31 - Loving You

Have you ever felt insecure and unloved? Often we are separated from our true loving nature.
We may be haunted by feelings of abandonment reflected in our relationships. We don't know how to more fully experience our Loving center of Being. You can though. This podcast explores the how. Very practical, powerful, and simple.

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Thank you William. As always I'm grateful for your talks

Perfect timing today 🙏🙏🙏🙏this makes so much sense and it is so simple for we who overthink. Thank you

Wow, wow, wow! Once again, this was word-for-word exactly what I needed to hear today 🙏🫂❤️🌟I hope you won’t mind that I share a bit more of my experience here in the hopes that anyone reading this might be helped by my perspective, especially since some people mentioned in these comments that this one was tough for them to understand:
My grandfather was the authoritarian of the household. Not even my grandmother was “allowed to put her head as high as his”. Everyone, literally everyone in the family, even the ones who lived out of state, were utterly controlled by him and his shifting moods and needs [one minute he was declaring himself the Master of the Universe, the next minute he was a powerless victim and “none of us were doing enough to make him feel better’].
My sister and I grew up in their house, and he and my grandmother openly favored her over me [my grandfather even admitted to this favoritism to my face, though it was after he had walked himself through everything he had given her, and realized he hadn’t given me the same attention. I think he was ashamed, and I am working on forgiveness of him].
Favoritism aside, my sister and I were both required to give up all autonomy in his household. I didn’t even realize how insidious that agreement was until after I turned 40 years old.
Having been born into a family where my mom divorced my dad only a few months after I was born, I just wanted a dad.
One of my earliest memories is being on a school bus and this kid told me “I don’t have a real family because I don’t have a dad”. That DEVASTATED ME.
I just wanted a dad, and I wasn’t emotionally mature enough to realize I was willing to give away my power and sovereignty in order to experience love from a Father Figure™.
My grandfather raged whenever a decision was made without his input, even if that decision had nothing to do with him.
My grandfather only acknowledged his definitions of words like “respect “ [read: he had no problem violating your boundaries and being utterly disrespectful to you, but you better not do anything to upset him]. Even though this man was a literal tyrant, I wanted his love. I wanted that Father Figure Energy and Connection™, even if it meant making agreements with him that were having a drastically harmful impact on my growth as a person. I was too young to understand that part.
Fast forward 3 or 4 decades later, and I am undoing a lifetime of giving away my power and “looking outside of myself for answers”. The idea that I have to “look outside of myself for answers” was put there because I made an agreement:
“I will give away my self-sovereignty to you, my grandfather, and in return, you will love me as a father is meant to love his child.”
[SPOILER ALERT: he was not good at loving anyone or anything except his dog]
That’s what William Cooper is talking about in this. It’s a glorious paradox✨After listening to this talk, I now see that I actually do believe that I deserve love, and that I do love myself more than I allow myself to believe, (because I wanted connection so badly and I loved my grandfather so much I was willing to give up everything) and that means I never really stopped loving myself. I am “sitting with the bad feelings” because the bad feelings are proof positive that I believe that I deserve Unconditional Love.
If you gave away your power, it’s like you gave away your favorite sandwich to a kid in the cafeteria who forgot their lunch that day…you cared more about the connection and helping someone else than your own satisfaction. We just ended up taking it to such extremes that we forgot that being living embodiments of Unconditional Love is how we got here in the first place. And we never stopped being Unconditional Love ❤️Wowzers, that’s way more than I intended to write, I just like helping others and sometimes sharing personal experiences helps with integration ❤️‍🩹❤️🤟Thank you William Cooper THIS HELPED ME SO MUCH 👑♦️❤️‍🩹✨

I'm having a hard time with this one. I have listened 3 times twice fell asleep but probably good for subconscious. I will keep a gratitude journal-- think it'll help cut through thought forms. Walking in nature this morning and it seemed to say flow with the cycles: prepare to hunker down & rest, soar without questioning the unknown, ease into being...match nature's heartbeat 💞

i really enjoyed this talk on love. I think I understood what you were saying. But sometimes we do things that don’t seem like love, but they actually are because we do them because we love ourselves… Is that right? I’m going to watch for that in my daily life now and look at it as another form of self love 🌙🧡🎃🤎🍁🌞💛🌙🧡🎃🤎