Let Go Of Dualism

It is easy to get caught in the dualism of the mundane and spiritual worlds we have created for ourselves. Tony Samara asks us to invite a sense of confident resilience into our communications with people, providing practical steps so that we can adopt conscious actions as we move forward, focused in this moment, from deep within. A truly invaluable transmission that concludes with a 2-minute meditational breathing prompt that can be continued after the bell rings. Thank you.

Transcript

You You You You You Today I would like to speak about How to be more efficient and how to be more functional in everyday type situations because It's so very easy to get caught in Dualism meaning that we create a spiritual world and a mundane everyday type world and they sort of oppose one another because of course Most of us would prefer that these mundane things get done and Completed by themselves without us being involved in the situations that The mundane world demands of us,

You know everyday type situations,

Which you know Perhaps very well.

So there is this dualism the spiritual part and the everyday part so one of the things that happens when you sit in meditation is that you invite a sense of resilience into your life and a sense of confidence and Especially a sense of confidence around people because you begin to recognize deep within that Really everyone is the same in the end when you begin to understand yourself on a very deep level you're understanding other people and some part of this intuitive subtle Perspective Being that's deep within us Recognizes that this is what is going on even if in our minds we don't feel that we Understand people or we don't feel we are connected to just the everyday mundane world And it's something that we would rather just ignore or hope that it will go away There is a deeper understanding and there there is there are many ways that you can bring this sort of world Into harmony so that the dualism That the mind creates about this or that good or bad spiritual or not spiritual is dropped and rather that everyday experience becomes part of the spiritual practice part of the way that we grow and understand ourselves part of how we Begin to recognize other people and respect other people just as human beings without the need for them To act or be in a certain way This truly helps with letting go of anxiety and especially social anxiety When we accept things just as they are This is very difficult to do without the practice of meditation because meditation is really letting go into the moment Which is accepting things as they are how things are flowing in this moment not Through the perception of the past or through the idea or hope or dream about the future But rather as things are right now So when you do this You can focus on the creative and focus on the inner strength that you have when you come back to this Wonderful state of meditational equilibrium or meditational stillness And you don't really even have to understand what is going on when you sit in meditation You don't have to think oh i'm now functioning a little bit better.

I'm connecting to my inner resilience Connecting to my inner resilience.

It happens by itself.

There is no need to push yourself or expect that there is some sort of movement happening and you're advancing or elevating or Transcending the pain and the suffering it is happening Simply by focusing on this present moment the flow within this present moment.

You recognize that there is An energy exchange as consciousness comes back to the reality of being rather than Thinking about the failures and the pains and the traumas or hoping that things will just sort of magically Be better sometime in the future You begin to interact with others and with yourself from this more conscious Space on this more aware space when you are present to the energy of this moment You're very much present to the reality of things as they are This is a good thing if you're a scientist,

Of course because as we know Your attitude changes the experiment and life is an incredibly interesting experiment.

It's one big experiment and you can change the core fundamentals that create the Manifestations around you by recognizing that attitude is one of those primary aspects primary aspects that you can work with And of course,

It's not just that you change yourself or your perception But you also begin to change the way that energy flows around you So this moment isn't really this moment as we think it or feel it or imagine it or talk about it This moment is much more complex because this moment is multi-dimensional so as we recognize one thing As we come back to say stillness about our tension or about our pain or about our trauma or about whatever it is That's holding us back and we let go of the judgment when we let go of the Energy struggle that happens And we just recognize the lesson We recognize the teaching we recognize the wisdom We just recognize things as they are the reality of just being in the in the way that things have in the way that Things flow when you just don't push yourself.

You just recognize.

Oh,

This is what it is That recognition often called remembrance in spiritual practice that gives you strength and helps you to Create a momentum I call this intention that transforms Life but also your spiritual struggle to one of a joyous evolution So this means that you're really enjoying the evolution the the evolution of consciousness the evolution of Your perception of reality rather than struggling through Struggling through which is how the ego mind wants to perceive Evolution it's life or death.

It's fight or flight.

It's a struggle It's always about trying to get through the mud and find some sort of place where you can rest If we just turn all that upside down and we see evolution as a recognition of the joyous then We begin to adopt some of these actions and these are tangible real practical actions that you can begin to Nurture to enhance this momentum or the intention That you put forth in your spiritual practice,

But also that you put forth in your everyday life meetings with people people at work constellations family constellations situations When you have a clear intention in this way that is nurtured and and held by this focus Here in this moment the focus that allows you a sense of presence Then there is a very powerful transformation happening much faster than you think much faster than you feel It's something that comes from deep within and it's stronger than you it's the depth of you rather than just the superficial mundane mind thinking part of you there is a depth that allows you to reach out for these very practical Steps that I will now Communicate to you but it really depends on you.

So this is just Sort of an Initiation into okay.

This is a possibility And then you can explore What i'm saying in your own unique body in in your own unique Thinking process in your own unique emotional space The energy within you just explore it.

It's not dogma.

It's just an invitation an initiation to recognize that some things that we do Some of these positive things that we do To help to create this momentum intention to be part of our everyday life and that is Much stronger than you when you have an intention that is clear and focused and conscious and aware in this way Then things flow in a way that you would not expect So the first thing is to remember That whatever is happening around you It truly is an illusion Now I know that sounds a little bit strange and funny and it's like okay,

That's You know My pain is not an illusion.

My suffering is not an illusion Everything that we perceive is filtered through the brain so The communication that's happening say in regards to pain or suffering Is just a certain format of communication We can move beyond The illusion by remembering that there is a certain amount of unity in communication That is missed or forgotten when we're caught up in the internal communication That's either mental or emotional or just Mundane perception,

You know through smell through hearing through taste through touch It's important It's important but it is on some level an illusion.

So reality this means Logically,

This means that reality is much more complex And that we don't need to fixate On the illusionary aspect of our perception but rather open our subtle perception our Inner perception to the space of unity which is of course the oneness of life so that a different type of communication begins to help This state of consciousness open up to the many levels of communication that are happening all at the same time Einstein spoke about this called Multidimensionality so when we recognize that yes,

Of course,

This is real but when we recognize what is real in this meaning the the linear dimension that we're existing And functioning from this material level that we recognize Material aspects around us when we recognize that consciousness can move into that space And help us to open up to something much more profound than just the one linear dimension the multidimensionality of our experience then we Also begin to recognize something very tangible What separates us from being functional Human beings or dysfunctional human beings is one single little thing That nature has constantly shown transmitted as What I call the universal intelligence to human beings but to all to everything because creation is the oneness of everything and that is symbiosis Symbiosis means that we are all here to help one another now socially intelligent people Understand this and they share rather than hold on to That is such an incredible simple very simple way of understanding communication but powerful Very powerful because we know from science that socially intelligent people share And that they understand that To be a problem solver in a very functional way rather than a fearful dysfunctional way Means that you need a strong network.

You need to extend yourself into the oneness into the symbiosis.

That's life Rather than hold back and focus on just a little that is your world the linear material dimension that dysfunctional people tend to fall into because That is our evolution.

We are sort of biologically manipulated to think that we can manage things by ourselves,

But as a culture as a social Social reality of life We are not alone if we were alone.

We wouldn't exist.

We at least need one other person for evolution to continue but We need more than two people to continue evolution.

We need a social socially coherent Level of communication happening so that there is this sense of we are here to help one another and That we can resolve problems together So what separates socially intelligent people is that they those socially intelligent people know that the best way to function is to recognize that everyone has a gift when you recognize this you basically want to expand your social network or your your communication to people by helping others to understand and come back to a sense of cohesion and coherence that then creates this sense of connection and Of course,

One of the things that is very important to do is to nurture friendship real friendship If you don't do this,

Then you tend to end up as Society wants us to end up as individuals,

You know individuals struggling a part component of This machine this material machine that is all about production and money which is fine You know in the end if we do this as individuals,

You know manipulated to believe that we can do all this alone You know everyone wants to be wealthy everyone wants the material things for themselves everyone wants a house everyone wants this that and it's grabbing on to whatever it is that makes you feel that You're successful like you're successful.

But actually what you're doing is acting in a very Dysfunctional way when you want those things when that is your driving force socially intelligent people Focus on something totally different and that is to expand The space around them by connecting and respecting what is happening So if you've got a challenge,

You don't face it alone you Include that information in the network that is around you Whether that be family or whether be friends whether it be people thinking like you understanding the world through a perspective that helps you to grow and to understand that Everything is different but that all those differences help help individuals to Connect to a solution coherent and and a cohesive type solution that helps everyone This is why very often When we're thinking about something or feeling something it may not have some it may not really be about a Problem that we're facing it may be that we're feeling or thinking about something to help another so very often You know if you feel or think about problems,

They may not even be your problems It may be just a challenge.

How do we Resolve the climate change.

How do we resolve this little problem?

And if we as a social group and Incoherence and able to focus from a higher perspective reach out To the wisdom within us to resolve this then our evolution would move very quickly but one thing that's required is that we withhold judgment anyone who judges Whatever you're judging even if a person is really stupid even if a person is Needs that sort of judgment if you if that's your attitude Then you pull out of this sort of symbiosis because you begin to see others or others who are doing certain things as the enemy or as the negative as The out there but remember that's the illusion.

We are in symbiosis with one another so whomever if someone is say Walking up the steps eating a burger and drinking their coffee and you think oh how stupid How can they do that,

You know in that judgmental way rather than in a funny and joyous way?

Oh gosh,

Look at what people are doing today.

That's not a judgment,

But when it's when it's not creating respect Then remind yourself if you withhold this judgment then you are coming back to symbiosis and symbiosis Really is about just understanding everyone is different and when we show respect respect to To whomever so that we respect the differences then life changes because then we realize that there is magic everywhere and that Everyone will help and is capable of making that magic very real And very productive and very useful in our life.

So,

You know that person doing whatever out there that perhaps You need to judge on some level but without that negative feeling or without that negative and understanding of judgment,

But just from This connection just like you would look at a situation you say oh,

That's a funny way of doing it But it's not really judgment.

It's light Creates this magic.

So,

You know in the in the end just watch yourself This is part of the spiritual practice,

You know when you're speaking to someone when you're looking at Something on the TV or when someone is telling you about another person.

Do you fall into judgment?

If so,

Then just Come back to your heart and recognize that there there is a light in everyone and smile a little bit You know just a gentle smile so that you come back to the positivity and you'll be surprised when you do this how you begin to receive Energy that is not the projection of your ego mind Because that's what's negative judgment is but rather a receptive attitude that allows for cohesion and cohesive Thinking that then brings about the secret of happiness Brings this secret of happiness into your life and that is that you stop Focusing on the negative on the stress on the worry on the judgment on whatever you begin to Reprogram the way that the brain functions the way that the neurons fire and wire you begin to create this sense of I don't need To look at the out there with this judgment,

Which is actually a part of our evolution What's the problem out there?

Let me look judge it and Then act out in a way that's appropriate But we cannot act out in an appropriate way when we're in a negative because there is no negative We know that the negative pain suffering Whatever perception is an illusion because there is a multi-dimensionality to life that we are now invited to explore to help to move to the next stage of evolution this quantum leap that will help us as humanity as a social group as a cultural paradigm to move beyond the old evolutionary needs biological needs The other thing that's very interesting and I'll be quick with this is That it's truly important to listen to listen to yourself rather than to speak too many people speak They want to communicate because they feel lonely they want to communicate because they're in pain They want to communicate because they are afraid Listen,

This stillness which is part of the mystical tradition is really important Listen to other people listen to yourself listen to the energy that's being communicated because when you listen and you still yourself in this way you come back to building a very different type of relationship with what's going on you begin to Communicate to the more subtle rather than the reactive you begin to listen to the real communication That's within symbiosis and you begin to prioritize That you as a person and your energy doesn't need to be lost in the reactive and the negative and talking Which very often is just your brain detoxing all that's going on inside of Inside of your brain,

You know,

And if you listen you help to move everything in a way that's Very very similar to what socially independent people do That is that they listen.

What is what is being said?

What can I learn here?

What can I understand here?

It's a quality that's truly useful And only by practicing this quality will you understand how important and how powerful this is and so You know very often when you want to react when you want to say something negative when you want to Sort of make your point when you want to speak Just breathe in and ask yourself.

How can I give my full presence rather than just my words?

And the energy of my words,

How can I give my full presence to this situation?

And then just listen before you speak it's very very powerful Very interesting to do this the other aspect of Spirituality that's important to put into practice is to understand that every Experience is a learning possibility a learning potential So every person that you meet every situation that you meet Mustn't be judged as oh,

This is good But you know,

I think that's a very important thing to understand Oh,

This is good Oh,

This is bad.

No,

You usually don't say oh,

This is good everything really requires a little bit of space There is no good or bad that is again The dualism that the mind is caught in because of creating a perception of reality.

That is not really real so when we understand that every Aspect of life whether it's good or bad as mind judges it is actually a possibility a potential that helps us to learn About different perspectives about different thoughts about different feelings about different situations about different energies Then we recognize that there is fun in just being alive you don't have to Do something or reach out for something or wait for something to?

Experience this joy every interaction is a learning possibility So rather than wait for heaven or something in the future recognize that this moment is about adopting a mindset that is How can I be even more curious?

How can I open up even more so that I learn?

What's being communicated?

Rather than just Mitagening the learning possibility.

What can I do to open up?

What can you do Can listen to the perspectives the thoughts the feelings that are being communicated and the information that is being transmitted even if subtle even if it's on a very very deep level subconscious level just Understand your attitude that everything is a learning already transforms the reactive mind that very often then just Either says this is good or this is bad and very often what is Supposedly good isn't as good as you think and what is supposedly bad isn't as bad as you think So you create a judgment where it's not possible to learn anything because you think you know it you think you understand everything Or your ego mind thinks this and so is already sorting out what doesn't need to be sorted out Everything is a learning possibility And when you know this then you give For no other reason than the love of giving you give yourself you give your energy to Situations because there is no fear that's holding you back.

There is no pain that is creating an illusion in your mind there is just this curiosity to Expand and when you expand and there is the sense of abundance then you want to give and give and give this is what everyone that understands not just mysticism or meditation but that understands that the more you give the more you receive as as a real experience then When you understand this there is this joy in living that's enhanced because you give more to the greatness the beauty that is the oneness of everything and when you experience this you raise the social evolution that's happening to a dimension that's very multi-dimensional rather than linear and material as has been for these last thousands of years and That is an incredibly powerful work So you give and you give and you give you don't give your pain.

You don't give your suffering you give your sense of excitement your sense of Your wish to learn your wish to be part of something much greater Rather than falling back in into the fearful egoic perspective that the mind will very often then Manipulate you back into I don't have anything to give it's all too much if you think in this way then of course what you're doing is getting lost in the pain and the suffering that is dualism rather than Opening up to the joy of being part of life Which is an incredible magical gift when you think about it when you feel how lucky we are to be part of this evolution.

We've been here five billion years as the little cell that first Wanted something more to grow and to be part of this great Manifestation that's life five billion years.

It's taken for us to get to this point if we just Revert into this sort of fearful negative state where we're just focused on ourselves We will destroy not just our social intelligence,

But life on earth so it is truly a gift to be able to put this into practice and to be a pioneer as you are and In helping others to recognize this through your practice Not so much through the words that you're communicating but through your practice and to expand the network the social friendship network so that you bring in this Movement this momentum this intention that now is a great time to change As you breathe in and breathe out let go Be still for a few moments integrate the energy of these wisdoms See how they speak to you from deep within your heart how they speak to you in a practical tangible way And put them into practice follow your heart follow your energy and be happy Thank you

Reviews

I've been listening to many of Tony's gentle, humble yet deeply grounded and inspiring words of wisdom for a good couple of years now. For me, fro my coaching business this one is easily the most powerful one yet. Its fired off so many neurons here. Thank you 🙏

Really wonderful. Thank you Tony!!

I will listen to this again (and again). There is so much wisdom to unpack. Thanks very much, Tony. 🙏💚

Thanks so much, Tony. This was the message I needed, today. I very much appreciate your insight and the reminder that an “I can’t” mindset is just an egoic barrier. My heart is smiling it’s thanks.

Thank you so much 😊
You have so much to share, I will come often to assimilate everything you say and grow with it. Namaste 🙏