The Thriving Empath At Work

I'm Trevor Lewis, author of "Thriving As An Empath: Empowering Your Highly Sensitive Self," and since 2013, I'm on a mission to help other empaths learn more easily the lessons I had to learn the hard way. Want to thrive at work? Recognize that it's not your own emotions that you are processing. Your manager may control your pay, but your true boss is a much higher authority. The job you are actually doing is very different from the one they think they are paying you for.

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Hi,

I'm Trevor Lewis,

Author of Thriving as an Empath,

Empowering your highly sensitive self.

I've been an empath all my life and since 2013 I've been on a mission to help other empaths learn more easily the lessons that I had to learn the hard way.

This talk stands alongside my one entitled Empaths and Organisations,

Which covers getting embroiled in organisational couches.

This talk covers other aspects of what it takes to move from being a confused empath at work to being a full-blown,

Thriving empath.

Working life is tough for any empath.

Here we are,

Expected to get a job done,

And yet we have to do our job while being constantly bombarded with the emotions of the people around us.

The first thing any empath needs to be able to do to move from confusion to thriving is to be able to distinguish between what's mine and what's theirs.

That's true for any part of an empath's day,

But it's all the more important at work.

We cannot fix ourselves for somebody else's emotions.

Recognising that the emotions we are feeling at work belong to somebody else is the first step to allowing those emotions to just flow through us without any attachment.

Many of you may feel that on any given day that the emotions you are feeling are X percent yours and Y percent theirs.

My experience working with hundreds of empaths suggests that if any percentage is not yours,

Then none of what is causing you your problems is yours.

It's all their stuff.

You may well have your own emotions operating,

But these don't cause the upset and confusion.

The problem for us as empaths is processing their stuff and thinking that it's our own.

After 38 years in corporate life,

Believe me,

I took way too many mental health days trying to recover from other people's emotions.

I didn't understand it at the time,

But I do now that I've learned what being an empath did to my work life.

All of this so far is talking about what it takes to move from being a confused empath to being a stable empath.

Once you get to be able to watch yourself processing other people's emotions,

There's a second element to move from being a stable empath to actually thriving at work.

Namely,

The job you are actually doing in your organisation is very different from the one they think they're paying you for.

Let me repeat that.

The job you are actually doing in your organisation is very different from the one they think you're paying you for.

If you've listened to my talk,

Empaths Thriving as Healers,

You will understand that you are a natural healer who is improving your work environment just by being there.

Your manager may control your paycheck,

But your true boss is a much higher authority.

God,

Spirit,

Source,

Whatever name you're used to referring to him,

Her or it.

Whether you know it or not,

You are healing your work environment just by being there.

You can't help it.

Your frequency raises the frequency of everyone around you.

And that job is much more important than anything your manager thinks they are asking you to do.

Let me say it again.

The job you are actually doing in your organisation is very different from the one they think they are paying you for.

If you remember that principle,

The day-to-day craziness that you have been putting up with will more easily take its place against the bigger picture of why you are really spending time in the madhouse you call work.

Thank you for listening to this talk.

Thank you for helping yourself learn to become a thriving past.

Reviews

Thank you for this. It was much needed to hear today. It also gently validated who I am and how I feel and the extra I give to the dept I work in. x

Thank you Trevor as always you are a lighthouse🙏🤍 thank you for making us feel heard, seen and less alone in this work audio

I continue to follow your work. Much appreciation as it is helping me.

This was a validating talk of my prior experience as a Teacher. It makes so much sense now. TY!

You said it 3 times but I could use 3 more...the job you are doing at work is very different from the one they think they are paying you for. 🤯 Thank you.

Thank you. I took a five year break from any organizations (was writing alone at home) for five years due to a stress-based illness. This past fall I was told by God that I can’t do my real work unless I’m around people. Healing. Loving. So I’m back in it. Very difficult but trying to remember my “real” job.

Thank you 🙏🏼 this was really helpful!

Incredibly helpful talk!

Thank you for this. I guess even working remotely, we also tend to absorb colleagues' emotions through emails?
And even a more important question from me please...how can i deal from the confusion and fatigue (feeling drained) arising from my tasks? Can i also see it as me sending energy to the energy of the tasks, and not absorbing the energy of my work? Do tasks have energy? I absolutely get drained by and feeling confused just by tending to my tasks and am so tired by the end of the day, even realising that other people do much more and stays energised. I have healthy time management systems in place, also to focus attention. I would really appreciate your thoughts on this. Thank you 🙏

Makes so much more sense now! Thanks!

Very insightful. Thank you 🙏🏾 11/18/20

I've never thought of myself healing the work environment. Interesting perspective.

I love this guy. just listening to one 4 min session. what am impact this is.

I will keep this very important point in mind - it is likely not all "my" stuff, but rather, "their" stuff. I work in the helping professions as a supervisor, so I pick up on my staff's emotional status easily after years of working together (over a decade in two cases). I have felt a bit out of sorts of late, but your point about being there is in and of itself a healing activity and important work helps me reframe that sensation. Thank you for this gift.

I see you and the light within you. Be well. 🤲🏻❤️🤲🏻

Thank-you, thank-you for your message. I really needed to hear that today. Just by being there, I’m raising the vibration for everyone around me at work. I’m working on being stable right now, as everything said to me that is negative &

This was very helpful.. I’m trying to learn how to detach other people’s energies and problems.
Any advice?

Helpful insights. Thank you.