Ask Your Guides - Live - 8/1/24

Ask Your Guides - recorded LIVE - 8/1/24 - An unscripted collaboration among teachers, addressing questions from the Insight Timer community. This was recorded LIVE and might have some background noise.

The following teachers were in this LIVE session: Femke E. Bakker, Ph.D., A Smile From Heaven, Cory Lee Davis, Deana Coble, John Steen, and Alice Langholt. Please check out their profiles on Insight Timer and follow them!

Host Teachers: Melanie Underwood and Violet 108

Please join our Insight Timer Group "ASK YOUR GUIDES" to continue interacting with the teachers and the community.

Transcript

Welcome,

Everybody.

Thank you for joining us.

As I was saying,

I see we have a nice big crowd,

And we've got eight teachers here with you tonight.

So we are not going to waste any time.

We are going to get started,

Because I know that you're anxious to start asking your questions.

And I am going to go around from the top corner,

And I am going to have Dina introduce yourself.

Hey,

Everybody.

I'm Dina Coble,

And I'm located in Greensboro,

North Carolina,

And excited to be here.

I don't know,

Violet,

If you wanted any more information or just place and hello.

Anything that you would like to share,

Anything about yourself?

Yeah,

So my whole focus is loving myself and helping others find that place of love inside of themselves,

Because we all got it,

So let's enjoy it.

I love that.

All right,

And Melanie,

I'm going to move over to you,

Only because you're over there on the other side of me.

Hello,

Everyone.

I'm Melanie Underwood,

And I have been on Insight Timer since November,

And I do mindful cooking and intuitive baking.

All righty,

And Corey,

You're next.

I am Corey Davis.

I'm in the countryside outside of Portland,

Oregon,

And I focus on state change,

Ways that we can heal our bodies using sound or get to higher states of consciousness to unlock our best abilities to meditate and do this beautiful work that we all share.

Love that.

Alice,

You're next.

I just think it's so funny,

Because I'm in the middle,

Just like Alice on the Brady Bunch.

Yes.

Hi,

Everybody.

My name is Alice Langhold,

And I specialize on Insight Timer and also in my regular work in all the various places that I teach and so forth in simple,

Fast tools for busy people to use to reduce stress,

Increase well-being,

And just feel inner peace.

People are so busy,

And just to try to tell them to do something is just like,

No,

I can't do one more thing on my list.

But I give you a fast and easy technique that you can use in 30 seconds or less to change the way you feel.

And that's the main operation of most of the courses and tracks that I put out there on Insight Timer,

Of which there's about 100 combined,

And I'm really happy to be here.

Awesome.

And Carly,

We're going to move to you.

Hi,

Everybody.

Carly from A Smile From Heaven.

I'm a creative arts therapist,

And I'm here in Australia.

I'm not sure if there's any other Aussie teachers on here today with us here.

But yeah,

Down under.

Sorry.

Oh,

I'm sorry.

I said,

I think I saw Blossom.

Oh,

No,

I meant live,

Because I know Blossom was on the last one.

So I wasn't sure if there's any other Aussies on here.

But yeah,

I'm in Queensland,

Australia.

So it's winter here at the moment,

But it's a beautiful winter.

My husband,

Jordan,

Will probably pop in at some point and say hi in the chat.

He is puppy sitting downstairs for me.

We've been here on Insight Timer for probably just over three years now.

We love it.

We specialize in,

Well,

I specialize in creative art therapy and connecting within for your own self-love,

Self-healing,

And self-worth,

Using all forms of creativity.

And Jordan is a medium and spiritual healer.

And we do lots of different types of live events here on Insight Timer.

And I love it.

I do mostly cacao ceremonies and creative sessions.

So thank you,

Violet,

For inviting me on.

I'm really excited.

You're very welcome.

I'm just as excited as you are.

And Femke,

I'm going to go over to you next.

Hi,

My name is Femke Bakker,

And I'm residing in the Netherlands.

I'm a teacher of self-gentleness.

I'm since 2019 on Insight Timer.

And yeah,

Self-gentleness,

Well,

I have a definition.

It's radically accepting yourself as the most important person to consistently deserve your own gentleness.

And I'm creating tools where meditation is a part of it to help people to become more gentle with themselves,

And in the end,

Also in their interactions with others.

Because I think it's the key to bringing a little bit more gentleness to the world at large,

Even.

And thank you so much for inviting me.

I'm really excited to have this talk with all these wonderful people.

Yes,

Thank you for being here with us.

It means so much to me when everyone agreed to come on.

Every time I see one of those notes pop up,

I get so excited.

And John,

We're going to move on to you.

Hi,

Everyone.

Thank you so much,

Violet and Melanie,

For hosting these.

This is just so fantastic.

My name is John Steen.

I'm in San Francisco,

California.

I'm a certified energy healing practitioner.

And I'm normally live about four times a week.

I'll be live tomorrow at 10 AM Pacific Standard Time.

And this week,

We've been working on past lives,

Delving into past lives,

Which has been very powerful.

And tomorrow,

We'll be delving into what is our most awakened lifetime that we've lived,

Which could be this one that we're in now.

So do check me out for that.

And I'm just so thrilled to be here.

Absolutely.

Absolutely.

Thank you.

All right.

So we are going to turn to our community.

We're going to let you ask questions of the teachers.

And Melanie is going to take it away,

Because moderation is her strong side,

Definitely not mine.

I get scattered.

So Melanie,

There you go.

Thank you.

Thanks,

Everybody,

For joining.

And drop your questions into the chat that you have for the teachers.

If you have something specific for a person,

Please just put their name in there.

And if not,

I'll ask it sort of of everyone.

And Melinda asked,

Are there links to all of the teachers?

There are not,

Right?

Because you can't put links.

I go into my teacher's profile.

And if you click on my link tree,

It will take you to the list of all the links of every teacher that's here right now,

Every teacher that's been here in the past.

I have them all separated by dates.

I have the replays of the past ones as well.

So just make sure you click on my teacher's profile,

And you can get all that information.

Because moderation is not my strength,

But I do want to make sure that I'm Because moderation is not my strength,

But the organization is.

So I took care of that ahead of time.

And also,

Someone asked,

Is it general questions?

You can ask whatever you would like.

It's an open forum,

Somebody.

I actually texted me already a question for Femke about how you got into self-kindness,

And what was your job beforehand?

OK,

Well,

That's a great question.

So next to being a meditation teacher,

I'm also a behavioral scientist.

So I also study the impact of meditation.

There are some courses here on Insight Timer by me that are related to my research into how loving-kindness meditation can cultivate tolerance.

For instance,

Authentic leadership is another one.

But self-gentleness is actually a really personal story.

I was so lucky to have a TEDx talk last year.

I recorded it also for Insight Timer,

So it's also in my profile,

Where I share my personal story,

Which is basically that I'm a previous perfectionist.

So I used to be a perfectionist,

But I'm still a previous perfectionist,

Because there's always the chance that you will fall back when something is there.

And I think a lot of events in my life helped me to start to understand that there could be only one person starting to be gentle with me,

And it was I.

And it was a long way finding that.

And in that process,

I intuitively and also based on some scientific insights,

I developed these tools to help myself.

And I started as a meditation teacher,

Just meditation here on Insight Timer.

But through the lives,

I've given a lot of lives since 2020,

First every week,

Now every month.

Tomorrow is one at 3.

30 PM EST,

If you want to join.

And I realized everything I teach is about self-gentleness.

So I developed the definition,

I will say it again,

Radically accepting yourself to consistently deserve your own gentleness.

And what I really like about using the word gentleness instead of self-love is that the word love has a lot of connotations.

And it can be also a problematic word sometimes,

Because we use it in so many things.

We can sometimes be really angry at someone and say,

Well,

I love you,

But,

Right?

And gentleness,

We can all imagine that we can be gentle to ourselves.

So that's the way in.

But in the end,

It's all about self-love.

I don't know if I answered the question completely,

Otherwise I will come back to that.

But so it's based on my personal experiences and together with the expertise that I have,

I created,

Yeah,

This concept.

I think that's amazing.

And I know one of the things I always say in my lives is as a former pastry chef,

I'm a former productionist.

So I'm curious,

And unmute yourself if you feel this way,

Is anyone else in here related to that?

Does anybody else feel like they were a perfectionist or maybe you still are?

For sure,

I'm definitely a reformed,

Sometimes slipped back into my perfectionism.

And as a creative arts therapist now,

I've created a toolbox of ways in which I can overcome that for myself.

And I found abstract art and art journaling and mixed media art was one of the best things for me because there's no precision,

There's no perfectionism regarding,

Drawing a specific landscape or a portrait picture.

Once we let go of that fear and just play with art in a fun,

Carefree,

Intuitive,

Flowy kind of way and just make a mess,

We really let go of,

Well,

For me anyway,

I let go of a lot of perfectionism and I actually opened myself up to creating art in a way that I've never created before.

So I can look at it now and it doesn't need to make any sense.

It doesn't need to be understood by everybody else.

And it doesn't matter if it's a mess because that's what art is supposed to be.

It's supposed to be messy and fun and nothing precise or perfect about it.

Which is sort of an analogy for life.

I feel that way about cooking,

Art,

Cooking,

Messy,

Life.

Anybody else relate to that or no?

None of you guys are perfectionists.

Oh,

Well.

I definitely am.

Joestar,

Alice.

Alice.

I am not a perfectionist because I'm willing to make mistakes because I know that it's just like,

I just want to try everything.

And so I just try to just give myself permission but I have a thing called the door.

The door means I'm going to try this.

And if it doesn't work,

I can leave.

I can stop doing it.

I can quit.

I can do something else.

So that makes me feel secure to try new things.

And if you're someone who's been a perfectionist,

Maybe you want to give yourself the door and say,

You know something,

I'm just going to try and see if this works out.

And if I decide it's not working out,

I can do something else and stop doing this.

And that adds a layer of security.

So I hope that helps somebody.

And Eva asked a pretty deep question and I'm sure some of you saw it.

How to cope with the fear of death?

Anybody?

John.

Hi,

Thanks.

I saw that question and thanks for that question.

That's actually one of my biggest fears in my life.

And the way that I have tried to deal with it,

Because I do think about it actually quite a bit.

My mom actually passed away about six weeks ago.

So she was my last parent to die.

So when you're,

For those who have experienced all of their,

You know,

Both their parents are dying,

That puts you right up to the front of the line,

Right?

So right before my mom died,

When I was thinking about,

We were waiting for Tess to come back for her,

See whether or not her cancer had spread.

And I was lying down here on the couch,

Watching a movie and processing that.

And I realized,

You know,

When I was having those feelings of,

I hope it's not,

Her cancer didn't spread.

All these random thoughts going in my head about my mom maybe dying.

And I realized in that moment,

I had to look at my mom at the soul level.

And once I was able to look at my mom at the soul level and not put on my wishes on my mom,

And just really mind my own business,

Because my mother is on her own soul journey,

Like I am,

Like all of us are.

And once I was able to realize that and really mind my own business and step away,

That I can't get involved with anyone else's soul journey whatsoever.

So that really helps me with my own death,

That knowing that my soul is on its own journey and death is just a continuation of life.

And we're just in this physical incarnation in this body.

And maybe I'll be in another body,

Or maybe I'll be a tree or a flower or a bird,

Right?

We're there,

We just go through those cycles,

In my belief anyway.

So just coming,

Thinking of the soul has really,

Really helped me thinking of my fear of death.

I hope that helped.

I'm sure it did,

John.

It was very beautiful,

And thank you.

Dina.

Yeah,

So I saw Eva's comment as well,

And I just did something that may be supportive,

It's called How to Operate in Times of Fear.

It's a track that I have out there now.

It just went yesterday.

And part of it is thinking that life has an opposite.

It's thinking that life has an opposite,

Which is death.

And there is no opposite to life.

You've always been,

You always will be,

And you are.

So death is not the opposite of life.

It is an ending of this body,

But you absolutely do go on.

And when you can feel that formlessness that you are,

It brings down that intensity of fear around dying.

And you still have a few fears,

Like nobody wants to die in a horrible way.

But you don't die.

You don't end.

You're gonna be okay.

So for me,

I'm not afraid of dying.

My perspective is,

And it's not even on the after,

Whatever happens after.

For me,

I'm a bit more proactive in this life right now.

And I think what comes from my opinion,

Our fear of dying is actually trying to live with the fact that we live with a lot of regrets and we don't live life right now.

And I think if we work on ourselves and learn to love ourselves,

Like Femke was saying,

Have that self gentleness,

And we live our truth,

We speak our truth,

We can go through life and enjoy the now,

Be what we want to be.

For me,

Anyway,

It takes away that fear of dying because it's that fear of,

Have I completed everything that I wanna complete in this lifetime?

Have I lived my fullness?

Have I lived my truth?

Have I lived with freedom?

Have I used my life to help and inspire and motivate other people?

Have I done everything that I've wanted to do here right now?

And if I am living my fullness in my wholeness,

In my truth,

With that self love and compassion,

I've got no fear of ending this life.

I don't want it to end.

I don't want it to end sooner than it needs to end,

But I'm happy to move forward onto the next part of my journey,

Knowing that I've lived my truth and my fullness.

Does that make sense?

Yeah.

Emke?

Yeah,

I really like that,

And I would like to add to that,

That I think it is important to be okay that you have this fear.

I think it's a fear that belongs to life.

It tells us something about that we want to enjoy life,

Whether or not we are actually enjoying life,

We do want to enjoy that,

And we don't want to miss out on that.

And I really like what Carly was saying,

That when you sit with that fear and you ask yourself,

What is it that I need right now,

Which is that part of self gentleness to me,

Tuning in with whatever's going on right now,

And then really honestly asking you,

What is it that I need right now?

And maybe you need some soothing,

Or maybe it is thinking,

Is this really what I want to do right now?

Is there something that I want to do before I die,

Whether it is today or in 20,

40,

80 years?

So being here and asking yourself what it is that you need to feel good or to feel a little bit better relative to where you are,

Might be a really great way to enjoy life,

To be here in life.

And one of the things that I started to experience,

Especially when I became a serious meditator,

Is that by finding a peace within,

It took away my fear of death.

I don't know if this is for everyone,

I don't want to generalize that,

But I do know with creating that connection with myself,

Feeling what is going on and what it is that I need,

A lot of fears,

Including fear of death,

I don't want to say it's completely gone because I really love life,

But it became softer and gentler because I'm also more in connection to what it is that I want to take out of life.

So I don't know if that's helpful,

But that's my take on it.

I always find it interesting because I believe that is the one fear that everyone has universally at some point in their life,

And it's such a common denominator.

Alice?

So I have this thought that like,

What we,

If we,

If,

And I do believe we do,

But I want everyone to feel safe feeling what they feel,

If we live many lifetimes,

Possibly this is a really good one.

Of the list,

Right?

Maybe the past ones or the future ones are just really difficult.

So I think,

You know,

If I can assume that this one is a good one,

What can I do to really feel it,

To really enjoy it?

What kinds of things can I choose to enjoy so that this life will be not wasted or will just be able to be experienced to the full?

Because I feel like,

You know,

All the times in history of war in the past,

There is no doubt that in my mind that my soul has probably gone through some horrendous thing that I don't want to have right now.

Right now,

Things are pretty good.

I'm here,

I've got my family,

I've got a house.

I'm like,

You know,

Like in the big picture,

This is pretty good and my problems are small.

And so I think to myself,

All right,

When I'm feeling overwhelmed,

Let me come back to the idea that like,

Maybe this is a good one.

And if it's a good one,

How can I appreciate it to the fullest?

How can I make the most of it?

And so this is a mindset that I try to embody whenever possible.

And I hope that's helpful to anybody.

Thank you guys.

I'm going to move on.

Rose asked a while ago,

How to accept big changes in our lives.

She has some big changes coming up and just wanting to know how to accept those changes.

Kafka.

Yeah.

Step-by-step.

It sounds really weird maybe,

But when there are a lot of changes,

It can be,

Even if you love change,

It can still be,

You know,

Unsettling sometimes.

And I love changes,

But when I'm in the middle of change,

I also notice it gives me a lot of stress and a lot of uncertainty suddenly that you need to deal with.

So it's really important to realize that when you are in such a process,

That you have to take it step-by-step.

And also that means tuning in,

Feeling what it is that I need right now.

And the answer to that question can be different anytime.

So sometimes it is,

Wow,

I really love this.

I want to get to my to-do list and do this and that and that.

And maybe sometimes it is,

You know what,

Today I'm going to take a vacation day.

Today I'm just going to stay in bed,

Make myself a nice hot cup of tea,

And then I will binge a series,

Read a book,

Go for a walk in nature,

Or whatever it is that you need.

So really stay close to yourself and try not to,

You know,

There are like two lists.

There's a to-do,

I must-do list,

And I want-to list.

And when there's a lot of changes,

The I must-to-do list is often bigger than the I want-to-do list.

But,

You know,

Try to balance that a little bit and give yourself that time.

If you need two years to deal with those changes,

You need two years.

And probably when you allow yourself to take the time,

It will be easier,

And you might not even need so much time.

That's beautiful.

Carly?

For me,

And I totally agree,

Femke.

You and I seem to be so in tune.

Like,

Honestly,

This is the first time I've actually come across you,

And I'm super,

Super excited.

So I just want to say that first.

But I agree.

When we take it step-by-step,

But we chunk it down into smaller parts instead of just going from A to Z,

You know,

What can we do to make it more manageable?

The smallest,

Smallest of things.

And when I write a to-do list,

I actually write something that I've already done and cross it off,

So I feel like I'm winning.

But what I want to say is when we're dealing with any type of change,

Again,

That comes back to fear,

Like we were talking about before,

Fear of death.

Fear of change is a massive part of our life.

And the problem is we think change is bad and scary and that we're going to die,

You know,

Like that Cruise movie,

You know,

And then they died at the end.

Because fear is like the unknown,

But it doesn't have to be.

What I do and what I've done with my fear of change is let go of expectations.

At the moment we have any type of expectations on something,

It sets that bar and it stops us from actually getting bigger and better.

And something that we were totally unaware could have even been available to us because we've got this expectation of this is what's going to happen.

And the fear of change,

We set this bar and then we go,

Okay,

This is what's got to happen instead of being open to what is possible,

Which is probably so much more than what we really thought was even available to us.

So yeah,

That's my two cents.

Dina.

Yeah,

So change is happening.

And there's,

You know,

That's the thing,

We can resist it,

But we can't stop it.

And so all that energy we put into doing that steals from us the opportunity to enjoy ourselves and enjoy our lives.

But it's,

You know,

Of course the fear of the unknown.

What I've got right now is okay,

I'm scared to trade it up for something different.

And so change can be really it's just distractive energy because most likely the change you're facing has already happened or is very close to happening.

So then it's about understanding that your body is fully capable of working with this change for the best outcome and putting your energy into that and working with that.

And also it's about letting go of control.

And I do have a track out there called Control the Ultimate Arrogance of the Ego,

Which can help with accepting change and knowing that it's all working out perfectly okay.

You're gonna be in the right place at the right time.

You don't have to stress about it.

Anybody else wanna jump in and say something?

Okay,

Okay.

Arrogance,

And I think this is really tied into that.

How to work with judgment and self-judgment.

That's a huge one.

Alice,

You wanna go ahead?

Yeah,

Sure.

So totally self-judgment is just like this narrative voice in your head just trying to make you feel bad.

And it's so ridiculous because it's just a story and it's not real.

And so I have a track called Fire Your Inner Critic that I think is like maybe useful for this as long as we understand that this voice in our head is not really who we are or real or true.

Then the track that I have,

Fire Your Inner Critic,

And also I have a track called How to Stop Shaming Yourself for Mistakes.

So just quick tools to try to just understand that this is not real,

The reality of who you are.

Oh no,

Is something wrong?

We're getting some comments that people's audio are funky and I'm sorry.

It's not echoing.

That's okay.

Is there anything I can do to help?

Maybe.

I also don't,

But I think the,

But we're not listening to the live feed.

But in any case,

Maybe,

Oh,

Who's hearing?

If I,

Okay,

Sorry.

We're good to go.

No,

That's okay.

All right,

Yeah.

Okay,

Sorry.

I guess I just want you to know that the voice in your head is just a story that comes from conditioning in your past,

But that doesn't make it real.

That comes from things that people told you when you were young or things that have happened to you that have made you feel a certain way and be afraid.

And so the more that you can trust yourself and overcome them,

Just use some quick tools to try to clear those or block them and you will be okay.

There are ways to fix this because again,

It's just a story and it's not real.

Thanks everybody.

Thank you.

Corey.

Now I'm unmuted.

Thank you.

I'm coming at this from a kind of vibration of consciousness position.

I focus a lot with brainwave entrainment tracks,

Which kind of helps our mind to shift into,

We could say a different frequency or helps our sense of identity make a migration from let's say the more egoic judgmental position,

Which we're very used to.

That's called the beta band of consciousness.

That's more operating kind of subject object.

There's a world out there.

Our discursive thoughts are running.

Judgments are largely unconscious,

Right?

We're not choosing judgments.

They're just kind of happening.

But we can actually shift our brainwaves.

We can meditate our way there.

We can use brainwave entrainment to help us find these positions of consciousness that exists prior to judgment,

Right?

We could say the alpha,

The gamma,

Theta,

Those frequencies when we're kind of fully in those states,

Our parasympathetic system is in the rest and digest state.

Our left,

Or say our right hemisphere is dominant if you believe in that model.

And in those states,

We're just less likely to reference the parts of our conditioned self that then have those kind of preloaded conditions,

Again,

Unchosen,

So they're unconscious judgments that kind of automatically fire,

Right?

So if we work with our brain states,

Our states of consciousness,

We can more or less exist in a state that judgment doesn't even happen.

It's not even there.

It's not present.

Or if it does happen,

It doesn't necessarily happen to you because you're just experiencing it as the witness,

Right?

So we can experience judgment from the position of just the witness who's bearing witness to the contents of this experience of the local unit of consciousness called me.

We can lessen that voice.

We can wear it down.

We can do,

I forget,

I'm sorry,

The name of the woman just went before me,

But to see that it is a story,

To see it as a fiction,

That we're making up and telling ourselves and believing it,

Right?

We have the thought and then we just believe it is true.

So creating a little space between that thought construct called judgment,

The me that is the witness experiencing it,

And it gives you a lot of this leverage over its ability to create the negative outcomes of judgment or positive ones if it's helpful or in service to us.

But when it comes to ourselves,

Often it's that critic,

It's the mean voice.

So I think meditating into and practicing those states of consciousness where judgment doesn't exist can be really helpful as a tool.

Thank you,

Corey.

Very insightful.

John?

I just wanted to share real quick a quote about judgment that helps me when I get into that space that I saw months ago.

And the quote is,

When I judge another,

I'm inviting that other person into an agreement they did not agree to,

Which I really,

Really love.

So I'm a quote guy,

So quotes kind of really help me when I get into a space that I can remember that.

That's a great quote.

Carly?

I'm a quote person too,

John,

So I'm always reciting things that I've picked up.

For me,

With judgment,

And we all have judgment,

We all have self-judgment,

And that whole reptile brain that we have that's 300 million years old that just keeps us in fight or flight mode,

It hasn't evolved enough for us to see that the stresses that we're in at the moment,

They're just perceived threats.

But for me,

My neuro-spicy brain,

It goes into reminding myself that our inner critic is actually just a keyboard warrior.

It's a troll.

And I just like to go,

Thank you,

Captain Obvious,

For reminding me.

Because when we have these conversations with ourselves,

Which I call my executive meetings,

I get to individualize and identify the different roles that I play within my own brain.

And so when I call myself out on being Captain Obvious and that self-judgment,

Knowing that like,

I think it was Alice who said,

Or Corey said that,

Just because we're having those thoughts doesn't mean that it's our truth.

And so I go,

Captain Obvious,

No,

Thank you.

You don't have to.

Like the person who always corrects somebody when they pronounce something wrong or point out an obvious spelling mistake or a grammar mistake on a comment.

It's Captain Obvious.

We don't really need that in this world.

We're picking on ourselves enough.

We don't need everybody else doing that for us.

And so when we do it to ourselves,

I just call myself out on it,

Just like I would to a keyboard warrior.

So that's how I deal with self-judgment,

So.

Thank you.

Fabke?

Yeah,

The self-judgment is basically that part of us that wants to keep us safe,

That is afraid that we are doing things wrong,

That we are afraid,

That we are not loved,

That we are not worthy,

That we are.

.

.

And those are things that we've picked up during our lives.

It's pretty normal.

It's also good to know that everyone has this inner critic.

So starting to deal with that,

That is the part that I know a lot about,

About self-gentleness.

And one of the important things is when you wake up in the morning and you start on this self-criticism note,

That you can carry this with you all day.

So I'm really,

Really much in favor of starting your day in a self-gentle way.

And actually,

To start your day in a self-gentle way,

This starts already the evening before.

And when you go to sleep,

You first start to help yourself to focus on three things you're grateful for.

So you have those feelings of gratefulness flowing that we noticed from a lot of research.

When you start to cultivate feelings of gratefulness,

You really,

Really help yourself and you improve your perceived wellbeing.

And then before you go to sleep,

You tell yourself,

Okay,

Tomorrow is going to be a new day.

So I can pick up on all my worries and all my self-criticism of today,

But tomorrow is going to be a new day.

And the very first thing that you do when you wake up and you have your eyes still closed is just greeting yourself with so much kindness.

Just,

Good morning,

Darling.

How are you?

Did you sleep well?

What is it that you need right now?

And then you just listen to that answer.

And I know sometimes it is,

I want to keep on sleeping,

But you cannot because the kids have to go to school or your boss is waiting or whatever's going on,

But then honor that in another moment.

Because when you start to tune in,

Feeling what it is that you need,

You become aware of this other part of you.

Recording in progress.

Then you become aware of that other part of you that is also really important.

And,

Sorry,

I was just off track because it started to record,

Melanie.

Okay,

Let's go back.

So when you tune in more often with yourself and you become aware of what it is that you need,

It's a slow process.

It's something that you cannot fix in just one day.

But if you start to do this for every day,

For let's say one month,

You really step-by-step start to change and you will become aware of the thoughts within and you also will be able to deal better with that inner critic that basically is just the fearful part of you that wants to keep you safe.

So it's also good to honor that part,

But also to,

Like Carly was saying,

Speak that part and say,

Well,

I know you want to keep me safe,

But I'm also suffering because of the things that you're telling me.

So let's try another way for now.

Okay,

So just to say,

I have this course on Inside Timer.

It's called Start Living a Life of Self-Gentleness Today.

It's a really mini course of four days and then some tracks that you can use every day,

Just the practices that I just said.

And if you start to do this for one month,

So you really start to help yourself to become a little bit more self-gentle and to deal in a gentle way with the self-critic.

Dina,

Before you say something,

I'm going to jump in.

Jordan wrote in the text,

You can be on a high on everything and it's going well,

And then bam,

Self-destruction thoughts creep in.

One good thought will not override 20 years of negatives,

So keep going.

For example,

Think three good thoughts to override that one negative.

And I just want to say,

I totally believe that myself because since I was a little girl,

I've always,

You know,

I've said this to Violet.

If anybody remembers Stuart Smalley from Saturday Night Live,

That was me before he existed because I would look in the mirror and I would be like,

I'm going to go and do X,

Y,

Z.

I'm going to do this.

And I'm that person today,

Even if I don't believe it,

I'll tell myself something just,

And I will eventually believe it.

And that's for me how I work.

Sorry,

Dina,

Go ahead.

No,

I think all these examples of how to take care of yourself are huge.

And each person is going to resonate with something each person said and I did too.

You know,

I loved hearing everybody's.

And Femke,

I'm totally going to listen to yours because I just,

I felt it all over me when you were like talking and like,

Be gentle and good morning,

Darling.

I was loving that.

And,

But,

And I'll just add one thing about like self-punishment or self-judgment.

And it is that I think the pain that we actually feel around self-judgment is where we separate from who we are.

When we step out into a different position and we turn around and we look at ourselves and we judge us,

We've actually separated from ourself.

And that's the pain.

It's not so much about what we're judging ourselves on,

But the fact that we've separated from who we are.

And so,

You know,

Taking the time to come from that whole space and return these little parts back to that.

And,

You know,

I have a track called Self-Punishment.

If you want it done right,

Do it yourself because all judgment is self-judgment.

And so in that track,

It's different from some of the other ones because I actually go through a process.

And if you listen,

You can join in on that process and help yourself as well.

So,

But you know,

There's so many tools that each person is given.

I mean,

It's a plethora.

I mean,

We all got enough funk that we can use one of everybody's.

Femke,

Did you want to add something?

No,

Okay.

So,

Jessica.

All right,

Go ahead.

Sorry,

Start being self-dental today.

It's a,

Yeah,

You can find it in my profile under courses.

There are several courses.

And if you understand Dutch,

There's also one in Dutch,

But also in English,

Yes.

Start being self-dental today.

Thank you.

Dina,

Also,

What's the name of your track again?

Self-Punishment.

If you want it done right,

Do it yourself.

That's a great title.

Yeah.

So Carly and John both said that they love quotes.

And before you said that,

Jessica asked,

What word or quote that you,

What is a word or quote that you use to guide your life or work?

Your hand is up.

Go for it.

Where do I start?

There's so many,

There's so many.

But my word,

I have two words.

One is choose,

Like I choose me,

Choose me.

The other one is perspective.

They're my main words that I live by.

But the two main quotes that I live by is the grass is not greener on the other side.

The grass is greener where you water it.

And the other one is those who matter don't judge.

And those who judge don't matter.

John.

My favourite quote is thank you,

Just thank you.

And the quote that's really helped me in my own healing journey that I've been on in the last four years is by Carl Jung.

It is,

He says,

Until you make the unconscious conscious,

It will direct your life and you will call it fate.

That has really,

Really helped me bringing the unconscious behaviours and stuff in my life forward so that I could heal that.

Corey.

My favourite would be from 14th century theologian,

Mystic.

He's in the Christian tradition.

It's where Eckhart Tolle got his name mistake.

And that's my sister Eckhart,

Who says the most important hour is always the present.

The most significant person is precisely the one sitting across from you right now.

The most necessary work is always love.

Carly.

So Jordan,

In the comments,

Who's also for anybody who missed it earlier,

Is my amazing husband,

Who's downstairs,

Probably sitting at the kitchen table wondering why I didn't make him breakfast.

Reminded me that one of our favourite quotes is I am the one I've been waiting for.

And that's one of the biggest things that I work on,

Especially when I'm doing my kick-out ceremonies on here,

Is how to give people the tools and teach people to show up for themselves because nobody else is coming to save us.

Nobody else is going to do the work for us.

It's up to us to step up and do the work.

I am the one I've been waiting for.

So yeah,

Thank you,

Jordan,

For that reminder.

I know he put it in the comments,

But I wanted to really make sure that that was on the recording as well.

That's awesome.

Anybody else have anything they'd like to contribute?

Well,

I always tell myself that everything is always working out for me,

Whether it's going to be over the left way,

The right way.

It might take long,

It might take short,

And it takes some kind of surrender to that,

Knowing the trust that everything will be working out okay for me.

And another one would be,

And that's something that I really start to tell myself the last few years,

That is,

I want to take it easy.

I want to live life with ease,

You know,

Just the word ease.

And that is for where I'm coming from,

Ease was not a word that was part of my life.

And I read just the sound of it.

I don't even say it in Dutch,

Which is my native tongue.

Ease in English,

That's the right word,

So.

Thea?

Yeah,

You know,

I was thinking,

I love one by Snoop Dogg,

Where he says,

He's thanked everybody in the list,

And then he goes,

And I want to thank myself.

I need to do a whole lot more of that.

You've come a long way.

I love his quote.

I just have a quick one that I do,

And I encourage my clients to do,

Which is just to say,

Yay me,

Yay me.

Like,

You know,

When you do something even small,

Like whatever,

When I do the dishes,

I don't like doing the dishes,

But I do the dishes,

And I'm like,

Yay me,

You know,

Because,

Following me around as though I would actually love that,

Actually,

But somebody,

I feel the same kind of rush that,

Like,

Someone would be like,

Yay,

Alice,

Good job,

You know?

And I say,

Yay me,

And I did that.

Good job,

Alice,

You do that.

Even if it's just,

I folded the clothes,

I did the laundry,

I washed the dishes,

You know?

Something like that.

You have to give yourself praise for so many things that you do that,

You know,

You don't have to do it all by yourself.

You have to give yourself praise for so many things that you do that you're not gonna get it from somebody else necessarily,

But it doesn't matter,

Because when you say to yourself,

Good job,

You feel it just like someone else said it to you.

So don't discount the stuff that you do that matters.

Carly?

So following on from that,

I love that,

Alice,

Because I know in the past I've had talks and I say,

You know,

We need to talk to ourselves like we are our best friend.

So if your best friend come to you and said something,

He'd be like,

You've got this girlfriend,

You know?

We talk to ourselves like we're our pet.

Oh,

Who's a good boy?

You know,

Talk to ourselves like we are the sun.

Oh my God,

That warmth,

It's beautiful.

Talk to ourselves like we are our favorite sweet treat,

That we are worth every single calorie,

You know?

So when we talk to ourselves in different ways from different perspectives,

We really do become our own cheerleader,

Our own advocate and our own person who can sing our praises.

So yeah,

I love that.

Yeah,

Go me,

Yay me.

We have to talk to ourselves like Femke does.

I'm gonna start.

Jessica asked this,

She said,

I always tell my six-year-old that no one knows everything and we can teach someone something new.

What is something you feel you are a total expert on to teach others and what would you love to learn more about from an expert in that area?

Well,

While you all are thinking,

I'm gonna just say I'm a total expert on cooking because I have been teaching for 28 years,

But I also tell,

I said it today to someone,

To be a great teacher,

You have to be a great learner.

And it doesn't matter what I'm doing,

I'm still learning every single day.

I learn from eight-year-olds I teach,

I learn from 88-year-olds I teach.

Carly.

I agree,

I definitely don't think that I'm a major expert in every single thing.

I'm a pretty much like the jack of all trades.

I do a little bit of everything,

That's my neuro-spicy brain.

But what I am really good at is showing up consistently for myself.

This work doesn't work if you don't consistently show up for yourself.

So like Femke was saying,

When you wake up in the morning,

Talk to yourself in a gentle way.

People often say to me,

How did you get?

So for anybody who doesn't know my backstory,

Just really quickly,

Four years ago,

I was almost institutionalized.

I was catatonic.

I'd had the biggest breakdown,

I tried to kill myself,

And I'd let all my past trauma and everything get on top of me and ignore it and didn't do anything to help myself.

And I had this amazing husband,

Medium and spiritual healer who could help all these people around the world for 20 plus years and he couldn't help me.

And why?

Because I didn't want to help myself.

The moment I wanted to help myself,

I got the help I needed.

I got the tools,

I got the help,

And I consistently show up for myself.

So I feel like I'm an expert in showing up for myself.

And that's every day,

Not negotiable,

Meditation,

Cacao,

Something creative,

Self-healing,

Being aware,

Realizing that I get to ask my emotions,

What is my sadness trying to tell me?

What am I dealing with today?

And not taking things personally,

Letting go of the judgments and opinions of other people.

So when we get to become an expert at ourselves,

That's where our real learning really starts,

Starting to realize that sitting with our shadow,

Sitting with the darkness within,

Knowing who we truly are,

When we know who we are,

We love who we are,

And then we cannot so easily be influenced in a negative way by the judgment and behaviors of people around us,

Which is generally a projection of their own stuff that they're going through and not anything to do with us.

So I would say that's what my superpower is,

Is knowing how to show up for myself,

So.

Hey,

Thanks.

I think that I'm here on earth to help people find easy ways,

Things that feel accessible and workable to them,

To address what they have to address so that they can feel good about their life.

And it's always so wonderful to me when my clients go,

Wow,

Because wow is like the biggest compliment,

Right?

But if I can help them have a new way,

No sound.

Okay,

Are we okay?

Okay,

Okay,

Cool.

Okay,

If we can have a way,

Thank you.

Okay,

If we can have a way that we can change our thinking or feel better or reduce our stress quickly,

Then thanks,

Rose.

Okay,

Then this is something that we can do to help.

And my big thing is I wanna help people.

And if I can help you feel better,

It's great.

And so I work on all the ways that I can learn to help myself feel better.

And then if it works for me,

I'm gonna teach it to you.

And so my superpower,

If you would call it that,

Is finding ways to simplify and explain in a rational way how to do something that's gonna help you feel better.

I am so honored to be here,

By the way,

With all of these incredible people tonight.

I love it for inviting me to be part of this.

And I hope that you'll follow me and try to look at what I have and see if there's anything there for you.

And I'm gonna do that for the rest of you all because you're all amazing.

Corey?

Yeah,

I'd say what I've been focused on most besides healing this chronically ill body and working with those who also struggle with chronic illness or suicidal ideation,

Which has,

Of course,

If anybody's struggled with an incredibly powerful illness that seems to be your path,

Your spiritual path here on earth and how to surrender to that,

To make it work for you,

To understand how it is chosen at a higher level,

Oftentimes,

Than what we can perceive in the moment of our kind of ego's reckonings and judgments about it.

So maybe walking those on the path of healing through chronic illness and to get through that,

The mud that then becomes the lotus once we get into it deep enough and confront it and face it and learn how to transmute it into a beautiful,

Loving life and healing journey,

Yeah.

That was beautiful.

Femke?

Yeah,

So I think I'm an expert in self-gentleness.

I always say in my lives,

I'm a master of self-gentleness,

But does it mean that I'm always self-gentle?

No,

Not at all.

It's actually becoming self-gentle is a lifelong work-in-progress process.

And it's like peeling an onion and you always get in new situations where you're challenged again.

And I'm also not always self-gentle,

But I'm a master of self-gentleness because I recognize it when I'm not.

And then I really,

Really help myself to find my way back to the self-gentleness.

And sometimes it's just like that in a second and sometimes it takes me two weeks,

Right?

It depends on the topic.

So also there,

We don't have to be perfectionists.

Having that said,

I'm always open to learn from anyone.

Also,

So I teach also at the university,

Not self-gentleness,

Although I try to put it in the mix,

But I'm teaching all kinds of other things.

However,

I always learn from my students because they ask me things and I always say,

Well,

No question is stupid.

Every question counts.

And I really learn from that.

And so I think maybe my extra superpowers that I'm really open to the world and wanting to listen to people,

Hear them,

Have as least expectations and assumptions about them so I can really truly learn also from people.

So yeah,

That's my answer.

Bina?

Yeah,

So my expertise is diving in to the formless love that we are and expressing that through everyday practical ways of being.

And you are that love.

And I love being on this planet with you.

And it makes it so much more pleasure.

So thank you for being the unconditional love that you are and showing me that all the time in practical ways.

That's beautiful.

I wanna add that my expertise is connecting everyone through technology.

Yeah.

That's true.

Maybe just technology in general,

Violet.

It's almost seven.

So what I would love if everyone can go around and just,

Because we have now over 200 people here,

So a lot of people joined later.

Can I say something too?

I know that some of you had questions we couldn't get to.

Please join the group,

Ask your guides,

Because the teachers are there and you're more than welcome to continue this conversation.

Ask them questions in the group.

We're all there to respond to you and I see everything.

So even if your question didn't get,

We didn't get to it today,

Please share it in the group,

Ask your guides.

And you might get more answers.

I know Bobby had a question we didn't get to.

So a couple of things I just wanna address,

Because a lot of people are asking,

Can you please put all the teachers' names in the chat?

Maybe every teacher in here,

Just write hi.

And then you can click on the teacher's photo.

And I think you can follow the teacher from their photo.

But Violet does.

Okay.

Okay,

The other option you have,

It's a little more difficult for you.

You could screenshot us because everyone's name here is their name on Insight Timer.

So you can screenshot and then go back in and follow.

I know it's a little bit of a pain in the butt,

But it definitely works.

So I know we're wrapping up,

But I would just love it if all of you,

Guides,

Teachers,

Could just,

Again,

Say your name,

Tell us whatever you want us to know.

Maybe tell us when your next live is,

How we can support you as teachers from the audience,

As other teachers,

Just sort of whatever you would like us to know.

Dina,

Can I start with you?

Just cause I see you in my corner.

That's all right.

I'm in your corner.

And most of all,

I'm in my corner.

Cause that's where I've come from,

Is asking that question when I really needed to know the answer.

When my life completely hit the bottom,

I had to ask the question,

What is love?

What is love really?

And my life took a change at that point in a journey.

And it wasn't perfect in a day,

But I love love.

And I love continuing to learn about love.

And I love seeing it in each and every one of you.

So if we hang out,

We're gonna love ourselves.

So give a follow if you like.

And how can you support?

By loving when you,

Because this planet is such a better space when you love you.

And it actually changes the vibration that we're living in.

That's how important you are.

And that's how important loving yourself is.

It's not just something you do cause well,

That might feel better.

So much more important than that is actually how we all evolve.

So love you and love yourself.

That's beautiful.

I love it.

Femke?

Yeah,

So again,

My name is Femke Bakker.

I'm teaching Self-Gentleness.

My next live is tomorrow actually.

So Friday,

2nd of August,

3.

30 PM Eastern Standard Time.

That's 9.

30 Central European Time.

And actually because I saw Blossom say in the comments that she was never at my lives because she's in Australia.

But I also always have some early birds from Australia and New Zealand.

I think it's 7.

30,

But yeah.

All right.

So that's tomorrow at Self-Gentleness,

How to deal with unpleasant emotions.

Really looking forward to that.

I give a live once a month.

And I really would love you to check out my courses,

Especially the one about Self-Gentleness because I really believe in that.

Because I really believe and it fits a little bit with what Deanna just said.

When people start to be more gentle with themselves,

They also become more gentle to others.

And yeah,

That's the way to go.

I also have a great course that I think that is really helpful if you are suffering from the polarization that we have in our societies at large in the whole world.

It's called How to Deal with Challenging Opinions and Behaviors.

A lot of people took it.

If you start,

Just take all the 10 days because it's really built into not understanding something with your head,

But feeling how you can be a part of a world that can be more tolerant.

Let's agree to disagree.

So yeah,

You could support me by following me,

Coming to my lives,

But especially become self-gentle.

And thank you so much,

Melanie and Violet for hosting this.

I really enjoyed it.

It was really great also to meet the other teachers.

Thank you so much.

Thank you so much,

Violet and Melanie for hosting this.

Thank you to all these amazing teachers here that I get to share this space with.

I'm so very grateful.

Thank you to everyone out there for supporting us and coming to this amazing live.

I love the innovation that's been happening on IT since the live started in 2020.

I started the lives in 2020.

My life had fallen completely apart.

I didn't know what I was going to do.

And I would never go into all these modalities that all these amazing teachers offer here and trying different things and finding energy healing that changed my life and helped me deal with the things that were going on in my life.

And now that I'm a teacher here on Inside Timer and here on this live here tonight is like such an amazing full circle moment for me.

And I'm just so beyond grateful.

And like I said,

My favorite quote is thank you that these modalities do work.

We can change our lives.

We can heal.

We can grow.

And what is so amazing about Inside Timer is it's like this little niche community,

Even though there's almost 30 million people online where everybody is really loving each other,

Where it's just,

There's so much love on this app and so much love with the people here.

And I'm just so very grateful for this app,

For this community and for all of you.

So thank you,

Thank you,

Thank you.

Thank you,

John.

Corey.

Yeah,

I echo John's beautiful gratitude and everyone else who's able to participate today.

It's just so wonderful to get all these insights,

To share our wisdom,

To share our healing journeys and what's working for us.

Just so beautiful.

So to support me,

The best thing you could do is learn how to best take care of yourself,

Right?

We're all learning more and more optimal ways to do that.

Every day is a new opportunity to learn a little bit and to have a different or perhaps enhanced way to take care of ourselves,

Which helps us all evolve to our greatest potential.

So come find me if you struggle with any kind of chronic illness,

You wanna shift your state out of pain,

Anxiety,

Depression,

Fear,

Guilt,

Shame.

That really helps to kind of see a new perspective on your situation so you can keep moving forward and bless the world with all your gifts.

Thank you,

Corey.

Alice.

Hey,

I just wanna,

Again,

Thank Melanie and Violet,

Especially for moderating and inviting me to be a part of this amazing event tonight.

I am here to help you if you need quick tools,

If you need a fast way to shift your thinking or shift how you're feeling.

Like I study stress and all the various tools that work on various kinds of stress,

Like the stress of feeling not good enough or the stress from after conflict.

And there are specific tools that work on those and I wanna give them to you so that you can become the kind of person that you wanna be and help yourself shift into a better state of wellbeing.

Again,

I'm so impressed by everyone that's here tonight and so grateful to be a part of this event and so much love for all the people that were here tonight that we can share with you or this morning,

Depending on where you are.

But in any case,

I'm in the United States in Maryland and I'm really happy to be part of this like global group where we can just offer our love to all of you.

Please,

Please follow me if you would please and you can look through all the courses and tracks that I have to offer and connect with me if there's something that you need because I'm here to help and it's like my life purpose and I'm so happy to be a part of it.

Thank you again for letting me be here and thanks for listening.

Thanks,

Carly.

Hi,

So my name is Carly,

Obviously we go under the name of A Smile From Heaven.

My amazing husband,

Jordan is downstairs.

Normally he'd be up here with me sometimes as well and I'm a creative arts therapist.

I'm here in Queensland,

Australia.

So my time zone is very different but I do try to do different time zone lives.

So coming up next week,

I've got four Australian time.

Monday morning,

I've got a 7 a.

M kick out ceremony which is a beautiful heart opening and way to connect in.

So that's what I love doing is I love giving people the tools to help connect back in with their own self to be raw and vulnerable with themselves for healing and wisdom.

And I use a lot of creativity in my life,

Obviously being a creative arts therapist.

And so Tuesday and Wednesday,

I've got two creative lives here on Insight Timer,

One in the morning at 9.

30 and then one in the evening on Wednesday night at 6 o'clock.

One's for junk journaling and one is for art journaling.

And I love these creative lives where I get to just be fun and free with my art and show people that you don't have to be an illustrator.

You don't have to class yourself as an artist.

Your stuff doesn't need to hang on museum walls or even be seen by anybody else.

You just give yourself permission to play and realise that when we connect with ourselves in any form of creative way,

Whether it's with paper,

With paint,

With food,

With mail,

You know,

We give ourselves permission to be childlike and free and tap into our own intuition because the more we create it,

We actually open our intuition up as well.

So that's what I love doing.

And I really hope that you guys have enjoyed my little part,

Honestly.

So I feel like I'm fangirling here,

You know,

Little old Carly in Coomera in Queensland,

Australia,

Gets to be part of this amazing group here.

And it's,

You know,

I know I often am on a Lives and when I,

You know,

Talk to people,

They're all like,

Oh my God,

We love you.

And it's like,

But I'm sitting here fangirling these guys,

You know,

Mel and Violet and Femke,

You know,

Like I think I might be just in love with Femke now.

So I'll probably go and stalk her now.

I'm so sorry.

I have loved her for years.

Yeah,

I like,

One thing that I really love about being a teacher here on Inside Time is not only this amazing community,

Not just with the people,

But the teachers is that I get to show that we as teachers here are real people.

You know,

We have our own stuff going on and I like showing up in my own real authentic way.

I am actually dressed nicely with my hair and makeup done today.

But normally in my lives,

I show up in my pajamas with bed hair,

You know,

No bra that I just put a jumper on so nobody can see.

But I'm real,

Like I'll be crying in the cacao ceremony.

I'm a real person.

And that's what the teachers here on Inside Time are.

We are all real people.

And honestly,

It is such a blessing and an honour to be able to be here with all these amazing teachers and meet some new teachers.

Cause I didn't know about Femke and Alice and Corey and John and,

You know,

And Dina.

Like I can't wait to go and expand my circle as well.

So thank you,

Violet and Mel for including me.

And I really hope that,

You know,

I get to come back again another time.

So if you want to smile from heaven,

Follow us as well.

And I just wanted to add that that was one of the reasons I wanted to do this.

I wanted people to get to know teachers they haven't been exposed to.

You know,

I wanna be exposed to people that I haven't met yet.

And I've been asking people to send me recommendations.

A lot of the people I invited,

And let me tell you that I spent nights sending messages to about a hundred teachers before we did this.

I've,

You know,

Experienced their tracks,

Been at their lives.

There was something about them that drew me to them,

But there's a lot of teachers.

I mean,

There's what,

20,

000 teachers?

I mean,

There's a lot of teachers I still don't know.

So we would love to get to know all of them as well.

And you're sitting here fangirling.

I feel the same way.

I am so in awe of what all of you do that when anyone says to me,

Hey,

I'll be on your life.

I'm like,

You know,

I tell Melanie,

It's like Elvis just called and said he wants to be with me.

I get so excited because I am in awe of all of you.

So thank you for saying that.

That's so beautiful.

And thank you for being here,

All of you.

And Melanie,

I'll let you close because you're,

You know,

Good at this.

Well,

Violet,

You didn't say what you did and what we can do to support you.

And then I'm going to go.

I want to know what we can do to support you because you're doing a lot to support us.

Honestly,

Just being here for me is such a big deal because as I've told everyone before,

I was such an introvert that I got on inside timer to get outside of my box.

And,

You know,

I kept saying to myself,

Feel the fear and do it anyway.

That's my quote.

Because I was terrified of being on camera.

I'm not a big speaker.

And just having people following me now is like,

My confidence has just exploded.

Like,

I can't even tell you.

So I feel like I am getting so much support just through that,

Through these teachers that I've gotten to know who have become friends,

You know,

Like Melanie.

I didn't even know who Melanie was in January.

And I saw her live and I went to her house,

Which it was terrifying for me to go to someone's house that I had never met.

And she didn't know that just because I really am a shy person.

When you see me on these lives,

I'm talking because I feel like I'm with these people who bring this energy that just makes me,

You know,

Relax.

But normally I don't do things like show up to somebody's house alone that I've never met.

And not because I thought she would have been a serial killer,

Just because I'm just a really shy person.

And I said to myself,

Just do it.

Cause that's been like my theme for the past few years.

Just feel that fear and do it anyway.

This amazing friendship blossomed.

And then I said to her one night,

You know,

I was thinking I was in the shower where you get your best ideas.

And this thought came to me about doing something called ask your guides.

Do you think it's silly?

And she was so supportive.

I mean,

She's the one I bounce everything off of now that I was like,

All right,

Let's do it.

I had no idea what we were gonna do or how it was gonna work.

And this just came out of it.

So I feel like,

You know,

The responses we've gotten from the community that support has been amazing.

The responses from the other teachers.

So as far as supporting me,

I feel like I'm getting it.

You know,

Just the confidence that everyone has been giving me and the compliments are amazing.

So thank you for asking.

Yes.

And I do mindful cooking and intuitive baking.

And for me,

I'll keep it short cause I know we're running over.

Every single one of us cooks at least once a week.

Some of us cook three times a day and cooking is such an amazing opportunity to use,

To be mindful and reframe how you come into it and try not to be frenetic and use it as a tool because you're gonna do it anyway.

So it's a great thing to just use as a tool.

And I love lives.

I do multiple lives here on Insight Timer.

I have one tomorrow called Gather Under the Stars and I'm doing foods related to Leos.

So I hope you can join me there.

And it has been wonderful to have each and every one of you teachers,

Guides,

Students,

Participants.

It's been really wonderful to know you and learn a bit about you.

And as Violet said,

She has a group called Ask Your Guides.

It's another way to connect with teachers.

Most of us are in it and you can drop questions in there that didn't get answered.

So thank you all very much.

Yes,

Thank you.

Bye everybody.

As I say,

We're gonna say goodbye and we're gonna end our live and let everyone get back to what they have to do.

Thank you,

All of you.