The Illusion Of Being Enough

What if our endless quest to "be enough" is built on an illusion? In this thought-provoking exploration, Tiger unveils how our fear of not being enough fuels our desire for control—over life, others, and even the unknown. We chase an imaginary finish line, believing that once we arrive, we’ll finally be complete.

But in this pursuit, we resist reality, create suffering, and attempt to make others conform to our expectations. What happens when we stop trying to control life and surrender to the truth? Could it be that we were never incomplete to begin with?

Transcript

Can we find agreement in that?

That it's a fear of not being enough?

And even in the fear of death we can see that in some way death is that finish line that we are afraid of arriving because we haven't yet completed the journey of becoming enough.

It's like a deadline and we feel so far behind and we can even associate it to our fear of the unknown because the unknown jeopardizes our quest of becoming enough.

It introduces an element of the absence of control because of the unknown.

Do you see how the unknown threatens the quest?

It's like there's too many unknown variables in order to maintain the illusion of being enough and it's why we're so bothered with what everyone else is doing because it makes it difficult to continue that quest.

It's like there's a voice that says,

If only everyone did what I wanted them to do then I could get to this place in the future where I know I'm enough.

Do you see how insane that is?

And it really speaks to the disastrous energy behind this quest where it wants everyone to be its prisoner so that it can fulfill this quest.

If everyone just did what I wanted them to do,

Which is if everyone wasn't free to be themselves.

Do you see the violence in that?

This is wild as well where we would want to withhold that freedom from people so that we can maintain an image of ourselves as enough.

Do you see this battle against the truth,

Against the truth that people are free,

Against the truth that people are not here to worship you?

Because that's what we're asking them to do when we say be how I want you to be.

It's saying let me be your master so that it will help me avoid what I'm afraid of.

So it will help me maintain an imaginary sense of self-importance,

Which is like saying helping me maintain an idea that life is about me.

Isn't that wild?

And do you see how we just create hell in the process?

Do you see the more you want to control others,

The more of a hell you create for yourself?

Same with wanting to control life.

Do you see the constant state of resistance when you're trying to control something?

Because when you're trying to control something,

There is so obviously a fear of losing the control,

Which is interesting because the statement that says I want control is also a statement that says I don't have control,

Which is also to say I'm afraid of not having control.

Why do you want control?

For what purpose?

And is it for a purpose other than satisfying your attempt to become enough?

Reviews

This is a perfect three minutes ✨ question, tiger… you often say, do you see how violent that is? What does that mean? 🦋

I’ve just listened to two of your meditations in a row and I absolutely love your perspective and enjoy What you have to say. Thank you so much

Thank you 🙏

Such a fascinating way of drawing connection between fear of death and questioning our self-worth (being enough). 🙏