Your Wisdom

For when you need to access your wisdom in the context of a conflict or challenging situation.

Transcript

So take a moment to get comfortable.

You might want to sit down,

Maybe you can find a chair which gives you good support at the back.

Your spine can be straight.

And when you're ready,

Slowly close your eyes and notice how your body is touching the chair or the floor.

As you notice the contact with the support of the chair,

Bring the attention to your breath for a moment and notice its quality right now.

Which parts of your lungs or body are being moved by it right now?

And what are the sensations associated with it?

Maybe the breath wants to expound,

Then give it some space by taking a deep breath.

Now take a moment to remember a situation or experience where you felt completely at ease and relaxed.

Maybe you were doing your favorite sport or listening to music or preparing food,

Whatever you enjoy.

And really take in the details of that experience.

The room you were in,

The sounds,

The smells and feelings associated with it.

And as you do so,

Notice what happens to your breath and to the sensations in your body.

Take a moment to really feel and sense.

And if thoughts come,

Let them be there as well,

Just noticing.

So now I'm going to invite you to bring your attention to the conflict or difficult situation you are experiencing right now.

Imagine that you are in a hill or climbing this hill and quite remote from the situation which is happening at the bottom of the hill.

And as such you are becoming an observer.

You are observing yourself and the other person in that situation from the height of the hill.

And just take a moment to arrive in this observing position.

Notice how the distance makes you feel.

And if you feel like it,

You can gently place a hand on your heart space,

Noticing the warmth of the hand in contact with your chest and noticing how the space under the hand feels.

For a moment,

Imagine yourself become like a benevolent observer,

Full of compassion.

And when you feel ready,

Take a look at yourself and the other person in that situation as an observer from the height of the hill.

Notice what you see as you observe yourself and the other.

How are you sitting or standing?

What is your body language?

Are there particular shapes or colors surrounding you?

How is the other or how are the others sitting,

Standing or moving?

What is their body language?

Just notice and if opinions about the situation come,

Let them be.

And just continue to notice as an observer.

When you notice one thing,

Keep looking and notice more.

A color,

A shape.

A movement or a posture,

Just take it all in from distance.

You might also become aware of particular emotions or drivers that are somehow influencing the situation from afar.

So your position on the hill might give you a chance to see something you didn't see before.

So bring your curiosity to it and just keep noticing as if you were seeing the situation for the first time.

And when you feel that you have taken a good look,

See if a word comes that describes what you saw in yourself.

And maybe another word comes that describes what you saw in the other.

And there is no need to struggle to find the word.

Just let it come to you effortlessly.

And if it doesn't,

Stay with whatever else comes to you.

Now in your own time,

Take a moment to notice how these observations and the words feel in your body.

Maybe there are sensations or feelings or more images coming up.

Just give them some space.

And remember that at any time something becomes too much,

You can always remember the beautiful moment we explored at the beginning.

Now I would like to invite you to imagine yourself sitting in front of this person or people.

And as you do so,

Please choose any distance that would feel comfortable right now.

And as you sit there and imagine the other person in front of you,

Notice how you feel.

You might notice some sensations or a reaction to that person.

You might notice emotions coming up.

It could be that this person in front of you is not exactly the way you want them to be and that they might never be.

Just take a moment to be with these feelings without trying to change them.

And as you stay with these feelings,

You might notice a sense of acceptance which comes in and a sense of relaxation.

Or maybe there is a feeling of resistance and not wanting things to be like this.

In a way,

Just take a moment to be with this.

And see if there is something that needs to be said.

You might feel the need to set a limit,

To be clear about your boundaries or to apologize or thank the other person.

Just take a mental note of that for now.

And as we are coming to a closing,

I would like to invite you to take a moment to bring your attention completely back to yourself.

You can even imagine that you are removing or bringing back any ties between you and the other person back to yourself.

And notice what happens to your inner climate when you are just with yourself.

And as you are coming to a closing,

I would like to invite you to take a moment to think about yourself.

And in your own time,

Can I bring your attention back to behind your eyes?

And when you are ready,

Opening them very slowly and coming back to the room.

Thank you.

Reviews

That was really useful for helping me work through a difficult situation I am facing right now. I feel much more grounded and centered. 🙏🏼💙

Helpful! Thank you

Brilliant, it helped me out with a conflicting situation. I was able to calm down afterwards and reflect on my actions positively. I will use this again in the future.

This was remarkable. Very helpful! Thank you!

Beautiful! This meditation brought me insight and peace in a strong internal conflict. Bookmark ✅

Very delicate. My word was 'grounding'. I realise that the person I thought of feels very grounding to me; and I crave that from them. I need to learn to give that to myself.

I loved the idea of retreating to the top
of a hill and observing the conflict to gain a different perspective as a bystander.

Beyond my heart, I let go of control 💖

So very powerful that it left me with tears streaming down my cheeks. I appreciated the gentle guidance and the pauses allowing for the connection to feelings. Thank you.

Thank you.. This was very helpful

It is such a beautiful meditation. Thank you so much!

Thank you, this is very helpful 🙏

Lovely voice and beautiful music. Is the background music available as a meditation track?

Exceptionally beautiful meditation. Lovely calming voice, perfect pacing. I felt such profound love and compassion for myself in a very difficult situation. Thank you so much for this gift.

Very peaceful, thank you! 🙏🏼

Absolutely beautiful.Thank you

Great! Gentle and shifting. Beautiful voice too!

Much needed and very insightful. Very helpful in dealing with conflict.