Ego-less Relationships

What drives us into and out of relationships?

Join us to unveil the reasons we are seeking relationships and the causes we end up losing them. What does an enlightened relationship look like, and is it realistic to hope for one? And most importantly- how to use this discussion to grow towards Self Realization.

Transcript

We're going to start with a short ceremony.

So sit comfortably on your seat.

Let's take a deep breath in,

And let go.

Let's close our eyes and take another deep breath in.

And the next breath in,

We keep in,

We don't breathe out.

And slowly breathe out,

And let go.

Let go of all your efforts.

Let go of everything that already happened in the past.

Let go of everything that may happen in the future.

And allow your breath to guide you back to the present moment,

To whatever is happening right now around you.

Become fully aware of your surroundings,

Every detail that it produces for you.

Become aware of your own body,

The posture of your body on its seat.

Become aware of the breath as it flows in and out of your body in its own natural rhythm.

Every breath in fills your body with oxygen,

With life.

And every breath out cleanses the body and relaxes more and more.

Become aware of your thoughts.

What are you thinking of right now?

Be aware as the thoughts fly through your consciousness like clouds in the sky without getting too entangled or carried away by any specific thought.

Just observe,

Observe all those happenings that occur around you and within you.

Restful and alert.

Allow all those phenomenas to happen as they do.

And as this flow of events continues,

Allow your awareness to turn back towards itself.

The observer is now observing the observer,

That space within that exists before and beyond all of the happenings,

That space within where there is no movement.

There is only silence.

And for a moment,

Become that silence.

And a deep breath in,

Allow your attention to come back to your body that is seated here upon its seat,

Part of our virtual circle.

Let's unite our individual intentions into one unified intention.

The intention to grow,

To develop,

To evolve.

And with a smile,

Let's take another deep breath in.

When you feel comfortable,

May open your eyes.

Hello everyone,

Welcome to this unique opportunity where we give ourselves some time to walk the path together,

To support each other's growth and to develop not just as individuals on the path,

But as a united consciousness.

And we remember that what propels this forward movement is that tension that hides between the question and the answer.

So the more sincere and meaningful is the question that you bring,

The more potential it carries to help you grow.

What do you say?

What do you want to talk about today?

Last time we were venturing into the topic of relationships after speaking about rejection and why it is that we feel so strongly affected by people who it feels reject us.

Maybe because it's something we did or some way we believe we are.

And we take those things very personally and it informs how we see ourselves and how we define ourselves.

So in the context of relationships,

What happens when we get into a relationship and we feel rejected by our intimate partner or any loved one that we want to be in our lives,

But we have some sort of conflict with?

And then how do we choose maybe to get out of that relationship or how do we do that while maintaining an open heart?

Wow,

There are many questions folded into one.

So first it's important to understand what propels us to get into a relationship.

And to understand that force,

We need to understand the ego.

Ego is that illusion of separated self,

Separated identity.

There is me and there is the rest of the world and we are negotiating.

Why are we negotiating?

Because when there is a separated identity that I refer to and identify with,

There is always a sense of lack coming with that.

You are only in touch,

In connection with your own limited resources that are yours to protect.

And there is always the need,

The want to get more.

There's always this sense of lack that is driving the ego.

I need appreciation,

I need confirmation,

I need to protect my social status,

I need to be appreciated and taken care of.

I need love.

All those needs,

This is ego talking.

Why?

Because you're not in touch with life,

Truly,

With the bounty of life,

With the prana that is there,

That you are a part of,

But you're not in touch with.

Because what guides you,

What drives you is ego,

That sense of separateness.

So every decision you make is a consequence of that lack.

Motivation is built around that lack.

Relationships are generated in order to water that eternal thirst.

I don't have enough.

So I'm hooking with somebody that will probably,

Or hopefully,

Give what I don't have.

Right?

That's why we are looking for a partner,

In most cases.

I mean,

It starts with infatuation,

Right?

There is this cloud of happiness that has an intention,

An evolutionary intention,

And that is to make you blind.

No,

When you are in love,

You don't see anything.

You are so,

Like,

It's like a drug.

And because you are blind and you don't see everything,

You are able to get together and connect and create intimacy.

Because who in their same mind would allow somebody in,

In that sense,

If they are not completely sedated?

And then we wake up out of that,

Falling in love,

And we build a relationship that is based on love and trust and joy,

But also on need and want and conditions and demands.

I will do that if you will do something else for me.

I will give you love,

But only if you give me back your love with interest.

Because there is always this separate identity that's negotiating,

Remember?

Making sure that my own reservoirs are not depleted.

Otherwise,

I will be,

I will die of thirst.

So what we call a relationship is actually a business transaction between two suppliers and consumers.

Right?

There is a supplier and a consumer,

And we always negotiate the terms of our relationships.

I will give only if you promise to give back.

And that structure is supposed to provide us with a sense of security,

Comfort,

Stability,

A constant supply of all those things that I need and want.

Love,

Appreciation.

Do you see what I'm saying?

That's the way most of relationships are handled.

They are generated because of ego,

And they are maintained because of ego.

Two egos meeting each other and having that constant give and take relationship.

So if you look at it in that way,

You'd see that the force that is bonding that relationship is not love,

Actually.

It is fear.

The opposite of love.

We think we are having a relationship with our partner because we love him or her.

But if we look deeper,

We see what binds us together is not love.

It's fear.

Fear of losing what we think we have we've been able to establish.

Fear of being alone.

Fear of the uncertainty of losing what we think we've been able to achieve.

Fear of the pain of letting go.

That's the majority of the cases.

Most relationships are not based on love,

True love.

What is true love?

You know,

We've been pumpered to think that love is all about,

I need you,

I want you,

My life is nothing without you.

You complete me,

Right?

So without you I'm lost.

That's the romantic idea of love.

That's got nothing to do with love.

It's all about fear.

Fear of facing yourself.

Fear of facing your own existence,

Regardless of the other person.

What do you say?

So when you go out and you search for a partner,

Or when you already have a partner and you're maintaining a relationship with them,

Look at the force that is actually driving you to do that.

Is it ego?

Is that belief that if I will have what I don't have,

I will be happy and I will be complete and accomplished?

Is it that idea?

Because I tell you,

This kind of a relationship is doomed.

If you are really seeking for love and expression of love,

The spiritual path is calling you to grow beyond that fear.

I see many questions.

People have all kinds of comments and ideas.

John says,

In long-term relationships,

We each chance,

We take a chance as affected by experiences.

I don't understand.

Is it chance or?

Change,

Maybe.

Oh,

Maybe that's what he meant,

Change.

We each change as affected by experiences.

Yeah,

Yeah,

We grow,

Definitely.

We grow through all experiences,

Good and bad.

Yeah,

Change is what he meant.

Yeah,

Change is what he meant.

We grow through our experience in this body.

So what do you think about people,

There's this idea that people either change through their experiences and grow apart from each other or change and grow together?

Both can happen,

It doesn't matter.

There is no one right path that you need to follow.

There is no one right path that you need to follow.

And if you don't,

Then your life is a complete miss.

That's never the case.

Your existence in the present moment is accurate.

Even if it's not comfortable or it doesn't meet with your expectations or your plans.

So you are exactly at the right spot now.

It doesn't matter if you have a partner or you don't have a partner.

The question is from here onwards,

You need to observe and see what is the driving force that takes you onwards on your path.

Is it fear?

Are you basing your decision making process on fear,

On ignorance or on knowledge?

And you allow love to flow through you.

That's the only thing you need to be concerned about.

You anyway grow,

It doesn't matter.

Anyway,

Any experience that you have while you are in this body is a part of your growth.

That's already taken care of.

Key,

Say,

Open and ready to grow and develop in this important topic.

And Sukara,

Hello Yaron,

I am listening for the first time.

Welcome.

And John.

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I most appreciate those people who come here for the first time and they are like,

What the hell is going on here?

John adds growth and interests.

In last session we learned what we are not.

Should we expect when we strip away these external factors,

We return to a genuine self that was key to our togetherness at the start?

Wow,

That's a deep question.

The answer is yes.

As we shed off false identifications,

We come closer and closer to the truth of our existence.

And once we reach that point where we are not identified anymore with anything,

Then we discover that our existence is just an expression of love.

Pure love,

Unconditional love.

That's who we are.

Behind all the masks,

We are just love.

Love experiencing life.

So,

Definitely.

And when we are an expression of love,

Then intimacy is the context of how we meet life.

Not just our partner,

But life.

Anything that happens is in the context of true intimacy.

Tantric union between what I used to refer to as me and my experience.

These reveal themselves to be just one.

Oneness.

Joyful oneness.

This is the answer to your question.

Cornelia says,

I try to learn more how to keep myself in a relationship or stay in a relationship and not expect from my partner.

Yeah,

Yeah.

Expectation reduces joy.

The more you expect,

The less you can enjoy your relationship.

Don't put that weight on your partner.

Don't bother them with your ignorance.

Your partner is not there to make you happy.

Forget about it.

It's not going to happen.

And this is not what partners are there for.

You're talking nonsense.

They are not there to make you happy.

If you keep expecting your partner to make you happy,

You're condemning your relationship to failure.

100%.

I'm not saying that you'll necessarily break apart.

You can continue living like that until the age of 90.

But there will never be true intimacy there.

Because there is always that demand.

You need to make me happy.

My happiness is in your hands.

You have that responsibility.

That condemns you to be a slave.

You can never be free like that.

An awakened consciousness can never put that responsibility on somebody else.

That's ridiculous.

You cannot be a slave and free at the same time.

If you really are honest in your quest to self-liberation,

We call it self-liberation,

Then you need to take back that responsibility.

The fact that you have a partner is only an opportunity for you to share your love.

Unconditionally.

The bounty that you found within you is expressed.

And the first person to catch that is the intimate relationship you have.

And your partner has to be the lucky one.

But it's not because you need something from him or her.

The reason that we are in a relationship has to be free of conditioning and expectations.

If you really are honest in your quest to self-liberation.

Steve made a comment a while back,

Oh,

You're talking about parents,

Which I think was around when you were talking about egos,

Two egos coming together.

Not necessarily parents,

Just boyfriend and girlfriend.

Maybe that was Steve's experience with his parents.

Yeah,

It could be parents.

I mean,

People can live like that for decades,

I said.

They can hook it with each other in a teenage and live all the way to their 90s.

Keep demanding and expecting from each other to bring what I feel is missing from the outside in.

That can never work.

It can never work to create a healthy,

Harmonious relationship.

Because there is always that demand.

You are distorting love.

Because love cannot be conditioned.

Not really.

True love cannot be conditioned.

In that sense,

Like a parent loves the newborn.

They're not expecting the newborn to behave like that or to be like that or to understand that or to give them something back in return.

Unconditionally,

They love because he's there.

And there is so much joy in that,

Just his presence in our lives.

Yeah,

It's funny how that seems easy to do with a new baby or a new partner even.

And as time goes on,

Then you build,

Things are built on top of that rather than continually seeing that person with those new eyes.

Yeah,

That's a beautiful practice to see your partner with new eyes.

Every day you wake up and you expect your partner to just be there lying beside you in your bed.

You're surprised.

Wow,

What the hell is this person doing next to me?

And then see how beautiful they are,

How dedicated they are.

You know,

In Hebrew,

When you want to say to someone that you like them,

I like you is actually translated to you find grace in my eyes.

That's how you say I like you in Hebrew.

You find grace in my eyes.

So every time you look at your partner,

Look for that grace.

Have them recognize that you see that grace,

That you recognize it.

Then they will have no alternative but to like you.

Sokara shared a book named Things I Wish I Had Known Before Marriage by Dr.

Gary Chapman that she was listening to yesterday.

And she says,

I'm currently learning how to not expect from my partner,

And this feels lovely,

But staying with the process to see what blooms from a healthier space and hoping love will be found after I learn to love myself and surrender all my egoic and fearful needs.

Beautiful.

Yeah.

Loving somebody else,

Just like loving your own self,

Requires the dropping of all conditions.

When you are busy trying to love yourself,

Forget about all the ideas you have about who you should be.

I will be able to love myself when I will grow,

When I will be more mature,

When I will be different.

Then I will be able to love myself.

Drop those expectations when it's referring to yourself or someone else.

You know,

Partners that come to me and say,

I stay with him because I know he can change.

I can see that potential in them.

I tell them,

Listen,

Forget about it.

It's not going to happen.

If this is the reason you stay,

Leave.

You don't maintain a relationship on the expectation that something else will happen.

You love what is,

As is.

And from there you grow.

Same with you.

You love yourself as you are right now.

With all your faults and whatever,

Fears and ignorance,

With all your drama and trauma,

A broken rec,

Whatever.

This is what I love.

Why?

Because I am much bigger than that experience.

And the path to self-knowledge is the path to self-love.

It's the same path.

Because it leads us to self-realization.

And self-realization is manifested love.

So it's the same path.

Kee was saying it feels lonely.

Yeah,

When you are experiencing life through the ego,

It's very lonely.

There is me and there is life.

There is always that separation.

Or did you mean that surrendering your egoic and fearful needs feels lonely?

Or loving yourself feels lonely?

I'm telling you,

This is the reason you feel lonely.

Because ego is there,

Dominating your experience.

So if you want to grow beyond loneliness,

You need to realize the true essence of yourself,

Which is beyond ego.

Grow beyond that illusion of a separated self.

And then you are never alone.

You are a part of everything.

Everything is a part of you.

How can you be alone?

It's like a leaf on a tree saying,

I feel alone.

How can you be alone?

You are surrounded by leaves which are part of the same organism as you.

What do you mean?

It's like a wave saying he is alone.

In the ocean.

Because I am not connected to the other waves.

Of course you are.

Just look deeper and you see there is an ocean there.

Same with you.

Oh.

She didn't mean lonely,

She meant lovely.

Anyway,

You got an answer for lonely.

Now we know why we are lonely.

Chris is asking,

How do we create relationships from love and not fear?

And Barbara,

This was from before,

Asking,

Can we back up a bit and what would be your definition of true love?

How do we create relationships from love and not fear?

And what does true love mean?

True love,

That's a beautiful question.

This is something for you to ponder on.

What is true love?

I can give you a hint.

You can choose that.

Or you can find a different answer for that.

Love is the universal force that turns separateness into oneness.

So when true love is expressed through us,

There is that sense of belongingness.

Everything is me.

I am everything.

And love is that glue that brings everything back together again.

It's that essence of the feminine force in life.

All embracing,

All accepting.

Love is the essence of what you are.

And when you are not expressing your essence,

You feel disconnected.

You feel disattached.

And then all the drama of I want,

I need,

What will I gain out of that,

Begins.

So this is love.

Love is an expression of unconditional bounty.

Like the sun is giving its light and heat,

Unconditionally.

Why?

Because this is her nature.

Same as you.

And what was the first question?

How do we choose love over fear in relationships?

First you need to know,

You need to be aware that what drives you is fear.

Otherwise you cannot deal with it.

You have to be aware of that.

What actually drives me is that sense of lack or need.

I want,

What will I gain?

I need to protect whatever I have or I need to get out and grab whatever I don't have.

Cravings and aversions.

Cravings and aversions.

And to be aware of it.

This is what is motivating you to look for a relationship or to sustain a relationship.

Then you need to choose.

Do you really want to continue searching based on this illusion of separateness?

Of fear of not gaining what you don't have or losing what you believe you already were able to obtain?

These are the two fears.

What are the two fears?

The fear of losing what I think is mine and the fear of not having what I believe I need.

So if you are aware that these forces are your motivation,

Then you have to choose.

No,

No,

I don't want to be a slave to those forces anymore.

This is an illusion.

I want to grow beyond that.

I want to be free.

I want to truly be an expression of unconditional love.

This is what I want.

Now that resolution becomes the most important thing.

And every time something else comes in my daily life that tries to grab my attention and awaken my ego,

I keep reminding myself,

No,

No,

No,

No,

This is what I want.

I want to open my heart.

That's it.

Unconditionally.

Next time I meet my partner,

I shower him with unconditional love or her.

Because this is what I'm here for.

I love you regardless.

You can go,

You can stay,

You can do this or that.

I love you because you are there.

You just take away all those conditioning and expectations out of the equation.

What remains is love,

Unconditionally.

Then you can really grow.

Then your partnerships become a structure that allows something bigger to expand to and be experienced.

Bigger than what you could create individually.

Back to John's comment about choosing to stay together or come apart.

He says our growth and experiences can lead us apart.

Unconditional love is serving and respecting the other.

You know,

This is important.

Just a sec,

He's not finished.

If our mutual interests are so divergent,

Then separation can be best in the future for both.

And that doesn't mean that you stop loving.

But in your path,

The expression of love separates you into two different paths.

That's okay.

It's not what you choose to do.

It's the reason you chose to do it.

Don't look for the answer in the doing or what you chose.

Many,

Many couples stay together not because they love each other,

But because they are afraid.

If they would be allowing love to flow,

They would be separated years ago.

You see what I'm saying?

And the opposite is the same.

Maybe that's what Steve meant about the parents.

We can see this in parents sometimes.

People stay together because it's convenient,

Comfortable.

And being apart is too scary.

It's scary of losing whatever they've been able to achieve or to construct.

Some kind of a comfort zone,

Well protected against life.

No,

This is not an expression of love.

Sometimes love grows us apart.

That's okay.

Don't be conditioned to believe that only those who stay together truly love each other.

That's not the case at all.

So when you come to this junction of deciding whether you want to be with somebody or not,

Or whether you want to separate for somebody or not,

Ask yourself what would you do if there was no fear at all there?

What would Buddha do in your shoes?

An expression of unconditional love that is fearless.

And you know,

This is the path of love.

Now you know what is the most harmonious and truthful path for you to follow.

Even if you are afraid.

But you have to be very sincere in your search there.

You have to really come to that space of no fear.

Even if it's just a simulation of enlightenment and you are truly still very much afraid.

It doesn't matter.

At least simulate that.

You've grown beyond any type of fear.

And this takes some reflection and honesty and courage.

But then at least you know.

The path of love would lead you there.

What else?

Caroline is saying,

I think we can misinterpret someone relying on them for happiness with them just ignoring their partner's needs.

Again,

We misinterpret.

Someone relying on their partner for happiness with.

.

.

So somebody is relying on their partner for happiness or they're just ignoring their partner's needs.

Like if somebody is saying,

I need you to do this.

That still implies that there's a condition of the happiness being fulfilled.

Versus the needs that are required of that person.

Any sentence that starts with I need is generated in the ego.

I need,

I want.

I need you to understand.

Why do you need me to understand?

Do you really need that?

Why?

Only after I understand you'll be happy?

No.

So what's actually happening when somebody feels so disconnected from their partner and they think that it's from that partner not paying attention to their needs or ignoring their needs?

So there is a conditioning there.

You see,

There is an expectation.

There is a demand.

I'm with you because I need you to recognize me.

I need you to feed me with attention.

I need you to love me.

I need you to support me.

I need you to create security for me.

I need,

I need,

I need.

I need you to be happy.

Why?

So I can be happy.

I'm not really concerned about your happiness.

It's just a token that I need in order to be happy.

You know those parents that tell their kids,

The only thing I need is for you to be happy.

Right.

Why?

That's a huge weight to put on your kid.

Kids sometimes are unhappy as well.

Now they carry that burden of guilt because now I make my parents miserable.

No.

You need to be sincere about that.

Realize that your happiness is your responsibility.

Nobody else can do that for you.

Maybe what Caroline is getting at is something about the partners coming together in some sort of equality.

You know,

If there's a real imbalance in the partnership where,

I mean,

According to your theory,

One could be so enlightened that they have tapped into the bounty of,

Of the natural energies to be able to continually flow that love out of them and be completely without ego and completely with focused on their partner and what their needs are.

But to a certain extent that really draws on the energy that takes an incredible amount of tapping in and a lot of power.

If there's an imbalance there.

I don't agree.

You need balance when you are entering that relationship from ego.

I will give just to make sure that I get back in return with interest.

No,

No,

No.

The sun is giving not because it expects something from you.

Right?

And it's not,

It doesn't care if you are now sunbathing or you are hiding in the air condition.

Doesn't take it personally if I choose not to enjoy the heat of the sun.

It gives light because that's the essence of the sun to give light and energy.

That's it.

Just a minute.

So when you go into a relationship and you always,

You know,

Obsessed with keeping it balanced,

Give and take,

Give and take,

You know that what drives you there is ego.

Now,

Can I be an expression of unconditional love with a partner that keeps demanding love from me and he's not unconditional love expression at all?

Of course you can.

You don't have to.

It could be that love will guide you away from that partnership.

That's not a problem because still your heart is open and what expressed through you is unconditional love.

I know what's happening.

What?

In that situation,

It's not that you have to expend so much energy and that's taking from you and you need something backed in order to create balance.

It's that you feel disconnected from that person.

Yeah,

Ego,

Ego.

I want,

I need,

What will I gain out of that?

Yeah,

Definitely.

Love bridges that separateness.

That's the essence of love.

You don't go into that relationship obsessed with those questions.

What will I gain?

What will I gain?

What is this doing for me?

Me,

Me,

Me.

No,

This is not why you are entering relationship.

This is not why you sustain a relationship if you want to be free.

So if we get to the root of that,

Then the problem is not coming to your partner saying you are not meeting my needs.

The problem is coming to your partner and saying,

I feel disconnected from you.

I don't,

I want to feel connection.

You don't need to go to your partner to do that.

Yeah.

Tell it to yourself.

Yes.

It's not about your partner.

The fact that you feel disconnected got nothing to do with your partner.

Stop blaming your partner for the fact that you are disconnected.

Connect.

If you feel disconnected,

Reconnect.

And it starts with self-knowledge.

Right?

It's got nothing to do with your partner.

The way he behaves,

What he understands.

I speak in male,

But it could be female.

Reconnect to your own essence,

Which is unconditional love.

And then express it.

It's got nothing to do with the other partner,

The other side.

And you realize there is no other side.

It was always the same side.

We are not catching up with that.

It's okay.

We're getting there.

Tommy says,

I separated after 30 years together.

Walking away from someone you still love is so difficult,

But I had changed so much internally.

It can be such a painful learning experience.

And at some point you have to practice self-love.

When you have been with someone for so long,

Unconsciously you can lose a part of yourself.

Almost merge with them unconsciously.

You can lose a part of your identity.

I lost a large part of myself.

That is a big part of my journey to find myself again and be authentic and love myself.

Very good.

Cornelia is asking,

Why is this so hard to learn to unconditionally love?

And how can we practice?

Very good.

Very good question.

The fact that you are asking this question already shows that you are maturing on the path.

Many people just go blind about it.

So admire that,

That you came to that question and you are now asking it.

That is so beautiful.

Cherish that.

How to do it?

Forget about the why.

Why is not a question that is important.

It is.

It is so.

How to come closer to self-realization?

That is what the spiritual path is there for.

Helping the seeker to come closer and closer to self-realization.

The path that I have paved is called the 7 layers of existence.

You can listen to that path.

7 or 8 teachings that take us through the 7 layers of existence.

Body,

Breath,

Mind,

Intellect,

Memory,

Ego,

Self.

They are all there on the inside timer.

It starts with know thyself.

I am not and then my body.

I am not my breath.

I am not my mind.

Listen to those lessons.

And practice the guided meditation that corresponds with each level.

So if you are listening to I am not my body,

Then you go and listen to the guided meditation called I am not my body.

This will help you grow on the path.

As you shed off false identifications about yourself,

The truth reveals itself.

And you do it with love and patience for yourself.

Compassion.

Jessica says it is a true expression of love when I see my preference to stay with somebody but accept that our paths are not aligned.

The love for them is there,

But if the unconditional love is to be expressed,

Then I am finding it is in the acceptance of what is and surrendering to that.

It is a true devotion to love.

It does take devotion to love.

If you love someone,

Set them free.

Right?

And John says,

Yeah,

Love remains but no fear allows.

Nicholas is asking,

Will this live be recorded?

It is recorded and it will be posted as an audio track in the next few days so you can follow it and you can share it with your friends.

If you think about somebody that needs some relationship strengthening,

Share that.

Talk with them.

Kee says,

What would I do without fear?

I would hug myself more,

Literally,

Spiritually,

Lovingly,

Infusing more self-reliance and self-love so I can express stillness and patience for my partner's slower speed for self-actualization.

The gap feels lonely.

I keep putting one foot in front of the other with curiosity and focus on self-love.

Are you speaking about the gap between where you're at and where your partner is at?

Yeah,

That's what they refer to.

You know,

How do you know that you grow?

How do you know that you develop?

Because,

You know,

There is a friction.

You are emerging.

It is experienced through friction.

You see?

When you blossom and your surroundings are blossoming in a slower pace,

There has to be friction there.

It's not a problem.

It's the way it's designed.

So when you experience that friction,

You know,

You just say,

Oh,

Okay,

I'm growing.

And how do you know that you grow in the right direction?

Your heart is more and more open.

And it's easier for you to express unconditional love more and more.

There is no loneliness there.

There cannot be loneliness because love is bonding everything together.

Can you see that?

Only in a space that is devoid of love,

At least in your mind,

Can loneliness be experienced.

In actuality,

Love is the fabric of our existence.

There is no space that is devoid of love.

Even if in the most horrible experiences,

Love is there,

Being expressed.

Cornelia says,

Thank you both so much.

I will listen to your recordings and meditations you recommend.

John says,

In long-term relationship,

In relations,

Sometimes the demands require more from one partner due to physical or financial concerns.

Yet as life experiences change,

The roles of the partners may shift again.

Not a matter of balance.

No.

And it's not about the doing,

Who does what when.

It's about the being.

Are you connected to yourself?

Are you connected to your essence?

And that being is now being expressed as action.

And not the other way around.

So don't be lost in the realm of doing.

Come back to the being.

It's amazing how all it takes to feel connected to somebody else is just to look into their eyes.

Or even look at,

If they have their eyes closed,

Or they have no eyes,

Then look at their.

.

.

You recognize divinity.

You recognize in them their essence.

It's so easy to see if you allow yourself to see it.

Even if he's standing there in front of you and shouting his lungs out,

You see there is only,

You know,

Innocence,

Innocent child shouting,

Crying.

Barbara says,

My mind goes back to the analogy of the fountain from last week.

The fountain is not thirsty for water.

Yeah,

This is who I am.

The fountain can never be thirsty.

I am that.

How can I want it if I am it?

Kathleen says,

Yes,

We can say,

I love you.

Now can I have my keys back?

Tommy says,

I think we are all looking for a lost part of ourselves in other people or relationships.

But at the same time,

When in relationships we can all hold on for too long.

But spiritual growth is never about holding on.

It is always about letting go.

Try to go there.

And Jessica says,

A sacred conversation.

Thanks to everyone for sharing so deeply,

And for both of you for guiding.

Good,

Good,

Good.

Yeah.

So homework is some self-reflection.

You look at your own motivation to have a relationship,

Or to sustain a relationship,

Or to live a relationship.

And make sure that what drives you is stress-free,

Fearless.

Make sure that the power that drives your decision-making process is an expression of unconditional love.

That's it.

Even if you are still afraid,

You follow the path of love.

And you will see your life becomes very harmonious.

There is almost no conflict,

Or doubt,

Confusion.

These are all behind you now.

Because the path of love is very clear.

It is almost unquestionable.

So you reflect on that.

And practice,

Practice,

Practice daily.

One of the guided meditations there.

And if you haven't heard the series of the seven layers of existence,

Know Thyself,

Listen to that.

Very important for the sincere seeker to come closer and closer to the truth.

And Tuesday?

Tuesday we are going to meet.

8 o'clock,

Our time,

P.

M.

So look out for that invitation.

That will be posted soon.

And thank you for your time.

And your beautiful questions.

And your donations that are very helpful.

And looking forward to seeing you again soon.

Jai Gurudev!

Reviews

this is truly outstanding and worth the time to listen.

I think it’s one of the best talks I have ever heard on the subject.

Filled with simple clear pearls of wisdom.

Thank you so much Yaron.