Wake up with Nikki Confident Day 8

Day 8 of 11 tracks that connect you to your highest self to skyrocket your confidence and release anything holding you back from expressing your unique greatness! Visit WakeupwithNikki.com for the full experience: including afternoon text messages reminding you of your greatness and evening journal prompts that align you with your vision and who you need to be to achieve your dream life.

Live a bigger better life with Dr. Nikki!
WakeupwithNikki.com

Transcript

Good morning,

Good morning.

Welcome back my love.

Oh,

I hope yesterday was nice and juicy doing things that you love to do.

How was it?

Was it fun?

Please share with me make sure you share all the juicy wisdom that came through and the insights I want to hear.

Okay.

Let me know in the comments below.

Today we're going to discuss forgiving yourself.

Oh,

It's a juicy one.

So let's ground in take your deep breaths.

Nice deep breath fill your lungs all the way and hold it enjoy that oxygen.

Enjoy grounding into the ground.

Releasing what you need to release as you exhale.

New deep breath in connect to spirit.

God the heavens whatever supports you and connecting to higher consciousness and enjoy that white light that flows down purifies your body and your soul all the way out exhale then a nice deep breath into your heart where those two magical cords connect support comes in from the ground.

Loving healing light comes in from the skies meets at your heart you can expand that love out into the room.

Yummy.

All right,

We're grounded.

We're here.

We're present.

We're alive.

How lucky are you to be alive today?

Wow.

It really is an honor and a blessing to be here.

And take a moment to really understand that things don't have to be perfect.

We're on this journey of evolution and it's in those times that are challenging that we grow the most.

My human design specialist Barbara Ditlow once shared with me that sometimes I go dark to my charts to my nature.

But when I go dark,

I it's like miners that go down into the earth deep down into the earth.

They're in pitch black darkness,

But they come back up with a diamond.

And that's what sometimes going dark looks like sometimes the hardships in life are so that you come out shinier and brighter than you've ever been.

So honor and celebrate all of the spectrum of being human.

The anger,

The shame,

The sadness,

And the joy and the brightness and the light and the laughter and the happiness,

All of it.

It's the full spectrum.

Can you enjoy it today?

Big part of shifting your perspective very quickly,

Because if you just wallow in the pain,

And you don't allow yourself to see the silver lining or know that that silver lining is coming,

It's there.

You just have to see it.

Often,

It's just a matter of radically accepting what is.

Because if you can accept that you've just been handed divorce papers,

The sooner you can accept it,

The faster you can find the solutions,

Move on and see that you've been set free to a whole new chapter in your life.

If you got fired,

Or you got left in a relationship,

Or,

You know,

All these dramatic things,

There's a reason there's a blessing.

And as soon as you shift your mindset and see that that happened to serve you,

Whoo,

Very quickly,

You'll be able to shift and instead of sitting there in that ruminating,

Why did she do that fighting mode,

You get to spend your precious life and energy and thoughts and time focused on where you get to go now,

What you get to choose for yourself,

Instead,

Something new,

Something bright,

Something exciting.

Right,

So forgiveness,

Let's go back to the topic of today mistakes are mistakes,

Really mistakes.

Are there such thing?

It feels like it sometimes feels like we did something or like shit shouldn't have done that.

Right.

But is that actually an opportunity to learn maybe you had to do it that one time that way.

So that that never happens again.

The way I left my ex was a disaster.

I would never do it that way again.

Complete mistake.

And I recognize I can a forgive myself.

And be I recognize that maybe he needed me to show up in that way to serve him for his evolution.

Sometimes we behave in ways that aren't in alignment with how we would choose.

And it's almost like baffling.

Like,

How did that come out of my mouth?

We don't realize that there's a divine plan.

There's a sometimes an orchestration happening in the background,

That we are showing up the way we show up in service of others.

And it feels detrimental in the moment,

Especially when we're out of alignment.

And that's how you know,

If you're honoring your truth,

By the way,

If you're speaking your truth,

If you're showing up authentically,

You have a deep knowing that there wasn't a mistake.

But that actually was true representation of what you needed to say,

And what needed to be heard.

So if you are not speaking from hurt,

But rather speaking from love,

And you're become really aware what's governing your behavior,

What is directing the show?

Am I angry because I feel hurt because I was relying on this person to validate me and they're not validating me.

That's actually a projection of your own pain because you're not validating yourself.

And you're relying on someone else,

And then getting mad at them resenting them for not giving you what you should be giving you what you could be giving you not should.

Opportunity there,

Right?

So pay attention today.

Where do you feel like you weren't authentic?

Weren't speaking your truthfully weren't asking for what you need?

And then that actually created some resentment in your body,

Or maybe you're you're saying yes to things that you actually don't want to say yes to.

That's a big one.

People pleasing will create resentment.

If you say yes to doing something that you don't actually really want to do.

What often happens is you end up resenting that person for making you do it.

When instead,

You could have stood in your authority and said,

Hey,

You know what,

I really want to support you.

But that's not in my capacity.

I can't make space for that in this moment.

Forgive me.

I want to be there for you.

How else can I support you?

Right?

Or if it's to a partner,

Hey,

My dear,

It would be really supportive if you actually put your laundry in the laundry basket instead of on the floor.

Or,

Honey,

When I come home,

I just need a big hug from you.

And you ask for what you need.

Ask for what you need.

Do not expect people to know what you need.

That is showing up authentically that's showing up in your power.

Because if you don't speak your truth,

And then you get upset that someone doesn't know,

And they're not fulfilling your needs,

Then who needs to take responsibility there you,

You're not getting your needs met,

You need to speak up and get your needs met.

And maybe it's needs that you get to take care of for yourself first is the key.

Start with yourself always.

How can I support myself first?

How can I give myself the love I desire?

How can I respect myself more?

How can I honor myself that I am doing a really good job at work or at home,

Or as a daughter.

And then in that position in that belief with that conviction,

You will then show up differently at work at home.

And you'll emanate a vibration that commands respect,

Because you respect yourself.

You'll then teach people how to treat you by treating yourself that way first.

And giving that what you seek.

I've shared this before,

But I'm sharing it again because it's really powerful.

If you desire respect,

Give it.

If you desire acknowledgement,

Give it.

If you want your partner to support you more,

Support him or her more so.

I know I can hear you saying I do.

Do it even more and then ask for what you need in return.

Don't give to expect to return.

Give because of the pleasure of giving.

And you'll see it returns.

It always returns.

Act of forgiveness.

What do you need to forgive about yourself?

Where in your life do you need to forgive?

It's often rooted in the sense of feeling not good enough.

I wasn't a good enough daughter.

Do you need to forgive yourself there?

Were there times where you made mistakes and it's okay.

You're God in training.

You're learning.

You won't make them again.

Right?

God in training.

That's my favorite saying.

You make a mistake.

Oopsie.

I'm God in training.

I'm learning.

Right?

That doesn't mean that you get to just continue being a schmuck.

You get to learn how to operate in a way that is compassionate and loving and respectful.

Where else do you need to forgive yourself?

Did you make mistakes with the people in your life?

Make a list today of all the areas of your life that you feel like you need to forgive yourself.

The way I left that man,

The way I treated my mama,

The way I yelled at that person.

Forgive yourself and reach out and connect and ask for forgiveness to the people that you've wronged.

It's actually one of the steps I believe in AA.

They have you call out and own your mistakes.

It's a big one and it's relieving.

I've done that before.

I held onto something for like 20 years from a girl from a girl from high school.

I was flirting with her boyfriend and at that point I'd never had a boyfriend so I didn't know the value of that relationship and she got really upset with me and I held onto that for 20 years and 20 years later I was like,

You know what?

I'm really sorry that I did that and I reached out to her and I connected and I shared and I was like,

I can't believe I did that.

I own it now and I'm really sorry and she's like,

Oh my God.

Yeah,

I was mad at you at the time.

Of course,

I've dropped it since then but um thank you.

Thank you.

Thank you.

It was such a relief.

It like cut this cord that I got to be clear of that mistake.

So,

Today,

Everything that shows up in your fields is an opportunity to learn how you respond and controlling your responses is the biggest one.

So,

Notice,

Create a little space,

Notice what's coming up in you.

If you're getting angry,

If you're getting upset,

Often that's something that's unresolved within you.

So,

You gotta look there.

What is it within your body that's unresolved?

Are you getting mad at your partner for not supporting you?

Well,

Where are you not supporting you?

Where are you not speaking your truth?

How can you own that and then practice speaking your truth?

Right?

That's part of the confidence building,

Right?

Speaking your truth.

It's a big one.

And then forgiving yourself for the times you haven't and seeing them all as valuable lessons so that you could so step into the brightest,

Biggest version of yourself today.

All of your mistakes contributed to who you are today.

To the beautiful version of you that you are today.

To honor them,

Be grateful for them,

Send blessings to them and love.

Thank you for the mistakes that I've made.

Cuz now I am the best version of me yet.

Alright,

My dear?

Please,

Stay committed to your health.

Choose wisely.

Get that exercise in.

Move your body.

Do something that you love to do.

Light your world up.

Light someone else's world up.

Repeat your I am's.

All the things you can love about yourself.

Look your best.

Dress your best.

Feel your best.

Shine your brightest today,

My love.