

I'm exposed.

It's difficult to avoid it.

So the more intimate the relationship is,

The more potential for me to be in pain.

And I've met that pain many,

Many,

Many,

Many times before with my spouse.

So I know I'm prepared,

Right?

And naturally,

People consciously or unconsciously try to avoid the pain,

Right?

We believe that pain is bad and comfort and pleasure is good.

So we try to avoid the pain and increase the pleasure.

That's the beginning of the human drama,

Right?

So what to do?

You know,

Embrace the pain.

Realize it's a part of any relationship.

It's a part of the relationship that you have with life itself,

Not just with your partner.

Life is painful.

The fact that you are in a body is already pain.

Like this is the first noble truth of the Buddha out of the four that he was teaching.

The first one is life is pain,

Life is suffering.

Embrace the pain.

Then you realize it's just complementing pleasure.

It's not contradicting it.

It gives the pleasure depth,

Meaning,

Context.

An awakened consciousness does not define between the two.

It's open to embrace both whenever they happen.

And I would say more than that.

Once you are in conflict with your partner,

With your spouse,

Instead of victimizing yourself around it,

Use it as a leverage to grow if you're truly honest on the spiritual path.

And you truly mean it when you say,

Yes,

I want liberation.

I want awakening.

Of course,

That doesn't mean that you will achieve that because you want it,

But it will take you far away on the path.

If you're honest in that declaration,

Then you use those opportunities to learn.

What are you still triggered about?

Why are you still triggered about that?

What can you learn about yourself?

What are you hiding from the world?

And most importantly,

How can you react differently next time it happens?

So you're not intimidated anymore by any event.

And if you need to air a certain scenario and put some light in it,

This is your opportunity.

AJ is asking,

How do we support,

Out of compassion,

Other people's awakening?

Don't worry about their awakening.

And don't worry about what to do with your compassion,

How to manifest your compassion.

It will happen naturally,

Harmoniously.

It's not you choosing what to do between different options.

Just let that flow happen openly,

Like we say,

With an open heart and a willing soul.

And that energy of compassion,

Of unconditional love,

Will flow through you and it will do the right thing.

That's why my answer to all the questions that start with what to do is,

Do the right thing.

How do we know what the right thing is?

And the thing that you choose to do is a manifestation of unconditional love,

As opposed to fear.

So another way to look at it would be,

What would I choose to do if I was free of fear?

Any fear.

What Jesus would do.

WWJD.

WWJD.

If Jesus was in my shoes now,

What would he choose to do?

Or Buddha,

Whatever figure you want to relate to.

This is the path of love.

This is what love would naturally flow towards.

So follow that route.

And it will take you harmoniously to the right place.

Don't worry about that.

Do you think it's different in a marriage or a spousal relationship when,

I don't know how exactly to put this,

But if you're,

Like I'm trying to draw on what AJ is getting at,

Where you're,

You know,

Maybe a little bit on a different part of the path and it's difficult to meet at sort of a similar space or level,

Or you're having a hard time finding those common places where you can meet,

Where maybe in your past,

In the past,

In your current relationship,

That was easier common ground to find.

But as people grow and change and evolve personally,

They can,

What we might say,

Grow apart.

First of all,

And it's important to understand,

Let go of the idea that other people,

Other situation affects your ability to grow on the spiritual path.

The most essential realization,

The essence of freedom is realization that situations do not affect my growth,

Right?

Like we said here in the beginning of this session,

Eyes closed,

Realize thoughts have no power,

Emotions have no power,

Sensations have no power.

It's me who is observing those phenomenons,

Those sensations.

I give it the power.

I can choose not to give it the power.

Why?

Because I'm the observer.

The secret never hides in the circumstance,

Never.

So regain that authority.

You are the captain of your ship.

The sea can be calm,

The sea can be rough.

You are the captain.

Stop victimizing yourself again and again because of circumstances and events and people and what they say and what they do or not do.

And does it meet your expectations and your conditions and your.

.

.

Let go of that.

This is diving back into the drama.

An awakened consciousness cannot be intimidated by life and what happens in it.

How can it be free and bonded?

It cannot.

They cannot coexist.

Either you are free from that bondage or you are bonded.

So people may do,

May say,

May think whatever they want.

It's got nothing to do with me and my freedom.

And then you realize that separation between them and me is out of visual anyways.

But at least in the beginning,

Let go of the idea that you are dependent on that,

On the circumstance.

Otherwise,

You are always attached to your story,

No?

That's the fifth level of existence,

If you read my book.

Me and my story and I have to fix my story,

Otherwise I'm stuck,

That's it.

When will I be happy?

When will I be free?

When I retire?

When my spouse,

You know,

Change?

Okay,

So you can sit and wait.

It doesn't work like that.

Let me tell you a story.

There's a beautiful woman who was a spiritual teacher in her later years,

Like in when she was already living in a protected house,

How do you call it,

Elderly home.

She was in her 80s when she started teaching.

And why so late?

Because she was married,

As a young woman,

She got married to a man and the man was quite abusive and extremely controlling and narcissistic and all that.

It was the old ages and she came to fully blossom in her 30s,

But she followed her heart and consciously decided to stay married to this man and be his wife.

That was what her heart told her to do.

And that's what she did for decades after she was awakened.

And she didn't teach,

She didn't touch any spiritual work because he didn't allow that,

He didn't want to hear about it.

And when he got old,

He became dependent and she nursed him for years until he died.

And she was already in her late 70s at that point.

Then she started to teach.

And she was completely fine with that.

There was no inner conflict.

There was only compassion and love flowing through her.

I met her,

I think a few years before she died.

A beautiful manifestation of unconditional love.

And her name was Lily.

She was teaching once a week in that elderly home that she was living in.

To all the geriatric people that didn't understand what she was saying.

Why am I telling you this?

Because it doesn't really matter.

Unconditional love flows in its own natural path.

Sometimes it's towards your partner,

Sometimes it's away from your partner.

It's got nothing to do with what you believe you need in order to be free or happy.

So when will you know for sure that you are on the path of love?

When your decisions lose their meaning.

And you're taking a harmonious path that flows naturally through you together with unconditional love.

And there's no fear guiding you anymore in your decision making process.

What will I gain?

What will I lose?

It's not about that at all.

So next time you look at your spouse,

Remember,

Unconditional love is what I am.

I love you not because you are doing this or that,

Or because you believe this or that,

Or because you are good to me or bad to me,

Or fulfill any need or desire.

This is not the reason we are together,

Or at least not for my part.

Why are we together?

Because through you I get daily opportunity to express unconditional love,

Which is what I am.

I just had a thought that this woman you were talking about,

If she fully blossomed at that point in her life,

That she was divinely given this greater challenge through this person that she had married.

We can probably all relate to the idea that that would be very difficult to live with for the rest of your life.

Life can be challenging for sure,

But nobody promised you a rose garden.

There's a big difference between living through that and dealing with it throughout your lifetime and living with it in this beautiful,

Compassionate way,

No matter what's coming at you.

Yeah.

Yeah,

Precisely.

Life can be challenging.

Life can be difficult.

Some people are more privileged than others.

They live a more comfortable life than others.

So it's not supposed to be like that.

Wealth should be distributed equally.

Says who?

Because it's more just,

Because it's more right,

Because I have an opinion about it.

It's just an invitation for more frustration,

More anger.

You let go of the idea that you need anything else other than what you already have.

What you don't have,

You don't need.

How do I know?

Because you don't have it.

And if in the future you will have it,

Then good.

But it's got nothing to do with what you are and your own freedom.

See what I'm saying?

There you are.

What else?

Maybe it leads to Michelle's question.

How can one tell the difference between unconditional love and duty or responsibility?

Responsibility doesn't contradict love.

It's a natural byproduct of love.

Think about this sentence again.

Responsibility does not contradict love.

It's a natural byproduct of love.

You don't take responsibility.

There is a whole talk that I did a few months ago about responsibility.

Just go back to my Insight Timer page and look for that.

The title is Never Take Responsibility.

Listen to it.

Don't be lazy.

Find it and listen to it.

Responsibility is a natural byproduct.

When you are in love,

When you truly love something,

It doesn't matter if it's a person or a project or something.

Think about something that you do out of love and this is your baby.

Do you feel that it's important that you take responsibility?

Would you just feel responsible?

Of course I am responsible.

It's part of me.

I love being responsible.

It's not a burden.

It's not a task.

I would do that 24-7 if life would allow me to do that.

So don't be intimidated by responsibility.

Don't try to expand artificially what you are responsible of.

The opposite.

Expand your love.

Let it include more and more and more.

Some responsibility will follow.

Don't worry about that.

And Barbara says,

Your words ring in my ears.

Add humility.

I really do not know.

Good,

Good,

Please.

I can sense the devotion in your words.

It's beautiful.

What is devotion?

Devotion is the ability to stay intimate even when there is no logical explanation.

The mind or the intellect are not busy with trying to figure out answers to questions.

It's a matter of the heart being open.

The need staying open.

This person named Yes says,

How can I navigate the complexity of wanting to reconnect with my father after two months of silence,

Especially considering past boundary issues,

While also wanting to maintain a healthy balance between openness and respect in our relationship?

First I would say,

Let go of the conditioning.

Don't expect any healthy balance that would be similar to the ideas that you have about what healthy balance should look like.

Don't worry about that.

You see,

When you act because of that belief,

Our relationship should be healthily balanced.

There is already some kind of a frame that you are willing to work within.

And if it crosses a certain imaginary line that you draw in the sand,

Then that's it.

You cannot accept that,

You cannot be a part of that.

You see,

You limit yourself.

Which is a shame because the truth is that you are limitless.

Your capacity to love is unlimited.

It has no boundaries,

No conditions.

That's the point of unconditional love.

So if there is a conflict with anyone,

What to do?

First have compassion,

Compassion to the other person,

Compassion to yourself,

That for some reason you slipped back into the drama.

You were confused,

You were forgetful,

You were unaware and you were carried away by an idea about what should have happened instead of falling in love with the present moment as it manifests.

Have compassion,

Don't judge the other people,

Don't judge yourself.

Then use that as an opportunity to learn what still needs to be resolved there within you,

Not of the other person.

What still steals your heart,

Closes it.

What idea do you still protect about what is right,

What is wrong,

What should happen,

What should not happen,

What a healthy,

Harmonious,

Balanced relationship should look like as opposed to whatever is happening right now.

Let go of that and come back to an open heart,

Which is what you are,

And then let that speak.

Usually it will be manifesting as,

I am here for you.

What can I do for you?

That's it.

I don't need anything from you,

I don't demand anything from you,

I don't expect anything from you.

We are not in relationship because there is a need or a want that drives me.

I come clear of any agenda or motivation.

I am peace,

I am love,

And that flows.

Make it until you make it.

Even if you don't really feel it,

It doesn't matter.

Just train your system,

Train your mind,

Train your heart to act unconditionally.

And you'll see,

Eventually this will be realized as your nature.

Go to your father,

I am here for you.

Forgive me if I hurt you,

That wasn't my intention,

I am here for you,

That's it.

I love you because you are my father,

End of sentence,

Exclamation point,

That's it.

And see what happens.

And do it honestly.

See what happens.

See what happens to a person that receives an invitation to be engaged in unconditional loving relationship.

It's funny how thinking about faking it till you make it in that context is the only time that it's not actually a lie because there's always the truth of who you really are underneath there.

And it just naturally comes out.

Whereas if you fake something that is a lie and not real,

That would never work.

That's weird.

What is fake is your persona trying to hide that from the world and from yourself.

It's the idea that I'm disconnected and I'm motivated by lack.

That's fake.

AJ was asking for us to address Michelle's question,

Which I thought we did,

But I'll read it again.

How can one tell the difference between unconditional love and duty or responsibility?

You were saying there is no difference.

Responsibility is just a natural outcome of unconditional love.

Yeah.

Don't worry about responsibility.

Worry about love.

Expand the circle of what you love.

Responsibility will follow naturally as an outcome.

Not as a conscious decision that you make of about what you should be responsible about and not.

Don't worry about that.

Yes says,

Thank you.

I sent him a letter a few days ago.

Today I was thinking to invite him to come over to the country,

Over the country I love.

Came to find some meditations and found yours for healing with parents and then jumped to this Q&A.

Thank you.

Good.

Good.

Good.

Yeah.

And another thing,

You reach your hand unconditionally.

The other person can choose to accept that or reject that.

That's nothing to do with you.

That's all about them and the way they choose to live.

And if they choose to close their heart and stay frustrated and angry,

You just have compassion.

You know,

This person is acting out of his own suffering,

His own ignorance.

What happens when I meet suffering?

I feel compassion.

That's it.

No judgment,

No expectation.

I still love you unconditionally.

Doesn't matter.

Okay.

What else?

I was thinking,

It's such a beautiful story about the elderly woman that you talked about.

Lili.

Lili.

And how I think the expectation extends or the idea that we don't have expectations extends to a lot to ourselves.

Like if we hear a story like that,

We sort of expect that we are just going to be able to do this same thing,

You know,

And I don't know,

That just kind of sounds like a recipe for failure.

What does?

The idea that we can just automatically,

You know,

Accept the idea that most of us living on this planet can just,

You know,

Live a lifetime of abuse and neglect from our spouse or our parents and not have any resentment or trauma or,

You know,

Holding on by the end of our lives.

Most of us will have resentment and trauma because we are not in a manifestation of our true potential.

Because we act out of our own suffering and our own ignorance about the true essence of who we are,

Then of course the lack and the need keeps motivating us and manipulates the way we experience life.

But I'm here to suggest an alternative to that,

And you can choose whether to adopt that alternative and grow towards it or not.

That's okay.

Can you experience life without being a victim of it?

Without being traumatized by it?

Can you?

100%.

And there are those people that are a living example of such a life.

The question is not if it's possible.

It's not even the question of is it realistic?

The question is do you want it?

That's the question.

Because the obvious answer would be yes,

Why not?

But the true answer is more often than other,

No,

Not really.

It's much,

Much more familiar and comfortable to stay in the victim and complain about life.

It's much more safe that way.

It's within what I know.

It's a part of my comfort zone.

If I shed off that shield,

I'm much more exposed to life.

Am I willing to be?

Embracing life and everything it has to offer,

Painful or pleasurable,

Unconditionally,

Or do I want to keep myself safe and protected?

In control to avoid the pain and only go to the pleasure?

That's the question.

Not if it's possible or realistic,

But do you really want it?

Do you choose that and go there,

Sankalpa,

With your full attention?

That's what I want.

That's what I want to achieve.

And this is where I'm going to realize myself.

I don't care what the price is.

Yeah?

What else?

It's still not resolved there.

Yeah,

I'm thinking how what a conundrum it is to talk about,

You know,

The spiritual path and,

You know,

Walking on this path on a journey towards a destination of enlightenment.

But then,

You know,

You flip that coin around and enlightenment can come like that.

You know,

So how do we sort of bridge that gap where,

Like I said,

Most of us are not in that place where we can just snap our fingers at 30 years old and go,

Well,

Throw anything at me.

I can take it all.

Yeah.

You know,

Like how do we,

What does it look like in that process while we're still trying to get there?

And I know trying is not a good word.

It looks like this.

This is how it looks like.

It's like a,

I remember,

Like a devotion,

A dedication.

Yeah.

Yeah.

I'm committed to my conscious choice.

Like a one track mind in that sense.

Yeah.

To be realized as unconditional love.

That's it.

That's what I'm interested in.

And nothing else can steal my attention.

That's it.

And then I forget.

And I find myself,

You know,

Diving into the drama again,

Whatever.

And then I remember.

I remind myself,

No,

No,

This is what I want.

And then I forget.

And then I remind myself.

And then I forget.

Again and again.

This is the pulse of life.

Don't judge yourself.

Don't criticize yourself.

Don't,

You know,

Be too hard on yourself because you forget.

That's where I meant,

Like,

We can't have expectations about ourself in that sense.

Yeah.

Don't.

Don't do that.

You just pour gasoline on the fire of drama.

And that's a judgment.

And the more you practice,

The more you remind yourself through ceremonies,

Through sadhana,

Practice,

You know,

You find naturally that it's easier to remember and more difficult to forget.

And the way back home is shorter again and again and again until one day you wake up and there is no forgetfulness anymore.

You just are a manifestation of that.

And it's irreversible.

Will it happen to you?

I don't know.

Can it happen to you?

100%.

How can you promote the prospect of that happening to you?

Devote yourself.

Make it the top of your priorities.

This is more important to me than anything else.

Then it's more important than being right and being just and standing on my principles and whatever,

You know,

All the conditions you might have about your life.

This is more important.

And every time it conflicts with anything else,

This wins.

So I think something that keeps coming up is people asking about boundaries.

So maybe a way we can look at how these external influences help us on this path or hinder us on this path.

Is it useful at all to think of something like a boundary,

Setting a boundary with a parent or a spouse or some sort of relationship where you can manage it easier?

What is your,

Where does that land?

Is it a tool?

Is it something we should talk about or think about or use?

You need boundaries as long as you have a relationship with life that is led by that sense of lack and want and need.

Life is a dangerous place and you need to protect yourself against it.

So I can accept,

But until this point,

Beyond that point,

I cannot accept.

This is too much.

Of course,

This is an artificial structure that you surround yourself with.

When you are awakened,

Boundaries are irrelevant.

Who needs boundaries?

Against what?

You know,

It's ridiculous.

There's no meaning.

But boundaries can be there,

Not for you.

And you can be the one putting the boundaries,

But not for you.

You put the boundaries for the other person because they need the boundary at some point.

And I always tell,

Go back to that story about my teacher with a pillow,

Right?

When there was a woman that was disturbing the peace of the audience one of those nights and she was,

You could see she was a bit disturbed,

Off her center.

So at one point,

My teacher,

Guruji,

He said to her,

Lovingly,

Compassionately,

I sense your pillow is longing for your head.

And that's it.

It's not because he was intimidated or needed her to shut up.

She needed that.

So he gave it.

There's nothing personal about it.

There's nothing,

There's no agenda there.

Do you see?

I'm not protecting anything.

I'm providing a service that you need.

What do you need now?

You need to know when it's enough.

So I'm the messenger.

But you don't do that to please me or to help me feel better about myself.

Do you see the difference?

If you are not there,

Then use boundaries,

But always remember and remind yourselves that this is an artificial artifact.

You don't really need it.

It's just a temporary structure that you built to help you stay committed to your path.

How does the path lead to unconditional,

Unbounded openness and softness?

Okay?

What else?

Ajay was asking,

Is there evil?

How there are those who embody the antithesis of unconditional love or compassion?

If so,

How would you guide on engaging with that?

Hitler or your mother-in-law,

For example.

It's nice that you put them in the same sentence.

You know,

Don't worry about evil.

I wouldn't divide the world into those categories.

If you need to divide the world into two,

I would suggest ignorance and knowledge.

Most of us are motivated by ignorance,

Simply unaware of who they are and led by a false sense of separation,

Guided by lack,

Blinded by frustration and anger and hate and fear.

So this is how the best that they can do it.

That's what they manifest,

Right?

And when you are in the expression of self-knowledge,

You simply don't hate anymore.

So don't worry about good or evil.

There is no good in it.

Not really.

Okay?

Don't worry about good and evil.

And if you feel you see someone that is driven by ignorance,

You just have compassion.

That's it.

No judgment.

Your suffering is my suffering.

I can feel your pain.

That's it.

Who else?

We have to rush through these questions because our time is running out.

Oh,

Okay.

I think we addressed this one already.

Olga was asking about when your family members,

For example,

Keep violating your boundaries.

How is that not a violation to yourself to keep letting them in based on this premise of unconditioned love?

You don't need boundaries.

You don't need anything,

Especially from your parents.

You are an expression of unconditional love.

If it's unconditional love,

It doesn't require anything.

Maybe not boundaries.

How can you have freedom and be bounded,

Obviously?

You cannot.

You choose.

What do you want?

Do you want to be bounded or do you want to be free?

Let go of this idea,

I need to receive a certain type of love,

Otherwise I cannot love back.

No,

Let go of that.

That's nonsense.

You know,

Some people think that you sound crazy when you say those things.

That's okay.

That's why there are only 60 people here today.

Like I need to feel safe and like I need to feel that sense of security and especially when it's somebody that is supposed to unconditionally love me,

Like my family or my parents.

The only thing that is under your responsibility is your unconditional love.

What they do with their love and their hearts is their story.

It's their path.

You cannot control that.

Let go of the idea they need to give you a certain type of love.

It's nonsense.

What they needed to do,

They already did.

And that was to bring you to this world and this body.

That's what they did many years ago and that's it.

Michelle has some wise words along those lines.

We must always remember that the person who heard us was doing the best they could with what was in their toolbox,

With the limited skills they possessed.

Yeah.

How do they know that they were supposed to act differently?

Who told you that?

Because you have an idea about their actions,

About their thoughts and beliefs.

Drop that idea.

It kills your freedom.

It's got nothing to do with them.

I was supposed to receive a different type of parenting.

What?

Why?

Who told you that?

Because it sounds reasonable?

Let go of that.

Listen to the talk that I recorded many months ago about how to heal your relationship with your parents.

Okay?

Search it.

It's a full hour just on that.

What else?

Barbara said,

In the story of Lili,

I saw myself as the elderly,

Mindless recipient of Lili's truth and love.

And then she asked,

Carly,

Did you picture yourself as Lili?

Definitely.

She needs to accept me.

Imagine that.

Jesus Christ.

Pradeep said,

Is enlightenment a form of jadedness that comes from having seen or thought in us?

What is jadedness?

Like a slanted view of the world,

Usually in a negative context.

No.

Definitely not.

I think that's what they meant.

A form of jadedness that comes from having seen or thought in us.

It's definitely a symbol of matureness,

Ripeness.

In a sense,

Yes,

You have seen enough drama.

And you realize you don't need that anymore.

It's completely futile.

And you choose an open heart,

Which is vulnerable,

Exposed,

Embracing everything life has to offer.

So in a sense,

Yeah,

You stop filtering out of life what you believe you want and need and avoiding the rest.

So in that sense,

Yeah,

It's definitely a symbol of matureness.

And it could be a result of many,

Many lifetimes that you already were on this path.

Or it could be just,

I don't know,

A miracle.

Sil said,

Finally,

I understand why no boundaries are needed.

Thank you.

Yeah,

You're welcome.

Spread that word.

Be a manifestation of that.

Be a living example of that.

Don't hold to this as an idea,

As a philosophy.

It's completely futile as a theoretical idea.

Manifest it.

Be a living example of that.

What else?

AJ asked,

Are there any others that we must avoid?

Others that remove us from the path?

Did you hear me say anything about avoiding anything?

No.

I'm not sure if I was aware of it.

Don't avoid the opposite.

Why would you avoid life?

If it has something to offer in the present moment,

Pleasant or unpleasant,

You embrace that,

Accept it,

Love it.

Why?

Because it's there in front of you.

It's a present moment,

And present moment is sacred.

Whether it meets your expectations and your conditions and your demands,

Or contradicts them,

It doesn't matter.

You always prefer the present moment.

So how can you avoid anything?

You don't.

And James asked,

Have you ever wondered why some people are more introverted while others are more outgoing and extroverted?

Why people sometimes have black hair and sometimes,

What is it,

Chateau,

How do you put it?

Blonde?

Brown?

Here.

Red?

Why is not a good question.

I don't know why.

It's just the way it is.

It doesn't matter.

You love what is,

Whether you are an extrovert or an introvert,

Whatever.

And you know,

As you grow on the path,

That persona loses its grip.

And you can express unconditional love in any way or form.

Because it's the nature of love,

Not your nature.

Do you see the difference?

That personal expression of it loses its meaning.

Of course,

There is a shade there,

Which gives it beauty because,

You know,

It makes every path a little different and unique.

But you're not bonded to that anymore.

You're not obliged to do this or that,

To believe this or that,

To express it in any specific way.

Okay?

Last question.

We have some unresolved thoughts about these boundaries.

You need to get at the bottom of this.

So we should develop a lesson to boundaries.

Yeah,

That's a good idea.

So Olga's asking,

I don't know,

I'm going to need some time to digest the premise that we don't need boundaries.

Because when we don't have boundaries with certain people,

They feel they have free reign to disrespect you whenever they want,

As many times as they want.

So on that,

I say,

You be a beautiful donut.

You just opened a can of worms there.

I think the next session is devoted to this topic.

Yeah,

Let's do that.

Let's meet next Saturday or Friday.

Let's see.

Just follow my schedule.

And let's discuss that in depth.

Yeah,

It's an important one.

Bring your questions.

Bring your doubts.

Bring your concerns.

Bring your friends.

And let's make it a pouch.

So I would like to thank you very much for your presence.

Olga says,

My doormat says,

Keep away,

Not welcome.

Okay,

That's one possibility.

We're going to discuss other possibilities.

That's really sweet.

I want that same doormat.

Thank you for your time,

Your questions,

Your attentions,

And your donations.

They are very helpful.

And looking forward to see you again next week.

Bye bye.

Love you very much.