If we can't accept it,
Then we're obviously scared of it.
To be scared of it isn't just that we're scared of that.
It's just the same fear that we've had since the beginning.
And so it's just that same fear coming up to the surface.
And do you guys see how when this fear comes knocking,
It's an invitation into surrender?
Again,
Using words,
What it's kind of like is it's a fear that I'm not enough,
Which is I'm afraid that who I think I am is not enough,
Which is an invitation to surrender who I think I am.
Because it's who I think I am that is trying to control something that it can't control.
Who I think I am can't do anything.
Who I think I am is the one that's telling all the stories in the mind,
The one that thinks it's living a life.
But what I really am,
It's the same thing that's doing everything.
So yeah,
Weird might happen.
Things might change.
But that's still part of life that's doing that.
And we don't need to necessarily always understand why these things are going on,
But they're going on.
And if we can't accept them,
We're scared.
And again,
We're human beings.
So of course we're going to be scared.
It's like when we get faced with something that scares us half to death and then it reminds us of our mortality,
Which is I'm afraid I'm not enough big time,
Then yeah,
It's going to be triggered.
But it can also be a beautiful doorway into surrender.
It's an invitation to surrender the character that is in opposition to what is.
I guess in a way to try to spell it out,
When something happens that scares you or irritates you or disturbs you emotionally,
You feel that's a form of resistance to what's happening.
Like I'm arguing against what's happening.
The thing that is arguing against what's happening is who you think you are.
It's the person that we call ourselves,
That we think is living this life and it sees itself and then it sees a life that it's separate from.
It sees other things that it's separate from and it's trying to protect itself.
And it gets tight.
It's afraid of dying.
But you see that character sees itself as separate from life and what you really are isn't separate from life.
A great example of this is like in relationships.
Say your partner says an insult.
Do you see the tenseness and the resistance is who you think you are taking it personally,
Saying it means something about you,
Threatens your worth and value,
Yada,
Yada,
Yada.
That's the character that's trying to protect itself.
And it's scared that it's not enough now.
And so the invitation is to just surrender the character,
Right?
Like it's not about me.
And then you hold a space for what's happening,
Which in some regard,
Oh,
This other person is hurting right now.
Life is happening.
You essentially see when you surrender the character,
It's either not scary at all or it's just way less scary than the mind is making it out to be.
And then it's in that place of surrender,
Like in relationship,
That there's the opportunity for healing,
Which is maybe the other person has some things they need to get off their chest,
Right?
It's not personal.
Just let them have their voice for a second.
It's fine.
Now likewise,
If the character stands up and takes it personally,
It engages in a battle and the battle goes back and forth,
Back and forth,
And it amplifies and amplifies.
And we do this with life.
When things happen,
We argue back and forth,
Back and forth,
And it gets bigger and bigger.
And sometimes it gets so big that it's too big to carry,
And you're forced to surrender after we've made a mess.
It's literally like we're trying to fight against life to make it how we think it should be,
But we're going to lose every time.
And it's not bad because what you're fighting for is a worth and value in the future.
And what you really are is whole and complete.
So the thing you're fighting for,
You already are that.
Now again,
I understand that in the normalcy of our everyday lives,
It's like,
How am I supposed to remember that?
I don't know.
But it's just what's true.
And so you have to play with it.
You have to explore with it.
You have to watch yourself be scared.
You have to watch yourself resist.
You have to watch yourself get in the way.
And just ask yourself,
Is this really necessary?
Is this really necessary?
