And so often I encounter people who are trying to conquer this sense of inadequacy,
And sometimes they're quite shocked at my recommendation,
Which is not to conquer it at all,
But to come to terms with the truth of it.
It's like it transforms from an enemy into a friend.
When I have that voice creep up that says,
Tiger,
You're not enough,
I say,
Thank you.
Thank you for reminding me that who I think I am is not enough.
If you try to control something that is not for you to control,
You will feel like you're not enough.
And so if ever you feel like you're not enough,
You're simply trying to do something that's impossible.
There's an invitation to let go of that impossible agenda and simply come back to the real heart of the opportunity in doing whatever you're doing.
For example,
And I love just looking at the present moment of things,
There's always such wisdom in that.
Like in doing the work that I do,
You know,
Coming here saying these words,
If there's any agitation,
If there's any fear,
It's because of that confusion that's trying to be enough or is afraid of not being enough.
And you can see that this confusion is misinterpreting the opportunity that I have,
Or the confusion says,
What I'm doing is about me being enough.
And that pain or that alarm that says I'm afraid of not being enough is an invitation to lay down that quest and just come back to the heart of the opportunity,
Which is simply to be here and be honest with you,
Which is simply to be here and speak from my heart.
Do you see how this applies to everything?
Do you see how it applies to relationship?
It's the same mechanism.
And I see this so clearly in all of my relationship interactions throughout my whole life.
Whenever that fear of inadequacy arises,
I'm trying to use the situation to maintain an idea about myself.
And that's not really the opportunity in the relationship.
It's almost like you have a partner who's upset and bothered,
And there can be a defensiveness that arises.
And that defensiveness is so obviously an attempt to protect an idea about yourself.
And then that defensiveness pushes away the other person when really the opportunity in surrendering that idea about yourself is to hold space for what's happening.
And that holding space can be so beautifully loving and then actually nurtures the relationship.
It invites a deeper depth and intimacy,
Which is a great doorway into the thing you would actually enjoy.
