Be The Master Of Your Domain

Be the master of your own domain. Learn how to grow beyond dependency, victimizing, and clinging toward self-liberation. Join us for this beautiful journey as we unveil the truth that hides behind false identifications and preconceptions.

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So,

We are starting as usual with a short ceremony.

So let's sit comfortably on our seat.

And take a deep breath in,

Breathe out.

Let's close our eyes and take another deep breath in,

And breathe out.

And the next breath in we keep in,

We don't breathe out.

And slowly breathe out and let go.

Let go of all your efforts.

Let go of everything that already happened in the past.

Let go of everything that may happen in the future.

And allow your breath to guide you back to the present moment where life actually happens.

So you become fully aware of whatever is happening right now.

Become aware of your surroundings and all the information gathered from your surroundings.

Sounds,

Noises,

The feel of the air on your skin,

Your breath as it sucks air out of your environment and into your body through the nostrils.

And then in the opposite way as the air is sucked out of your lung and back out of your body to your surroundings.

Just observe as this process happens in its own natural rhythm.

The breath may be heavy or light,

May be hot or cold.

It doesn't matter,

You just observe.

The breath gently is ironing your consciousness.

Become aware of any thought you may be thinking right now.

Whatever it is,

Just observe as if you're lying on the grass and watching the skies as the clouds go by without getting carried away by any specific thought.

You just observe.

Become aware of any phenomena that happens around you and within you.

May it be pleasant or unpleasant.

It doesn't matter.

And as those events keep on happening,

Gently allow your attention to turn away from them and face itself,

The origin of consciousness.

That space within that exists before and beyond any event where there is no movement.

There is only silence.

And for a moment,

Become that silence.

Deep breath in.

Gently allow your attention to come back to your body that is seated here upon its seat in this room.

A part of our virtual circle.

Let us unite our individual intentions into one unified intention.

The intention to grow,

To develop,

To evolve.

Another deep breath in.

And when you feel comfortable,

You may open your eyes.

How are you guys doing?

Welcome again to this opportunity we give ourselves to stop the rush,

Hold hands and walk the path together.

Supporting each other's growth and expanding not just as individuals but also as a united consciousness.

Remembering that what propels our journey forward is the longing for the truth.

The tension that hides between the question and the answer.

So the more sincere and meaningful your questions are,

The more potential energy they carry for your growth.

So this is the opportunity to share your questions,

Your wonders,

Your difficulties,

Your conflicts,

Your fears.

And lay them here so you can be free of those.

So who wants to be the first one to jump into the water today?

What is still bothering you?

What do you feel is between you and happiness?

Or if you have bigger questions.

Okay,

Let's see what we have here.

Of myself in a plateau lately following what has left,

What has felt like a lot of growth.

I am trying for passion but feeling a bit frustrated.

Frustrated about what?

Michel,

Please share.

Barbara,

What I observe about myself is that I often do not know what is my genuine motivation.

Example,

It is often to feel good about myself rather than love.

What is your true motivation?

This is following our conversation from Tuesday.

My motivation is to feel good about myself.

That is not a problem.

If you feel good about yourself,

That is good.

Better than to feel bad about yourself.

Be good.

You don't need to feel good.

You be good.

Feeling,

You know,

If we keep chasing the experience of feeling good,

We are trapped.

It is not the feeling that hides the secret.

It is not the emotions or the sensations that hide the secrets.

An awakened consciousness is not chasing an experience.

Not even blissful or,

You know,

Whatever you can think of.

The highest and most precious experience,

Because the secret is not in the experience.

There was a beloved disciple that once came to me and asked me about a silence retreat that was up and coming.

And she said,

You know,

I have been to those silence retreats with you many times,

And I think I have already experienced everything I can in those silence retreats.

So what is the point in coming again?

So I told her,

You know,

The secret is not in the experience.

The first time you experience it,

It is like,

Wow,

Fantastic,

I never even knew that this is possible.

And then the second time you feel great.

And the third time,

Okay.

And the fourth time is okay.

Anything else?

Been there,

Done that.

Got the T-shirt.

Isn't it so?

Doesn't matter how amazing the experience is.

It becomes dull.

Right?

It is not about the experience.

Don't chase an experience.

You know,

Many years ago you sat for meditation,

And you felt so blissful,

Like there was no I,

And it was so fantastic,

You are one with nature.

Or,

I don't know,

Buddha came and talked to you and initiated you personally.

And since then it never happened again.

And you sit for meditation for 20 years,

Hoping,

Waiting for that to return,

And it doesn't.

What to do?

You are trapped.

It is not about the experience.

It is about recognizing that you are allowing reality to be experienced.

And the actual play that is currently being played on the stage,

It is okay,

Whatever.

Sometimes the play is interesting,

Sometimes the play is dull,

Sometimes it is pleasant,

Sometimes it is threatening.

Whatever.

Comedy,

Tragedy,

It doesn't matter.

You are the theater hall,

Allowing that play to happen.

That's it.

And then there is no agenda anymore.

So don't worry about trying to feel good about yourself.

You be good.

Chad is saying,

I got an insightful answer last week.

Would you like to share?

Don't keep us in the dark.

My kid's father,

How he treats me,

Is the thing that is taking most of my energy and thoughts.

How somebody is treating you.

Why does it take your energy,

Do you know?

How can somebody else take your energy?

How is that possible?

Is it possible for somebody else to take your energy,

To be able to control that?

The only time you feel drained is because of your own split consciousness.

What is split consciousness?

You experience one thing,

But believing that you should have experienced another thing.

You do one thing,

But you believe that you should have done something else.

That this is not right,

Or not important,

And something else is waiting for you to experience.

And only then you can be happy.

That's never the case.

If you feel drained,

No.

There is split consciousness in you.

Nothing to do with your other person,

You know?

Your beloved one,

Or your enemy.

Doesn't matter.

If you feel drained,

Look for those gaps in your own consciousness,

In the way you allow yourself to experience life.

If you believe something else should have happened,

That's it,

You're trapped.

You're frustrated,

You're angry,

Disappointed,

Resentful,

Judgmental,

Etc.

Then it's draining for sure.

Nothing that actually happens can cause you to feel drained.

Even if it's very intensive,

You know,

Sometimes reality is really intense.

Still,

You can easily face that and experience that.

Unless you are resenting that,

Rejecting that,

Fighting against that.

Then you suffer,

For sure.

So stop blaming other people for your exhaustion.

People always behave the best they can.

They cannot behave any better than what they are actually behaving,

As they are behaving right now.

Even if it seems very strange,

Or very aggressive,

You know?

That's because that's the best they know how to do,

How to react at a given time.

So if you feel there is anger,

Or disrespect,

Or whatever,

From the other person,

Just know that they are currently suffering.

They are angry,

They are resentful,

They are stressed,

They feel suffering.

So,

Compassion.

Add compassion.

When you see suffering,

What do you do?

You add compassion.

And remember,

There is nothing that life can offer that is too much beyond your capabilities to handle,

To experience.

It's never the case.

So fill it with compassion.

Fill it with unconditional love.

You will see that the drama between people requires both parties to put some gasoline on the fire.

If only one party tries to lit up the fire,

It doesn't catch.

If the other person is completely centered,

Un-intimidated,

Then drama cannot stick.

It just slides off you like Teflon.

It cannot stick.

Try it in your life and see.

Be completely centered and compassionate.

And tell me how it felt.

Just take some attention and also some training.

You need to train yourself.

You need to practice.

Do your sadhana.

Meditate.

Find that center within you so you can come back to your center again and again.

Nothing would be able to shake you anymore.

You would be as steady as a mountain.

For example,

I help my neighbor because I think I care about her,

But it feels good to be helpful.

So what is my motivation?

You tell me.

If you need that confirmation from your neighbor,

If there is a need there to feel good,

So you are motivated by lack,

Lack of appreciation,

Lack of need,

Of being confirmed and affirmed,

There is that lack that drives you to interact,

Then you know that you are still driven by the ego.

But if you are an expression of love,

Then there is no lack.

The opposite is there is only abundance that is being expressed through you.

And then you help or you support,

You share that love,

You fill your surroundings with compassion.

It is not even your nature,

It is the nature of love that is currently expressed through you.

There is nothing personal about it at all.

You just become hollow like a bamboo and allow that music to be played through you.

Hmm?

Hmm.

See this thing,

Not finding a direction.

Flow through connection.

Question mark.

Flow through connection.

You don't find a direction.

Let me suggest a direction for you.

Set up a goal.

I want to be an expression of unconditional love.

That's it.

I want to turn into an expression of unconditional love.

This is a direction.

Worthwhile.

Committing to.

What do you say?

And now,

If you are really committed to it,

There is a lot of knowledge and practices that you can practice to get you closer and closer to that goal.

And you can harness that ability of the ego to stay very focused.

I want that.

I don't want anything else.

This is the most important thing for me.

And then you will come closer and closer to that,

Guaranteed.

If it becomes the most important thing for you,

You will come very close to pure expression of unconditional love.

And every time life tries to distract you from this path,

You keep reminding yourself through sadhana,

Through the practice.

No,

No,

No,

No,

No.

This is what I want.

I don't want to be carried back into the drama,

Into self-pity.

I don't want to be carried back to complaining,

Excusing myself.

No,

No,

No.

This is what I want.

I want to be an expression of unconditional love.

That's it.

Guaranteed you will get there.

Here,

A possible direction for you.

What do you say,

Sil?

Michelle is saying,

Frustrated with inability to stay in self-love and a feeling of unity.

Trying to come back to compassion and being,

Oh,

Yes,

I am a seeker of experience.

Keep reminding yourself it's not about the experience.

It's about the experiencer.

And don't be frustrated about not being able to stay in that position of love.

You know,

Sometimes we forget.

We are human.

We forget.

But then we remember,

Right?

And when we remember,

We are back home again.

So what can keep you on the path and help you to remember more and forget less?

These are the four pillars that I recommend.

Seva,

Sadhana,

Satsang,

And Sadguru.

Write it down if you need.

Seva is attitude of service.

Adopt an attitude of service.

I am here for you.

What can I do for you?

The more you do that,

The more you train your system to be in an awakened state of mind.

Sadhana is the practice.

You practice daily.

You don't,

Like you brush your teeth.

You don't skip a day.

10 minutes,

15 minutes,

20 minutes,

Sit down,

Meditate,

Remind yourself,

This is who I am.

I am peace.

I am love.

There are many meditations you can choose from on my Insight Timer webpage.

Choose one.

Practice.

Satsang is the group.

Surround yourself with like-minded people that support your evolution.

Instead of adding fuel to that fire of drama and complaining about life and that miserable state of being.

No,

No.

People that you feel empowered by their presence and inspired by their presence.

Like we do here now.

This is virtual.

Try to find yourself actual people you can hold hands with in the physical realm.

And Sadguru is the teacher.

The source of inspiration that you can always come back to and rest in his light.

Be inspired to keep on growing.

If you keep those four pillars alive in your path,

You will stay on the path.

Chad,

Do you remember too many people on the street?

Remember your answer?

No,

I don't.

I usually don't remember anything.

I live in the present moment.

You are welcome to share.

Anna,

The things he texts or says trigger me.

I get low,

Depressed for several days.

Yeah,

Because you believe he should have been texting you different messages.

That's why.

You believe he is wrong and you are right.

It should have been different.

He should understand.

He should adopt your position.

He should realize how painful his actions are.

Is that true?

This is what he should believe?

This is what he should realize?

Is that true?

When you keep that belief,

He should be different.

He should realize,

Is it stressful or comforting to hold that thought?

He is wrong.

He should be realizing differently.

Is there any stress-free reason to keep those ideas about him?

Those ideas are what cause you pain.

Those ideas are what cause you to be frustrated and suffer.

This is what steals your prana,

Your energy.

And this is your responsibility.

Let go of those ideas.

Let go of the idea that reality is confused and you are right.

This is never the case.

You are confused.

Reality cannot be confused.

Reality can only happen in divine accuracy.

Whether you like it or not,

Realize that.

Let go of conflicting ideas if you really want to stop suffering.

Because there are many ways to keep suffering.

It's so comforting to victimize yourself and blame the situation.

I would be happy if he would realize,

If he would change.

I would be happy,

Definitely.

Why not?

He steals that away from me.

That's not the case.

Never the case.

Wake up.

Realize that.

Anet says,

Give and you will receive.

You don't need to receive.

You already are full.

Let go of the hope that you will receive more.

And definitely don't give in order to receive.

It's like the fountain saying,

I will give my water,

But only if the blonde animals come and drink.

I don't want the black animals to come and drink.

The fountain is giving its water because that's its purpose.

It's inevitable.

That's what he is.

He is a source of water.

So he is giving it.

What alternative does he have?

No alternative.

Same with you.

You are love.

What can you do?

You give that love.

That's it.

It's not even you that gives the love.

You just allow love to spread through you.

Otherwise you would explode.

It's too much.

Isn't it?

Yeah.

Attitude of service.

And then Sadhana,

The daily practice.

And then Satsang,

Those people around you.

And then Sadguru.

These are the four pillars.

Ana is asking,

A lot of my thoughts are spent on all of the situations.

Needing them.

Frustration over it all.

If he makes it with purpose to break me down mentally.

He has succeeded in 3.

5 years.

But now,

Last couple of weeks,

I have finally actually made some progress.

As you say with meditation,

Trying to think of other things.

Don't try to think of other things.

Thoughts have no power.

You don't replace a negative thought with a positive thought.

It's pointless.

Thoughts have no power.

These are just events that happen around you.

Some of those thoughts are yours.

Some of those thoughts are other people's thoughts.

They just pass through you.

You'll be like the radio.

Collecting information from the environment.

Radio waves.

The radio doesn't care which station is currently being played.

And if the music is happy or sad.

Your mind is the same.

You just be there.

Allow those thoughts to come and go.

They have no power.

If you don't believe your thoughts,

You are relieved of them.

They don't need to stop or to change.

It's you.

You.

You are peace.

Your thoughts don't have to be peaceful.

You are peace.

Don't worry about trying to manipulate thoughts.

That's anyway impossible.

Sit there in meditation.

Realize.

I am not my thoughts.

You know there is a specific meditation I can recommend you to practice.

It's called I am not my mind.

Me and my mind.

Find that on my page on Insight Timer and practice that.

This will help you to realize the difference between the experience and the experiencer.

Good,

Good,

Good.

What else?

Elizabeth is saying,

I'm wanting to meditate more.

I want to be more mindful and grounded in hope.

I struggle with being negative.

Elizabeth,

You too.

Practice that.

Me and my mind meditation.

You don't worry about trying to tame your thoughts.

Negative thoughts,

Positive thoughts.

It doesn't matter.

Thoughts have no power.

You come back and realize your own nature,

Your self.

Your self is peaceful.

Your self is neutral.

It's not positive or negative.

Your self is peace.

It's before opinions and ideas.

Come back to your self.

Don't worry about a specific circumstance or an experience.

These are just illusions.

Hannah is saying,

Kind of yes.

It's not in the best interest for the kids that break me down.

I have told him what his text makes with me,

But also realized for a couple of years that I can't change him.

I need to work on how I let it affect me.

Stop needing.

Yeah,

Yeah,

Yeah.

No need to change him.

He is perfect as he is.

And he is doing the best he can to the best of his knowledge.

Like everybody else around you.

Like yourself.

You can only do the best you can.

And this is what you do.

The best you can.

Don't be quick to judge yourself or other people.

And if there is suffering,

Fill it with compassion.

That's it.

There is a perfect number of people on the street.

A divine number of people on the street.

I don't like it still attempting to see the divinity.

I can't always acknowledge it.

The easiest way to acknowledge it is to remove any idea you have about it.

What stands between you and divinity in the street is the ideas that you have about it.

Ideas are veiling your experience of divinity.

So unveil those opinions and ideas.

And then you'll find divinity.

Divinity is much more deep and real than your opinions and thoughts.

You go beyond your opinions and thoughts.

Go deeper and you'll find divinity there.

In you.

As you.

Lucy is saying.

So if you have a heartbreak,

Feel it then stop thinking.

If you have a heartbreak,

Somebody left you for,

Let's say,

And it's so painful when you feel sad,

Then what to do?

You allow yourself to experience that sadness.

It's painful for sure.

So don't reject the sadness.

Sadness rejected turns into depression.

If you keep avoiding sadness,

It sticks.

What you resist,

Persists.

So instead of resisting sadness,

What do you do?

You experience it.

Go through it.

Go through the stage of mourning your loss and everything and you'll rise up on the other side.

Emotions are like waves.

You ride the wave.

Let it take you and you'll come up on the other side.

I tell you,

The secret of life is 72 hours.

Any experience,

Good or bad,

Pleasant or unpleasant,

It can only stick for 72 hours if you are fully accepting,

Embracing it.

Experience it with an open heart and a willing soul.

But if you resist it,

It can become your life story.

So don't.

Don't resist.

Keep yourself open to experience whatever.

You cannot stop thinking,

Lucy.

Don't try to tame your thoughts.

Thoughts have no power.

It's pointless anyways.

Be there.

Experience whatever emotions are coming.

Don't be intimidated by emotions or by any specific experience.

Just like the theater hall is not intimidated by the play that is currently played on the stage.

You are the theater hall.

Expand your consciousness to embrace whatever is happening.

What do you say?

Seal.

Attitude if sense.

Practice surrounding with inspiring people and number four is question mark.

Either I am drunk or you are drunk.

I don't understand this at all.

Elizabeth,

I want to acknowledge how I am feeling to help release the negativity though.

Do you recommend what?

I want to acknowledge how I am feeling to help release the negativity though.

Yeah,

Definitely.

Acknowledge that.

You don't ignore that.

You are completely open to experience that.

Do you see the difference?

The only reason for you to try to ignore it or to bypass it is because you are intimidated by it.

But an awakened consciousness is not intimidated by anything.

Completely open and completely exposed to experience everything.

Acknowledging it for sure.

Yeah,

Now this is happening.

Now I feel pain.

I feel loss.

I am human.

Thank God I can experience that in a physical body.

Yeah,

Go through it.

That's good.

Exactly.

Okay,

What else?

Source of inspiration.

Rest in his light.

Elizabeth,

Sadness is a valid feeling though.

Definitely.

As valid as happiness.

So Michelle is saying be aware of the emotions without judgment.

Definitely.

Any experience can be experienced with no judgment,

With no opinions about it.

Opinions come between you and divinity.

Like I told the other guy.

What's his name?

Stephanie,

What about physical injury?

Embrace and accept this also?

Yeah,

Unless you want to suffer about it.

If you want to feel pain and suffering,

Then you can definitely complain about your pain and reject it.

Then there is also suffering,

Not just pain.

But if you want just to experience the pain without the suffering,

Then you embrace the pain.

You accept it.

Why?

Because this is what's currently happening.

How do I know it's painful?

Pain is just your body asking for some attention.

So give it attention.

Love your body.

Tend it.

Help it to heal,

Whatever is necessary.

You do that,

For sure.

But don't resist the idea.

Don't resist the actual experience of pain.

Believing it should be replaced with pleasure.

Sometimes it's painful and sometimes it's pleasurable.

Right?

Seal meant number four.

What?

Number four what?

What is number four?

I don't understand what you're talking about.

Is this the four pillows that you're referring to?

Ah,

Number four is Satguru,

The teacher.

Adopt a teacher.

Embrace a teacher in your life.

The role of a teacher is very important.

You can go back to the talks that are on my Insight Timer page.

There is a talk called How to Find the Right Guru.

Listen to that talk.

Finding the right guru.

It's very precious.

Stephanie is saying,

Yes,

I have noticed there is not much suffering.

Thank you.

Very good.

Sayumya.

Sorry if I don't pronounce your name right.

If we have negative thoughts about others,

Is it better to vent it and talk it out so that it doesn't build up inside and become an energy block?

What you give attention to grows.

This is a law of nature.

What you give attention to grows.

If there is difficulty in life,

You give attention to the difficulty,

That difficulty definitely will grow.

If there is joy in life,

You give attention to that,

Joy will grow.

What you give attention to is like fertilizing that area.

Your awareness is like a fertilizer.

So you be careful.

What do you want to give attention to?

If there is negative thoughts,

You know,

Judgment about other people,

You try to fix it,

You try to work with that,

Heal that,

You give attention to that,

That grows.

If there is negative thoughts about somebody else,

The best way to heal that is to go back to yourself.

Don't worry about thoughts.

Thoughts have no power if you don't identify,

If you don't believe.

They have no power,

Your opinions,

Nobody cares.

Come back to yourself.

Remember,

I am peace,

I am joy,

Doesn't matter my opinions and thoughts,

What other people think about me,

Doesn't matter.

I am that,

Already that.

Come back,

Come back home,

Again and again.

Don't try to fix anything,

Nothing is broken.

Just come back home.

The rest will take care of itself.

Okay,

A few more questions and we are going to wrap up.

Anna is saying,

Another thing that I feel is between my current state of mind and happiness is that my home is in a chaos.

It's has been for a looming time,

Lacking motivation to start and or finish projects or make my home organized and keeping it organized.

Also lacking energy.

I have around 16 minutes of focused energy.

So what do I do?

Seva,

Satsang,

Sadhana and Sadguru.

You do that.

If you really want to change,

If you really want to grow beyond your mental state,

Beyond laziness,

If you really want to be happy and full of prana and energy,

Full,

An expression of joy,

This is who you are.

If you feel drained it's because the story that you keep telling yourself about yourself.

That story is not who you are.

Your opinions about yourself,

Your opinions about other people,

This is not who you are.

Come back to yourself.

You are the landlord of your own domain.

You make those decisions.

It doesn't matter what you feel like.

Don't be a slave of your feelings.

Feelings are just an external event that happens.

It's not who you are.

Sometimes the waves are high,

Sometimes they are low.

You can sit there and complain about the ocean.

It's pointless.

Do you see that?

Sir,

Thanks a lot Yaron and your help Johan.

That was my question.

And my name is Johanna.

Okay.

Good,

Johanna,

Thank you.

Jo,

I don't agree all the way with that saying whatever you give attention to grows.

If you don't agree,

That's good.

You are not here to agree.

I'm not here to persuade you.

Just observe that proposition in life.

See how it works.

You know,

Even you want to make a scientific experiment.

Plant two seeds in two different pots.

One you give a lot of love and attention,

You carry for that specific pot.

And the other one you just keep aside and you don't attend it at all.

Just give water so it won't die and that's it.

Personal love to one and no attention to the other and see if there is a difference between those two.

That would be a nice experiment.

What do you say?

Elizabeth is asking is it not okay to have opinions?

That confuses me.

It's not a matter of okay or not okay.

This is not a religion.

Just to realize that your opinion stands between direct experience,

Between realizing divinity as the nature of reality.

So if you want to free yourself so you'll be available to experience divinity,

Then you know your opinions has no role in that.

Thank you.

Om Shanti.

Beautifully answered.

Good,

Good,

Good.

And I keep praying sometimes answers come from silent within.

Only from silent within do answers come.

Come back to yourself.

I give attention to the lottery all the time but I never won more than $50.

That's more than what I won and that's not how it works.

You don't control reality.

Let go of that idea.

This is stupid.

You influence reality but the way you influence is a mystery and you don't control that.

And that I that wants to win that stands between you and awakening.

When there is no I that wants and needs anymore you will realize yourself.

Good.

Enough for today.

What do you say?

I want to invite you personally guys next Thursday at 8 o'clock no sorry,

At 6 o'clock my time there's going to be an intro talk presenting a course that I'm going to start teaching in July and I strongly recommend you participate.

It's a life changing experience guaranteed not less.

It's called Tantra,

The Supreme Understanding.

And I can tell you for sure this book that we are going to discuss changed my life.

It was the first spiritual book I ever read when I was 16.

You should not miss it.

Whatever you are planning to do next week Thursday cancel it and be there.

And bring your friends.

The invitation is already there on Insight Timer.

Make sure you sign up.

And I will explain all the things you need to do about this course so you can be prepared coming July to be a part of that journey.

It's a journey you don't want to miss.

Good,

Good,

Good.

Thank you for your time,

Your attention.

Thank you for your donations.

They are very important and a way for you to balance what you give and what you take.

So put something there.

It doesn't need to be much.

My time zone is mountain time.

But you'll see that on Insight Timer.

They arrange that for you.

Don't worry about that.

And it will also be recorded and posted as an audio track.

So you can listen if you can't join in real time.

And I will see you this coming Thursday.

Love you very much.

Bye bye.