Keys For Opening A Closed Heart: Talk

This is a meditation for those who have been mistreated in the past. Painful inner experiences may create immature reactions, which close the heart. This track will help us understand the process & learn how to address such in a positive and mature way.

Transcript

You you you you Hello,

Everyone.

We will begin very soon and today I thought to speak a little bit more about a very important topic and And that is the heart It's an important topic because it this energetic space I'm not speaking about the physical heart but rather the energy point that is often described as the heart is very much in control of our attitude and how we feel about different things and Rather than open a whole chapter of complex explanations,

I want to just leap into the reasons or the factors that assist in closing your heart in the reason as to why you your heart keeps closing and Not you individually,

But this may help you understand people around your situations around you where You are approached or the communication that you are part of comes from a situation where someone or many people or a constellation are struggling with What I call a closed heart so You are not born with a closed heart.

We all know this so whomever you are speaking to or whomever you're in communication to it's important to remember that This isn't an automatic response to just manifesting oneself here in this dimension Of existence that is earth very often the automatic responses to very specific issues or situations such as feeling angry hurt threatened insecure Caught in a very low self-esteem circle And this this is the reason why the heart closes and it's an interesting defense mechanism because of course There must be a reason as to why this is happening There is no need to judge the situation Rather if this is happening to yourself or to others around you or in situations that you're familiar with it's very Interesting to note that this automatic response is actually to preserve and to To make sure that the person who has their heart closed or is closing their heart in in this automatic response way Has a reason as to why these things are happening to this person So,

You know if you understand this then you can approach the situation not from judgment,

But rather from kindness and If you if you understand this then it's easy to if you understand this in practice,

It's easy to be gentle and tender with those Who have a closed heart because often that is what they need they need that sort of support that is very difficult for them because Perhaps they're insensitive to your kindness or perhaps they're insensitive to the external or even to their internal experiences,

But it's only because There are painful memories or painful challenges negative thoughts or negative feelings that they can't actually Process in a way that allows them to open their heart to the situation.

So If you understand this then you understand anyone who?

Suffering this pain or has been mistreated or caught in trauma of some sorts in the past or of their own making in the present moment through their thinking or through their feeling then It's it's very Important to practice what Buddhists speak about as compassion or what Jesus spoke about as loving kindness A level of love that goes beyond just ego centered love where you're responding to kindness with appreciation But rather you're responding to the difficult situations that you are facing With this level of compassion that is difficult to put into words So we all have unique reasons as to why the heart may be closing or why the heart is more closed than it should be or why it's totally closed and We're caught up in a reactive thinking process or a reactive emotional process.

We all have individual reasons and Those individual reasons are of course important But what is most important is understanding how you can prevent such a situation from?

Opening yourself to love or to That which truly nourishes which is an open perspective an open attitude to life rather than a closed one because of fear or closed one because of insecurity or a closed one because of whatever the negatives that may be present in the emotional or mental landscape that you are navigating so hurt anger and all the other difficult negative challenges may be there but that is not what you want to focus on that is not what is important what is important is love and if we understand that part of what Prevents love from being visible to anyone who's caught up in a situation where the heart is closed We understand the factors that are important in closing one's heart or closing the closing of the heart Closing one's heart or closing the closing of someone's heart Then we understand that these factors can be approached in a very neutral way So these factors then become less loaded with emotional turmoil or the projections that come from say pain or suffering and less part of a complex system where the heart closes and Rather than be caught up in this reactive process.

You can simplify the factors so that they are Understandable and this is what the mind wants the mind wants to understand things and so your mind or the mind of the constellation Of those people that are facing this situation so if they're you know,

If it say it's a family situation where someone has closed their heart and everyone is in In in the process of being affected or is very affected by the situation then it's very useful to simplify the process that someone is going through as well as the process that everyone is going through so that The factors that are feeding this reactivity can become more clear so that the mind can actually transcend them and It is important that the mind transcends these factors Otherwise if these factors are part of the subconscious or the unconscious and we don't understand that these factors are the driving force behind Closed heart then those factors never get addressed and one of the most important factors is fear We always close our hearts when we're afraid so when you're afraid for whatever reason whether it be a projection because of some belief system that you're playing out as the reality outside of yourself so say you're afraid of Just the world or you're afraid of different things in the world then those factors become Overwhelming and you become attacked or manipulated by those factors so when we recognize the fear and We're not manipulated or overwhelmed by this situation we can see it for what it is,

So remember fear creates this automatic response that closes your heart in self-defense and Many many people are afraid of many things some things are obvious.

You know out there.

We're afraid of Death we're afraid of pain.

We're afraid of all these inbuilt mechanisms that warn us if something is totally wrong But we're also afraid of our emotions.

We're afraid of our thoughts.

We're afraid of other people's emotions other people's thoughts We're afraid of imagination Our own imagination about different situations so fear is a very important aspect to simplify so that you can transcend that factor the other is resentment and some people especially if you're Masculine and more male based in your thinking or male based in your feelings Hold on to what is known as resentment so when you hold on to old hurts Whether they're true or whether they're imaginary or bitterness then the resentment builds up Within your heart and all of a sudden explodes not only to the people who hurt you But also to life itself and to the people who love you so this Fear is at least manageable because it's it's part of our genetic makeup We have fear inbuilt to survive Various dramatic situations,

But resentment is very much based in the heart energy Center and when we resent situations around us or when we resent ourselves or other people then we close to life We close to that which gives life energy the vitality so then very often we fall into other factors within the heart that come up from the subconscious and Come up because we've opened that bridge which is not a good bridge to open where we are sort of Moving into the negative space so resentment closes one's heart,

But also closes Our openness or connection to life itself so then rather than being open to life We tend to be open to the pain and the negative thinking that is hidden within the subconscious So we then move into unresolved grief Unresolved grief is a natural human emotion but if it gets stuck and you continue to think about it and you refuse to let it go and let go of the past or situations of the past then when that grief fills This space rather than life filling the space of your heart grief fills The space of your heart then you don't want to open your heart anymore because you can feel that the pain is just there Inside and it's very difficult then the heart Not only closes and you close to life itself but you also tend to not want to open because you get caught in the fear of Opening up one of the other aspects which is also very much more to do with the masculine based Personality rather than the feminine based personality,

But it can be anyone is jealousy So when you hold on to unresolved grief and resentment sort of structures that grief within your heart jealousy can close your heart to the people around you that love you and to the people that also are important in the social landscape that is a constellation whether it be a family constellation or whether it be Say your brother or sister or whether it be your partner or whether it be Whomever is close to you or a work constellation.

So when you close your heart and Within that space because there is no life energy within that space.

There is jealousy then what happens is that you are solidifying a Mind that thinks you're inferior because that's what jealousy is all about You're not good enough your inferior and so it plays into self-esteem And self-esteem is part of jealousy.

So another aspect of the negative that if we are not Understanding why our heart is closing then self-esteem gets caught in Jealousy and unresolved grief,

But also in the pain the hurt So we begin to identify with the negative rather than the positive in life And we begin to remember all the different situations where pain built up and created this feeling where we had to close to life Itself and close our hearts.

So everything becomes intolerable Because there is a buildup of pain and the heart cannot cope with pain so then we post a sign And it says keep out don't trespass here this place here is very vulnerable And we sort of send signals when we're in pain we send signals that we don't want Anything to interfere with the situation because it's too overwhelming So closed heart means that we are in such pain,

But we don't accept that We don't accept the outside world to help us to transform this we don't trust the outside world to help us to transform this so then with all these negatives and this situation being so complex and Because we're not simplifying and seeing these points that I'm speaking about As part of this process,

Which is easy to transform once we simplify in this way,

Then we hold on we become attached and And as long as you're emotionally attached to a certain way of thinking or a certain way of feeling then as soon as you close your heart to people and situations around you then Not only are these feelings and these thoughts part of your Thinking in this moment and so they perhaps disappear and transform as you think about something else or feel something else But you hold on to all these negatives.

That's the attachment you hold on to the negative so closing your heart and you then close your heart and you get attached and create a habit of Holding on to these negatives because it feels at least secure It's a crazy situation,

But it feels secure because you hold on to the negatives in that way whereby At least you're able to hold on to something.

That's how the mind or the feeling body experiences at least I'm able to hold on to and attach to my pain or my jealousy or my unresolved grief or my Resentment so it becomes a sort of cold water bottle not hot water bottle the cold water bottle because it really Turns you into an emotional zombie And I know all this sounds negative,

But of course we're dealing with a situation.

That's complex and very negative so attachment to grief pain means that you Your heart not only closes,

But you don't want other people to interfere with the situation so you become very self-centered you become very attached to the Negative which then creates this self-centered pre Self-centered centered look at yourself you're looking at yourself,

And you tend to then clean and You isolate and cut yourself from those people who truly love you and from those situations that truly can help you transcend beyond your attachments to such habits that hold the space of a closed heart so with all these Factors being clear it's important to understand that all this Is very much part of the ego and when the ego isn't mature?

Meaning that the ego is caught in the negative rather than opening up to the positive the ego in itself is neutral But it's just how we attach or focus our energy within the ego and when?

We are focused upon ourselves in this way rather than the meditative tradition of just flowing with the flow then the ego tends to control the situation and doesn't allow us to be selfless doesn't allow us to be loving and kind and This is what say Jesus or the Dalai Lama?

Speak about to open the heart so that we can come back to Compassion come back to love come back to this space of kindness Towards ourselves,

But most importantly towards all aspects of our lives all aspects of life To be kind to the people around to be kind to our bodies to be kind to our thoughts and minds this kindness Requires that you keep your heart open Even in the most difficult circumstances,

And it's a natural tendency for human beings to close their heart when?

Situations get difficult,

But we cannot allow for such a natural tendency to create an ego that's immature and in control of The process where which gives us life and that is our hearts If we are if we allow the ego to control our hearts Then the ego gets very very carried away and the situation can develop into a very Very complex situation and we have this already happening in the world and it will happen more This is why I've explained that this year is a difficult year,

But if you know What your challenge is and if you know this situation?

And you break down the situation into?

Factors that you can actually address in a positive and mature way then everything Changes so the ego isn't in control,

But rather your discernment is in control so your meditation practice Then it's referenced not just on impulsive ego control mechanism So whatever you feel or whatever you think becomes reality But rather a deep analysis and understanding of the situation and no one No one says that because you meditate you have to just be impulsive and creative without thinking about the whole complex situation meditation is a level of intelligence that goes beyond just Waiting to see what happens it means that you actually Observe and become mindful and aware of the situation beyond your normal egoic reaction So you transcend your ego and your intelligence allows you to navigate within the space that is beyond ego thinking so the space of World that you live in reality as it is this means being open-minded and being open-hearted if you know this Then the separation that is created when your heart closes begins to open a little bit more and you begin to understand that meditation is a very important and vital factor in Kindness in the practice of kindness because meditation is on some level kindness So when you are kind in this way towards yourself you say okay,

Even though I feel Or maybe I'm reacting to someone else's pain,

And I feel their pain I can be kind because I remember these factors.

I remember fear.

I remember resentment I remember unresolved grief.

I remember jealousy.

I remember pain.

I remember egoic attachment and self-clinging If I remember those things And I know that kindness is the way to transform them and I can begin to honor This process of kindness within myself and within my practice within my meditational practice so as you breathe in and relax and and open up and Understand from this wisdom this wisdom of Connecting to the knowledge The knowledge that I've just highlighted for you,

But you really know you know these things deep inside these factors are Universal so you have an affinity and you understand them so as you open up to these factors And you open up also to that kindness that is within your heart and the feeling of Meditation becomes more real it's not an intellectual pursuit.

It's not something that you're just thinking about It's not just something where your brain is focused upon Problems and trying to resolve problems,

But rather you bring The awareness back down to your heart because you're being kind and it's very easy for the heart to open when this kindness is part of your activity or your practice When you start small you don't have to jump to And push yourself so that you're kind all of a sudden,

And you're so different from maybe how you were yesterday or the day before You can be gentle with yourself because part of kindness is making sure that you take things slowly So as you breathe in and breathe out Make sure that the breath Connects you to your heart,

But also connects you to the diaphragm And to the abdomen so your breath is deep and profound so deep breath Into the abdomen area into the diaphragm area.

This is where you can bring kindness into Manifestation so you're really Embodying kindness in the physical on the physical level energetic level nervous system level emotional level mental level First making sure that you sense the kindness within your breathing as it touches the abdomen and diaphragm area deep breath Breathing in And breathing out Deep breath Letting go Letting go of pain letting go of suffering letting go any negatives and just coming back to this space of kindness Perhaps repeating to yourself as you come back to this space of kindness all is good all is good I don't need to hold on to the past I don't need to hold on to worries or stress about the future all is good in this moment As you breathe in and breathe out and let go And all is good in this moment Just your thoughts create the stress and the anxiety and all in this moment is good So you just let go and trust The kindness within and trust that when your heart opens up to kindness in this way that you are wisdom Your inner intuitive wisdom Begins to communicate to you Begins to speak to you in a language of love so kindness translates In a way where by your body recognizes its message of love within Not externally,

So it's not that it comes as a thought But your body all of a sudden opens up and is receptive to another perspective than the negative thoughts Let's go of the selfish egoic ego comes back to a level of being touched by kindness that Allows you to share this kindness with others Obviously first with yourself,

But with others you may notice that your attitude begins to change as you breathe in breathe out in this wonderfully deep and profound way Wonderfully deep and profound way you may wish to continue for a few more moments in stillness breathing in and breathing out in stillness Thank you You You

Reviews

I have learned not to allow fear to consume my life so that I can open my heart.

Tiny always know how n what to say this was interesting as I’ve retreated fm life namaste:) x

A beautiful reminder of love❤️Thank you💖