Cool The Inner Fires

Anger is part of humanity’s experience in this world and by projecting it onto one another we create more of the illusion. Even when things do not seem positive there is always a learning that is very beautiful. Tony Samara shares deep insights on this topic and provides a 2-minute meditation prompt that allows us to continue meditating after the talk concludes and even after the bell rings, to integrate our understandings of the conscious ways to extinguish these inner fires.

Thank you.

Transcript

You you you Just making sure that you spend a few moments relaxing the body and it's important to make sure that you're open and receptive by being relaxed physically relaxed to receive the transmission to receive the inner wisdom that now is communicated to you on many levels and I always like to speak about the mundane just because sometimes the wisdom isn't there or we can't hear it or we're not in touch with the wisdom it doesn't seem to be there sometimes the mundane seems to be more part of our experience and so it's always good to see that the mundane on some level is very spiritual and so the mundane doesn't have to be a negative we don't have to judge the mundane from a mind that sees positive negative good bad that type of mind is known as a dualistic mind which never really helps you to come back in touch with the reality of your experience it just allows you to sort of get caught in the illusion of dualism that there is a beginning and end a good a bad this or that and really indeed when you look at it from a deep spiritual perspective or heartfelt perspective then everything is an experience and even when the experience seemingly is not a positive one then you know there is a learning there is a depth to the experience that helps us to go to get in touch with what is truly meaningful in a very profound way so everything is beautiful in the end this is an attitude a meditational attitude that helps us to recognize that beauty is in everything if we don't see it it's just because our minds are structured in a certain way and that then prevents that seeing or understanding or recognition this doesn't mean that suffering is beautiful of course it's not you know if you're in pain that is not a beautiful experience but our attitude really does help us to to see things in a way that sometimes is very surprising and we know this speaking to people who have suffered in in ways that are unimaginable we know that the attitude that you have is really really important doesn't justify the pain or the suffering but it helps you to recognize that actually this experience this manifestation here on earth is far more complex than just feeling good or feeling bad there there there are so many aspects to living that we need to get back in touch with and this is part of why spirituality or meditational practice spiritual practice is so very important it's not to try to make things better even though that's very often the result but it's rather to try to put things into perspective so one thing that I'd like to communicate and perhaps this has been happening for you and I'd like to communicate this because many people have told me this is what's happening is how to cope when the fire rises up so the fire meaning that something that that energy the anger the frustration the some people call it the Kundalini life force I don't know but just this energy that comes up to the surface and you don't really know how to handle the energy how to communicate to that energy without getting caught in the energy so if it's anger you get caught in the anger and then you just project or react to the inner cues the inner triggers and project that energy outside of yourself because that's of course what we do we can't hold anger inside it's painful so we tend to just put it out there and anger is just one of the things that can come up and symbolized by the fire come up to the surface that can be irritation there can be judgment there can be negative thoughts about oneself I could do better how could I do this yeah which is part of judgment the fire can be so many things it's basically an inner conflict that needs resolution it's an inner communication that isn't really flowing in a way that helps you to communicate but rather you're reacting and it's part of being a human being so if this is what you've done or this is what you're doing or this is what you tend to do then know that you're a human being that's a good thing you know you don't want to be a perfect maybe you do want to be a perfect angel because here on earth on this dimension we need to go through the process of life and part of being alive here is being human and recognizing those mistakes those difficulties those misunderstandings from a positive perspective from from from a perspective where you're embracing the learning rather than from just the reaction of the situation very often we'll feel so guilty so bad so upset so angry that everything else stops and this is not the way so what is the way well being mindful being aware is the first step this is why I say to relax when you relax your body there is a certain level of awareness that you embrace through the relaxation that allows you to be more aware of what's going on and you can practice this if you're angry or upset or irritated you can just breathe deeply into the abdomen breathe deeply into the core of your belly just breathe in deep full breath slowly gently not trying to breathe too quickly but just breathing in deeply and you'll recognize that your body just relaxes into the experience rather than reacts to the experience as if it's something separate from your understanding of the world you know when we see an experience as negative if we're upset angry irritated we tend to create a dualism in the mind so we that is the problem and we lash out at whatever it is sometimes even ourselves through guilt and fear and victim like perspectives that becomes a negative that we sort of put all the energy that's coming up the fire that's coming up we put all that energy into that sort of realization oh it's me I'm silly and I'm not good enough you know all the energy goes there so it creates a structure a reality that then becomes solidified and materialized in this dimension of our existence and it becomes part of our reality and it's the same if you some people you know project more than internalize the pain or or the fire and project the pain and some people say well that's a good way to let go and to project to blame the world is better than to blame yourself to blame others is better than to see the problem as part of just humanities experience in this world but of course it's the same because when you sort of project your pain externally you're projecting your pain still in on on some level internally because the external is part of your internal we are not sort of little islands separate from our experience so we're not individuals we are social and so if you're projecting your pain outside of yourself this is why in a relationship if it's negative and you constantly project the pain or the anger or the irritation or the negativity onto your partner you're really projecting it onto yourself on some level it may seem sort of easier but on a different level you're still creating the same pain the same manifestation the same negativity that materializes into a manifestation that becomes then your reality this is why people stay in very dysfunctional relationships because projecting onto one another doesn't help to resolve the problem so when you relax and you become aware of the relaxation you tend to then detach from the projection or the internalization that happens when the fire rises up within you that's a very good thing and very important and something that we haven't learned something that takes a lot of practice this is why meditation is about practice this is why the series and this daily series that is part of your life is so very important meditation is not something that you do and then okay I've achieved knowledge I have become free of my pain so I'm enlightened and I don't need to worry about anything else it's a practice a continuous practice that helps you to become more and more aware and the practice then it's very tangible so if as you become more aware as you relax more and more and this is physical relaxation as well as other physical relaxation so when you relax your body you also relax your thoughts you relax your feelings you relax the way that the hormones communicate inside of your body you relax the physiology of your body you relax so many different things and it's a wonderful process and you become more and more aware that you are part of something greater because as you relax you connect to the external rather than see the external as a threat or see the external as the reason to your pain or even the internal if you see yourself that's as a victim it's still on some level external because you're not really connecting to the deep part of yourself you're just connecting to your persona you'll pick the picture you have of yourself which hasn't got anything to do with reality so if you're putting yourself in a victim type situation and that isn't really who you are that's just a projection of a learned behavior or trauma that then gets externalized as a perspective of yourself rather than internalized as a direct communication of what's really going on so as you become aware as you relax and become aware the first step is to become aware of your physical sensations so what does it feel like to be angry in the body now that's scary for some people because you don't want to feel your anger but yes when you internalize your anger that's not a good thing but you're connecting communicating to your anger so you're allowing for the channel of communication between this part of yourself that feels threatened victimized in fear in pain you're creating a communication which is a wonderful thing because this is what we're here for we're here to communicate and understand through communication the depth of an experience so when you begin to say communicate to your stomach you know very often when you're angry that this is the part of your body that gets constricted and you begin to communicate to your chest the way that you're breathing and begin to communicate to your face the tension in your face when you're angry you know there is the grimace and you're sort of angry at the world and you begin to communicate to these parts of yourself then that communication allows you to recognize what's going on because very often anger or any sort of negativity is a lack of communication and when you recognize what is going on then it's very easy to begin to choose another reaction to the situation so when you relax your belly you tend or your abdomen you tend to breathe in as you breathe in you oxygenate the body and you oxygenate the cells inside of your body and all of a sudden the threat is much less because you know the whole process of feeling overwhelmed or in a state of intensity happens because you're not breathing enough oxygen into your body so it's actually physically true that you're you're creating this experience where you're not breathing well you're not breathing deeply into the abdomen you're breathing in a sort of survival way breathing like this and you're so upset if you've seen little children when they get angry and throw sort of tantrum you know their breath is totally out of control because they feel as if the threat is so very real but it's it's like the tiger is out there just about to eat them up you know and that's what we feel we feel consumed by the fire and when we communicate to the physical sensations then we can let them go because we have a choice and we recognize oh gosh I don't need to do this to my body I don't need to hold on to the anger in this way and that's a wonderful thing because when you the first thing that happens when you do this when you let go is that you begin to breathe you begin to breathe more deeply you know you need oxygen you need the elements to help heal your body and if you restrict this through a reaction through a projection through a reaction and projecting your anger onto a situation then you restrict your breath it cannot breathe in a relaxed and complete sort of way a meditational sort of way when your mind is caught up in whatever the illusion that your mind is caught up in may be and anger is very much an illusion it's very much part of our biological evolution but it's an illusion and when it comes to the reality of what's going on especially in the modern world today so become aware if this is your experience become aware of your physical sensations first step second step breathe breathe into those physical sensations so if there is tension in your belly breathe into your belly and relax the belly and breathe more deeply full breath remember you breathe in deep breath and then you breathe out and you extend the out breath so that you let go and you imagine the breath just healing this part of your body sensing the healing as a warmth or a tingling sensation sensing the healing just as a relaxation and really visualize this in your mind this is a much quicker way of transcending the illusion of say the fire rising up and recreating a world of conflict inside of your mind or a world of pain or a world of suffering inside of your mind it's a much quicker way than say ending up discussing or talking about or dialoguing or blaming or whatever the external or the internal for the pain communication is the direct link to transformation and when you allow for transformation it already begins to create a momentum this fact the fact that you allow for this transformation creates such a momentum that things change much quicker much quicker than your mind would ever imagine this is why children you know when they throw a tantrum like in five minutes they could be laughing and playing you know and doing things and adults tend to hold on to the pain you know they remember the pain and it's difficult to let it go they can try to let it go and pretend to let it go but it's still there on some level this is why visualization is so very important if you don't visualize the transformation even if you can't feel the transformation then you tend to get stuck in the mind and the thoughts that come from the mind and you really won't communicate when you're caught in the thoughts oh it was so bad to me or oh she was so whatever to me you know if those are the thoughts that are running the show that's the script that you're listening to then that's the energy that you will be focused on and it will be very difficult to communicate really from that depth from the profoundness whereby you're open and receptive to the energy flow first step the breath and then you continue to stay with the sensations because very often as you breathe in and you connect to the sensations in this way you actually connect to what's causing the reaction the deeper communication sometimes it's fear sometimes it's a negative picture that you've somehow embodied inside of your thoughts or inside of your feelings or inside of your physical structure your body somehow just believes that you're not good enough there's so many deep communications that come up to the surface when you breathe in this way and you breathe through the discomfort and the resistance and you breathe through whatever it is that's holding you back in a gentle kind way then all of a sudden you bring a sense into the communication you begin to understand oh gosh I understand why this triggers me or why this cue sort of every time does the same thing creates this horrible reaction inside of me when you begin to see the anger not as a negative but as an opportunity to understand more about yourself and to look deeper into yourself then the fire changes instead of burning aspects of yourself you know just damaging your body or damaging your relationship communication with others or with yourself everything changes because the breath then begins to heal you physically the pain begins to communicate to you in a positive way and you begin to see that there are other ways other possibilities of connecting to the same experience and this is very difficult to put into words because everyone is unique but you you will understand when you do this you will understand that there is a momentum that is set free when the fire is extinguished by consciousness and then the fire doesn't burn everything around it's not like the Kali in the Hindu spiritual tradition the Kali is the destroyer it's not that you begin to destroy all aspects of your experience and all that connects to your experience you begin to honor your experience as a spiritual learning so you in the Christian mystic tradition this means being kind and gentle to all parts of yourself inviting all parts of yourself to the table so that you sit around and you look at all those aspects from kindness and gentleness from a sense of gentle gentleness and when you do this what happens is that you create an energy of love which is the opposite of anger of anger but this is not just a pretense or something that you want to happen sometime in the future this is through this happens through the transformation so then love is so very powerful because you begin to recognize the complexity of this world your feelings your your thoughts your your experience in this world and you begin to recognize that everything can be understood in a heartfelt way love opens the gateway so that your heart can begin to communicate in this way to your experience even if your experience is painful even if you've had a such a traumatic experience that it's difficult to forgive or difficult to let go of such pain because it's just so painful it is made much more possible when you invite all those parts around to sit around the table mr angry or miss angry and miss i'm very upset and angry with the world you know all those different parts and you can visualize this okay all those parts i'm inviting now that i'm relaxed and i'm not reacting to the situation i'm inviting to come back to this beautiful state of kindness and gentleness everyone becomes kinder and more gentle when in communication when when a dream allows you to communicate to all those different parts of yourself then the dream doesn't become very um very much very much a nightmare which is what happens when you know when if we have a nightmare it's because those parts aren't allowed to communicate and the dream then is difficult it's definitely an inner transformation that's happening but the dream changes so that those parts of yourself that feel recognized because they've been invited into this state of kindness and this state of gentleness feel feel connected to the new perspective begin to connect to you in a new way and this is the transformation this is the elevation that happens when you allow for the process to be spiritual rather than just to be be mundane most of us choose the mundane way so if the fire is rising if there is negativity in the background somewhere um either inside of you or outside of you then see this as a spiritual lesson rather than as a negative when you do this already there is an excitement that encourages transformation so as you breathe in and breathe out just letting go and relaxing for a moment relaxing letting go of those thoughts letting go of everything that has been said just listening to the stillness within creating a connection to the stillness deep breath so deep breath it's wonderful to be still this allows for the integration the integration of the energy transmission that's happened these last 15-20 minutes integration of all the inner communications and wisdoms that your your depth has recognized and opened up to an integration that allows you to be open and receptive to the wisdom that will come your way over these next few hours perhaps over these next few days and the recognition that you can turn everything into a beautiful spiritual lesson that you're empowered by a positive attitude to transform all and everything into a learning the curiosity to learn more than embraces the experience from an even more positive and healing perspective deep breath relaxing and letting go you may wish to continue for a few more moments in stillness thank you you

Reviews

TY TY the prelude is mesmerizing. May all release externally all forms of emotions w/o projecting them onto another person. Emotions are quite somatic, so definitely acknowledging how it manifest in one's own body is significant to release in healthy ways. Yes, duality teaches negative & positive emotions. Yet, all emotions are merely an alarm that says pay attention to this. So may one acknowledge the emotion, learn from & release the emotion. ACT or Acceptance & Commitment Therapy teaches on the concept of pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. Avoidance or not releasing emotions or even projecting emotions onto others are forms of avoidance b/c one isn't sitting w/ & releasing to understand what the emotion is teaching About one's needs. Otherwise, this becomes dis ease in the body. Meditation & breathing & feeling are all forms of acknowledging & feeling in order to release what no longer serves the highest good of self.
Namaste. Peace Shalom 💃Tee🐒

Dear Tony, thank you.

Excellent. Such an important perspective! 🙏