We humans as a species seem to be going through a major shift right now.
There are a lot of heavy,
Dense energies and emotions out there in the collective consciousness.
We have had a pandemic for over two years.
There is much social unrest.
And in parts of the world,
The threat of war is becoming very,
Very real.
Navigating such times emotionally can be a challenge.
I want to share with you a few useful tools that I use quite regularly when I find myself in a state of overwhelm.
You know how when you buy something online,
Or even in the store,
And you get it home,
You try it on or you try it out,
And it doesn't work,
It doesn't fit.
What do you do?
You return it to where it came from.
Or like when the mail comes,
You pull it from the box and you look at it.
Immediately you recognize it's not for you.
So you return it to sender.
You don't receive it because it's not yours.
Now I'd like you to consider the emotions,
The moods that you feel.
Have you ever had it where you get a sudden mood change and you don't even know why?
You're feeling fine,
Minding your own business,
And all of a sudden you feel sad or bummed out.
What we typically do in situations like this is start trying to find a reason why we feel this way.
And usually it's fairly easy to find a reason,
A situation in our lives that we can assign this emotion to,
And so we go with it.
But I'd like to share with you that not all emotions or feelings that you experience are even yours.
I know that sounds kind of funny to say.
After all,
In our current society we are taught the myth of separation,
That where our bodies end is where we end,
Period.
However,
Even science now shows us that we are far more than the limits of our physical bodies.
Everyone is familiar with the term aura.
A more scientific name would be electromagnetic field.
Both our hearts and our brains emit an electromagnetic field in the shape of a torus.
If you've ever seen a bar magnet with iron filings sprinkled down,
You can see that shape created by the filings.
Now imagine the two magnets.
As they are brought near to each other,
The magnetic fields interact with each other,
Either by attracting or repelling each other.
With humans,
It's the same thing.
Emotions are energy.
That energy gets expressed in our auras.
When we are near others,
We are interacting with them with our electromagnetic field.
Not a word needs to be spoken.
None of your five senses needs awareness of them for your magnetic field to interact with theirs.
For some of us,
Known as empaths or HSPs,
Which stands for highly sensitive persons,
We can be very consciously aware of these interactions of the auras.
But all of us can and do experience the effects.
You could be walking down the street,
Minding your own business.
Then all of a sudden you get that sad and bummed out feeling when moments before you were neutral or even happy.
Somebody walked past you and was probably feeling these emotions intensely,
And you picked up on it.
It happens all the time.
When these uninvited emotions come into your experience,
Pause with it and ask,
Is this even mine?
Is this even mine?
Keep asking,
Is this even mine?
And soon you will sense the answer.
Most often the answer is no,
This is not mine.
So what to do?
Well,
Just like receiving mail that is not yours,
Or the top that you ordered that doesn't fit,
You return it to sender.
How?
Just say,
Return to sender and imagine this emotion floating out of your body and being whisked away back to the person that belongs to you.
If you want to do them a solid and help them,
You can say,
Return to sender with consciousness attached.
Giving the gift of consciousness may help the owner of the emotion to become aware of their own emotions,
To recognize them as merely passing states of being.
Maybe it helps them grow from their situation.
But more importantly,
You have not fallen into this swirling toilet of despair or anger or shame for no reason.
It's a good exercise to practice whenever you feel unexpected emotions.
The same principle can be applied in a more direct situation as well.
Let's say somebody is very angry with you.
Could it be a friend,
A loved one,
Or even a random stranger somewhere?
Their anger is their own.
It is something that they are experiencing.
But they want to give it to you.
You do have a choice.
Receive it or don't receive it.
If you receive it,
The anger within you will be activated.
Or other less desirable feelings like sadness,
Shame,
Guilt,
Anxiety,
Regret,
Etc.
The other person has just gained control of you using their anger.
The exchange now devolves into something you never wanted to participate in from the start.
Next time,
Try this.
If someone gives you their anger,
Pause and say to yourself,
I am not receiving this.
I am returning it to sender with consciousness.
If you can ground yourself in that,
The other person will be angry and trying to get a reaction out of you,
But you are calmly letting them say their peace.
When they have finished,
Pause once again and say,
Thank you for sharing with me how you feel.
And that might be it.
If they didn't ask you anything,
You don't need to respond further.
If they did ask you something,
And you don't feel prepared to answer in the moment,
Because perhaps inside you feel a little bit rattled,
Calmly say,
I would like a bit of time to ponder what you have said,
Then I can share with you how I feel.
If you continue to struggle with feeling unwelcome emotions from the other person,
Just continue saying to yourself,
Return to sender.
Return to sender.
It can take some practice,
But you will become effective at this.
Now having said all that,
If you find yourself feeling emotions that are truly your own,
Don't push them away.
They are only visitors,
And they will move on their way.
They have a job to do for us,
So we need to feel them,
But not define ourselves by them.
There is a huge difference between saying,
I am sad,
And I feel sadness.
The former sounds like a state of being,
While the latter implies a passing event.
Emotions carry information with them,
Wisdom.
There are lessons to be learned.
Sit with emotions and look for the wisdom.
And like with most things,
Remember to breathe.
When we get uptight or upset,
We tend to breathe very shallow.
This is an instinctive reaction.
We stop our breath so that we can better hear our predator.
Yeah,
That's still old tech,
But until the evolutionary upgrade comes,
We will sometimes need to be proactive with body systems.
Simple breathwork can do wonders.
At the very least,
Pause for a few moments and focus on your breathing.
Empty your lungs,
Then inhale fully and hold for a moment.
Then blow it out.
Even once can help you self-regulate.
But try doing it three or four times.
Do it outside in the fresh air if you can.
Imagine breathing in fresh,
New,
Energized air,
Then breathing out stale,
Dense,
Dead air.
Simple.
It will do wonders for your day.
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