This talk is about being empathic versus being an empath.
There is a significant difference between the adjective empathic,
Which is widely recognized by the mainstream world,
And the noun empath,
Which is only now gaining recognition.
Being empathic,
Or sometimes pronounced empathetic,
Means a personal identification with the feelings,
Thoughts or attitudes of others.
Tell me what you're going through,
And I can emphasize if I've gone through the same or a very similar life experience.
The term is usually only used in the context of a conscious awareness between two people who are visually or verbally connected.
Being an empath means having the ability to experience the feelings and emotions of other people as if they were your own.
There may be no conscious awareness by you,
The empath of the person whose emotions you are feeling.
That person may be standing next to you in a grocery store,
But equally,
They may not even be in the same town as you.
The emotions may feel like yours.
Your mind will try to justify them as yours.
You will feel the emotions in your body as if they are yours,
But they are not yours.
If we think those feelings are of our own creation,
Inevitably we will look to fix them.
Naturally enough,
It's futile to attempt to fix an issue that's not ours to fix.
Although I personally like this distinction between being empathic versus being an empath,
The challenge is that talking about being an empath makes it sound like some people are empaths and others aren't.
In reality,
It's a broad spectrum.
Some people are very sensitive to other people's emotions,
Others barely notice it at all.
My suspicion is that we are all born empaths.
Most people have this socialized out of them long before they graduate high school,
But some of us needed this ability as a survival mechanism to make it through living in our dysfunctional families.
Thank you for listening to this talk.
Thank you for helping yourself learn to become a thriving empath.