Am I Worthy?

In this transformative discussion, we will focus on the pandemic that spreads around the world: the feeling of being unworthy. What does it mean, how does it affect our life, and specifically our growth on the path? Join us to unveil and resolve that entanglement, once and for all. Bring a friend and let us grow together.

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I know everyone will come again to this unique opportunity and give ourselves every week to stop the rush and hold hands and walk the path together,

Even if for a short while as we are propelled by that beautiful tension that hides between the question and the answer.

In your curiosity,

Your longing for the truth.

So this is your opportunity to share that for the benefit of all.

And today our excuse to meet is discussing that issue of worthiness.

So I'm going to just say a few sentences and then leave the stage for questions.

So I'm a big advocate of the idea that there is only one belief that stands between the sincere seeker and an awakened consciousness.

And the trick is to identify that belief.

One core belief,

Usually it belongs to the family of beliefs about whatever is lacking.

I'm not developed enough,

I'm not mature enough,

I still have a lot to learn,

I have issues to resolve,

All kinds of self-doubts from that category.

And as long as I identify with those beliefs,

Then there is no room for an awakened consciousness to blossom.

So much so that even many years ago,

I had a discussion with one of Israel's lead neurosurgeons who is running a pain clinic.

And he was the first to introduce hypnosis as a way of treating patients with pain.

And I discussed the power of hypnosis with him and the fact that we can maybe use that tool to implant that suggestion into our minds that can tackle that core belief and replace it with something that will be more authentic and help us to achieve,

Achieve is no direct word,

Help us to wake up.

Because the identification with that belief is so fundamental,

Maybe only hypnosis can help us let go of that.

So one of the repeating common beliefs that I encounter with people on the path regarding the relationship with the idea of an awakened consciousness is that they truly don't believe that they are worthy.

And of course that belief is not only reflecting on the spiritual path,

It reflects on any choice,

Any relationship,

Any interaction that we have with life.

If the core belief is that I'm not truly worthy to be happy,

To experience all that goodness,

To enjoy life,

To flourish,

To succeed,

I'm not really worthy of that.

Then that's the reality that you create to yourself.

And that's another important thing to understand if this is not already fully understood.

The story that you tell yourself creates the reality that you experience.

And it's not the other way around,

Even though people tend to confuse between the two.

The story is not the consequence of your reality.

The reality is the consequence of the story that you tell yourself.

If you tell yourself that life is brutal and dangerous,

And you need to walk through life very carefully,

Diligently,

And make sure it doesn't hurt you,

Then I can guarantee that this will be your life.

You see what I'm saying?

And if you believe that life is a beautiful opportunity to experience yourself and blossom in it,

That this will be your life.

This will be your reality.

So in the context of the topic of today,

If you believe that you are not worthy,

Then that's it.

You are not.

So we are here to look at that core belief today.

Look at it honestly,

Courageously.

Once and for all understand where is it coming from,

How is it affecting us,

Our life,

Our decision-making process,

Our relationships,

Our spiritual path.

And what,

If possible,

Can we do to grow beyond it?

That's my prologue.

So now the stage is yours.

I'm happy to listen to your questions.

Anything so far?

Except for Andrea couldn't hear very well.

So hopefully that has resulted.

We deal with that also.

Do you have any question regarding worthiness?

Or any other question,

Doesn't matter.

Question.

Oh,

Alex.

What about the use of unworthiness to avoid disappointment?

Yeah.

Oh,

Sorry.

AJ had a question too,

But we'll get to AJ after Alex.

The use of unworthiness to avoid disappointment,

Yeah.

So when are we disappointed?

When we have expectations.

And what is the role of expectations?

The role of expectations is to reduce our joy,

Right?

Because when we expect something,

We can't enjoy it truly if it happens.

And if it doesn't happen,

Then we are disappointed.

So next time you are engulfed in expectations,

My recommendation to you is,

Offer it as an offering to the divine.

Whatever happens in the future,

I offer it to the divine as a gift.

I'm not concerned about the future anymore.

I'm bringing myself back to experience the present moment,

Free of expectations about what would happen in the future.

So I don't need to be bothered with expectations.

Just remind myself,

They are there to reduce my joy,

And I'm here to enjoy life.

What's the point?

So yeah,

Definitely unworthiness.

What you do,

You reduce the expectations you have from yourself,

From life,

Artificially reduce it to minimize the pain of disappointment.

Is this the way you want to live your life?

Trying to manipulate your way to minimize the pain?

Think about it.

To be honest,

To minimize the pain,

That's why you heal?

To go through life with minimal pain?

That's a shame.

And that's doomed to fail,

Because life is painful.

Guaranteed,

Living in a body is not convenient,

Not comfortable.

It's sticky and stinky and messy.

Being a pure consciousness is much more elegant,

For sure.

But you have a body,

And you have a limited time to enjoy your presence in a body.

What do you want to do with that limited time?

Do you want to fake your presence here as if you are an etheric being,

Formless?

Avoid this opportunity you have?

Or do you agree to experience life fully on the physical realm?

That is painful.

Of course,

That is also pleasurable.

But if you are not willing to experience the pain,

You will not know the pleasure as well.

Ask yourself,

How do you want to live your life?

Avoiding the pain,

Or embracing it,

Together with everything else life has to offer?

E.

J.

Was asking,

Is awakening the purpose of life,

Or is living an awakened life the goal?

There is no difference.

It's the same.

It's not a purpose.

It's inevitable.

Don't tag it as a purpose,

As a goal that you should reach.

There's nowhere to go.

You're already there.

You don't need to reach anywhere.

You don't need to find a different version of yourself that is more enlightened than the current one,

Or a different circumstance that would allow that to manifest.

As long as you believe that you are not there yet,

I guarantee you won't get there.

So there is no difference between an awakened conscious and living life consciously.

An awakened consciousness cannot live life unconsciously.

Don't worry about that.

What else?

Jen says,

It seems like unworthy is reverse pride.

Like the opposite of pride?

Yeah.

What is this sense of unworthiness?

Let's look at it for a moment.

You know,

It's that innate belief that as you are,

Is not good enough.

For some reason,

You can see that more with women than with men.

It's either because men are too thick to even be bothered about,

And women are a bit more sensitive to the feedback they receive from other people,

From their parents.

It could be a cultural thing where,

You know,

Men are just promoted over the women,

Traditionally in many societies,

And women are.

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.

I don't know,

It could be a biological thing.

It could be a consequence of the way we evolved as a species,

Where women,

You know,

Are more connected to the feminine,

Which is inviting everything to come back together,

Keeping the family,

Sustaining it,

Feeding it.

And the men are more connected to the masculine.

They go out,

They hunt,

They.

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Have the vision to lead the family forward,

Or whatever it is,

The tribe.

They're too busy with the responsibilities they have as men.

But whatever reason created that reality,

The bottom line is that,

You know,

It's a too many people generally,

And definitely too many people,

Women,

Feel that they are not good enough as they are.

And there is this constant drive to prove themselves worthy by please,

Please other people,

To do the right thing,

To meet the expectations of other people,

If not exceed those expectations.

Why?

So they can get that label approved.

And I am good enough.

Or,

In the worst case,

They don't even believe that that is a possibility.

Either there is no way to prove that,

Or I am simply not good enough.

So they don't even bother trying to please or find approval because they don't believe it exists,

Or they are worthy of that.

And again,

Once you identify with that story,

That's it.

This is your life.

Life cannot persuade you otherwise.

You create that reality for yourself.

If you believe you are beyond hope,

I guarantee you are beyond hope.

And this is something to look at.

What is the fundamental story about myself that I identify with?

You know,

Try to look beyond the image that you try to portray,

Beyond the mask that you put on when you engage with other people.

Try to look in the mirror and truly ask yourself,

What is the fundamental story that you tell yourself about yourself?

And if that story has chapters in it that tells that story of you are not good enough as you are,

I tell you,

This is extremely important that you realize that.

At least the first step is to be aware that a part of the story that you tell yourself is that you're not good enough.

It starts with you being aware of that.

You know,

Just like in AA,

The first sentence is,

Hello,

I'm Yaron,

And I am an alcoholic.

Acknowledge it.

Be aware of that.

Don't run away from the truth,

Even if it's really painful.

Then we can start discussing what to do with this.

But if you're not even aware of it,

Then there's no place to start from.

What was the question?

That unworthiness is the reverse of pride.

Oh,

Yeah.

So what is pride?

I am good enough.

I am better than you think.

I am better than you've ever seen before.

Of course,

That's pride,

You know.

Both are aspects of ego that's guaranteed,

You know,

A separated illusion of self that builds a story to identify with.

I am good enough or I'm not good enough.

Doesn't matter.

These are two sides of the same coin.

OK,

Let's continue.

AJ was asking,

Is unworthiness a mental construct or a universal concept?

Universal concept.

I don't know how to relate to that.

The universe has no concepts.

The universe exists.

The universe exists without any definitions.

So I wouldn't know how to reflect to that.

But unworthiness is definitely a part of the story that we tell ourselves about ourselves.

So it's an idea,

For sure.

Nothing to do with the universe.

It has to do with me observing myself,

Relating to myself.

OK,

What else?

Jen clarified that they meant that it's selfish to say I'm not worthy.

So it's the same thing.

It's selfish to say I'm not worthy?

I don't know.

I would say it's egoistic to say I'm worthy and it's egoistic to say I'm not worthy.

Both are this aspect of the same coin.

The coin is called ego.

Alex said it seems innate to assign a value to ourselves in relation to the world.

Much of our world creates this construct,

So we occupy ourselves with worthiness.

It seems as a way to understand how we relate to our society.

It seems as a way to understand how we relate to our society.

Why?

Why is our purpose?

What is our purpose,

Direction in such a world we live in?

What is our purpose?

Direction in such a world we live in.

First of all,

There is a whole discussion,

If you go back to my Insight Timer page,

There is a whole track that you can listen to with regards to the question why.

I definitely recommend to do that.

The way our mind works is,

I would say the intellect more than the mind,

Is observing reality and then compare it with references.

That's how our intellect works.

And of course,

The first comparison or the most fundamental comparison that the intellect makes is with referring to other situations,

Is this situation good or bad?

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Referring to other situations,

Is this situation good or bad?

Right?

I have the concept of what is good.

I have the concept of what is bad.

What I'm having now here,

Is it good or is it bad?

And of course,

There are many,

Many other types of judgments that the intellect is making on the reality that we experience.

And I've talked about it in many situations before.

The bottom line is any kind of judgment keeps us in a distance from an intimate experience of reality.

It doesn't matter if the intellect decides that this is good or if it decides that this is bad.

And it doesn't matter if what he is referring to now is the external circumstances or the image that I look and that I see in the mirror when I look at myself.

Right?

If I look in the mirror and the intellect tells me that I'm bad,

That's what I believe.

That's it.

I'm bad.

And how does the intellect make that judgment?

Because of past experiences.

Right?

There is the whole story of me coming to this world,

Interacting,

Raised in this family,

To these parents,

In this tradition,

This culture,

This religion,

Whatever.

You know?

And I collect the inputs that the surroundings keeps giving me about me.

And eventually,

I create an identity around that.

And too often,

That identity is not good enough.

You should,

You can do better.

You should be better.

Look at the Mandelbaums.

Their boy is a doctor.

What about you?

You know,

Etc,

Etc.

So what's the point of using the intellect to try to understand life and to categorize other people's lives and their lives?

To try to understand life and to categorize ourselves.

You know,

You come to a room,

Immediately you have an opinion about the people in the room.

Just by the first sentence,

The way they look,

The way they dress.

You already have an opinion.

And also,

Not just an opinion,

But you also rate yourself.

Where am I with regards to him?

Am I above him?

Am I below him?

You know?

You know that?

Automatic way you relate to other people.

He's saying one sentence.

That's it.

I wish I would be in his position.

He's really charming.

He's really impressing.

Oh,

God damn.

Who is this animal?

Why?

Why is it important?

Why do you have to categorize yourself like that?

Why not just stay open to meet people where they are,

As they are?

To meet yourself,

Where you are,

As you are.

With no preconditioning,

With no expectations,

With no judgment.

With no good or bad.

And?

Many questions,

So I'm going to shut up.

Oh,

AJ was asking,

What's the difference between intellect and mind?

Oh,

So I urge you to go back to the tracks that you can see on my Insight Timer page and listen to those.

There is a whole list of them.

And I want you to listen to them.

I want you to listen to them.

I want you to listen to them.

I want you to listen to them.

I want you to listen to them.

I want you to listen to them.

I want you to listen to them.

I want you to listen to them.

There's a whole lesson about me and my mind.

Oh,

I am not the mind.

And then there is a guided meditation that you can listen to with this regard.

And then there is another talk about I am not my intellect.

And there is a guided meditation that you can listen to.

So dive deep into that knowledge.

In one sentence,

The mind is the movie that we see that reflects a picture of reality to us.

And the intellect is the movie critic that sits there looking at the movie and creating an opinion about it.

OK,

This is the difference between the mind and the intellect.

But this is just a nutshell.

Go deep into that knowledge.

It is crucial to understand what we're talking about here.

Shell or Shelly said that's a judgment.

Not sure if that was in response to Jen's comment about that it's selfish to say I'm not worthy.

So then Jen responded,

I don't think it's a judgment in my mind.

I'm thinking about me.

If I'm not worth worthy,

So I can't be of service to others.

And then Simon said,

You I'm not sure what Simon said you judge,

But you don't something impressions give a sense treat everyone the same.

So Simon,

If you can clarify,

Do you judge someone running towards with a weapon?

I think they're getting at do you treat everybody the same because you have to assess a situation,

Particularly if there's some sort of danger or something like that.

OK,

So.

Assess the situation.

And realize that fear is only useful when the situation presents clear and immediate danger.

Which is almost never the case.

When was the last time somebody ran at you with a knife?

I hope it was long,

Long time ago,

If ever at all.

If ever at all.

Right?

Usually it's just a story in your head about what may happen or could happen.

And you try to prepare yourself to be ready for an imaginary situation.

So.

No need to be a slave of those kinds of fears.

You know,

If you need to prepare yourself to be ready to meet danger,

If it comes,

Then you prepare.

But don't be obsessed about that.

Make sure you are available to experience life.

This moment.

As it happens.

OK,

Because currently everything is OK.

We just sit here in front of the computer talking.

You know,

There's no lion in the living room.

That we should be concerned about.

I want to go back to Jen's comment.

She said something,

But if I'm not worthy,

Then ta-ta-ta-ta-ta-ta-ta-ta-ta-ta-ta-ta-ta-ta-ta-ta-ta-ta-ta-ta.

Right?

A few sentences ago.

Jen said this is a fabulous discussion.

Thank you.

Somebody said,

But if I'm not worthy.

If I'm not worthy,

So.

Stop.

Listen to that sentence.

If I'm not worthy,

Then.

Listen to that sentence.

But if I'm not worthy,

Then.

Can anything good come after that then?

Anything that you can grow with.

Anything that supports life.

Anything that can help you blossom.

If I'm not worthy,

Then.

The only reason that you can ask this question.

If I'm,

What happens if I'm not worthy?

The only reason is lack of self-knowledge.

You don't know who you are.

You believe a fake story about yourself told by other people and by your previous experiences.

That's the only reason that can generate such a sentence.

But I'm not worthy.

Now what?

The only way to go beyond that self-inflicted belief is self-knowledge.

Know yourself.

Know who you are.

Know how magnitude.

Know the magnitude of your own consciousness.

And you realize this question is completely futile.

Am I good enough?

Who is good enough?

Good enough for what?

It's completely futile.

It's completely irrelevant.

You are not just good enough,

If that's even a way to reflect about oneself.

You are the definition of perfection.

You are the definition of perfection.

Divine perfection.

And there is no separated you even that can take gratitude and build an ego around that.

It's like the ocean complaining that it's not wet enough.

Can you imagine the ocean complaining that it's not wet enough?

It's like the waves complaining that the ocean is not wet enough.

This is just a wake-up call.

When you hear yourself saying something like,

But what happens if I'm not good enough?

Just a wake-up call to tell yourself,

Wait,

Wait,

I completely forgot who I am.

I got caught up in this fake story that I keep telling myself about myself,

Which doesn't present reality at all.

And I tell you,

It doesn't matter what happened in the past.

It doesn't matter what story about your life you relate to and how many incidents there were back there in that story that you currently use to justify that position,

I'm not good enough.

Every one of those incidents happened for a reason,

For you to learn and experience.

And the fact that you turn them around to create an identity of a victim,

An identity of unworthiness,

Of not being good enough,

It's just a confused experience.

So,

It's an opportunity to take a deep breath in and remind yourself you are not the story.

You are not the story.

Whatever happened there in the past,

Whatever feedbacks you may receive from other people,

From your surroundings,

From your peers,

From your family,

From your friends,

From your family members,

Whatever feedbacks you may receive from other people,

From your surroundings,

From your teachers,

From your parents,

From your friends,

From your partners,

Don't build an identity around it.

This is not who you are.

You are not your story.

Doesn't matter when you look in the mirror and keep telling yourself,

This is who I am.

These are my abilities.

These are my disabilities.

These are my strengths.

These are my weaknesses.

These are all external shells.

They build your persona,

But they are not who you are.

Remember,

Everything that begins must end.

Everything that starts must finish.

Everything that was born must die.

You don't belong to that group.

You are eternal.

You don't belong to that group.

You don't belong to that.

These are all external shells that you are invited to gently peel away if you are really interested to know who you are,

Who you truly are.

I'm going to pause because there are many questions.

I have to go way back.

A while ago,

Lin said the seven layers of existence that are recorded were amazing,

So they were recommending that.

Do it.

Listen to Lin.

Jan,

Who said it?

Lin.

Lin.

Go back and listen to this series,

Seven Layers of Existence.

It will help you dive deep into this knowledge of understanding the nature of self.

Simon said,

There's threats every day in the car.

So be alert.

Alex said,

I understand the mind is what you perceive,

I think.

I understand the mind perceives the world and the intellect interprets it and assigns value.

Are we suppressing the intellect and what we are learning from our experience,

Or are we changing how the intellect is assessing the experience?

Meaning changing our intellectual measuring stick or what we determine is good or bad.

Okay.

Again,

Listen to that speak about the intellect.

It tells you in details how we grow beyond it.

But the bottom line is to realize that whatever judgment the intellect has keeps you from an intimate experience of reality.

It doesn't matter if the intellect is pro or cons.

Okay.

As long as there is a judgment there about the situation,

About the experience of the currently having,

It stands between you and the experience.

But I do urge you,

Listen to that talk about the intellect.

I'm not my intellect.

Listen to it.

AJ says,

It seems that we are living in a conflicted state between how society and our mental construct of how to exist in society clashes with our spiritual truths.

This is a repeating question with AJ.

There is no conflict.

Don't create or be identified with an imaginary limited perspective of life.

An awakened consciousness is wide enough to include all aspects of life joyfully,

Harmoniously.

It cannot exclude,

You know,

Anything.

If people are,

If you have to divide the world into two,

It's not about good or bad.

It's not about beneficial or harmful.

It's about ignorance and knowledge.

So if you have to divide it into two,

See when are you led by ignorance,

For example,

Ignorance about the nature of your own self.

And when are you led by the knowledge of the self,

Not just as a concept,

As a philosophy,

But the knowledge in the biblical sense of being one with.

In the biblical sense of being one with.

I am that.

So don't be too concerned about a seemingly conflicted world out there.

The world is perfect.

Nothing to fix.

It's already perfect.

You just open your heart to whatever you experience.

That's it.

Jen was asking,

I believe a fake story told by what?

I think you answered that one.

I wonder if everything is a judgment except God.

Wow.

That's a beautiful statement.

If everything is a judgment except God.

Let's ponder about that for a minute.

Yeah,

I would say really bring us closer to the truth.

As long as there is an opinion,

A judgment.

There is no direct experience.

God can only be revealed through direct experience.

You cannot talk about God.

You cannot describe God.

You cannot relate to God in any way.

Just directly experience it.

And if there is an opinion about it,

There is no room for direct experience.

So I would say in many ways,

That's a very accurate way to look at it.

Everything is a concept.

So yes,

In the beginning of your journey,

It's about creating a new story.

Instead of,

You know,

A story that tells you that you're not good enough.

Now there is a new story,

More authentic,

More accurate,

That helps you realize that you are worthy.

You are good enough.

Not just good enough.

You are as good as can be.

But that's also a story,

Right?

Just a more useful story on the path to an awakened consciousness.

Eventually,

You will be invited to let go of the stories.

Good or bad.

And just be.

Free of any preconditioning,

Preconcepts.

That's why an awakened consciousness is so fresh.

All the time,

Fresh.

Because it doesn't come with that baggage of whatever already.

I know.

I believe.

I identify with.

Even that I itself is not there to take ownership of the experience.

Chen wanted you to repeat what the answer was to the story,

The fake story,

And how it's told,

And who it's told by.

The answer was 42.

Giving your own to repeat,

Since he's already said,

Is very difficult.

I don't know.

I think it was a lot to do with the stories that other people tell about you,

That you listen to,

And that your society tells you,

And your religion tells you,

And your gender tells you,

And your parents tell you,

And your childhood tells you.

AJ says,

What is root cause,

Need for our stories?

How are the stories told?

What is root cause,

Need for our stories?

How are the stories part of our perfection?

What is the root cause?

The root cause of the creation of the stories?

Why do we create stories?

Why do we need them?

How are they part of our perfection?

It's a good question.

We need stories to generate a sense of meaning and a secure relationship with reality.

Through the stories,

We create what we call a comfort zone,

In which we feel in control.

We understand life,

So we can control it better,

Minimize the pain,

Maximize the pleasure.

Minimize the loss,

Maximize the gain.

An awakened consciousness pops this soap bubble.

There is no comfort zone.

Everything is comfortable.

Everything is comfortable.

Pleasure and pain.

Everything is a part of a harmonious flow that an awakened consciousness allows,

Not just allows,

Generates.

So for that,

You don't need reason.

You don't need a story.

You don't need preconceptions.

You don't need the intellect at all.

I said in many occasions that the ultimate understanding of a mature intellect is that it's not here to understand.

That's it.

Once that dawns on you,

The intellect is not here to understand life,

To help you ride the horse.

You allow the horse to take you,

To lead you,

And you just enjoy it.

The intellect doesn't play an important part anymore.

How many times a day do I say,

This is my opinion,

But it's just my opinion and doesn't really matter?

It has no importance.

Yeah,

I have opinions,

But everybody has a dozen or a dime.

They're a dime a dozen.

So who cares?

AJ is asking,

So our minds lie to us?

All the time.

All the time.

I mean,

What is lie?

They generate a friction picture of what reality really is.

And to that very broken picture,

Minimalized picture,

We relate to as our own reality,

And then we judge it.

So we are completely lost in the way we perceive life and our role in it.

So as we go,

We,

On the path,

We allow that expansion of consciousness,

Where it generates a much more accurate.

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Vision of what actually is happening.

And there is very little self-engagement in it.

Life doesn't happen to us or for us.

Life reveals itself to be just a flow of phenomena that we glide through.

Leroy Cohen said,

Tell the people I was only passing through.

That's it.

Cheap.

What else?

Simon said that we create stories to entertain our reality.

Yeah.

Many times.

And Jen.

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As long as you remember that this is just entertainment and you don't take it so seriously,

That's a start.

Because usually it's so dramatic,

We are just lost in the drama.

A good way to start is to remember the drama.

A good way to start is to remember that this is just entertainment.

Yeah.

Jen's asking,

What is the mind?

Electrons?

Synapses?

Yeah,

It's the five senses collecting information.

And those synapses create an image of reality.

You know,

They do a superposition of all that information into one picture.

And this is what we relate to.

This is what we are aware of,

Right?

This is why it's called awareness.

We are aware of that,

But we are not aware of everything else that happens,

Because our mind is very limited in its capacity to show us the full complexity of reality.

And again,

Go back,

Listen to that chapter about the mind.

It tells you all about it.

What else?

Jen says,

When I put into context where thoughts come from,

It blows my mind.

Yeah.

Beautiful.

AJ says,

Other than compassion for those suffering from unworthiness,

Do we take action?

Beautiful question.

Compassion is a good start.

Don't judge.

Don't critique.

Don't try to persuade.

Don't try to educate.

You just have compassion.

Especially if you find someone who believes that they are not good enough.

Have compassion.

Be there for them.

I'm here for you.

I'm not judging you to be good or bad.

It doesn't matter for me.

I'm here for you.

Tell me.

How can I help?

Give them a hug,

Whatever.

Offer a glass of water.

You know,

Small gestures of unconditional love.

And if they are sensitive enough to see,

To recognize that unconditional love,

They will come.

Because knowingly or unknowingly,

This is what we are looking for.

This is what we are longing for.

Unconditional love.

So if they are sensitive enough to recognize that,

They will follow.

Otherwise,

It's okay.

Let them awake in their own pace.

I had a thought earlier when you were talking about unworthiness being more common amongst women.

And I actually wonder if that's true.

I don't believe it's true.

Because not that the points you made aren't valid,

But I think many teachers teach that when you get down through those layers into the core beliefs,

That it often is about,

I'm not good enough.

And I wonder if maybe men are just better at masking it than women.

That's what I,

That was the first sentence.

Maybe they're just too dim to care about it that much,

You know,

And they're too dim to care about it that much,

You know,

And they're too occupied on the task ahead.

And they just plow through it,

You know,

Regardless.

Because they are driven,

You know,

And they have that vision.

And they are not allowing themselves to be too concerned about,

Am I good or bad?

Maybe.

Doesn't matter.

What the bottom line is,

Whether you are a man or you are a woman,

To look at the mirror and courageously and honestly see if you have a version of this story,

As I am,

Is not good enough.

So I'm not worthy of all this goodness that life has to offer.

Nee?

The reason I bring it up is because of AJ's question about offering compassion when you offering compassion when you see it.

But I think sometimes that version of unworthiness is really hard to see,

Not only by yourself,

But from other people.

It manifests in ways that are really layered and masked where you can't see it.

And that's a,

That's a harder place to offer compassion,

Especially if it feels threatening or directed at you.

You know,

I have to realize,

As long as there is an element of ego there within you,

Persuading you that you are a separate entity that has to take care of itself,

Driven by your own ambitions and prospects of gaining and losing,

Then that's already a version of I'm not worthy.

And yes,

Sometimes that story is very prominent and sometimes it's well-hidden under layers of mascara.

And again,

It doesn't matter if you present yourself to be a winner or you present yourself to be a loser.

These are the aspects of the same coin,

Right?

So,

If you feel you've met that in another person,

Or you feel you met that in yourself,

Looking at the mirror,

In both cases,

Be compassionate about it.

It is a very good start.

Don't judge other people for not knowing who they are and don't judge yourself.

Let me tell you,

You are love.

But listen to that and knowing that are two different things.

Jen was asking if this discussion energizes you.

Yes,

It energizes me.

Jen was asking if this discussion energizes both of us as teachers.

I can tell you that Jeroen definitely gets energized by teaching.

You all make him very happy.

Yeah,

You justify my existence.

And you?

And you?

Yes,

Very much.

Two more questions before we wrap up.

AJ says,

Again,

Society helps shape these opinions,

Illusions of ourselves,

Perhaps intentionally required to awaken part of the evolutionary process.

Yeah,

Definitely.

Yeah,

This is the way it's designed.

We are born without an ego.

We put on an ego like a costume as we mature.

And then we come to a time where we are invited to take the costume off.

That's the way it's designed.

So don't be too disappointed about that.

Mm hmm.

Or the cover,

The book cover.

Simon says don't judge a book by its cover.

AJ says,

Carly,

Is Jeroen able to exist in this and other truth?

Or does he also struggle?

He struggles,

But he's a human being.

But he doesn't hold on to anything.

He lets it go almost immediately.

And he stays in the moment.

Well,

Good.

I think that's a good thing.

And recognizes the,

The truth of the moment immediately.

Good,

Good,

Good.

Barbara.

Amen.

Thank you for sharing your love.

Yeah.

So,

Yes,

Thank you guys for being here.

Thank you guys for sharing your path for this short period of time with us.

For sharing your beautiful questions.

Go back,

Listen to those tracks that we've discussed.

Practice your sadhana,

The self-reflection,

Look at the mirror,

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