Conscious Living, Day 10: The Great Letting Go

Travel inward, and connect with a courage to let go in Love. "What I'm holding on to isn't mine, it's not meant to be my prisoner. My holding on is withholding freedom, withholding love, and holds back the breath of my soul. Maybe it's time to let go and let love flow once again."

Transcript

Welcome to day 10.

We are traveling through the second week,

Which is unconscious relating.

And day 10,

The title is the great letting go.

And once again,

Remember,

I'm just sharing what I see from behind my eyes.

Attempting to articulate it and put it in words and you can let it land wherever it lands for you.

But day 10,

The great letting go.

Naturally,

It comes with the quote.

So let me read that.

What I'm holding on to isn't mine.

It's not meant to be my prisoner.

My holding on is withholding freedom,

Withholding love,

And holds back the breath of my soul.

Maybe it's time to let go and let love flow once again.

I think this is something that we don't often contemplate as it relates to holding on.

Whether we're holding on to another person,

Whether we're holding on to an object,

Or whether we're holding on to a circumstance.

What I just invite us to contemplate is that when you're holding on to something,

You're essentially saying,

Don't be what you are.

Be what I want you to be.

Don't be free.

In such a way that if the person goes this way or if the person goes that way,

Or even as it relates to when somebody passes.

That intensity of holding on is kind of like saying you shouldn't have passed as if they didn't have the freedom to pass.

And I invite us to look at that.

That what we're holding on to isn't yours to hold on to.

We turn people and circumstances into objects that become our prisoner.

And for me,

I like to see how violent that is.

I like to look at my own tendency to hold on and recognize,

Whoa,

Buddy,

Look what you're doing.

You're trying to say that this person or this circumstance isn't free to be what it is.

You're not extending love.

You're not extending freedom.

And this is fascinating.

Because in my experience,

I keep coming back to this invitation to live with love,

Live with freedom.

And the thing about these qualities is that you experience them when you extend them,

When you share them.

And if you don't share them,

You feel a lack of them.

In such a way,

If I am withholding love from somebody,

Who's the one that feels the withholding?

Isn't that so fascinating?

When we think that we hate somebody or we think that we judge somebody.

In a way that comes with a very ugly internal state.

What you feel like you're giving them,

You're actually giving to yourself.

And so when I'm withholding love from others,

I'm essentially saying,

Tiger,

You aren't allowed to feel love right now.

Right?

I've got some sort of silly expectation or condition that says I'll love you if.

.

.

And if I have that I love you if,

It says I don't love you right now,

I'll love you when you be what I want you to be.

And so I delay the flow of love in hopes of getting my expectation fulfilled.

Furthermore,

I recognize also that the reason I hold on is very simply because I'm scared.

And I invite you to look at this in whatever degree the holding on might be playing out in your life.

If you're holding on to resentment,

If you're holding on to another person in the way that says be this and don't be that,

Don't be what you are.

Can you see underneath it is a fear?

And so furthermore,

We're trying to hold on so that we can avoid this fear.

We're saying be what I want you to be so that I don't have to see what I'm afraid of.

That's kind of rude.

That's kind of rude.

And we do this in so many different ways,

And it's adorably innocent.

But I invite us to look in that direction,

How much we are trying to withhold freedom from life,

Saying life don't be what you are,

Because I have to get faced with what I'm afraid of.

Naturally,

This points to a direction of discovery that if I'm going to let go,

If I'm going to restore the flow of love,

I must be willing to see what I'm afraid of.

I must be willing to look in that direction and even maybe to some degree be willing to travel in that direction.

And there's a thousand and one ways that this can be articulated.

But in some way or another,

This could be stated as the fear of the unknown.

Even if we say it's a fear that I might not get what I want,

Says I might get the unknown.

Right,

Because getting what I want is some sort of security,

But not getting what I want puts me into the unknown.

And this is why we are so determined to hold on.

And much of the time as we live our lives,

We exist with this false sense of security.

Whether we hang that around other people,

We can hang it around our jobs.

We can hang it around all sorts of things.

Not recognizing that fundamentally this landscape of life is the unknown.

And you know,

I heard it once before many years ago,

But it was something to the effect of enlightenment is making peace with the unknown.

This is super profound for me because the conditioning that I see playing out within the human being is some sort of attempt to conquer the unknown.

We exhaust ourselves spinning in circles,

Running on a wheel,

Trying to conquer the unknown.

We say,

If I can just be certain about tomorrow,

About next year,

Then I can relax.

Now notice this.

If I can conquer the unknown,

Then I can relax.

Then I can come back to this moment and be at peace.

Now,

Making peace with the unknown,

We find a permission to come back and be present.

You see,

You don't embrace the unknown because it's the right thing to do or it's the spiritual thing to do.

You embrace the unknown because it's the truth of things.

You've seen it throughout your human experience.

It's been confirmed in such a way that any moment beyond now is a mystery.

And so you embrace that mystery and you come back to the present moment and simply do what you can right now.

Not holding on to the future,

Not holding on to the past,

Not holding on to others.

But embracing the unknown in which everything could go any which way.

That might be scary.

But can you see it's always been that way?

It's always been the unknown.

We've just told stories.

Have we not?

We've told stories of security,

And this is really fascinating how the mind does that.

It's like we tell a story in the mind.

We go,

OK,

I can relax because I know this is going to happen or I know that's going to happen or I know this isn't going to happen.

It's a conditional embrace.

Much like conditional love.

And if it's conditional,

It's not the real thing.

So part of this invitation with really letting go.

Is that willingness.

To look at the fear.

And see if you can recognize what it's pointing to.

You start to realize that.

The mind holds on because.

It tries to protect you from pain in the future.

Understandably.

However,

The mind is innocently confused.

It misunderstands the experience.

It holds on thinking that it protects itself from the future.

Not realizing that the holding on.

Is the source of the pain right now.

And I guess to end this.

With an illustration.

It's kind of like.

If you find a beautiful rose in a garden.

And you quickly grab a hold of it.

And all of a sudden you start feeling this intense pain.

Kind of throbbing through your arm.

And you've got this dilemma,

You're like,

Wow,

I really want this rose.

But something hurts.

And then maybe you start tearing off all the petals.

Trying to put an end to the pain.

And sooner or later you realize.

That in your holding on.

You've gripped a stem that's full of thorns.

You realize you can't have both.

You can't hold on and get rid of the pain.

In such a way that the rose wasn't meant to be held onto.

It's not yours.

And my goodness,

This is so fascinating that we try and possess things.

We try and claim things as our own.

Especially other people.

But the moment you realize that,

Oh,

There's thorns.

And it's my holding on that's creating the pain.

And you see a very simple solution.

Open your hand.

But of course,

To open your hand.

You acknowledge the freedom.

For the rose to be the rose.

You acknowledge that it's not meant to be your prisoner.

And so you give the rose back to the rose.

Can you examine what you're holding onto?

And can you give it back?

See that it's not yours.

And if you get scared.

See that you're just scared of the unknown.

And so part of life's design is to teach us to let go.

To open our hand.

And realize that this life isn't meant to be possessed.

You're here to enjoy its beauty.

And you don't need to capture it.

See you tomorrow.

Cheers.

Reviews

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Truly wonderful the conscious living series.. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and wisdom. It really helps me shift and approaching life in a playful way🙏🏽

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