Tips For Letting Go Of Relationship Trauma

Things we can do and perspectives we can take to lessen the heartbreak we experience the ending of relationships. In this 4-minute excerpt, Teemaree answers questions regarding relationship trauma and how to heal. Teemaree is an author of 4 books, a life, health, and spiritual coach, and a wellness business owner. Connect with Teemaree for all the ways she can support your personal success.

Transcript

Any practical tips for letting go,

And also relationship trauma?

Ooh,

This is a good one.

Yeah,

Well,

Practical tips for letting go.

Okay,

And you said relationship trauma.

So this is why coaching is necessary,

Right?

It's not that simple.

It's not that simple.

And we do need to work it out,

Meaning we need to talk about different things to identify different things.

Then we also need to go through different options that feel like good to you,

That feel like you can do them,

That you can work them,

Work them out.

So this is why coaching works,

And this is part of how coaching works.

So we get into a little bit further.

So we see here relationship trauma.

So again,

Okay,

Well,

Is this a relationship that you're still engaged in?

Is this a relationship you're trying to get over?

So these are different factors because sometimes we have trauma in a relationship that we still have to deal with.

So it could be something that's a deep family thing,

Or it can be a partner,

Like a romantic partner,

Or it could even be kind of,

We feel traumatized by the way our boss talks to us regularly or that coworker that demeans us,

But we're still involved.

So we have to identify the relationship.

Can we create boundaries in the current situation?

Is it something we need to get over now or something we need to work out because it's still active?

And then,

I'm sorry,

I need to scroll here because it was a second part.

Practical tips for letting go.

Yes,

I love practical tips.

Yes,

And that makes sense too because the other comment was getting over the relationship.

So I guess that all goes hand in hand.

Practical tips for letting go of traumatic relationships and getting over them.

So,

Oh,

If it were that easy,

Right?

There's gonna be that heart space that we're all human and there are aspects of that person that we still love or we will miss.

There's a natural part of mourning the loss of any relationship,

Whether it's a breakup or friendship gone or whatever it is.

So practical tips though,

Something that works pretty much all the time is that we can really identify the reasons why we're not together.

So like,

I find that usually when there's some sort of break in a relationship,

The first thing we do is we miss it and we romanticize all the wonderful parts.

That's what we're remembering.

But hopefully,

You can also look at the very logical reasons why that relationship did not work and you can hopefully highlight the wonderful things that may come about this separation.

So for instance,

Oh,

Now there's opportunity for this or,

Oh,

Now we get to honor these aspects of ourself that were,

Again,

It's a personal thing because what was the relationship?

But one practical tip is to don't allow yourself to over romanticize and really allow yourself to remember the practical logical reasons why it's not working out or it didn't work out.

So that can be something that where you can kind of like,

Man,

I really miss them.

Yeah,

But you know what?

Like we were always fighting or,

Yeah,

You know,

Gosh,

I remember when we would watch this movie or whatever,

Because it always happens like that,

Right?

Like that's what comes to our minds,

But then it's like,

Yeah,

But you know,

I haven't seen my friends in years because we were always just watching movies or,

Oh,

I wouldn't honor my health and fitness.

You know what I mean?

That might be good.